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*exygurl4u
writes:Okay so i have been going out with this guy for almost 9 months. now ately he's been mean towards me saying stuff like "i'm going to push you down the stairs" and i dont know if hes kidding or not. He says he might really do it. And said if i was in a fight he says he wouldn't protect me. And then he says he loves me and I really think he means it because he always waits or me and says he always thinks about me. And he wrote me this note that says I'll always be in his heart and says even though he messes up he always loves me. But we don't even have that much in common. He likes metal and I like rap and he's pagan and i'm christian and we are different ethnicitys. I'm thinking of breaking up with him but we've been through a lot and I just don't think i can do it. Should I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): YES! I think you definitely should end it.
You know, in this case, him saying he "loves you and is always thinking about you" can be read as meaning he wants to CONTROL you. This is further demonstrated by him telling you he might just push you down the stairs one of these days, and that if you were in a fight he would not protect you. These are HUGE red flags! Any man who could take pleasure - as he clearly could - in your getting physically hurt, is not someone you need or want in your life, you know!
Added to that the fact that you are different religions, don't have much in common, makes it not worth while to continue on.
Show him the door, NOW and permanently!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 If you ahve not got that much in common and he treats you this way then you should definately leave him there is no reason to stick around, so ok he says he loves you but these types of men what say what they think you want to hear because if they loose you they have to go through the whole process of finding someone they can bully again.
Leave before he does actually try and carry out what he has threatened and no matter what he say's to you afterwards never go back.
Take care.xx.
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reader, myp +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Get rid of him quick, threats almost ALWAYS escalte to physical abuse. It doesnt matter how much he says he loves you, or even if he really does love you. Relationships like this are how girls end up dead or severely injured physically and emotionally.best of luck-Myesha
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