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writes:hello out there well i have a problem and i dont know what to do or if its normal or whats wrong with me wel lmy brother died a couple of months ago and for like the first few days i was said and now its like it didnt happen i dont even think about him at all im not said when people talk to me about him i just like whatever and when my family tells me things or say they want to see me i really dont care if i see them or talk to them or anything i dont even know if i love them because i have to or because i really do my husbands deployed and it use to be like whenever he called me i was so excited and when he didnt call me i hated it and when i misses his call i got so sad but now its like i dont care either way but i know that i love him and i did use to want a baby but lately ive been feelin like i dont ever want to have one and then my husband said if we couldnt have kids hes not sure if he wants to be with me and i didnt say anything i was just like ok whatever like i didnt even care either way.whats wrong with me why do i just not cafre about anything im not even sure what i want to go to college for and even if i still want to go.well if any ones got any advice please help me!
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reader, zingo312 +, writes (2 June 2009):
Dear anonymous,
I just wanted to say I felt/feel the exact same way. My brother died 4 years ago and the pain still won't go away, nothing I do works. I don't care about life anymore, nothing matters. The only thing that matters is my dearest brother, the one I loved with all my heart, is gone. Never to be seen on this planet again.I It's somthing that is unfair and disgusting but up there , in heaven , I know that god had his own plan. He knew who he needed and he decided to take them I sure hope he's happy with who he chose. Becuase, noone on earth is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): I lost my brother while I was in college. i was 20, I'm not going on 24. i stayed in college because "it was the right thing to do". I struggled but I graduated. I can relate to how you are very "whatever" about everything. Right now, it seems like you are going through denial and putting the death of your brother to the side, to not deal with it. I suggest talking to others who are going through or are more down the path of losing a sibling. This will effect the rest of your life and how you view EVERYTHING in this world. I'm a totally different person since my brother died. He was my best friend. But you need to seek out something help you grieve in a healthy way... good luck. You're brother will be by your side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): don't worry, just get on with your life and go collage, talk to some of your frends see if they have got anything to help you with your problem.
good luck hope it's all better soon.
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reader, superfly +, writes (19 June 2007):
You need to get your groove back babie....Your brother would be very sad to know you're depressing over something that we can't control but accept.
However, your brother would be very happy, if he knew you accepted what happened and maintained your groove and living life to the fulliest.
Your brother understands you can't "control the time" of his passing, but he would be very very happy to learn his little sister has "control the acceptance" of his passing and is living as always.
So now, go see a doctor if you have to, but moreso get YOUR GROOVE BACK BABE-IT'S IMPORTANT TO THE SMILE ON YOUR BROTHERS FACE!
much love~
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): Hi my love,
Im so sorry for you,
You are going through a horrible depession, You are blocking out everyone you love for fear of loosing them.. You need to talk to a counsellor sweetheart, You say you dont care but you do hunny all your feelings have gone numb, This will take time to heal, Go to your doctor talk with someone you need to get your feelings back you have been through a terrible shock loosing someone so close I do hope things get better for you soon im thinking about you. LOTS OF LOVE TAKE CARE XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): It seems odd that you're not caring about the death of your brother just 2 months after it happened. Maybe theres something mentally wrong with you. I could understand you not caring about anything else, and just being really sad about your brother's death, but you saying you don't even think about him is really sad. That is your brother. You really should care about his death more. Grieving is the only way to move on. I think you need to start getting together with your family & talking about his death among other things that are going on in your life. I am sorry you lost your brother. I couldn't imagine that. Please get some help.
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Hi Dear
It sounds to me like a depression. It could be because of your brothers dead, like you are very sad, but too sad to feel anything? Well, I'm not a specialist on this. I would just recommend you to go and see a psychologist or a counsellor. There is nothing bad about it, they can just help you. You should get some help of a spescialist. Because if you don't, that could get worse. But you want to get your feelings back and you want to be happy again. This needs time. It will not happen from one day to the other, but maybe some months. But that is not important, important is that you can work up, what happend and that will laugh again one day! Don't think you have to do that on your own. You can get some help and there is nothing bad about getting help and nothing to fear of. Don't think what people will think about you, but what you feel like and what is best for you!
I wish you all the best!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Firstly i just want to say i'm sorry to hear what you have been going through.
Secondly everyone deals with losing someone in different ways, have you had any type of conselling to deal with the loss of your brother?
It sounds as though since you have lost him you have kind of given up on life altogether which is very sad, and i'm sure no matter what sort of relationship you had with your brother he would not want you to be feeling the way that you do.
You could be suffering with depression and it might be worth a trip to see your gp and discussing with them how you are feeling at the moment just tell them what you have told us and they may be able to offer you some more advice.
Take care.xx.
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