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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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Hones... (read in full...)
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A. 5 November 2010: Be honest about what you want and expect. I think you're right about him and what he wants. If you don't want the same thing yet, then make that known. It's not like you'll be walking away from some long term thing if he doesn't want the same.
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Admit it guys, you're fantasizing about the girls in porn, the rest is just excuses
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Am I asking too much? He barely touches me and wont consider oral because of a bad experience with his ex!
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I regret telling him how I feel about him.....
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Why do women complain about porn?
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A. 3 November 2010: This is a very complex question and it is different for everyone.
The core reasons I've found that women get upset about their partner's porn use are these:
-Lies. Their partner lies about it and hides it. Sometimes even when the women have a... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me?? Am I weird?
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Does he mention her name because he likes her, or just for a reaction from me?
Q. Hi all, I hope someone can help with this! There's a guy I work with and I am very attracted to him, in fact we have had quite a few moments where there is strong chemistry in the air and this seems to be constant lately, we can't seem t...
A. 3 November 2010: Your feelings here are valid. He very likely likes both of you. Since he's talking about her, even in passing, to you, that does indicate he is interested in her. Maybe even more than he thinks or is willing to admit. The fact that she has a BF ... (read in full...)
He is getting me a sexy outfit from an adult store for my birthday present, despite knowing how I feel about this! What should I do about this?
Q. My birthday is coming up soon and ill be 21 I asked my boyfriend what he was getting me for my birthday he told me it was from a (Adult store) and he wouldint tell me anything else. Even tho i asked him not to get me a sexy costume! I recen...
A. 3 November 2010: What a dumbass. My reaction was the same as celtic's, who is this present really for? I learned the pitfalls of this the hard way too. Since I had one GF who really loved that stuff, I thought most women did. WRONG! Ha. Life lesson learned.
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Do you think going to dinner with another man when you are married is bad?
Q. My wife is in SoCal for a confernece and went to dinner with a old high school guy friend. At first she hid it from me, then I found out about it when I saw it on her phone from a text. My wife always says that there is nothing there, yet tonight ...
A. 3 November 2010: I think your jealousy is a little over the top but not without some justificiation.
It is natural for her to want to look her best when she's meeting an old friend. It's not just to show she's still looking good but also a way to show she's do... (read in full...)
Is there really such a thing as fate?
Q. do you think fate is real? Like If two people love eachother do you think fate will bring them back together after they stop talking...
A. 2 November 2010: T2 to be specific. MM and CG get bonus points!... (read in full...)
Jealousy over boyfriend's past.
Q. I only ask this because I'm not sure how to react or respond to my boyfriend. He admitted something to me about him and his sister when he was a freshmen in high school. He was drunk when he told me this and I'm not sure if it was because he w...
A. 2 November 2010: Am I sick that this story turns me on?
KIDDING! You might want to ask him about it when he's sober, but that is a big red flag. Incest is serious business and can be the sign of lots of other issues underneath.... (read in full...)
Is there really such a thing as fate?
Q. do you think fate is real? Like If two people love eachother do you think fate will bring them back together after they stop talking...
A. 2 November 2010: "There is no fate but what we make for ourselves." I know you've probably never seen the movie this quote came from, but I believe it to be true. Bonus points to anyone who can name the movie.... (read in full...)
Very small penis, now I don't fancy him!
Q. I'm in a bit of a cuffuffle. I started talking to a lovely guy a few weeks ago, we have been on 3 dates and I stayed at his house last night. I'm 21 he's 31. We ended up getting naked and feeling each other. I noticed that when his penis is e...
A. 2 November 2010: Way to break it off in as good a way as possible. I agree that sexual compatibility is very important and if you weren't compatible, then his penis size is irrelivant.
Since you're single again, and like guys of average size...
Just kidding.... (read in full...)
B/f texting a girl at 1am??
Q. My boyfriend really pissed me off last night. we were texting eachother late last night at like one to four o clock in tha mornin.today when i wake up i get on facebook and see he asked some random chick he knows i guess... to text him last night at ...
A. 2 November 2010: I don't think you should pick a fight about it. It's not like he was ignoring you or your conversation. It's no different than if he was on the computer im-ing you both at the same time. If everyone was still up, it doesn't matter the hour. He ... (read in full...)
First time experiences?
Q. What was it like the first time that you had sex male and females welcome to answer...
A. 2 November 2010: Mine was good. We went for about 2 hours before we stopped. I didn't orgasm, but we tried a bunch of different positions and generally had a wonderful evening.
Every time I hear the song that was playing I think of that time. I loved the girl... (read in full...)
Very small penis, now I don't fancy him!
Q. I'm in a bit of a cuffuffle. I started talking to a lovely guy a few weeks ago, we have been on 3 dates and I stayed at his house last night. I'm 21 he's 31. We ended up getting naked and feeling each other. I noticed that when his penis is e...
A. 2 November 2010: You could tell him you don't like having your nipples sucked off and that turned you way off. Oh wait, you said let him down gently... What Tennisstar88 said.... (read in full...)
Jealous partner, what do I do?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for just over 2 months now, I've been really happy in the relationship, we are happy together and nothing has gone wrong so far, well that's what I thought. We went out to a party the other night and he went to the toil...
A. 27 October 2010: Your mom is exactly right. It will likely get worse. It might even extend to things from your past.
Think about it this way. You were at a party. Presumably there were a lot of people around. You were socializing, which is what you do at a ... (read in full...)
Should I just let things happen as they may with my best friend?
Q. I am a sophmore in college (19 years old). I met this boy (23 years old) exactly one year ago and since then we have grown into best friends. He tells me everything and in turn I do the same. He just recently broke up with his girl friend that he ...
A. 26 October 2010: Well, if you told him your feelings and he said he didn't feel the same then that's what you should go with. He could have said that because he doesn't feel it, or because he's not over his ex, or any number of other reasons. If all this time ... (read in full...)
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