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What can I get my boyfriend for Christmas, that can be engraved?
Q. This might sound like a trivial cry for help but,- What on earth should I get my boyfriend of 5 months for Christmas? I want to get something I could get engraved. He's into music,- plays guitar, but not into sports, doesn't drink alcoh...
A. 5 December 2007: This really depends on your budget. I just bought my girlfriend (also a huge music fan) an engraved iPod Nano. Apple's online store offers engraving for free. It's a little pricey, but you can get a nice, engraved iPod for under $200.
It's ... (read in full...)
Different libidos, normal?
Q. I'm a 20-year-old female with a 29-year-old male. I've always been in long term relationships with very frequent sex that I was normally initiating so i suppose I'm not even sure if this is abnormal. As a little background, we work about 35 a ...
A. 4 December 2007: Well, I'm a 28 year old man. My girlfriend (also 28) and I have been involved for a little over a year and we tend to have sex 5 to 8 times a week. We both work 40+ hours a week. I also attend grad school. Neither of us have any children. I don't ... (read in full...)
I have always feared stuttering when asking a girl out. Is there hope for me? I'm a 26 yr old virgin.
Q. Hi. I'm almost 27 years old, and I feel ashamed as hell to admit that I have never even had a girlfriend, let alone sex. Do you know how it feels to be in a minority? I stutter, and have always feared stuttering when asking a girl out. Currently, I ...
A. 20 November 2007: You're not doomed, friend. You're not that unique in your circumstances, either. Believe it or not, I have two close friends (one man, one woman) who are older than you and are still virgins. Like you, neither of these individuals has ever even ... (read in full...)
Is The Pill on its own sufficient contraception?
Q. If I am using birth control pills, are condoms still necessary? I know my boyfriend and I are clean when it comes to STDs so were not worried about that, but I dont need to make a mistake after having sex....
A. 9 November 2007: For what it's worth, my g/f and I have been using the pill as our only form of birth control for about a year now and I can attest that it has been 100% effective.
Also, for the record, we split the cost of the pill, which seems the least I can do... (read in full...)
He keeps photos of him and his ex in a special box and doesn't want to throw them out but I don't like this...am I being unreasonable??
Q. Hi, I got married in June this year to my gorgeous man who I have been seeing for 5 years. My problem is this ... he has photos of an old girlfriend in a special box including photos of them kissing and he is reluctant to throw them out ... I dont ...
A. 8 November 2007: I would STRONGLY urge you against the advice of "just destroy[ing] them" yourself! No matter how you're feeling about the situation now, I'm confident that this action would only make matters WORSE. Plenty of people, myself included, hang o... (read in full...)
I am cheating on my fiancee!
Q. I'm having a big issue in my life. I got engaged at the beginning of 2006 with my fiancée who's been with me since 2004. I'm 28 and she is 23. Initially in 2006 when we got engaged things went great..it was refreshing for our relationship…it ...
A. 31 October 2007: You say that you feel the need for a "new challenge" once you've "won" the girl. That's another way of saying that you're taking for granted what you have. Well, then why not give yourself the "challenge" of really knocking your fiance's socks ... (read in full...)
I am cheating on my fiancee!
Q. I'm having a big issue in my life. I got engaged at the beginning of 2006 with my fiancée who's been with me since 2004. I'm 28 and she is 23. Initially in 2006 when we got engaged things went great..it was refreshing for our relationship…it ...
A. 31 October 2007: I'm going to disagree with "Female Reader, Anonymous" and say this:
If you're having these kinds of feelings, I DON'T think you should just brush them off and rush into your wedding. You need to really examine your situation RIGHT NOW. You prob... (read in full...)
I am cheating on my fiancee!
Q. I'm having a big issue in my life. I got engaged at the beginning of 2006 with my fiancée who's been with me since 2004. I'm 28 and she is 23. Initially in 2006 when we got engaged things went great..it was refreshing for our relationship…it ...
A. 31 October 2007: No real advice, but some perspective. You're not a horrible person. You're human. Yes, you've betrayed the trust of the woman you love. The road ahead will likely be painful for you both. But, these things happen in relationships. If you were a "bad ... (read in full...)
How many partners have you had?
Q. This is a very general question, based on the numerous questions that I see posted about couples dealing with one partner's sexual past. How many sexual partners have YOU had? Do you regret the number, be it big or small? How many "one-night-stand...
A. 31 October 2007: To be fair, I'll answer my own question. I'm 28 and I've had three sexual partners. The first was my first "real" girlfriend (we met in college), who I was with for over 5 years. Knowing how the relationship eventually ended, I regret staying with ... (read in full...)
I love my long distance boyfriend, but I've also liked another guy, and I feel like I'm breaking my boyfriends trust. What should I do?
Q. Hi. im a teenager. I have this mind buggling question. It's about my boyfriend and I. we've been going out for about 4 years but he's studying in another country because his family had to relocate.it's about a year now. we really love each other, we ...
A. 30 October 2007: As someone who tried to make a long-distance relationship work for nearly five years, my inclination would be to "take a break" from your boyfriend. Talk to him first, of course. It will be difficult for him, but it's better to be honest now rather ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my partner's porn watching?
Q. hi i know my partner watches porn he also downloads it on the internet it bothers me sometimes because he trys to hide it i would rather him tell the truth, it also makes me feel am not enough for him but recently i found a half naked local woman on ...
A. 30 October 2007: Hmm... porn, I think, is not anything to be overly worried about.
A picture of a half naked local woman, though, would certainly raise a red flag or two for me. How do you know the image is of a "local woman." Is it someone that you or your par... (read in full...)
When should I put pressure on him?
Q. where do you guys think a dating relationship between two mature adults should be at the end of the third year of dating? do you think we should be engaged? do you think we should be planning a wedding? how long would you recommend waiting before ...
A. 30 October 2007: Hmm... if you are asking the question, then I would say that one of you is probably not ready for "the next step." As Baby Duck said, the human heart follows no standard time table. Relationships progress at their own rate, based on the individuals ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for sex?
Q. bin going out with my girlfriend for 18 months we have had lots of oral but no intercoarse. she has had sex with two boy friends before me . How long should I wait, She is not having sex with anybody else . She wants to be sure I am the one. She ...
A. 30 October 2007: I was in a similar situation a few years ago (when I was in my mid-20's). I dated a woman for about ten months before we began sleeping together. She decided that she wasn't ready to sleep with me AFTER we had slept together a handful of times, ... (read in full...)
The number of guys she had been with bothers be.
Q. I am 24 years old married with a one year old son. My wife is 22 and she is the love of my life. I knew before we were married that she had 15 sexual partners before me. I was a virgin when I met her. Ever since she told me that number has ...
A. 26 October 2007: I feel your pain, Anonymous. I really do. I've gone through and, to a certain extent, am still going through a very similar scenario. I wasn't a virgin when I began seeing my current girlfriend, but I had only slept with three other women, and all ... (read in full...)
She slept with someone else before we started dating, but I can't get it off my mind!
Q. Here is my story. Back in September when I started college I met this girl- a roommate of my close friend. At the beginning I didnt think she liked me and I have been going through life without paying attention to crushes, nor was I in a hurry to ...
A. 27 July 2007: Misiek, your problem is VERY common. It sounds as if you haven't had a lot of dating experience, so I can definitely understand where your concern comes from. You come from a Catholic, European background (so did I), so there are a lot of values ... (read in full...)
Still a virgin at 25!
Q. Hello. I am almost 25 years old and still a virgin. I went to 2 boys schools as a child, so up until I left school at around 18, I hadn't had much contact with girls as I was very shy and introverted. Subsequently I spent 4 years at University an...
A. 25 July 2007: Well Anonymous, I was 21 when I lost my virginity, so I know the kind of insecurities you are talking about. I was an extremely introverted child and adolescent and I don't think I even had any physical contact (like... even a kiss) with the fairer ... (read in full...)
When's the best time to have children? During college or after?
Q. so i've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs and we plan on getting married in the future. we also plan on having kids. but the problem is. i dont know when is the right time to have kids?? during college? or after?...
A. 25 July 2007: After. Please, after. Enjoy your lives together before you take the responsibility of children. Go out, travel, enjoy each other's company. There will be plenty of time for children later!!!!!... (read in full...)
I'm having an abortion in a week and I feel so sad about that. How can I cope? Any advice??
Q. I am 20 years old and booked in for an abortion in a week.....i have an amazing life and would never be able to do what i want if i had a child, although it is making me feel really sad, i feel really close to my unborn child of 7 weeks. the father ...
A. 25 July 2007: Just my two cents: Several years before she met me, my girlfriend (now 27) had an abortion (the result of a one-night-stand). She revealed this to me after we, ourselves, had a pregnancy scare after about a month and a half of dating. (she wasn't ... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian and believe in waiting to have sex; I've already had it, however but now I want to wait to have it again until we're married. My boyfriend isn't happy
Q. I am a Christian and believe in waiting until marriage before having sex. The problem is I have already had sex with my fiance, and previous boyfriends. I still want to wait, but my fiance argues that if I stopped doing it now after doing it for ...
A. 25 July 2007: After eight months of a "normal" sex life, an ex-girlfriend of mine decided that she, too, wanted to wait for religious purposes. We were both in college and she chalked those eight months up to not knowing better. Such a drastic change hurt me p... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I fight constantly... about everything!
Q. My boyfriend and I, fight constantly! It's about everything. No matter what I do, we must talk about it. When he does something wrong, we aren't allowed to talk about it. He gets mad at me for yelling at him at the big things he does, but he yells ...
A. 25 July 2007: If you're fighting all of the time over trivial things, I would think that there is probably something deeper bothering one of you. Is there something that one of you is resentful about in the relationship? Usually, surface sensitivity is j... (read in full...)
I'm with my first ever boyfriend and can't help wondering what else is out there
Q. Ok.... Im 25 and have been with my boyf nearly 5 yrs - before him I havent been out with anyone. Our relationship is good, he makes me laugh, I find him attractive. He does annoy me at times because he can be really headstrong and likes to wind ...
A. 25 July 2007: I was in virtually the same situation when I was around 23 years old. I had dated one girl consistently through college (my first real g/f) and, as we neared the five year mark, I really began to wonder about what else might be out there. I can only ... (read in full...)
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