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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He is my first serious boyfriend. Lately I think that my feelings are changing towards him. I still care about him, I just don't think I love him anymore. It's not another man, but I'm 22 and i don't excatly know how to describe what i'm feeling. Is it possible to fall out of love? Should I talk to him and try to work it out? Should I just ignore it and hope that this will pass? I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): Give it around 1 - 3 days. Still dont like him? Tell him. straight away. "Sorry, _____, I love you, but i dont think this will work out..." Or sumthin like that...The thing is, you have to stay true to your feelings. Its your body, your life, do what makes you happy, not someone else. Besides, if breaking up with him makes you happy, then, if he really does love you, he would be happy to know you were happy. Together or not. (Easier done than said. Im in exactly the same situation...i still cant tell him! .)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): For a start, I understand completely how you feel - I'm starting to have the same feelings right now towards my own boyfriend. we've been together nearly a year and we've done everything for each other...but i'm starting to think that it's got to a point where we've had everything good out of the relationship that we're ever going to get.
You just have to focus on the good times - i'm betting that the good times outweigh the bad! Are the good times worth the bad times you go through? If they are, then the chances are that you won't find anyone better to share your life with.
Take care.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Some times in a relationship things go abit stale and you do just fall out of love, but if thats the way you feel then you need to do something about it.
Like has been previously said if you stay with him you will only hurt him and yourself more, and i'm sure when you think about it you have probably been feeling like this for a while but trying to ignore and deny it.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): To be honest i think it would hurt him more if you stayed with him even though you don't love him anymore. how would he feel if you broke it off a year later and found out you were thinking this way the whole time?
I think you need to get to the real reason you don't love him anymore. Its a good idea to talk to him but make sure you can explain your feelings proberly before.
I know it may seem hard but you have to tell him how you feel. You can't go on lying to him. Although it may hurt him now it will be better in the long run for both of you to end it if you don't feel the same.
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