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*arahbeth101
writes:hey i am 13 years old and same with me boyfriend. on the very first night he kept asking me to do bj's with him and made me feel very uncomfortable. I confronted him about it and he said that he was sorry, but he keeps asking me to like take showers with him and other gross stuff. And i have to go to the movies with him next sat. and i am kind of worried that he will presure me into doing things that i don't want to do. and all my friends keep saying break up with him but i like him!! i don't know what to do! Reply to this Question
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reader, Blooregard +, writes (28 August 2007):
I'm glad to hear it, this experience shows waht some guys can be like and I'm happy you came off better than some girls do :)
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reader, sarahbeth101 +, writes (21 June 2007):
sarahbeth101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey i dumped him. Like he called me and he started to ask me those questions and i go look your making me feel uncomfortable. ( That was hard to tell him by the way) and he goes oh sorry. but then like 12 minutes later he started to do the same thing again so i said look if you won't stop then i don't think that this will work out and we ended it. and i told my bff joe what happend and he told his mom and his mom told my X bf's mom lol he has to go to councling. and btw his mom said that this isn't the first time that he has harrased girls. he has been in juvey!! thank you all for giving me all the help i needed!! XXXXXX
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reader, iloveyou  +, writes (18 June 2007):
You have got to be brave and dump him. You are still young and there are many other boys out there who will treat you with the respect your boyfriend doesn't treat you with. He is clearly only in this relationship for sex, if he loved you he wouldn't pressure you into doing things you didn't want to do. x x
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 D-U-M-P him honey!! he's not even worth it, if sex is his basis of love, then dump him! you deserve a better one, if he only likes you for that reason it means that he does not respect you enough, look for somebody who will love you unconditionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): Keep listening to your friends. If you are scared and nervous to break up with him, take your friends with you when you do it. If you gets cocky, let your friends tell him off for you. You are 13 and should not be in this kind of relationship. It's not even a relationship. Just remember, you're feeling uncomfortable for a reason. ALWAYS listen to yourself. So, ditch this jerk, and call his mom and inform HER as to why you broke up with him. He needs to learn some respect for girls.
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reader, sarahbeth101 +, writes (18 June 2007):
sarahbeth101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thank you to all the people that helped me out!!! But i don't know how to just break up with him. and when i confounted him about it he said that he would wait for me. So maybe he has changed but don't worry i won't let him pressure me into doing anything that i will regreat :)
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Yes, my dear, break up with this lout who only wants you for sex. Chances are when you continue to deny him sex he will break up with you anyway, since that is the only reason he is interested anyway. Stick to your guns and wait for someone who really loves you.
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reader, burningbridges  +, writes (18 June 2007):
Yes, break up with him. Not because the poor boy is wrong to want sex, but because you're very right not to be interested and he won't able to be not interested. Find a young man who's on the same page as you, for this one's out of step.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 You can have anyone you want if you put your mind to it but seriously hun, get someone who's worth it. This guy is using you and obviously has no respect for you or your wishes by pressurising you into these situations. Tell him that he appears to have no respect for you and therefore you can't be with him anymore. You are young, you can find the perfect guy in a couple of years time and make that time extra special, don't let him make you do anything you'll regret.
Stand up tall for this one and stick to your guns.
He's not worth your emotions.
Look after your self hunni xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): yes get rid of him if he loved you he wouldn't even think of asking you for sex he would wait until you said you were ready this shows he only wants you for sex, what ever you do don't do anything sexual with him no matter what it is even if its not full intercouse you will be giving him part of what he wants. If you don't give it him he'll show what hes really like and probably dump you(i don't wanna sound harsh but that will prove what hes like.) good luck and hope you find someone who u belong with in the future! You seem very sensible to ask to this question alot of people would have fell for it just to please the guy. Hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): SWEETHEART.... YOU DONT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING YOU DONT WANT TO... You are so young dont let anyone pressure you into any kind of situation you feel uncomfortable in ever...if he had respect for you he would not be doing this, i no im not your mum love i have a daughter though not much younger than you and i would say to her the same, anybody that respects and cares about you would not pressure you, you take care and think about that date ok lots of love XXXXXXXXX
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reader, flower girl +, writes (17 June 2007):
 Ah babe you don't have to go to the movies with him and you certainly don't have do do anything sexual with him. I think your friends are right babe you should break up with him as you should not be in a relationship with someone that puts that much pressure on you.
You do things in your own time when you are good and ready and don't you let anyone try and force you into something you do not want to do.
Take care.xx.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (17 June 2007):
 well i wouldn't consider breakin up until you really are getting fed up with it. just be really firm with him and tell him no, push him way and if he does continue maybe you should break up goood luck xxx
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reader, Blooregard +, writes (17 June 2007):
If he can't get it through hii head a few times he will just keep pressurrisng you. He said he was sorry but still kept asking...it doesn't add up, he clearly is not sorry at all and is just biding his time until you agree to do what he wnats. Depending on your strength of character, you may or may not give in. But why risk it? At 13 years old it is illegal anyway and if you really like him maybe it is in your best interest to keep him out of prison. Let alone the complications that could follow you into adulthood. Do you really want to be telling your future boyfriend, husband, whatever, that you were having sex at thirteen years of age?You don't want to. End of. He cannot force you into anything, you are your own person, and I hope you respect yourself not to give in. You are worth so much more than the blackmail he is issuing on you and TELL him that.
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