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writes:I'm 19 years old, young i know, my girlfriend is going to be 17 in 3 days and about an hour ago i found out that she had cheated on me about 4 days ago. i'm so depressed this is a first for her i have never cheated on her and never will i feel like i need to stay faithful so that we can possibly pull thru this and still get married and do everything we planned in life. i want her so bad we are in fact trying to deal with a long distance realationship but that gives her no right to cheat me, i made her mad but i didn't cheat on her i think she was just trying to get back at me and now she regrets it; i regret leaving her alone if i had been with her this wouldn't have happened i'm sorry and i miss her my name is josh if anybody wants to comment
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): Look man, your 19 years old. You have a lot more people to meet in your lifetime. I had a similar situation with a long time girlfriend in which we ended up breaking up over, we eventually got back together about a year ago and just recently broke up again. I just never got passed what happened and i could not continue the relationship. They say forgive and forget, but it's the forget part that eats away at you. What happened was always in the back of my mind, and you probably don't want to hear this but it will be the same situation for you. What she did will always be there. At least you weren't engaged or married when this happen. Plus she just turned 17, no 17 year old girl is prepared for marriage, better yet a long distance, long-term relationship. Move on with your life, and just learn from what happen. Go to college (if you are not already), you will meet so many new people and your thoughts of her will fade away. This is just part of being a young man, remember your ONLY 19. You can try to stay with her and work through it, but what happened will always be on your mind, plus if you waste more time trying to fix what she did, the right girl might pass you by. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): That sucks and I can tell you are in a lot of pain. Somebody, however, needs to tell you the truth, plain and simple: Yes you should break up with her and make no attempt to continue a relationship with her. Also, sorry, but it's not a good idea to date 16 year olds (and yes turning 17 in a few days means she was at best 16 when you started dating her) when you are 19. For one why is she thinking about marriage at such an early age without even being out of high school yet? She is most likely not mature enough to make that type of decision no matter how great you think your mutual love is and her cheating on you is evidence of this. Grow up, get rid of this girl and start going for mature women your own age.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Hey Josh,
If you can find it in yourself to forgive her for what she did then the relationship may survive. The next thing will be trying to trust her again as that is a big thing in a relationship.
I agree with the other two posters. Take a break from talking/seeing your girlfriend until you can get things a little straighter in your head. If you two really love each other, and she is genuine when she says she wont do it again then you can get through this :)
xxxxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Oh josh, i know how it feels babe it's crap, this happened to me ten months ago with my husband of twelve years and as hard as it can be for a while if you really love that person you can get over it, if you can honestly trust the fact they will not do this to you again.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): Josh, first of all your're still probably very upset so i suggest not talking to your girlfriend for at least a day so you can calm dowm a bit.
Was there a reason why she cheated? Did she gat really drunk? If not you really have to think about how she feels about you. She may seem very sorry now but that doesn't mean that she won't do this again in the future. I f you plan on staying with her a long time and consider how it will affect your relationship. Won't you contantly be worried and paranoid about what shes's doing? If you really love her like you say you do it could destroy you over time to know that she could do that to you. You'll be constantly reminded of it and it will cause arguments also you'll bring it back up if you have arguments will will cause resentment and friction.
maybe you should consider taking a break from the relationship so you can both think about how you really feel about each other, however,let her know that in this time she shpuld stay faithful to you.
I hope this has heled you a bit. Good luck.
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