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I am the "mom" of my friends, I like to help people I know and don't know. I'm at college now where I'm majoring in physcology and neuroscience. So ask a question and I hope I can help the best that I can. I grew up early in life so don't think my help is useless because of my age. |
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Worried my gf's good looks will go down the tolilet! How do I tell her this?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my girlfriend now for about 9 months, when we 1st met, she blew me away- nice personality, beautiful looks, a great smile and a lovely body. She has just started using the pill, I said I would use condoms but she wants to use ...
A. 16 January 2008: Personally I think you shouldn't worry about her. If this girl is in good shape now it's probabaly because she excercises already and has a good metabolism. So what if the pill made her heavier before? That doesn't mean it'll happen again.
Some wome... (read in full...)
I spy on my next door neighbour and want to watch her have sex with her boyfriend, is this ok?
Q. Living next door is a beautiful girl my age. We are both 18. We have been friends and have flirted and done other fun things. My bedroom looks over at hers. I have sometimes seen her undressing and doing other sexy things. The other night I saw ...
A. 20 December 2007: You need some help. Or access to a porn site. Now.
Stop staring at her, don't watch her have sex, she does not want someone seeing her do that!
If you want to be with her for real, tell her you are attracted to her for her personality, looks, e... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and a virgin, and feeling very pressured by my friends
Q. i am 14 and there are not many virgins in my year i am a virgin and i feel presured into having sex all my freinds have either been fingerd or wanked of someone i havent. am i a freak? or are "they too youg too soon" is it me or everyone else? a boy ...
A. 20 December 2007: Yes. Today's youth is growing up too fast. I'm 16, and almost all my friends are virgins, and proud of it. It's honestly a personal decision and if your "friends" are pressuring you, then they are not really your friends. Be proud that you have ... (read in full...)
He says he's an atheist and therefore won't buy me a Christmas present. Should I stay with him?
Q. my boyfriend refuses to buy me a christmas present because he says he is an atheist and doesnt celebrate christmas. i have already bought him something (very nice that he has been wanting) but last night he told me he wouldnt buy christmas gifts at...
A. 9 December 2007: You two seem to have different values and I believ you are both overreacting slightly. Like my boyfriend celebrates christmas while I am an atheist but I bought him a gift. Christmas for us non christians is just a time to give gifts and get gifts, ... (read in full...)
My penis is 5.5. Is this wierd?
Q. Hi, I am 17 years old, a virgin, and I am unsure about what to think of my penis size etc. It's 5.5inches long, and 5.5inches in girth... Is this weird/normal and what would girls think about this? Also, I have tried on a regular condom before, ...
A. 6 December 2007: You will have noooooo trouble getting a girl. Seriously. 5.5 in girth? wow. (I sound disgusting sorry) The other aunts said thickness is important (hate to say I wouldn't know) but I can agree that size does not matter.
To girls (especia... (read in full...)
Am I short for this age? Any resources to grow thinner and taller?
Q. im 5"4 and im 13. I cant help but feel i am small for my age and cant find a reliable source on google to clarify that im not. I cant help but feel veryone else towers over me. i get really frustrated about it cus im almost in danger of becomi...
A. 6 December 2007: Don't worry, you're young and will prob grow more soon. My friend who is a guy was always shorter than me (I'm 5'3) until last year when we turned 16. Now he towers over me a bit (at 5'8) and that kind of thing has happened to a lot of my guy ... (read in full...)
My gf will only watch girl on girl porn, does this mean shes bi??
Q. My girlfriend and i watch porn about once every three months, however she will only watch all girl on girl she gets very hot horny and we have the best sex so im not complaning. Does this mean shes bi? She said shes not. ...
A. 1 December 2007: She might not be. I wouldn't know for sure (since I do not watch porn) but maybe it turns her on because from what my male friends have told me, girl/on girl is more about oral usually then penetration.
For her, the idea of watching another man ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend acts like a spoilt brat and only cares about himself during sex. What can I do about this?
Q. Hi, i wonder if you can help. I'm a 21 year old female and my partner is 28. we have been dating for 2 years and are living together in his appartment above his family home in his country. (greece). Its very hard for me here as its a small island ...
A. 26 November 2007: All I can say is, give him an ultimatum. This man does not appreciate you at all. You've given up alot to be with him and he has only gained, never given. He brought you to a place where you don't know the people, culture, or language AND on top of ... (read in full...)
His dads told him to not date anyone. But I really like him. Help!!!
Q. there's this guy whom i really love ,n i thought that even he loved me, we even kissed but he dint propose me neither did I..but now since many days we haven't spoken he's trying to ignore me when i asked the reason , he said that his dad had read ...
A. 26 November 2007: I would believe this guy. You are a teenager in India and I assume your guy is too. Indian parents are normally quite strict when it comes to schooling and dating (trust me I know) so the idea of a father wanting his young son to focus soley on ... (read in full...)
Am I ready?
Q. i'm 15 and there's a guy i really love. we have talked about having sex lots of times but i don't know i'm ready or not. can you help me?...
A. 24 November 2007: I agree with the other aunts. If you are questioning the idea of having sex at all, you're not ready. Asking us for help is your mind's way of getting the answer it craves--which is that you're not ready.
The stress--emotional and physical... (read in full...)
Sexual remarks, flirtation and mind games from my teacher. I know it's wrong, but I'd go on anyway. How do I control myself?
Q. hi im 14 and hav had a major crush on my science teacher for well over a year.at first i hated his guts -he looked at me consantly and said/did innapropriate things(winks;sexual remarks;touching), i always felt really uneasy.however one day during a ...
A. 17 November 2007: If you have sex with him you'll be a homewrecker.
He'll go to jail for rape.
Everyone at your school will make life for you hard.
He'll be fired.
You'll be known as "easy".
Your parents will be pissed as hell.
Your first time will be ruine... (read in full...)
So I am exclusive to her but she can sleep with women? Do I put my foot down here?
Q. My Girlfriend is Bisexual. We’ve been going out for six months and I have known that she leaned both ways and accepted it. But she and I want to take our relationship to the next level. The problem is she tells me she can’t give up having sex ...
A. 17 November 2007: She is being completely horrible to you. Expecting you to be faithful while she does things with others is horrible. Also, offering that you could do things with men when you don't like them that way is her way of seeming generous and fair when she ... (read in full...)
Ant tips, I need a bf
Q. Hey, im a 6th grader but im never single. this school year i havent had 1 single boyfriend!!! i cant stand it, my friends talk about kissing guys, i havent kissed a guy yet. i feel so left out, im not sure if any one likes me. I NEED A BF!!! Any ...
A. 7 November 2007: Wow...you're in 6th grade. Chill. A boyfriend does not equal happiness. You're young so enjoy school and friends, movies and parties, WITHOUT worrying about where your next boyfriend will come from. If you haven't kissed anyone by 6th grade you're ... (read in full...)
Are sex noises a turn-on??
Q. hi! This is sort of a question for males, but female input is also appreciated. im 17, not that that is really important right now, but i was wondering: do guys enjoy it when women make noises during sex? is it a turn on, or just really annoying...
A. 20 October 2007: Even though I'm a girl I know the answer to this, yes it is a turn on. For my boyfriend, he just likes to hear noises, as it helps him be aroused. I'm a quiet person and he always asks for more noise, so when in doubt let yourself make noise, don't ... (read in full...)
Women run when I tell them I am a bi-male.
Q. Hi, I am a man and I'm pretty sure I am bi. I am sexually attracted to both men and women but I am only romantically interested in women. I'm at a point in my life when I really want a long term monogamous relationship with a woman. I...
A. 14 October 2007: Be honest from the begginning. A woman who can't accept that about you isn't worth dating. My boyfriend told me he was bi when we were just friends and now we've been dating over a year and a half and everything is great. He knows I don't care, and ... (read in full...)
Curvy v Skinny?
Q. Do guys like 'curvy' girls or 'skinny' girls ?...
A. 6 October 2007: My boyfriend likes a girl with a little meat on her. Not stick thin, not overweight, a girl with breasts and a butt and hips (which I love since I can eat around him). Men like women who eat, who are confident in themselves, and who don't complain ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose - the 16 year-old or the 24-year old?
Q. I have a problem..I am 20 yrs old and have two boys who are very interested in me and I can't decide which of them I like more. On the one hand, there is a 24 year old who is very sweet, a little full of himself, who pays me a lot of attentio...
A. 6 October 2007: Walking away from both is the sensible advice. Either way, eventhough the two boys are only ffour years apart from you, are both in very different parts of their lives.
The 16 year old is a highschooler, and trust me, most teenage boys obsess w... (read in full...)
Should I let my 16 year old daughter sleep in the same bed with her bf?
Q. me my husband and our daughter are going on holiday for a week soon and i've told her she can take her bf who i know extremely well and have known all his life. I was just wondering what you would think if i let them sleep in the same bed. They...
A. 16 September 2007: I'm a 16 year old girl and I hate to say it, but don't let them sleep together under your "permission". It's not up to you to allow your daughter to be ready to sleep with her boyfriend or not and by giving them the same bed might push her to sex, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's breath stinks and it's really putting me off him. What can I do?
Q. Sorry for writing in again, I have a problem with my boyfriend again! Every time I see him he tries to kiss me but his breath really stinks (bad words) I try and brush him off but sometimes I can't no matter how much gum I give him the smell's ...
A. 14 September 2007: He might have halatosis. If a good dose of listerine doesn't cure him of his offending breath, get him to see a dentist or something to get rid of the problem.
Also gum doesn't always work, it might just be you're put off by what he eats. Mi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a Sikh and his family cant find out abous us. I cant bear to lose him!
Q. I have a BIG problem and its driving me and my boyfriend up the wall. The thing is he's a Sikh and he can't do certain things like have a girlfriend so his family don't exactly know about us... we plan to tell them in two years, But if they find...
A. 30 August 2007: I'm sorry to hear about your predicament, but I do hope you understand where his family is coming from. In India it's a tradition to have arranged marriages (this is not true for more modern families) but for some this is truly important. It's... (read in full...)
She broke up with me cause I WASNT jealous. I cant win!
Q. Two weeks ago today my girlfriend broke up with me after 19months together. We wernt just boyfriend and girlfriend though. She was my best friend. There was nothing wrong with her, her problems with me were that i didnt get jealous (except for one ...
A. 21 August 2007: Oh, I'm so sorry to hear about your break up. I know you don't want to hear this, but I can understand her anger at you not being jealous, though I think she took it too far.
It seems like your girlfriend wanted to feel as though you wanted h... (read in full...)
Do women find men masterbating a turn off?
Q. I was wonderin if women find a guy masterbating a turn-off and how much times a day is too much? any help is appreciated...
A. 18 August 2007: For myself personally it is not a turn off. It's a guy's (and a girl's) right to masterbate. It's natural.
When I'm not with my boyfriend and he wants to release that "pent up energy", I rather he masterbate than find another woman.
There c... (read in full...)
I've left her 9 facebook comments! I don't want to seem over enthusiastic. Should I hold back?
Q. ok theres this girl right, she is nearly 16 and im not even 14 yet my b day is 27th of august, and ive been trying to get close with her like some ppl on this site hav been tellin me, but im afraid ive been talkin to her too much... i dont wanna luk ...
A. 5 August 2007: yes. hold back. if you have posted 6 times and she hasn't even posted once, it will make you look desperate and either a- give away your feelings or b-scare the girl off slightly. It's hard to wait, I understand, but don't worry. Soon she'll b... (read in full...)
How can I get a girl? I need a girlfriend!
Q. Hi, my name is Daniel, I am 16 and live with my parents in Aberdeen, Scotland. I have no success with girls and it's just not happening for me. I have never had a girl friend, always rejection. I need a girl to love because I feel its my duty get ...
A. 2 August 2007: Hi Daniel, you're only 16, so the fact that you haven't had a girlfriend yet isn't that big a deal. I'm 16 as well and most of my guy and girlfriends have never dated, some are happy about it, others aren't but that doesn't mean any of them are ... (read in full...)
Is it true that Asian people stay at home until they find someone to marry?
Q. my asian friend still lives at home with her parents is that a good thing? i am just wondering because she says that asian women or certain girls in general still live at home with there parents until they find some one to marry . is that really ...
A. 2 August 2007: She is probabaly telling the truth. Her family could have strict Asian values, and if that is true, she is just following custom.
It isn't good or bad, since you yourself have different values you can not judge your friend for what she does. Ju... (read in full...)
Is is ok for a 17 year old male to have sex with a 20 year old female?
Q. Is ok if a 20yr(My Girl) and a 17yr old(Me) date and there is sex involved???...
A. 15 July 2007: Legal age for most of the states is 16, but I'd double check it because a few states say the legal age is 18.
Most likely it's legal, so be safe!
-Hugs... (read in full...)
We are both 15 and my girlfriend told me she had given someone a hand job and was fingered before.
Q. We are both 15 and my girlfriend told me she had given someone a hand job and was fingered before. I know she has learned that she did it too early and with someone she didn't trust. I love her too much to let it ruin it, but I feel like crap. Help?...
A. 14 July 2007: Everybody has a past. She regrets what she did and knows she can't take it back, and by sharing this personal information with you she is showing you how much she trusts you. If I were you, I'd either get over it and move past this or you're g... (read in full...)
I mentioned how my ex was hot and now my GF is feeling insecure
Q. hi..me and my gf are together for 7mths now. one day when she was at my place, she saw my ex's pics..i said she used to be hot. i didnt know she was gonna feel insecure about it.. then after so long..she got insecure and started using what ...
A. 13 July 2007: Never say an ex is hot. Ever.
I personally don't care when my boyfriend talks about hot girls BUT if he passes a certain point, by being too interested I'm hurt.
What you did wasn't a big deal to a man, but to a woman, she feels as though ... (read in full...)
Why do some people have to be so rude on DearCupid?
Q. i have a question. why do some people have to be so rude on here. whats the point in asking for help when your just going to get ridiculed half the time and not taken seriously. i believe if they need help, help the person if your just going to ...
A. 13 July 2007: I myself try to be as nice as I can when I answer questions, but like everyone has been saying, the truth isn't always nice.
Are we as aunts supposed to see a question about a 10 year old who wants sex and say, "ya, go for it!"? It's not somethin... (read in full...)
I need THE most safe birth control
Q. Hey I've been going out with my present boyfriend for nearly a half year and hes mad for me and I'm mad for him. Well 2 things really he wants me to squirt and I think im broken...because I cant. Also I need to find THE most safest things to...
A. 13 July 2007: The safest thing to prevent STD's and pregnancy is abstinence. It's 100%. I call those good odds.
But for actual advice, using the pill correctly alongside using a condom is incredibly effective. If both are in use, and both are being used cor... (read in full...)
What's wrong with us fat girls?
Q. Whats wrong with fat gals? Im a fat gal. I take good care of myself. Better than a lot of skinny gals. Why dont i get noticed? My best friend is skinny and she smells ,always have dog hair all over her cloths ,her handr are dirty ,whx do guys like ...
A. 13 July 2007: There is nothing wrong with being "fat". Some guys wants women with more meat on their bones and some want model thin. In high school though most boys look for atheletic girls and well, boobs. Simple as that. By the time you are in college, you'll ... (read in full...)
I don't seem to find any girls or guys attractive! What's wrong with me??
Q. hey! ok,well iv just split up from my first girlfriend. we dated for 6months. i really liked her but we wanted different things so we split up. we're still really good friends but now i don't know if im gay or not? i thought she was gorgeous but now ...
A. 11 July 2007: Well, more likely than not, you are not gay. You say guys don't attract you, so that answers that. You might not be attracted to anyone because you haven't met the right person or because you just ended a relationship. Sometimes people go throug... (read in full...)
We're young and we want to have sex badly.
Q. I want to have sex badley but I not sure if I should do it my boy friend is 16 and im 12 he calls every night tells me come over i am ready. (Moderator Note: purposefully left without corrections)...
A. 11 July 2007: You're not ready. If you were you wouldn't be posting here. You're 12 for heavens sake! Enjoy being a kid and please...please get rid of your perverted boyfriend. I'm 16 myself and if any guy my age was trying to have sex with a 12 year old like ... (read in full...)
Just wondering but which part of a guy's body do you look at first?
Q. (FOR THE GIRLS) Just wondering but which part of a guy's body do you look at first? My mates say they always look at the face, is it the same for most girls? just wondered ...
A. 11 July 2007: The eyes. The smile. The hair. Those are what catch my attention the best and after that all that matters is the personality.... (read in full...)
We want to give up condoms and try to guess when it is safe--how do we do that?
Q. Hey all. I have a question. Let me just tel. you a bit about my question. K me and my bf have been having sex 3 time and we now want to do it without a condom and we both got some information. That if you do it within a average of 14 days after your ...
A. 8 July 2007: Ok, no offense, but you will end up pregnant by your method.
What you descirbed is something people do--especially if they are Catholics who follow the no contraceptive rule, planned pregnacy method. By watching your ovulatuon cycle, you can mana... (read in full...)
Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love?
Q. Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love? This is the longer version for those willing to read: While attending the birthday party of my best friend's little brother, I met a two girl...
A. 2 July 2007: Ok, first off I am going to try and not judge, but how could a 16 year old MAN (because yes, at 16 you are considered a legal adult)fall instantly and madly in love with a child?
Because yes, the person you love is a child. Although your age gap-... (read in full...)
He says that he wants to have sex, I said no and now he's being all weird on me. What should I do?
Q. i got a boyfriend who says he loves me, he told his best m8 he had feelings for me and then we started going out, however before we started going out we were really close m8s i was like his 2nd best m8, i love him n i no he loves me well he says he ...
A. 16 June 2007: Don't give in. The fact that he is pressuring you so early into the relationship means he does want to get into your pants. I've been dating a guy over a year, and of course he wants sex (all teenage guys do) but when I say no, unlike your guy, he ... (read in full...)
Bf pressured me to give him head and said he's return the favor but he didn't! How can I ever trust him again?
Q. im 17 my boyfriend is 31 he got me 2 give him head i didnt really want to but he said he would do it back to me and he didnt . how can i trust him...
A. 31 May 2007: He is a jerk. Get someone who respects and loves you. You deserve so much better.... (read in full...)
My large breasts are sooo uncomforatble! What should I do about it?
Q. Lately ive been feeling very self concious about my breasts. Im 17 and im a G cup.. but im small in comparison with my breasts, i wear size 10 clothes. I dont have any bras that fit and feel really uncomfortable. My question is.. can breasts be too ...
A. 31 May 2007: If you are not comfortable in your own skin, like DV1 said, Breast Reduction is always an option. Because you seem to be too thin for your chest, your breasts could eventually give you real back problems. Breats are not neccesarily too big, but for ... (read in full...)
I don't think we need to have sex at this stage of dating. Any tips on how we can slow it down a notch?
Q. I am nearly 17 and my wonderful grilfriend is 16. We have been togetehr for nearly 10months and i am completely devoted to her. And i madly love her. Recently, we have been more passionate. Kissing and 'groping'. But i am becomign worried that this ...
A. 26 May 2007: I am a 16 year old girl with a 17 year old boyfriend and I can tell you from my own experience, I believe you should talk to your girlfriend.
Honesty and talking are important in any loving relationship and for me, in my relationship my boyf... (read in full...)
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