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| | *achy-baby-helps's profile:Hi I'm Rachel.
I'm 16 years old and live in Gosport.
I am in the process of becoming a model but I would love to be an agony aunt in my spare time as I've been told my advice is good.
I know you're probably thinking I'm too young, but I have been through a lot considering my age, and would love to use my experience to help others.
Other than that I am a normal girl who likes to hang out with friends and have a laugh. I have a lovely boyfriend who is very supportive and we are very much in love.
I hope my advice helps.
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Boyfriend addicted to World of Warcraft!!!
Q. hi all, My boyfriend and I have had a pretty good relationship for the last two years, and we both lead independent seperate lives even though we live together (I mean, we each have our own friends/jobs/social lives). He has always been really i...
A. 4 February 2008: Try relieving stress levels by doing something you find fun and rewarding (going out with mates, exercise etc) Don't stress about the future, because its the present that's getting to you and worrying about times to come will make it worse. As for... (read in full...)
Do you think it will just mean casual sex to him?
Q. I slept with a guy a few nights ago, since then we are still in contact via text/calls, and whenever I think about him I find myself smiling. He calls me various pet names, which is confusing me, because I don't know what this is, or where I stand...
A. 4 February 2008: As he is keeping in contact with you, it is very unlikely it was just a one night stand. You also said he wants to meet you friends, this too is a good sign as he is interested in who you hang out with and wants their approval. Most guys use pet ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my boyfriend stealing?
Q. How can I stop my boyfriend stealing?...
A. 4 February 2008: You haven't said what or who it is he is stealing from. However, no matter what it is he has stolen, it is wrong. You should talk to him about it. Listen to his reasons, he could be doing it for attention. Without you actually saying what it i... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with him again?
Q. I have a problem I recently got out of a relationship with a guy I'd been seeing for a few months, we were always on and off, but somehow no matter who ended it and for what reason we seemed to slowly get back together, without even saying we were ...
A. 4 February 2008: You need to ask yourself what it is you want from this guy. You say he is only coming back when it suits him, this isn't fair to you as he is using you. If you can't meet him as friends and you think it will lead to something different then perhaps ... (read in full...)
I like my brothers best friend,
Q. hi i wonder if anyone can help me. i have know my brothers best friend for over 10years now he is nearly 18 and i am almost 16. i have always had this feeling that there was something between us as he would always make time 2 come and c me n talk 2 ...
A. 13 November 2007: He could feel the same way, or he could just look upon you as his own baby sister, which could be a reason he sticks up for you. As you have known him for a long time ask yourself if it would be awkward if you broke up. Wanting to talk to you and ... (read in full...)
Can long distance relationships work?
Q. I'm 16 and she's just turned 14 plus long distance, can it work, is it wrong? Basically, I'm 16 and she's just turned 14 and i need to know is it wrong baring in mind that we're in it for dating until she's old enough but even so is it wrong beca...
A. 13 November 2007: Well, no it's not wrong, if you really like each other then distance shouldn't get in the way. My boyfriend lives 200 miles away and we have been together a year, so it can work. Try meeting with your parents at a place half way between you both. ... (read in full...)
Will I gain weight?
Q. Hey .. Okay I have been thinkin about going to the gym. I am naturally very slim but not fit at all whatsoever ! I would like to tone my muscles .. not build them and I would like to use running machines and things like that to enhance my fitness. ...
A. 10 October 2007: To start with, i didn't realise that you were going FOR him. Don't let him push you around, you do what you want to do. Tell him that you are his and that he is being far too insecure and paranoid, that it is starting to come between you (if this is ... (read in full...)
I want us to be more than friends - what can I do?
Q. I think I am falling for a good friend. They don't know I feel this way but I know they don't feel the same way. I don't want to tell them because it could ruin our relationship as friends and she will proberbly shoot me down. I don't know what to ...
A. 8 October 2007: If you don't think that she feels the same, then don't say anything, but let her get to know you as if you were her boyfriend (not physical).
Try pretending that she is someone else, this could enable you to talk more freely.
Just act like you... (read in full...)
Can a man be "raped" by a woman?
Q. I would like to know if it is possible for a man to have sex with a woman against his will?...
A. 8 October 2007: Yes it is. It's not just females that can get raped. With the way the male anatomy is, he can get aroused despite the situation, and this leaves women able to do as they pleased.... (read in full...)
Will I gain weight?
Q. Hey .. Okay I have been thinkin about going to the gym. I am naturally very slim but not fit at all whatsoever ! I would like to tone my muscles .. not build them and I would like to use running machines and things like that to enhance my fitness. ...
A. 8 October 2007: You have said that you are slim, when you build muscles its the fat on you that turns to muscle, and as there is no difference in the weight of the two, it is unlikely that you will put on weight. However if you start taking food supplements you are ... (read in full...)
He keeps giving me mixed signals - what does he want?
Q. im really confused. i really like this guy called **** from my part time job but hes giving me really mixed messages as to how he feels back. when everyone from work goes out for a few drinks hes really flirty with me, and if we go round someones ...
A. 8 October 2007: YES! I would say he is very interested. Considering the fact that when you asked him over to your mates he said no, obviously shows you that he just wants to spend time with you. He still wanted to see you even though no one was goin out.
Ask your... (read in full...)
I know online dating isnt the same as the real thing, but I do like this guy!
Q. I've been talking to this guy on MSN for about a year. He's a friend of my cousin. We live about a 3-hour drive from eachother. I have known him for more than a year and things have got serious to the point that he says he loves me and I admit that ...
A. 18 August 2007: I dont think its at all silly to have a relationship over msn. I wouldn't trust him with all your heart especially if you haven't met him, you don't know if he is who he says he is. If you've seen a picture of him it might not be him, but web cam is ... (read in full...)
Is there a right way to masturbate?
Q. I masturbate, but don't know if I am doing it right I don't really get sexually excited? Is there a right way to masturbate? Am I normal?...
A. 14 August 2007: There is no right or wrong way of masturbating, it is however you feel most comfortable and whichever makes you feel best. If the way you are doing it at the moment doesn't seem to be having that much effect then try using toys, or a different ... (read in full...)
Conversation's through text.
Q. ok..my friends and i went to a show where two bands we knew were playing along with 4 other bands. The second band was amazing and they were from miss. and im from ga. well, i glace up at the band as i walk in the room and instantly turned...
A. 27 July 2007: You're right in thinking that you shouldn't pry too much into his personal life, but if you don't pry a little bit how will you get to know him? Start conversations with easy things like: "how are you?" or "what you been doing?" as the conversa... (read in full...)
He cheated and now I have forgiven him, but I dont want it to be too easy for him
Q. well. . . for like a good few months this guy i know really liked me. we used to make out like every weekend but i didnt really want anything serious so it never really went in that direction. after a few months just making out, he asked me out. i ...
A. 27 July 2007: Well from what I can see you have already shown him you are not a push over, he has already been chasing you for the past few months. If this has been the case then it is obvious he wants you back. What happened in the past is just that, the past... (read in full...)
I love him but part of me wants to break up with him as his parents dont like me!
Q. Recently, I found out that my boyfriend's parents... have discontempt for me. His mother told him "she's not good enough for you" and his father, on no real basis, thinks I'm a "druggie". Which I am not, just to state. I don't understand what I did ...
A. 27 July 2007: Right well by the sounds of it his parents have no reason to treat you like this. Talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling, he will understand especially if his parents have been saying these things to him about you.
Most parents find it h... (read in full...)
How can I best find out the level of intimacy my girl is ready for ?
Q. hi, I just wanted suggestions on how best to find out what level of intimacy my girlfriend requires as we progress through our relationship. I know that asking her seems to be the obvious answer. But i'm afraid that she might say "ok" to me whatever ...
A. 27 July 2007: Thanks for your answer, well 3 months isnt very long and if you want to be truly comfortable with each other intimately you really need to wait a bit longer and she will get more comfortable with you. As she is a virgin this will take her a while, ... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but my husband doesn't.
Q. Hi I'm married and want a baby but my husband doesn't want it so how will i convince him to have a baby...
A. 26 July 2007: To have a baby when you are both not in agreement could push you apart to th point where you may split. A baby is a big responsibility and maybe your husband is scared of that. Talk to him but don't force him into anything. If he really doesn't want ... (read in full...)
I want to know how to please them.
Q. HELP!! i am 13 and getting really sexual feeling when ever i talk to any guy! i am not ready to have sex or anything but i really am curious on how to give a head job, hand job, blow job and other things! PLEASE my curiosity is really starting to ...
A. 26 July 2007: Ok I will explain thee things for you, but you are too young to so them yet.
A hand job is where you take the penis in your hand and move it rhythmically to give the male pleasure.
A blow job is the same as head. This is where you take the penis in... (read in full...)
I love him, but i want to be on my own.
Q. I love him, but I don't want to be in love right now. Up until last year, my boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. When we broke up, despite how much I love him, I wasn't sure that he was "the one" and because of that, I broke it off. ...
A. 26 July 2007: Think about what you really want out of this. It is likely that if you break it off you will both end up dating again and will miss each other just like last time. If you feel like you need to be alone, go out with other friends. Take holidays on ... (read in full...)
Should i go after him whilst his girlfriend is away?
Q. I've had a crush on a friend for two and half years. During that time, he has been a very good friend to me. He complimented on my looks often, and said things that either could be hints, or he could just be teasing me. I think it's the former. He ...
A. 26 July 2007: No you should not pursue him whilst his girlfriend is away. This could lead to pushing him further away from you. At the moment he is giving you signals that he wants you, but if you decide to pursue these signals it could spell trouble between all ... (read in full...)
She wants me to change.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. My personality is that I am laid back and have fun, don't always show it (i.e. my body language.) This is just me and when I meet people I talk and have fun, but my stoicism offsets others ...
A. 26 July 2007: You do not have to change for anyone, even your girlfriend. My advice is to talk to your girlfriend, let her know and maybe occasionally laugh along to show you're havng fun. This is not necessarily changing for her, but just letting her know that ... (read in full...)
How can I best find out the level of intimacy my girl is ready for ?
Q. hi, I just wanted suggestions on how best to find out what level of intimacy my girlfriend requires as we progress through our relationship. I know that asking her seems to be the obvious answer. But i'm afraid that she might say "ok" to me whatever ...
A. 26 July 2007: Firstly, how long have you been together? Depending on the length of time, depends on how comfortable your girlfriend feels about her body. If she is a virgin this will make things much harder for her. Make sure you compliment her, tell her how ... (read in full...)
Shes says she needs to know me better before dating me ? What Am I doing wrong?
Q. okay im 15 and i like one of my co-workers and i even asked her out but that was like a month ago all she keeps saying is maybe shes said she liked me but idk y she doesnt want to go out i asked her and she was like i want to get to know u better b...
A. 26 July 2007: I don't think you're doing anything wrong, so don't worry there.
But then again, you said you've been friends since you were 10, at such a young age you were both very immature and she probably needs to see that you've grown up since then and that... (read in full...)
How do I know if someone likes me, when our contact is all online?
Q. Hello, all! My question is simple. How do I know if someones intrested in me if all the conversations are online? I mean how do i know if they really want to get to know me cuz they are intrested in me (g.f..material) or are just beeing friendly? ...
A. 26 July 2007: I met my boyfriend on the internet and we have met and have been together 7 months, so these things can happen.
Firstly, what kind of things does he say?
You could start off by talking on the phone or on webcam, that way you can either hear or ... (read in full...)
How can you make a hickie disappear?
Q. Hi i just have some simple questions, how long does it take a hickie to disappear? And can you make it go away faster? How?...
A. 26 July 2007: Usually it depends on how big and promenant the hickie is. Most hickies take 1-2 weeks to dissapear completely. After the 1st week they look more like a bruise than an actual hickie. You can't make them go away faster because it's blood that's been ... (read in full...)
Shall i give him another chance.
Q. I need advice. I have just split up with my fiance as he has kissed another girl. i dumped him once before because of the same thing. However, he promised that he could make me trust him and we got back together. Since then, I have never reall...
A. 25 July 2007: I agree with your friends, you are not a fool and won't be if you do take him back, but he has hurt you like this before and has lied about other girls. I think the best thing for you to do is move on. Tell him why and say you would like to be ... (read in full...)
Guy's only hit on me when they are drunk.
Q. Do guys get put off by really quiet shy girls? I'm very quiet and shy (maybe a little bit uptight as well) but I'm not moody or anything just haven't got much confidence in myself etc and guys only seem to chat to me / hit on me when they're drunk. ...
A. 25 July 2007: Lack of confidence or self-esteem is usually due to bad experiences in the past. To get more confident try looking at yourself in the mirror and saying things like "I am pretty" or "I am good at....." anyting that you believe to be true. The more ... (read in full...)
I found out he cheated on me, so now i check his phone and emails.
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for over 3 and half years. i recently found out that he cheated on me in the first year we went out whilst out with friends. i felt really hurt by this and he didnt understand why as it was so long ago. but i feel like i ...
A. 25 July 2007: Yes, this has happened to me. I was with a guy for 10 months and found out that he cheated on me in the 2nd month. When i found out i was really hurt, but he explained why and I tried to forgive him because I loved him. If, as you say, it was in t... (read in full...)
Getting mixed signals.
Q. Ok i need some advice, im not very confident around guys i like, never have been and prob never will be. I like this guy, i think he likes me, i see him a fair bit but I don't know how to take things further. I don't wanna blatantly say I ...
A. 25 July 2007: Maybe he feels the same as you and is scared of rejection? This could be why he is hot and cold at times. Lock eye contact wih him and hold it slightly longer than usual, before looking away and then stealing another glance a few minutes later. T... (read in full...)
17 and 27, is that a problem?
Q. I'm 17 and I've just started to get involved with this guy who is 27, is this wrong?...
A. 25 July 2007: Don't worry what other pople think of you. If you love this guy and he loves you then carry on, but there will be pressures on your relationship, either from friends or family. Ask yourself why you two decided to get together? Most girls go for olde... (read in full...)
Whats the difference of being in love and just loving someone?
Q. what are the definate signs that you love someone. and what are the signs that you are in love with someone, i ask b/c i dont know if i simply love him or if i am in love with him and i dont want to hurt him....
A. 25 July 2007: The definate signs if you are in love with him are things like: he is the one you think about last thing at night and first thing in the morning! Whenever you see him you can't help but smile. You get butterflies in your stomach and get nervous when ... (read in full...)
Even though we havent had intercourse, could I get pregnant?
Q. hi ppl. i got my bf to put this on at 3am in the mornin coz i am reli worried i may be pregnant. we havent had full intercourse but i am worried the lil tadpoles as i call em, well the sperm can get me pregnant, im too young n he wnt buy any ...
A. 25 July 2007: Unfotunately you can get pregnant through just touching, because some of those 'little tadpoles' could still be around and alive. However, it is a very small chance. But that doesn't mean you should take the risk. If you are both worried about ge... (read in full...)
Awkward situation or player?
Q. Can a guy really like 2 girls at the same time? I met a guy i know through my ex partner one night in a club, he was out with friends and a girl who he had agreed to meet that night (she had a boyfriend at home). We ended up kissing and he off...
A. 25 July 2007: I don't think payback is such a good idea. Things may get too much and out of control. I suggest that you arrange to meet with this guy and talk to him about both of your feelings. If he does like you then why is he with this other girl? Or is he ju... (read in full...)
Five year old girl masturbating, is this normal?
Q. Is it okay or normal for a 5 year old girl to masturbate, I see her in her bed humping at night and wanted to know how to handle? Thank you....
A. 25 July 2007: well, masturbating is perfectly normal. Lots of young people do it. Your young girl is probably just curious. I would say that it is perfectly normal and okay for her to be experimenting like this. At her age, her hormones are not yet fully ... (read in full...)
Outside of the bedroom, we don't communicate well anymore; how can I break this monotonous routine?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and I love him to bits. But we've slipped into a bit of a routine and don't really communicate alot about anything unless something big happens. I've tried starting random conversations with him, I've even ...
A. 25 July 2007: Well maybe dragging him into the bedroom is no such a bad idea? But not for sex. Take him in, sit him down and say that you want one conversation before you have sex. If you do this each time before sex he will start to see the routine. Then try... (read in full...)
I dont believe in giving cheaters second chances, but I kind of want to with him
Q. okay well firstly i have quite a harsh perspective of realationships if someone ceats on me then its over with them offcourse it takes time for me to get over them but i can. if someone ceats on me with a mate of mine then i get make out with them ...
A. 25 July 2007: Firstly, well done for saying no, it takes guts, and well done for not sleeping with him. I know you said he doesn't like to talk about it but try askig him why he did it. ou said he was drunk. This is a poor excuse but it does, in a sense, m... (read in full...)
I want to do things with him but not land him in jail!!
Q. All right, so my boyfriend is eighteen, (as of April)and I am fourteen, fifteen in November. I haven't been with him very long, but I swear I love him, so please don't even say that "I don't even know what love is", because you're wrong. I believe ...
A. 25 July 2007: I suggest you talk to his guy about how you are feeling. When you meet him next spring break don't rush into things. I know you say you love him and I believe you. But trust me when I say you could regret things you do. Check to see if the laws you... (read in full...)
An old GF wants to get together. Should I take a chance?
Q. So a girl I went out with a few times in college, about 5 years ago, (we went out on a few dates but really didnt work out and no hard feelings afterward) and was somewhat friends a little while thereafter the few dates we went on...emailed me out ...
A. 25 July 2007: This could be because she has matured a lot since your lat dates. In 5 years she may have realised that she was stupid back then and actually you are what she wants. I would email her back if i were you, but when you do ask her what she's been up ... (read in full...)
He wont talk to me when my cousins are around.
Q. why won't my bf talk to me when my cuzins are around, any advice for me!!!...
A. 25 July 2007: Maybe he is rather shy around your family? You didn't say whether your cousins are boys or girls? and their age group? Most guys will feel rather intimidated by boy cousins, maybe it's because they think they have a lot to live up to? Guys are ... (read in full...)
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