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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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Is my girlfriend pregnant? Her period has changed.
Q. Me and my girlfriend just had sex last tuesday (june 12)and when we did there were two problems. the condom was too big and it fell off once. even though im sure it didnt touch her in any way, she is worrried that she is pregnant. the next day (june ...
A. 11 July 2007: Get her to the gp for a test or do a home kit, not everyone shows signs of being pregnant, some people can go through nearly their whole pregnancy with out knowing.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I stay with her or give up on her?
Q. I had been with my girlfriend for four years. Not only was it my first and only relationship, it was my first and only relationship. I had always wanted this to be an open relationship because since I had never been in a relationship before, I ...
A. 17 June 2007: The situation is out of your control now, all you can do is tell her exactly how you feel tell her that you love her and you are sorry you messed up but you wanted to be sure about your feelings and then you have to give her time to make her ... (read in full...)
I am going into the army. Will he wait for me?
Q. Hi. I am a 17 y.o Female and i have been with my boyfriend for just on a year now. I do love him, and, i think he loves me .. but; I have decided to follow on a career in the armed forces. this means i will be away alot for the next year or s...
A. 17 June 2007: I think that you going in the armed forces is a good thing seen as you say that he gets violent when made angry.
Do you really want to be with someone that you fear you will spend all of your time not saying what you think for fear of making him ... (read in full...)
Slept round my girlfriend's house and he broke up with me coz he didn't believe me! What should I do?
Q. I slept round my girlfriends house for the weekend and the next morning i get a text message saying its over! I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years im 18 and he is 20. I slept round my girlfriends house as we work together and have to get ...
A. 17 June 2007: I guess seen as he is dealing he is probably using as well, so he probably suffers with paranoia as well, you obviously have a good job and don't need him, if he is going to treat you in this way walk away and find someone that is going to trust you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to go away with me this summer but I have a very important course to take in September and need to study!! What should I do?
Q. Holiday Blues Each year my girlfriend and i have been together we have gone on holiday, however this year i am going to be taking a very important medical course in september but my g/f still wants to go away even for a week in august. Ive told...
A. 17 June 2007: You should not feel guilty in the slightest if anything she should feel guilty for piling the pressure on. This course is for your career which will set you up for life and if she can not understand that is she really worth all the trouble, you have ... (read in full...)
My best mate told me my boyfriend was only with me for sex.
Q. My friends seem to think that my bf is only in the relationship for sex when i told him off this he didnt really comfort me or reasure me that hes not. Everyone seems to know more about the relationship than i do what shall i do?? ...
A. 17 June 2007: Get rid of him if he can not give you any reasurance, and if your friends have told you that then maybe they have got it from some where, move on babe and find someone that is after abit more than just sex.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
The father of my baby tells me I do everything wrong when dealing with her when he's the one not feeding, playing or bathing her!
Q. do i break up with my partner of 3 years and the father to my 6 mth old daughter? b4 the baby was born things were tough he alwsys seems to manage to put me down. Call me stupid and a liar (i am defo not a liar but maybe stupid sometimes, but n...
A. 17 June 2007: Oh my god this bloke sounds like an absolute bully and he has completely stripped you of any self esteem, you most certainly do not need to stay with him for the sake of your child as there is no way i would stay with anyone that treats the mother ... (read in full...)
Should I go with my lover or my husband?
Q. i'm really confused. i've been married for 6 months. we met 2 years ago. everything was fine before. he's a sweet man who i'm sure loves me. but i just don't care about him anymore. i cheated on him about a month ago with my co-worker. i'm having so ...
A. 17 June 2007: I think maybe you should leave your husband if you don't care about him anymore as it is really not fair for him to go on believing he is in a loving marriage when he clearly is not, also it is not good for you even if it does not work out with the ... (read in full...)
If he loved her, wouldn't he do anything for her?
Q. If a man really loved a married woman but they split up because she felt she had to,wouldn't wild horses not keep him away and he would try to get her back,even though she is married to someone else,like he knows her address but she has changed her ...
A. 17 June 2007: He obviously cares for her enough to respect what she has told him, she ended it because she had to so he is probably moving on and she has changed her no so he would not be able to contact her. Would you really want him turning up at your house ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend made me and my lovely guy break up. Now, after 2 years, we've met up again and he's with another woman! He says he'll be with me soon... Should I wait for him?
Q. I met this older guy a couple of years ago and we just kinda clicked and started going out but as i had just broken up with my husband we started things slowly, after about 6 months my ex-partner found out and started making our lifes hell with ...
A. 17 June 2007: I think it depends on the things he needs to sort out as there could be many reasons why he could not leave straight away it might well be that he is tied to her financially and does not want to leave her in the lurch, i think you really need to ... (read in full...)
Ladies! What do you think of Latin American partners?
Q. This isn't really a question about relationships in itself. I just would like to ask girls and women what thing would come first to their minds if they were asked to give an opinion about Latin American men as partners....
A. 17 June 2007: Have to agree with bubbloo24 on this one nationality should not come into it really if you like the person then go for it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Texted him to tell him I liked him. Now he's not replied! What should I do?
Q. Ok im like sixteen and i like this guy hes fourteen, we hooked up at a party a couple of weeks ago and ya, I just told him that i like him in a text message, and he didn't reply.. my friend said that he's amybe just shy or something? any ideas? coz ...
A. 17 June 2007: He could be shy or he might not have any credit to text you back and you should not be embarrased about telling him if you like someone you just have to go for it even if they don't feel the same as many people have not got the balls to do it and ... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't show he loves me anymore! All he does is go on his playstation three! What should I do?
Q. my partnr no longer takes me anywhere and dose not show me his loves me. i dont see him all the time, however, i know he's just at his home playing on his playstaion 3. i have put so much in this relationship and feel i am getting nothing back. i ...
A. 17 June 2007: It sounds as though you are dependant on him which no women should ever be, if he is treating you in this way i would break away from him and get yourself off to the doctors as it sounds like you may also be suffering from depression and the doctor ... (read in full...)
My partner swears at me constantly. Am I just being touchy or do i need to do something to make him respect me more?
Q. can some-one please advise me I was in a violent relationship before and I don't know if it's cos of my past or if this is a real problem. My partner swears at me on a constant basis, it's not that he calls me names or anything, it's more the way ...
A. 17 June 2007: It might just be that because of your past you are taking this the wrong way unfortunately some people do swear alot it's just what they are used to from the way they have been brought up, or the kind of work they have and the people they associate ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend's mother died today.... how do I comfort him?
Q. I left a message on here yesterday about my ex boyfriend leaving me a message about his mother dying. Well tonight he has just informed me that she died at dinnertime. What can i do now to comfort him?...
A. 16 June 2007: So sorry to hear that, he must be in an awful mess right now, you could go round and see him give him a hug and if he wants to talk about her just listen he obviously could really do with you being around at the moment seen as he has contacted you ... (read in full...)
He told me today he can't leave his wife for me...
Q. I have a best friend who declared his undying love for me but he is married to a very dominant lady whilst he is very weak and he had decided a while ago he was leaving through unhappiness but didn't. His wife stopped us seeing each other because ...
A. 16 June 2007: Did his wife stop him seeing you or was it just an excuse he used, he has stayed with his wife all this time so walk away babe find someone that is worth all your love and attention and good luck.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do I divorce my husband and go for my dream man or continue living in this unhappy marriage for the sake of the children and the society I live in?
Q. I am married for 20 years but was never attracted to my husband as it was an arranged marriage. I continued in this marriage for the sake of the children and the society i live in. Now both the boys are teenagers. There was no intimacy in our ...
A. 16 June 2007: Surely now it's time for you to have some happiness you have stuck it out for twenty years which is really admirable because of the love you have for your children.
Make the break and even if nothing comes of this man on the internet at least you ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have any hope of her falling back in love with me?
Q. I've been married for 6 years and we have 2 kids together but my wife says shes changed and wants different things from life and isnt in love with me anymore. I moved out last week to give her some space and I've told her i'm willing to change and ...
A. 16 June 2007: Please do not change who you are in the hope she will fall back in love with you after all she fell in love with you as you are. Can you give us some background info on the past year of your marriage and the reason that i ask is because ten months ... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her abortion, and admitted to sleeping with another guy. But she wants me to marry her next week!
Q. I have been dating a girl for 2 years and living together with her for 1 year. We were engaged and things were going good for a while. Well she got pregnant about 6 months ago and told me she had a miscarrage. She later tells me she had an ...
A. 16 June 2007: I know you say you love this girl but is there really any point in carrying on because like you said there are trust issues and i don't think there is much chance of a decent relationship without trust, anyway why do you want to spend your life with ... (read in full...)
He likes me but his ex is one of my mates! I like him too but he's concerned about the ex. What can I do?
Q. hi, Two days ago this guy i really like told me on msn that he liked me but i didn't get the chance to tell him i liked him back. i didn't tell him because after telling me he liked me he said that nothing could happen because his exgirlfr...
A. 16 June 2007: Try talking to him ask him why it would be a problem to see each other just because his ex is one of your friends if she has not got a problem with it and nor have you then there should not be an issue, sometimes if you really like someone you just ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel like the love i had for one person is fading away while the love for another person is increasing?
Q. Is it wrong for me to feel like the love i had for one person is fading away while the love for another person is increasing? Me and baby daddy been having problem every since i had our child which have been seven months. We been arguing none ...
A. 16 June 2007: You say you love them both but what sort of love is it, is it different for both? You will always feel love for your childs father but you need to be in a relationship that is good for you in every way like askeve says maybe it would be good for you ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend has just told me over instant messenger, that his mother is dying.
Q. My ex boyfriend has just told me over instant messenger, that his mother is dying. How should i deal with this. I don't want to sound callous, but i didnt really understand why he felt the need to tell me. We haven't spoken for over a year. ...
A. 16 June 2007: My husbands grand dad has just died and we have been separated for ten months now and he has a new women in his life but he chose to phone and tell me first and ask me to go to the funeral with him.
Ok you have not spoken for a year but i'm sure... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got a year long job in he states and now tells me she wants to stay there!
Q. hi, iv been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years. about 6 months ago, she got a year long job in the states, and she wanted so badly to go and i was happy for her to do it. we have been in contact all the while, i trust her completely and have been ...
A. 16 June 2007: I'm going to have to agree with the other girls on this one, who knows what will happen when you get out there if you mean that much to each other you will find a way, can you tell us why you say that it is not an option for you to go and live out ... (read in full...)
I feel so insecure, how do I "find myself" again?
Q. My girlfriend finished our relationship on sunday and i am heart broken, i opened up to her so much and let down all my guards. i felt used and hurt because i gave her my all. we argue all the time because she has a short temper and no matter what i ...
A. 16 June 2007: She is giving you false hope by continuing to talk to you which is very cruel, you say you never used to be like the way you are now so tell me why do you want to be with someone that has done this to you?
Move on babe you will find someone that... (read in full...)
Over the last couple of weeks I've started to see girls in a different way and I think I'm turning lesbian
Q. Over the last couple of weeks I've started to see girls in a different way and I think I'm turning lesbian, I'm scared to tell anyone how I feel because am scared how they will react has anyone got advice for me x x x x x...
A. 16 June 2007: Have to agree with YummyMummy through teenage years most of us experience a bit of confusion when it comes to our sexuality but it never usually lasts that long, it might even have something to do with the fact you are developing into a women ... (read in full...)
Had an affair with a woman but had to break it off because she didn't want it. With a baby on the way with another girl, she wants me back! What should I do?
Q. well i've been maddly head over heels with this girl i went to school with over ten years ago, the problem was that at school she seemed happy with my best mate so i never mentioned how i felt, after school we lost touch but one day she came to work ...
A. 16 June 2007: You can't stay with this girl just because of the baby it would not be fair on either of you in the long run and plus you are clearly in love with the other women, she realised what she wanted and acted on it maybe you should now do the same and ... (read in full...)
He says that he wants to have sex, I said no and now he's being all weird on me. What should I do?
Q. i got a boyfriend who says he loves me, he told his best m8 he had feelings for me and then we started going out, however before we started going out we were really close m8s i was like his 2nd best m8, i love him n i no he loves me well he says he ...
A. 16 June 2007: Stick to your guns girl, if you are not ready that do not let him try and talk you into it, young lads can be very cleaver and say exactly what you want to hear just so they can have their wicked way with you, if he can't wait then he is not worth ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend pregnant? Her period has changed.
Q. Me and my girlfriend just had sex last tuesday (june 12)and when we did there were two problems. the condom was too big and it fell off once. even though im sure it didnt touch her in any way, she is worrried that she is pregnant. the next day (june ...
A. 16 June 2007: The only way you are going to know for sure is by visiting her gp which will be in strict confidence so her parents need never know, i am glad to hear you are using protection though and it is perfectly normal for accidents to happen but please be ... (read in full...)
I keep needing to go to the toilet. Please help!
Q. After ive been to the toilet i feel like i need it again sometimes and i get a little pain but when it comes to going again i cant. its strange it doesnt happen all the time just occasionaly. does anyone know whats wrong?...
A. 16 June 2007: It sounds very much like you have a urine infection it would be best for you to go and see your gp and get some treatment for it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sending emails that sound like she's sleeping with other blokes! She tells me it's nothing to worry about. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old and have been seeing my girlfriend of the same age for about 9 months now. We met each other at our 'home' town but we study at different universities so it is effectively a 'long-distance relationship' most of the time. Over ...
A. 16 June 2007: I think you should talk to her about this but i also think it needs to be done face to face as you can see if there is remorse for what she has done, but do remember you are going to have to do some explaining to as what you did as you know yourself ... (read in full...)
Before we started going out we were so close, we trusted each other with everything and I'm scared if we break up we may ruin that.
Q. hiya i posted a question earlier about my boyfriend wanting to have sex and me not being ready and him saying i let him down coz i sed no. he rang me earlier and he had calmed down and said sorry and then after about 3 mins he said we're still going ...
A. 16 June 2007: I understand how you feel but from what you have been saying this lad seems to say all the right things " i just phoned because i was missing you" you have told him you are not ready yet he still keeps trying to put pressure on you, please do not be ... (read in full...)
She smokes pot. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend still sometimes smokes pot. Its not THAT big of a deal, but it bothers me a little. I knew she used to do it quite a bit in her past but when we met she told me she hadnt done it in a while and didnt really need to anymore. She didnt ...
A. 16 June 2007: We all have things that we do that maybe we should not, you say that she does not smoke it very often and she does not do it round you so i can not see the harm in it, my husband smokes it and i don't and i can honestly say it does not bother me in ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my best friend... she's having a rough time with her current boyfriend! What shall I do?
Q. I have too many feeling for my friends wife... And I confessed these to her. She said she has similar feelings but she has to focus on her current relationship. Right now she is trying to work on a divorce, and I feel like a little of it is my ...
A. 16 June 2007: You have made it very clear to her how you feel and she has told you she needs to focus on her current relationship.
You have done all you can now i think you now need to back off and let her make her own decision and you need to try and move on w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very loud when we have sex.
Q. My girlfriend is very loud when we have sex. I actually find it very embarrassing as my walls are very thin and my bedroom is right next to the neigbours. I know they can hear her as I can hear very slight movement in their room like someone opening ...
A. 16 June 2007: Well what can you do, you have tried telling her and she is not bothered about other people hearing and good on her for that so if you have that much of a problem with it then the only thing you can do it get another girlfriend.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
All my friends are absolutely stunning, I feel so hideous and insignificant around them. Help me!
Q. im so depressed with the way i look. i keep crying because i feel so hideous. i cant look in mirrors and wont stand next to windows incase i see my reflextion, even seeing my shadow makes me feel sick. i hate my weight and am trying to loose ...
A. 15 June 2007: You really do need to go and see your doctor all of this will not just go away if you don't if anything it will get worse, now you have managed to open up to us on this site it would be just the same to tell your doctor, you say you can not tell ... (read in full...)
My husband has sent women...photos of his genetalia!
Q. My husband has gone away for a few days and I decided to be nosy and looked at his e-mail account. I found a couple of e-mails that he has sent to women thanking them for the photos of their naked bodies they have sent him and for one of them he has ...
A. 15 June 2007: I'm not surprised you are upset about this i would be too if i were you, you should and have every right to ask him about this he owes you an explanation if you don't confront him about this it will probably carry on and do you really want to be in ... (read in full...)
We have a baby, we have a flat..we were so happy! Then one day he just dumped me..what can I do?
Q. my partner and i have been together for 5 years, we have a baby and are buying a flat together. everything was going well, we wernt arguing and were acting as loved up and romantic as always. last weekend he took me for a meal and was telling me h...
A. 15 June 2007: Wow that was out of the blue then, well from everything you have said it could possibly be the prospect of buying the flat, he could himself just be scared you have a new baby getting a flat all of the sudden he has to become a proper grown up, seen ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to marry my ex best friend's ex husband?
Q. Am I wrong to marry my ex best friend's ex husband? I was her maid of honor in her weddng 12 years ago.I always been a good friend always giving not recieving.but thats ok.We stop takin 2 years ago. One day he asked me out on a friendly date I said ...
A. 15 June 2007: Go for it you are in love you don't talk to your mate anymore so there should not be anything stopping you, don't let anything or anyone stand in your way.
Take care.x.... (read in full...)
He went down on me but was too rough with his mouth and now I'm sore.. how can I ease the hurt?
Q. hello people, i have a question? my husband and i did 69 for the first time and i couldnt believe how turned on i really was,.i really had high hopes about the whole 69 thing and when he went down on me he couldnt eat me out the right way it was h...
A. 15 June 2007: Ok i have always told my husband if he was doing something wrong or hurting me and he has done the same for me, don't take it too seriously have a laugh about it you are supposed to be having fun after all, we have been together twelve years now ... (read in full...)
Help..I resent his young sons and I am being selfish! I want this man all to myself!
Q. i love the man im am living with but feel very insecure with his relationship with his two son's who live with their mam and stay with us every other weekend,i think he puts them on a pedistol too much and get defensive when i say negative things ...
A. 15 June 2007: You say he gets defensive if you say negative things about his sons but when you really think about it is that not a natural reaction for a parent, every other weekend is not all that much time to see his boys so maybe it would be nice to suggest ... (read in full...)
Contact was great..in the beginning. Now he hardly messages me! What can I do/
Q. Hey guys! I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now..and in the beginning it was brilliant! He'd message me all the time and talk about me to all of his freinds! even work ppl (yes we work together but in total different departments and...
A. 15 June 2007: You say your sick of doing the chasing, so don't do the chasing anymore you asked him to meet up with you this weekend and he has got other commitments so sit back and let him make the first move now.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
'Now' is ok but I know this wont last forever!!!
Q. I almost definetly moved in with my boyfriend before I was ready and two years down the line I'm dealing with the consequences. The thing is although I don't feel I want to split with him, and broadly speaking we are happy - I find it difficul...
A. 15 June 2007: Given what you have just said i think you do need to end the relationship as your boyfriend obviously see this as a long term thing, and as you don't i would say that it is unfair to mislead him like this.
How can you ever possibly be happy also... (read in full...)
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