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writes:I have a problem, I'll start from the beginning, when i was 13 i met this man who was 29 and we hit it off, he didn't know i was 13 since he never asked and i looked older for my age. He lives in the Phillipines and i live in england, and go over for holidays to visit my family. We met since he is a close family friend. I just dont know what to do, since i was a mean cow towards him when i left last year, but ever since then i just can't get over him, im in love with him and i dont think he would love me back. He said he did but thats only after i said that id only lose my virginity to a guy who loves me.Im going back there in july and i dont have a clue what i should do please help xxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): He's almost 30. I know you're young but take it from older ppl. he is a loser chasing after a teenage girl. And yes he did only say he loved you to get in your pants. Do you want to lose your virginity to a 30 year old loser who's just using you to get sex? Don't do it.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (18 June 2007):
 please don't do it whatever u do please don't. he is a older man and u r under age and it will be so wrong. he is probably you first love they r always the harderest to get over if u jump into bed with him than he got what he wanted he just wants u 4 sex see if he can push u into with lovely words please don't fall for it, its the olderest trick in the book for men. please for ur ownb safety and your dignity stay away from him and bedrooms good luck xxx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Sweetie, what you need to do is NOT to lose your virginity with him. Also, you need to get over him.
You may look for your age, but I can bet no man who is 29 will mistake you for a woman in her early twenties. He knows you're young, and, if he were curious about that, he could ask your relatives. The thing is, he just doesn't care how young you are. His behavior is not right. He is an adult and you're still a teenager. He should not even consider getting involved with you. This may sound brutal now, but, believe me, someday you'll understand.
Now, it seems to me that he said he loved you BECAUSE you said you would only lose your virginity with a man who loved you. If your virginity had nothing to do with his loving you, he would have said he loved you without your saying that.
I'm afraid I could be breaking your heart, but you're young and you need to see things as they are.
If he loves you, he will behave like a gentleman with you.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Please don't do it, like you said yourself he only said he loved you after you said you would only sleep with someone that loved you, and no matter how grown up you look for your age he probably does have some idea of how old you are.
There are many very nasty characters out there that prey on young girls like yourself and they will say exactly what they think you want to hear.
Please tell your family about this man as they need to be aware of where you are and who you are with if you are going to be going back out there.
Steer clear of this man and concentrate on enjoying your childhood as it does not last long enough you have plenty of time to sleep with someone when you are older.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbtw b4 anyone asks im going to be 16 when i go over there =]
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reader, so_in_love +, writes (18 June 2007):
To be completely honest with you, no I don't think you should. You don't have to prove your love to him by sleeping with him, and if he says otherwise ignore him.
If he is a close family friend, then he probably knows how old you are, in which caes I'd stay far away.
If you really feel like you should sleep with him then talk with him first, tell him everything. Don't just jump into anything and be careful.
xxxx
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