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Is this considered abuse?
Q. Was my ex-fiance abusive? He never hit me, but he told me that his ex-girlfriend cheated on him and he slapped her on the face. Does that count as abuse? I'm not with him anymore, but I was just wondering if someone could give me some insight. He ...
A. 20 October 2007: No one should hit another person! But just that one slap across the face of his cheating ex doesn't mean that he is abusive. He was hurt, and probably done that without thinking! I think abuse is if he kept doing it again and again without ... (read in full...)
Where have his feelings gone?
Q. I am in a pure relationship with a guy since last 4.5 yrs. We both luv each other but he has changed, he is so bussy that he hardly finds time for me.Sometimes he is quite rude but at times too good, he never tells lie from me. I asked several times ...
A. 20 October 2007: Lots of men have trouble of expressing their feelings like us women do. Don't worry, he does love you very much. He tries to keep busy with his work....it makes him feel good to keep busy. It also hurts him to hear you think that he doesn't. It ... (read in full...)
I don't want to loose my bf or my family.
Q. I KNOW MY BOYFRIEND SINCE THE SEVENTH GRADE..WE STARTED DATING 8 MONTHS AGO BUT MY PARENTS DOESN'T APPROVE OUR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE HE IS AFRICAN AMERICAN.. WE ARE BOTH IN LOVE BUT HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH ME AT THE MOMENT BECAUS EOF MY PARENTS SO ...
A. 20 October 2007: I feel for you! It's a shame that your parents feel that way about your boyfriend! I think that when people make judgments about skin color is just wrong!
I told my kids that just as long as they love and respect each other, skin color didn't make... (read in full...)
I falsely accused my husband of cheating.
Q. I accused my husband of 6 years of cheating on me, because I saw a phone number I did not recognize. I did not ask him first, I just jumped the gun. What can I do to earn his trust back and get over my own trust issue?...
A. 20 October 2007: You should have waited and looked up the number either in your phone book or on the internet first.
Plan a special dinner with candles and champagne. Buy a gift and present it to him along with flowers if you want. And tell him that you are ... (read in full...)
What can I do to look closer to my age?
Q. I look very young for my age. Depending on the age of the person I've heard I look anywhere from 12 to 21. However, VERY few people have said 21. I am 29 and I think this is a huge problem with dating. I want to date men in their 30s but the only ...
A. 20 October 2007: I would just be yourself, and don't change. I would just go with the flow and enjoy that you look younger than your real age. Just take care of yourself, and wear sun screen, especially on your face every day. Before you know it, you will lose ... (read in full...)
Why is a man being a virgin in the west a shame?
Q. Why people in the west think that an adult man to be virgin is a shame? I think being a virgin, because you don't want to put yourself with someone who doesn't deserve to make love with and to be with a lady who shares the same beleif, is something ...
A. 20 October 2007: I think it's great that you are waiting until the right girl comes along! You have a good head on your shoulders and don't let other people tell you different. Even to wait until you get married is one of the greatest virtues!! That will be the ... (read in full...)
I hate my family life. What can I do?
Q. I hate my family life im 13 and there are so many family problams I hate everyone in my family there so unfair and horrible. I want to leave home. I have a week off school for half term and i would rather go to school just to escape! What can I Do?...
A. 20 October 2007: I think everyone goes through what you are going through at this moment. I can remember going through the same thing. Everything will get better.
But if you are being abused physically, then you should stay with a friend, then talk with your teac... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed. How should I feel?
Q. ive been with this girl for 7months and we have a baby on the way. she always told me she had slept wit two guys before me. i come to find out from somebody other than her last night it was four guys before me she denied it and out of nowhere she ...
A. 16 October 2007: What happened was in the past before you ever got together! What has happened in the past should stay in the past and never brought into the present. Maybe your girlfriend thought if you knew it was 4 instead of two, you probably would think ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him of my loyality and faithfulness?
Q. i am an american citizen. i met an australian man over the internet last year and things progressed with our relationship rapidly. like we were soul mates. i have been in australia with him for 4 months now and i love him more than anything. we want ...
A. 16 October 2007: Just keep on telling him that you love him and that you will always be there for him. He was hurt so bad by other women in the past, and he doesn't want to go through that again. My husband was also hurt in the past, and I went through what you ... (read in full...)
Should I give him another chance? I will not be abused by him.
Q. we've been very close friends for 6 years and since living 280km apart and studying we couldn't see each other as often as we wished. i knew his girlfriend of four years. then we started dating about 6 months ago(after their breakup because she ...
A. 16 October 2007: Once a cheater, always a cheater. Like what Tommy7 said...he is a player BIG TIME! I have been in a relationship like what you described. In my situation I had several women calling all the time. And he was cheating on me with more that one of ... (read in full...)
Will my friend of 11 years ever make peace with my wife?
Q. i have a friend of 11 years and he hates my wife. I've stayed with her by my side through a recent argument we are having which has ended up with me not seeing my buddy for a few weeks, maybe even a month already. he's written back to me online ...
A. 16 October 2007: I totally agree with flower girl! It sure sounds like your friend of 11 years is jealous of your wife for taking his friend away from him. And that fact that he has no one for himself, he is jealous of your relationship with your wife. That is ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to break up w/ him, and he refuses to see that he was emotionally abusive! Am *I* the one w/ the problem, though?
Q. I broke up with my fiance and he calls telling me stuff like the reason he is so sad is because he isn't proud of some of the things he did to me in the relationship. What makes me mad is he says we both did things wrong! I'll admit that sometimes ...
A. 16 October 2007: You are NOT crazy....not at all! I was in an emotionally abusive relationship some time ago, and I know what you are going through at this time! Being treated like that only tears you down to make you feel like worthless slime. Before I got out ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he'd accept my new moves?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and we have sex pretty much every night. It's always the same: we get into bed at night, watch TV or lay there for a while, begin kissing and slowly move to sex. I want to try something different and random and s...
A. 16 October 2007: I think that you should go for it! I have an idea.....get a sexy lady cop outfit and you can "arrest" him and have your way with him. I think that your guy won't object to that!! Also, be creative!
Good Luck... (read in full...)
I keep masturbating, and that means I keep sinning. How BAD of a sin is Masturbation?
Q. Hi im ak, im 13 years old and last year i started masturbating...Its something i started to do 1 day its a long story...I LOVE God with all my heart and Masturbation is normal but its also a sin when not married..I keep repeating this sin, i ask ...
A. 16 October 2007: According to the Bible, masturbation is a sin. I think that the reason why is that it causes sensations only you give yourself. Then when you finally get married, your husband won't be able to give you the same pleasure that you achieved for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps XXX photo's of his ex on the computer
Q. hi there my boyfriend of 1 year has xxx photos of his ex girlfriend he deleted them from the computer when i found then as i was very upset about it then 5 months ago but the other day he has put them back in a hidden file what do i do i am 41 and ...
A. 16 October 2007: Since he is with you, your bf shouldn't keep pictures of his ex, especially XXX ones on the computer!! To me, that sounds like he still has strong feelings about her. If he loves you, he shouldn't be doing that!! I would be kicking him to the ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? I'm blonde but I'm not stupid!
Q. My partner and I have been together for six months. We're both late forties and although we don't yet live together, consider ourselves a committed couple. Whilst using his computer I discovered he's been indulging in sexual activities on-line with ...
A. 16 October 2007: I, too agree with happytochat! This IS cheating!! And he is lying to you about this! If he loved you like he said, he wouldn't be doing this internet crap. Guys who do this end up cheating on their partners sooner or later!! Get out while the ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat to get some satisfaction?
Q. Hi there! Can you please give me some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and love him so much, but he doesn't do it for me in the bedroom, as he justs wants a quick 5 minutes and then he is done. Apart from that, everything...
A. 16 October 2007: I also agree with flower girl!! Talking to your boyfriend about how you feel is a very good idea. By keeping this to yourself, how is he to know what is bothering you? Guys need to know these things!! And don't cheat on him with another guy, ... (read in full...)
I shared an illicit kiss, now I'm bothered about it. What do I do now?
Q. How do I move on after kissing my old boss who's married? I worked closely with a man, who was my boss on a project, at my last job who’s married. Through old co-workers I’d heard he talks about me non-stop and is “in love” with me. I moved fo...
A. 16 October 2007: It was only a kiss and besides alcohol was involved! At least it stopped there and didn't go on any further!! Your reputation is not tarnished, not one bit. Just move on and don't look back! Life is too short to worry over this, go out and live ... (read in full...)
He's been downloading porn for years, but he doesn't want to touch me. What do I do?
Q. my husband of 2yrs watching porn on the net anytime i am not around or in bed.i have caught him only 2months ago on a dating site for sex he said he never do again.now he's on loads of porn sites everyday.i am not a prude in any way but he does not ...
A. 16 October 2007: What you need to do is start taking time out for YOU! Go to the hair salon and get yourself a new hairstyle...maybe add a new color to it. Go out and get some new outfits that make you look and feel like the Princess you are. Try going to the gym ... (read in full...)
What IS that smell?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for quite a while now. Recently tho when we seem to sleep together theres a smell thats really offputting, i havent spoken to him about as im worried its me. What can i do to prevent it? It may have been there all the ...
A. 16 October 2007: I would try bathing or showering every day and use a feminine body wash. Maybe using a douche product might help too, but periodically because douching too much causes a problem in itself.
The vaginal area always has a smell...it gets really bad ... (read in full...)
My best friend is 17 and her guy is 53! Do I support her?
Q. one of my best friends is 17, 18really soon and shes been seeing this guy for about five months, they're havingsex and everything, theyve said "i love you" and when shes told her parents theyre moving in together. He's a really nice guy and hes not ...
A. 18 September 2007: Here in the United States, this relationship would be against the law!! The age here is 18 or 19. I think that your friend is too young to have a relationship with a man of that age. I think that it's just wrong!
Be there for your friend a... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin after all these years?
Q. My first bf and i was sexually active for about 4 years, he was the first sexual partner but there was never bleeding after sex even after the first time. Now i have a new bf, not long after i broke off with the first, my second partner, but sex...
A. 18 September 2007: My cousin fell on a fence when she was around 11 or 12 years old. She started bleeding and my aunt took her to the doctor. He told her that her hymen was broken...in a way that she was no longer a virgin even though she didn't have sex. Some told ... (read in full...)
I'm due to get married and love him but get cold feet at times, is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married very shortly. I'm very excited about it! And everytime I look at him, I can't help but think of how much I love him. Sometimes though, when I have a minute to sit down and put the wedding planning ...
A. 18 September 2007: I think that it's quite normal to feel anxious especially when you are about to get married! I even went through what you are going right now! Just pray about it, and everything will work out for the two of you!!
Good Luck and God Bless!!... (read in full...)
My partner of 5 yrs has left me. I am 8 weeks pregnant!
Q. My partner of 5 years has left me, I am 8 weeks pregnant. I have a daughter who believes he is her father and he has left. He has backed out of getting married to me and buying a house with me. We have been engaged for 4 years....
A. 18 September 2007: That was terrible of your partner leaving you after 5 years! And leaving you 8 weeks pregnant!! My heart goes out for you. Just make sure that you get child support payments when the baby is born. My prayers are with you and your children!
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I'm 18 and he's 28, am I wasting my time?
Q. I'm 18, and he's 28. What would you think of dating an 18 year old if you were 28? Im from England and he's from america, so we have a real cultural difference in that we have more freedom at 18 in england than over here. I think he likes me but in ...
A. 18 September 2007: I don't think that you are wasting your time...just take it easy and pray about it. Just take things slow and see what happens.
God Bless... (read in full...)
Was my wife the victim of sexual assualt?
Q. Was my wife a likely victim of sexual assault or rape? Before we got together when she was 18 years old she attended a 4th of July party at which she played a drinking game with somef other college students and got so drunk she blacked out. She ...
A. 18 September 2007: I agree with beautifultrustnlover....this guy took advantage of the situation when she was blacked out. It was against her will, which to me is rape! Even it was a long time ago, it still bothers her. She needs your understanding and prayers!
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My girlfriend is taller than me and I feel very uncomfortable about it.
Q. Hi. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 4 months now and I love her. However, I have just noticed that she is taller than me. I'm 17 and only about 5'7"ish and I'm really insecure about my height. My girlfriend looks like she is about half an...
A. 7 July 2007: One thing, if you really love her, height shouldn't even matter! 1/2 inch or an inch is'nt that much of a deal!! What matters is that you treat each other with respect and love!!
Also stretching the muscles after exercise doesn't make her tall... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he loves me every 2 minutes, is it a true sign he loves me or just habbit?
Q. My boyfriend says he loves me every 2 minutes, is it a true sign he loves me or just habbit?...
A. 7 July 2007: I tend to think that he does love you, but he is taking it to the extreme!! He might just like the sound of his voice telling you that he loves you...I hope that you tell him that you love him in return.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Is age really that important?
Q. If you fall in love with someone older than you about 7 yrs older and they're married with a baby but her and her man are seperated and we both like each other...is age really that important ...
A. 7 July 2007: Age isn't that important..just as long as long as you are legal age. It's just a number and it is how you feel in your heart is all that matters!!
But just be careful since you said that he is still married with a child...even though they are... (read in full...)
He still talks to his ex-girlfriend.
Q. He still talks to his ex-girlfriend. I know for a fact he hasn't told her that we are together and we've been seriously together for 2 and 1/2 years. I think he still has feelings for her and he still calls her all the time. They talk on the ...
A. 7 July 2007: I agree with KayKay too! Talk to your guy and tell him how it makes you feel! And if he still does it when he knows how you feel, then it's time to kick him to the curb, and find a guy that will treat you better!!!
Good luck!!... (read in full...)
I have really bad acne! What can I do to solve my problem?
Q. hey guys i'm turning 16 in a few months from now... and i have this acne problem... i have acne all over my torso... which is so embarassing... worst case is at my back, then at upper arm... i'm really annoyed and even embarrassed to swim... can ...
A. 7 July 2007: Try washing your face and where the acne is with soap and water to start. If you have excess oily skin, try buying a preparation for acne. Shower at least once a day and make sure your skin is kept clean. If this doesn't work, have your parents ... (read in full...)
After the death of her father she has grown dependent on me. Will these feelings go away?
Q. My girlfriend just lost her father in a car accident very recently and it has changed the way she thinks and feels about me. She has grown very attached and dependent upon me. I just want to know some ways that will help us through this hard time ...
A. 7 July 2007: She just lost her father, the first and most important man in her life! I, too, went through the same feelings and emotions when I lost my dad!! And yes, in time these feelings will go away. It might take a while, just be patient with your ... (read in full...)
I am extremely depressed that my boyfriend has gone away! What do I do?
Q. Need some Help...My boyfriend just went away and I am feeling sad and depress. I am extremelly depress. I am crying at home, and even at work i got watery eyes.. Could it be major depression or is it that i miss my boyfriend. HELP PLEASe on what ...
A. 7 July 2007: I have been in the same boat as you are, and you are just missing him in a big way. But you shouldn't let it consume your life, because it could interfer with your job.
I would suggest to you that on your day off you should go out with your gir... (read in full...)
How do I win a girl's heart?
Q. How do I get rid of my spots and what do I need to get to a girl's heart? I have no success with woman and I feel this site is my only hope. ...
A. 26 June 2007: I agree with YummyMummy on the advice about the acne. Also try keeping your face clean, and don't try to pick your face...it not only increases it, it also can scar your face! (there's a product here in the States by the name of Proactive...I ... (read in full...)
Should I tell a guy I like him before he leaves?
Q. I like this guy and he is 15. He used to live in my neighborhood and I like him a lot. But I am only 12 right now. He is only visiting his grandmother for the summer and will be going back to Alaska in August. I like him a lot, but he will be ...
A. 26 June 2007: I agree with everyone else here....I think you should tell him before he leaves!! ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and have never come and feel less feminine because of it! What's wrong with me?
Q. im 21 and ive never come.In some ways I feel less feminine less womanly. Why can’t I? What’s wrong with me? Some times I say “it’s them, not me” but there comes a point when you have to say that maybe it is you. after all if they have made others ...
A. 26 June 2007: One thing I should say to you, relax!! Don't let this trouble you because if you worry about it, the more it won't happen! I know this because it also happened to me! When I let it not bother me so much, that is when it happened! Just don't let ... (read in full...)
I am in love with two men. How do I choose?
Q. Love 2 people? I have a boyfriend (Jake), known him for 2 years and a good friend (Tom), known him for 1 year. I am in love with Jake, but during the year I have developed strong feelings for Tom and recently found out that he has feels very highg...
A. 26 June 2007: I agree with Brandi!! Also you should choose the one who you want to spend the rest of your life with! Good luck!!!... (read in full...)
He cheats with me, but then says he wants to stay with her!
Q. I am so confused and hope someone can help. I have fallen for this guy at work but we are both in other relationships. About 6 months ago this man and I realised that we were very attracted to one another and as we both have issues around se...
A. 26 June 2007: I think that you should be cautious about this man! And he is also your co-worker, which might make working together not a good idea.
For one thing, if he cheated on his gf with you, he would eventually cheat on you if you two did have a relation... (read in full...)
Anyone know a cure for dry mouth?
Q. this will sound completly stupid but what the hell. i have been suffering from a dry mouth recently and no matter ho wmuch i drink i cant get rid of it. i also think its affecting my kissing. any ideas how to rid it?...
A. 26 June 2007: There is a special mouthwash on the market for dry mouth called Oasis (i think that's how you spell it) Try chewing gum also. But also check with your doctor, just in case it might be a serious problem. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have unprotected sex during your period?
Q. this is so stupid but I have been having protected sex for months now but i wondered if you can have unprotected sex during your period?...
A. 26 June 2007: I have to agree with everyone here! It is NOT good to have unprotected sex any time, period! (No pun, just fact!!) No time is safe!!... (read in full...)
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