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writes:I'm almost 17 and am ready to have sex. I'm going to be honest, I'm gorgeous and a party girl - so boys date me under the impression we'll have sex. Of course once they find out I'm a virgin they run. If I have never done anything beyond making out and drysex, would it hurt to have sex when I'm plastered? No lectures please. =)
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reader, Gem86  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 No lectures here :)
Seriously though, I think you might regret it down the line. My own opinion on this is to wait unitl you find someone who actually cares and wont run off just because youre a virgin. Dont rush things hun, Take care xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Yes it will hurt. Unless the guy isn't...well endowed? The first few times always hurt unless you're really lucky. So stay sober at least the first time, you'll most likely want to remember it, especially when your friends ask you what happened the next day. Don't turn into a slut party girl. If the guys just looking for sex you'll realize when he stops talking to you after a few times.
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reader, Spl-ash +, writes (14 June 2007):
 i would suggest you so not do it while you are drunk, have a drink to relax but do not over do it...
the first time is one you gonna remember and one you will want to remember....
make it special, not an experience... i learned from my mistake... but can't make it right really....
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reader, love-him +, writes (14 June 2007):
 If ur drunk you probly wont even remember what you did and how it happened .. u will probly jusst be left with pain in the morning.. hope i helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): It may not hurt so much physically. Indeed you may not feel anything as acutely when you're drunk. However, please lose your virginity for the right reasons, because the emotional hurt will outlast any physical hurt in the long run, if it's for the wrong reasons. You clearly have a lot of confidence, which is great. Just remember that if the guys you're with run away once they find out you're a virgin, then maybe you could do with aiming for better, kinder guys, more worthy of being with you. There's no rush!!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Your first experience is likely to hurt and i know you don't want to be lectured but i will say don't let the first time be when you are drunk you should be able to savour and remember your first time for the rest of your life, you need to be totally relaxed but you will feel that if it is with the right person.
Take care.xx.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (14 June 2007):
No lectures. Well it would hurt a little bit less I suppose, but it sounds a sad way to start out. I regretted my first time, because I picked the wrong man and he hurt me. I had drunk a couple of glasses, but wasn’t plastered. It hurt so much, that I think being drunk wouldn’t have made much difference. Friends of mine who had a better first experience reckon that it hardly hurts at all if you pick the right one, and he is thoughtful and out to please you, rather than just himself. The thing is not to rush at all, so you need to pick a man who is prepared to take his time. This isn’t a lecture, but just a suggestion. The first time would be better with someone that you really care about, rather than just another in a long line of dates. That isn’t just old fashioned stuff, it means that he is more likely to want to make you happy, because he isn’t just interested in adding you to his list of conquests. Then it can happen kind of naturally, and when your emotions take over things work better, if you get what I mean. It also means that the experience will be worth looking back on with affection, even if it doesn’t go perfectly
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reader, babydoll0713 +, writes (14 June 2007):
 At this point I feel like there should be a lecture but since you are old enough to make your own decisions I'll just leave it at that. It could hurt either way. Some girls claim that their first time they don't feel a thing. Others claim that they bleed. It all depends on your body. But since you would be drunk it's probably less likely you will feel it at that moment, probably the next day. Now if I can give my personal opinion and I'm really not trying to lecture but don't do it while your drunk. It's not my place to say if you should be having sex or how you should do it, but with being intoxicated alot more mistakes can happen. I really don't think you'd like to get pregnant the first time ever having sex because you were too wasted and didn't realise the condom broke.
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reader, Miss_Oz +, writes (14 June 2007):
 I'm not going to lecture you, though I will say do please be very careful when you're out with the boys, especially if you're getting intoxicated; for your own safety, try to make sure you always have a ride home with a friend and keep an eye on your drinks. Attractive, outgoing girls like yourself can be at risk from unwanted male attention and you may be of less coherent mind to make your refusal seem serious. As for getting drunk before sex, I would not recommend this. It will hurt some, the first time and a couple of times afterwards but being drunk will not make it easier. Booze will only make things more fumbly, your inhibitions will be drastically lowered which isn't a good idea on your first attempt and if your chosen partner is also drunk, he will be less attuned to making sure you are comfortable. You may find things happening you don't want and didn't agree to and it may be to late then to do anything about it. Do you really want to be mentally (and probably somewhat physically) incapacitated in such an intimate, vulnerable situation? If you are ready for sex then that is your choice and good luck with it, though I'd recommend you staying sober; if all goes well and you have a great experience, you will want to keep the memory of that; waking up the next day feeling sore, used and hung over, next to some equally rough male, is not something worth possibly feeling a little less natural pain during your first time. Please take care.
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