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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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We want to share a bed, but just to hug, not to have sex and her Mom wont let us
Q. I have become friends with a girl. And I mean like best friends. There's no like feelings for each other in that way, we just generally love each other as best friends. I'm going to stay with her in a few days and we have been talking about like ...
A. 29 July 2007: Glad you had a good holiday and you're relationship has stepped up.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm on a trip around the world and worried I'm drinking (far) too much!
Q. I just cant stop drinking... Im on a years trip around the world..trip of a lifetime yes? Im ruining it ...I just cant stop... I dont really want to go home just now but I cant find a programme in English to help me... any ideas? For the first ...
A. 5 July 2007: I am really glad that you have managed to get this sorted out and i wish you the very best.
Take care.x.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I've had an orgasm?
Q. When being fingered or being given oral in a particular way--which is good--I begin to shudder/shake which I cannot control. Am I orgasming or is it the build up to one? Or is it just the reaction to the stimulation? I can't say if I've orgasmed...
A. 25 June 2007: sounds like the build up to one babe, believe me when you have had one you will not need to ask if you have.
Have fun and take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She wants her space! How can she turn off her feelings so suddenly?
Q. Hi all, Me and my ex have both just graduated from university, we have been together for about 2 1/2 months, although we have known each other since the beginning but i was to shy to make a move until now. Now uni has finished she is going back home ...
A. 25 June 2007: It's probably not a case of turning her feelings off, she probably just realises hard hard it will be for you to continue your relationship while you are apart so she is trying to save you both from heartache.
After the summer is over if you both... (read in full...)
I kissed another girl when I was drunk; should I tell my girlfriend and risk hurting her, or keep it quiet?
Q. hello, i am 18 years old and a freshman in college. my girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 months. i truly think this girl is "the one" for me and i am very much in love with her. i know it's early on in the relationship, but i can't help how i ...
A. 25 June 2007: You say it was only a couple of weeks into the relationship, so although i do not agree with cheating at all we all make mistakes we are after all only human.
If you are 100% sure that she will never find out then do not say anything as you have... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I was too big--now I am depressed and uncomfortable with him
Q. Hello, I am 27 years old. I have been through a lot the past year. I left my husband after 10 years. I lost my father, who was my rock. I lost almost everything me and my four kids owned. I have been in a new relationship for about 10 or 11 m...
A. 25 June 2007: What a s#@t even if that is the case there are better times and ways of saying it than in the bedroom.
You say you have been through a tough year and from what you have said it certainly does sound that way.
Have you had any time to yourself... (read in full...)
I want a threesome, but my boyfriend doesn't--can I convince him?
Q. I had a fantasy of having a threesome with two guys. I have a boyfriend and a guy that would join in, but my boyfriend is funny about seeing another naked guy. My boyfriend also wants me all to himself. He doesn't want to try with two girls be...
A. 25 June 2007: Hey we all have fantasies at some stage of our lives and they do generally pass, you have discussed it with your boyfriend and he is not up for it and i can see his point that he wants you all to himself and there is nothing wrong with that.
If you ... (read in full...)
I want a long term relationship, but I hate the pressure--please help!
Q. I always seem to fuck up my relationships with guys because I don't like the pressure--I can't have a long term relatioship and I realy want one, but whenever I find someone I freak out and dump them. I don't know what to do, please help me....
A. 25 June 2007: Judging by your age i can totally understand why you don't like the pressure you don't need it you should be out there enjoying yourself having lots of fun and as long as you ar being safe then thats all that should matter right now.
Don't put so m... (read in full...)
We've been together for quite a while but now she wants to slow down our relationship
Q. Hey Cupid Ive been in a relationship with the most amazing woman ive ever met for 45months now and couldnt be more in love! We've had a tough time over the duration of our 45months. She's white and im black.My mom was quite easy with it all a...
A. 25 June 2007: It could be a good thing having a bit of space from each other, sometimes in a relationship you can loose sight of each other and it takes a bit of space to realise just how much you mean to each other.
Alot of different pressures can build up and ... (read in full...)
I'm on a trip around the world and worried I'm drinking (far) too much!
Q. I just cant stop drinking... Im on a years trip around the world..trip of a lifetime yes? Im ruining it ...I just cant stop... I dont really want to go home just now but I cant find a programme in English to help me... any ideas? For the first ...
A. 25 June 2007: Is there a local hospital or doctors surgery near where you are that would have an english speaking doctor that would be able to point you in the right direction.
Take care and i hope you get the help you need.
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How can I do more for my girlfriend?
Q. How to be in a relationship forever I want to be taught how to love my girlfriend. I had a problem of wanting to change but i have failed and all i want is to relax and be happy. How do i avoid arguments how do i love her more appreciate her m...
A. 25 June 2007: You can't make any of what you have mentioned happen, it's just something that grows in time with your relationship and as long as you are both totally honest with each other all of the time then you should have no problems.
Something that has alwa... (read in full...)
Does anyone think that telling my straight friend I fancy them is a good idea?
Q. A bit of an open question- do you people think that it is the right thing to do to tell a straight friend of the same sex that you fancy them, or to ignore your felings cos you know nothing will ever happen between the two of you?...
A. 24 June 2007: I personally would say if you know they are straight and nothing is going to come of it then say nothing as it could harm or destroy the friendship you have.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My attractive friend is harming my confidence; she even said I need plastic surgery!
Q. My friend is making me very insecure. She's a very attractive model and tells me because of her "looks, boobs and personality" her boyfriends have never looked at other women, at porn, cheated on her or even thought about other women (how could she ...
A. 24 June 2007: Jealousy, thats how it comes accross to me you are happy with your body, your life and your boyfriend.
Yes it is perfectly normal for your boyfreind to look at other women in fact i would say there was something wrong with him if he did not it is n... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has suddenly said he needs time to be sure that I'm the One
Q. My boyfirend of three years has asked for some time. We are supposed to move in together this December and i am starting school by his house this summer. He said that he loves me but just wants to be sure that this is it. We still talk a little on ...
A. 24 June 2007: Moving in together is a huge step to take and i think it is very admirable of him to take time out and make sure he feels it is the right thing to do, rather than rush into something and regret it.
You now also have the opportunity to think abou... (read in full...)
We've fallen in love but his friend wants me too!
Q. I have fallen in love! YAY! We'll call him G. We have been friends for almost two years and have fallen in love. I am very happy and everything couldnt be better except his best friend, D, has feelings for me too. I am also close friends with D but ...
A. 24 June 2007: If you and G really like each other then go for it, D will soon realise your feelings just be thoughtful and don't rub his face in it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 17 years older than I--I worry about how other people see us!
Q. I'm dating a man 17 years older than me. I really like this guy but sometimes I wonder how people view us as a couple. I think it personally doesn't matter but I would like to know what other peoples' views on this are? ...
A. 24 June 2007: To hell with what every one else thinks if you are happy then thats the most important thing.
Good luck to you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I believe his act?
Q. My daughter's father is now wanting to give his right as her father unless I give him back Joint Custody, in which it will not happen. His verbal abuse, negative comments, etc, is what I am not going to put up with anymore. He'll cry over the phone ...
A. 24 June 2007: I personally would not believe a word he says as you have said he keeps doing this.
Untill he grows up and realises that what he is doing is going to effect his children i think it is very wise that he does noy see them, just look after you and your... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my husband about my risque past?
Q. Ok im a 20 year old female and im married and today me and my husband were talkin about how many sex partners weve had over the years and what not, and i told him that ive been with 12 men but that was a lie. you see me and him starting dating when ...
A. 24 June 2007: What he does not know won't hurt him, if you kept your past secret and there is no way of him finding out then leave it in the past and just move on with your relationship.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Does ejaculating damage my body?
Q. dear guys, i'm 13 ad i am just beginning to masterbate, i have ejaculted once and i dont want to do it again because i don't want to damage mt body, but i crave it so much, i am not a sicko, i just want advice. please help thanks ...
A. 24 June 2007: Hey it's perfectly natural and safe to do so don't worry you are just the same as every other boy growing up.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm so embarassed by what he might have seen in my drawer!
Q. my boyfriend came to my house the other day. we were sat at the computer and there is a stack of drawers next to it. my boyfriend opened a drawer and i was fine with him doing that as it just had my make-up in. he was staring into the drawer for ...
A. 24 June 2007: If he has not mentioned anything about it i would not worry to much, he is probably just as embarrased about it as you are, just let this be a lesson to you dispose of them down the toilet next time.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I can't decide if I should go back to him
Q. HELP!! I've just kissed -and done a bit more with- my ex-boyfriend. We broke up because the long distance thing wasn't working, but now we are both back home for the summer. It felt really right at the time when we were kissing, but I told mysel...
A. 24 June 2007: So it was like old times then, so maybe when you talk it might be worth saying what happened was great but now you have had chance to think about it, maybe it was not such a good idea because you live far away from each other and it's not possible ... (read in full...)
I sent her flowers, what is the next step?
Q. I have sent flowers etc to a lady in the same company as I. We do not work together. She was thrilled to get the flowers etc but she does not know who sent them. All her colleagues were looking at the flowers etc She was very excited all day ...
A. 23 June 2007: Now tell her it was you that sent the flowers and ask her if you can take her out somewhere to dinner.
Go on you can do it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I don't know what it is he's describing
Q. hiya this might seem a bit niave but i was talking to a male mate of mine one night on msn and he asked me if i had ever given anyone a tit wank. can some please explain to em wat this is and how you do it thanks xx...
A. 23 June 2007: Basically it's where a guy puts his penis in a womens cleavage and simulates sex. Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that because I'm so shy during sex that it'll come between us. Any advice?
Q. I am really shy when it comes to sex. I like being the submissive one. I don't like be dominant. This was fine, until recently. I am dating this great guy and he wants me to open up and stop being shy during sex. I can understand that he wants me to ...
A. 23 June 2007: Confidence in the bedroom grows with the relationship the more you know each others body the more relaxed it gets.
What you need to try and remember is that this is supposed to be fun so talk to each other about what you like and don't like, what... (read in full...)
We split up a year ago and now he lives a long distance away. I miss him. Should I write to him?
Q. i split with my ex boyfriend nearly a year ago and we live far apart from eachother and we aint spoke since,i still miss him and i am sill in love with him and i am dying to get in touch with him just to see how he is. do you think i should write to ...
A. 23 June 2007: Go for it, what have you got to lose write to him and tell him how you feel, you never know he may be feeling the same but is to scared to do anything about it, so you be brave and make the first move and if you hear nothing back at least you tried ... (read in full...)
I have a special internet friend, but now my boyfriend wants to keep us apart!
Q. Hi! I'm in a relationship going on almost 3 years now, and up until now I've been home because of my disability, I can't drive and I don't go out unless it is with my BF. I met this man on the internet a few months ago, and we really hit it of...
A. 23 June 2007: People do change and as you have grown up you have decided you want different things from life then you might have done when you first got together, unfortunately we don't always grow together wanting the same things.
It should not be one rule for ... (read in full...)
My wife walks around naked and my sister-in-law says nothing...is this a problem?
Q. My newly wedded wife walks around the house buck naked, and her sister, my sister in law, never says to her 'don't walk naked around the house when your husband is around.' What should I be aware of from the SIL?...
A. 23 June 2007: If you have issues with this then maybe you should try talking to your wife about this, i personally don't see it as a problem with it it is her house and it's good that she has no hang ups about her body and feels as though she can do that.
T... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with my brother--help!
Q. I fell for my brother. My brother and I have been close since I was born. When I was 6, I was taken away from my mom and brothers, through a custody trial. Last summer I was able to reconnect with my brother, Tim. We now live together. We wer...
A. 23 June 2007: Ok i realise that you missed that time with your brother while you were a child but hey you are an adult now and you should realise that having sexual relations with your brother is so totally wrong, i'm not surprised your mom has started ... (read in full...)
I'm losing weight while eating a ton of food--what can I do?
Q. I've lost 2 stone in 3 weeks and I've been eating loads-- what else can I do to stop me from losing weight rapidly?...
A. 23 June 2007: If i were you i would make an appointment to see your gp as any extreme and unexplained weight loss like that should always be investigated by a doctor.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Worried about when my period will start--I'm already 14!
Q. I am 14 and I have not started my period yet. I have had discharge for two years and I am wondering when will I get my period since everyone i know has. I have been told I am lucky that I haven't. Can anyone tell me when I will start?...
A. 23 June 2007: Sorry babe no one will be able to give you an answer to that question as we are all different and it happens at different times for everyone, you are extremely lucky that you have not yet started and i would not worry yourself about it just enjoy ... (read in full...)
My best friend's girlfriend hates me and he's been acting oddly with me too
Q. Hi. My best friend has a girlfriend. She hates me because she's jealous when me and him hang out together. It's not like we hang out alone together without her knowing - we ask her to come out but she always says no. Last night I was on MSN to hi...
A. 23 June 2007: Hiya bubbloo 24.
After reading what you have just wrote i would say that he is not a really good friend at all if he is prepared to treat you like that just because he has a girlfriend that has insecurities, i would certainly not treat any of my f... (read in full...)
I'm overweight and have no confidence left
Q. well im really big for my age im 15 im a size 18 and thats gettin too small for me and i dont have a clue bout how to lose weight.i used to be really vain when i was size 12/14 i had loads of confidence and a bf and everything but as ive got bigger ...
A. 23 June 2007: Ok i think it would be a good idea for you to go and visit your doctor and discuus these issues with them they will be able to give you dietry advice to help you start losing the weight.
Do you have a good relationship with your mum?, if so i thin... (read in full...)
She spends more time at her mum's than with me
Q. In the past 3 or 4 months my girlfriend seems to be spending more and more time at her mum's house rather than spending her time with me. I'm almost 26 she's 25 and we have being living together since November last year. We live very close to he...
A. 23 June 2007: I'm glad that you feel that way and now you have said that she is pregnant with what i'm guessing is your first child i can kind of understand why she maybe spending qiute that much time with her mum, i myself have children and it's very daunting ... (read in full...)
She spends more time at her mum's than with me
Q. In the past 3 or 4 months my girlfriend seems to be spending more and more time at her mum's house rather than spending her time with me. I'm almost 26 she's 25 and we have being living together since November last year. We live very close to he...
A. 23 June 2007: I don't think you are being silly about it at all, i see my parents everyday but i am married so i make sure i am home with my husband when he gets in from work as that is our time.
You say you have talked to her about, if she is not prepared to c... (read in full...)
He's having phone sex with other women
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years and i have just found out my boyfriend is having phone sex with other women. I have tried talking to him but alls he will say is it doesn't mean anything and its me he wonts to be with. I don't know wha...
A. 23 June 2007: If it's you he wants to be with then he should not be doing this att all and you should not stand for it.
You do not need to be doing something psyhically for it to be classed as an affair, if it's making you ill then you need to tell him this and ... (read in full...)
She's with an abusive man for financial reasons; do I have a chance?
Q. My question is, would a girl that is in a abusive relationship leave if the right man came along? I've been seeing a girl in a long term abusive relationship for a few months now and she has started telling me that she loves me and that she woul...
A. 23 June 2007: I understand that you want to be with her and take care of her but at your age do you really want to take on someone with so much baggage, as if she did leave it would be very possible that she would have psychological issues that would need sorting ... (read in full...)
The sex with him is awful; should I leave him, or cheat?
Q. my kids father and i just recently reconnected and before the sex was amazing and now its terrible, i just made him stop and get off me i am not satified with the way he handles me. i try to spice it up but hes not intrested. its like were 2 dead ...
A. 23 June 2007: Ok so your kids father is relationship material but not so good anymore in the bedroom department, and your old lover was the opposite, now i know sex is not everything but i know which of the two i would prefer.
Things will probably not impr... (read in full...)
We broke up and he's taunting me but I'm still not over him
Q. I was in a three year relationship and I'm having a really hard time getting over him. I honestly think about him everyday and I can't help but feel lonely without him. I go out with friends but all I can think about is him. He left me for another ...
A. 23 June 2007: It's very hard when you have been with someone for that amount of time to just get over them, especially when it was not you that wanted to end the relationship.
To be honest with you the way he is treating you now is discusting sending mess... (read in full...)
He is always looking at me and smiling. Does he like me?
Q. I really like this guy at my college and I have been told that he likes me, he keeps looking at me and trying to catch my eye and when he is talking to me and my friends he focuses on me, he also smiles constantly when looking and talking to me. D...
A. 23 June 2007: Hey you are young and should be care free so why don't you just bite the bullet and go and ask him out some where you have been told that he likes you so the chances are pretty good, it's a modern world and there is no harm in you making the first ... (read in full...)
We want to share a bed, but just to hug, not to have sex and her Mom wont let us
Q. I have become friends with a girl. And I mean like best friends. There's no like feelings for each other in that way, we just generally love each other as best friends. I'm going to stay with her in a few days and we have been talking about like ...
A. 23 June 2007: Hey you are just friends with no other feelings apart from that, so although you are annoyed about her mums decision i don't think it's all that bad, don't let such a minor issue spoil the time you are going to have together.
If you really thin... (read in full...)
I have a mole. Could it be cancer?
Q. Hi i have a tiny mole on my leg and it has a tiny white dot in the middle of it. It is not rough, hasnt been bleeding, it is a perfect circle but with a white dot in the middle. Is it cancerius? please help me!...
A. 23 June 2007: If it has not changed in appearance then there should not be anything to worry about but it is always worth getting any change in moles looked at by your doctor so speak to your parents and see if they can get you an appointment booked to see your ... (read in full...)
After 8 months apart, he called me out of nowhere and now we're meeting up! Anyone have a similar experience? If so, what happened?
Q. I can not believe it after 8 months apart and him finishing it with me he calls me up out of the blue, telling me how sorry he is, since then ive had loads of calls of him, im just shocked that he has got in contact after all this time. We are ...
A. 22 June 2007: Hey you know the old saying you don't know what you have got until it's gone.
Maybe thats what this is, my husband left me ten months ago and has just told me that he is sorry and wants to come back and i could not be happier soit all depends now ... (read in full...)
Should I believe in a second reading from a medium?
Q. Who believes in psycics/mediums. The first prediction came true, the 2nd reading said the same as the first. Should I believe in the second reading? ...
A. 22 June 2007: Go with your heart on this one, so do and some don't i personally do as i have had a reading done before i told them nothing about myself what so ever and they came out with stuff they could have never known and if you have had the same thing said ... (read in full...)
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