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writes:Anger doesn't quite cover it...I was in a relationship for three years and the guy I was with treated me like a pile of rubbish yet I still stuck by him despite how many friends I lost being being out with him is frankly troublesome, dangerous and humiliating.He has run off with a good friend of mine who promised to get us back together. I am absolutely seething with hatred even though I'm in a relationship now with someone I love deeply...it's not that I still love my old boyfriend, FAR from it. I bear no anger to him just relief he is out of my life.It's this girl. Ten years of being friends and knowing eachother in childhood didn't stop her from stabbing me in the back. I despise her so much I feel like she deserves some sort of punshiment for what she did and can't help feeling no sympathy whatsoever when I hear he has physically attacked her the way he did me sometimes.She complains about me all the time because she is convinced he still loves me. I left her alone to avoid confrontation but she won't stop badmouthing me or trying to get me to stop coming to places by telling others not to invite me.She has gotten off way too easily and worst of all she won't leave me alone...any answers and I would be grateful, I need advice on this.Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): Dear Scorned,
I had the same thing happen to me.
My so called friend of 3 years, born again christian, and thought she was God, as she said "I am the one who saved you, and I said no, Jesus did.
she ran off with my b/f while I was with him.
she is gross with a wig and rotten teeth and way older than I.
She turned all of our friends against me and badmouthed me too, because she thinks he wants me back. worse than that she has attempted withcraft on me and also hired a phycic to do witchcraft on me, which didnt work, because I am covered by the blood of Jesus.
Ignore her and remove yourself from her codependant, desperate, insecure, pathetic spirit.
Jesus blessed me with a new lexus and a computer, and she really got mad and started badmouthing my car.
Maybe your friend is just jealous like mine was of everthing I have and wants to settle licking up on your sloppy seconds.
Let her have your crumbs, if she thinks she can become you by doing so.
She will never be you. success is the best revenge, the night the idiot pulled this on me, I showed up with a guy in a new ferrari, she was seething. LOL
I know it is hard, but what comes around does go around.
My ex friend not only will never be me, she will always be ugly inside and out, until she washed other peoples sloppy seconds from her mouth and starts to be a clean woman, not a filthy one.
God Bless You.
Hugs 0:-)
Renee
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 June 2007):
 I think your friend done you a favour don't you? He treated you like a pile of rubbish and physically abused you and you wanted to get back with him??? Your friend is now with him and SHE is the one being abused, looks to me as if she's getting her just deserts.
He's out of your life now and you have a new boyfriend who you love deeply so where's the problem? Your friend seems very insecure, if she badmouths you then forget it, sticks and stones will break my bones and all that right? She's more to be pitied than anything else and if you don't retaliate she'll soon get tired of talking about you. I would rise about all this. Don't get all built up and angry over it, you're only putting unwanted pressure on yourself doing that. Anger is a very negative emotion and nothing good can come out of it, it will only cause you to fester inside so get rid of it, put it in the trash can and think instead of what a lucky escape you had.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): Hell has no fury like a woman scorned!
Things that hurt, take time to get over. After a while, you will realise that the anger isn't benefiting you any more and you'll deal with it. I'm sure things have happened in your past where you were angry, but then eventually accepted it and moved on. Try and think of those things and remember it was a process that you got over, the same will happen with what this friend did to you.
You say she won't leave you alone - that I don't understand, because if I really want someone out of my life, it is pretty easy to adjust things round so I never have to see or hear from them again. Maybe you are not ready for having closure on this, but would rather have it out with her in some way?
You say yourself she got off with it too easily, but how did she when you say that she'd going to be physically abused? Does she really deserve more punishment than that for betraying your friendship? Your ex was was a lowlife, and your friend was too. Maybe they deserve each other? But maybe the reason you're so angry is that you're angry at yourself as you feel it's down to your poor judge of character that you allowed two people close to you to cause you so much pain? You need to try and move on from this by trying to accept what happened and focusing on understanding and forgiveness of all three of you rather than keep entertaining that hate and anger. The only person that serves to hurt, is you.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (17 June 2007):
 You know what she is so in the wrong here and people will see it for themselves i think as hard as it is and i do know you have to just forget about her you are the decent person in this and do not let her drag you down to her level, women like her always get their commupence and it sounds very much as though she has already had a taster.
Life your life now with your new man and bury those two scum.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): the best revenge is to ignore her, that hurts a person more than anything. also i would have no more contact with anybody else who knows her, you say that you are now with someone else then i would find new friends and leave the past behind just forget her because everytime she gets a reaction out of you she knows that she can stll get at you. the silent treatment is the best!
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reader, sarahbeth101  +, writes (17 June 2007):
sometimes you can't forgive people. but you can move on. If you see your friend with you X bf, just have fun and rub it in her face that you have a better bf than she does. and let her know that you will let her know when her oppion auctually matters to you. but don't let her know that she is getting to you cause than she will keep doing what she is doing
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