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36-40,
*airhalflin
writes:I've been talking to one of my friends a lot more. We spend a lot of time together and he's recently has been helping me out to deal with my ex problems. Well, anyways...a while back when we weren't talking as much we were at a party. In that party he had asked me if I wanted to go with him that night...well you can imagine what the offer was. I said no...I laùghed about it. But the next few days I started to get texts from a nùmber I've never seen before. Ùntil one of my bùddies told me he had asked for my nùmber...From then on we started talking every single day...I realized we had a lot in common and and slowly everyday I started to have feelings for him. But he told he had a girlfriend. He always told me he was going to leave her....I haven't came out about my feelings for me... and and he hasn't either (if he had any) in 2 months he's leaving for basic training and and ...I don't know what to do. The signs are there (from what I see) but I could be wrong...I don't know what to do. What should I do? Tell him and and risk it? Or should I just be qùiet and and not pùt him through any more things he already has on his mind?? Help!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 I would say go for it like the others have said he got your no so it must mean he is interested, tell him how you feel but also explain that if he wants to be with you it's you and only you, and if thats what he wants he will get rid of the girlfriend.
If it's not what he wants oh well like you said he goes off for basic training soon.
Take care hope it goes your way.xx.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 June 2007):
 If he has feelings for you and wants to be with you then he should show you by his actions and DUMP the girlfriend. Let him know you like him by all means but things would not go any further between you until the girlfriend was the ex girlfriend. Telling you he's going to leave her is one thing (men will tell you what you want to hear to get their way with you) actually DOING it and leaving her is quite another. If he knows you like him and would be willing to make a go of things with him... great! Now it's up to HIM to see just how much he wants to be with you and that would of course mean finishing things with his girlfriend.
Until then, be a FRIEND to him only and nothing more whether he's leaving in 2 months or not.
Eve
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reader, azzy +, writes (18 June 2007):
well he went to all the trouble of gettin your number after you knocked him back i would invite him to the cinema as mates of course and see what happens but you must make it clear that untill he is single you cant be anything else than friends your worth more than a little bit on the side. if nothing happens ask him if its ok to keep in touch while he is doing is basic training and when he has leave invite him out for a pizza or curry. how long are you willing to wait for your mate to become single?
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