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writes:Do men who have drop dead gorgeous girlfriends still fantasize about other women, want to look at porn, or cheat? I am an attractive woman and all my boyfriends have looked at other women or porn at some time or another in our relationship(and some have cheated), but my acquaintance, who happens to be a gorgeous, buxom model claims that she's never been with a guy who's done any of the above, even looked at another girl, because they are so satisfied with her "looks, tits and personality" (though sometimes I think she is a bit full of it). I told her that her boyfriends must have at least had nighttime dreams that they were with other women, and she says that none of them even do that. Is she deluding herself (or me) or is there some truth in her statement?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): All "Men" and "Woman" fantasize about others of the opposite sex. It is not done intentionally to hurt their partners, but it happens automatically. It cannot be helped, it is a natural thing and it doesn't mean that they want to be with someone else and it doesn't mean that you are not satisfying them. A man or woman will not tell themselves to fantasize about someone else, it just happens and pops into their heads when passing an attractive person. I'm sure that if most men and women can avoid that happening they would, but it is just human nature. This is nothing to dwell over or get upset about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): dude, ive been asking the same thing. my husband and i have been together for 11 yrs. i just dont get it, im 27, why does he still have to fantasize???? It throws women into so many questions.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): I agree not to let him show it bothers you and that most if not all men look at attractive girls but what puts me right off is the thought that my fella may continue this into his aged years. There's nothing worse than a wrinkled old bloke staring at you. I'm a woman and know when men are looking at me. So when my man tells me ALL men look I appreciate this but think there's a differene between glancing and staring/drooling. I need someone to remind me when he's 60 - if he's staring at women, i'm dumping him - perv!!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 "Do men who have drop dead gorgeous girlfriends still fantasize about other women, want to look at porn, or cheat?"
YES.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Here's the sad truth. Most men, even when they have the most beautiful woman in the world will still oogle at other women, occasionally watch porn and fantasize about the girl next door. It's part of their ridiculous cosmic chemistry and it drives us nuts but there's not a thing you can do about it, except not let them see that it drives you nuts. Maybe your friend is in denial. Or maybe she's so busy looking at herself in the mirror, and her own reflection on every store window that she hasn't bothered to notice her boob of a boyfriend gawking at a woman that passes by them in a short skirt. It's nice that she's so confident, unfortunately, it'll be her ego, not the competition of other beautiful women that chases him away eventually. Don't let it bother you the next time she boasts.
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reader, Banoffee +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Men, whether they're in a relationship or not like to look at women. I don't know, maybe it's the male equivalent of shoes - you see a nice pair and you're momentarily distracted.
Porn doesn't necessarily do it for all men - one friend of mine with a very beautiful fiance isn't interested in porn at all, other than finding it fairly amusing!
Cheating is a different kettle of fish. I think when a fella cheats it is a sign that he has some kind of need that isn't being met, not necessarily within his relationship but at least within his life in general at that time.
I think what's important is not whether the guy you're with is looking at other women but rather your response to it. If it's an issue then talking to the guy in question in an honest, caring and non-accusatory manner will help a lot.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Up her own a@#e springs to mind i would say that looking at other women sometimes even fantasising and watching porn are quite common in most men, and as long as they don't follow it through with an affair whats the harm.
I would pay no attention to your friend as i think she is so full of herself she just believes that no one would do that to her.
Take care.xx.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (19 June 2007):
 I suppose there is someone out there somewhere whos completely satisfied with the woman that they dont feel the need to dream about other women. But this woman does sound a little bit full of it. Mybe she's deluding herself because she knows her buyfriend does it. She could be speaking the truth. You' have to ask her boyfriend to find out lol
xxxxxxx
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