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*ami1234
writes:Dear allI am a 26 bi male and I haven’t been in any relation with a guy for many reasons. Anyway, lately I met a 33 years old guy online. We didn’t talked too much and he asked me to get naked on cam (I felt strange from his question but I did it after he did it first). Last time he contacted me he told me "I like you and I want to be your friend and I would like to meet you in person", I told him "ok, but we need to know more about each other" and he said “we already know about each other".After this conversation I realised that he only likes my body and want sex!I am not crazy about him but I want to meet him to know his as a friend. However, I feel he only wants the sex! and he knows that I’m virgin.What should I told him next time if he contacts me?Any advices.Thanks a lot, Reply to this Question
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (6 November 2010):
 it sounds like he does want sex because he doesn't KNOW you he just knows what you LOOK like...
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 November 2010):
 If you think he might draw you into something then casually block him and lose his number. If you want to cut it dead, just text him and say 'forget it'. You don't owe him anything so don't sweat it.
Good luck hun x
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reader, sami1234 +, writes (5 November 2010):
sami1234 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for all your comments and advices (I really feel sorry for myself to put myself in this awkward situation). You all help me to make up my mind and make a decision about this guy. I need to know the best way to tell him that I don’t want to see him. Is ignoring his calls or texts is a good idea?
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reader, sami1234 +, writes (5 November 2010):
sami1234 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for all your comments and advices (I really feel sorry for myself to put myself in this awkward situation). You all help me to make up my mind and make a decision about this guy. I need to know the best way to tell him that I don’t want to see him. Is ignoring his calls or texts is a good idea?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 November 2010):
If your not crazy about him and don't really know him why would you want him as a friend?, really he sounds well dodgy, there is no way of knowing he is who he says he is...the internet is a very dangerous place to meet people if they are openly cruising for sexual favours.
It sounds like your curious but there are better and safer ways to meet people and get to know and meet them so you can decide if you want to get steamy...or just have them as a proper friend.
Put your safety first above all else before you hook up...it's the same for men and women.
Good luck x
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (5 November 2010):
 I don't think this guy is looking for friendship if he invites you to cybersex webcam sessions. I think you already know this and should go with your instincts. Only meet him if you are prepared for a sexual experience to occur. If you meet him, do so in a public place so you run away if it all turns out to be a disaster. I think you should keep talking to him over the computer or phone. If he is interested in YOU then he will persist over time in communicating. If it is just a sexual fling for him then he will lose interest and move onto someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Hi
I can only make a judgement here from what you have said so please only take what you like from my comment and ignore it if you want! :D
It kinda sounds like this guy is out to get what he can, he's got u on the webcam and I'd hate to think that he would use you so he can be the one taking your virginity. If he comes to see you he might go down the line of "I've come all this way..." and pressure you into doing stuff for him.
I think you should wait-I don't think this guy has good intentions and you should lose your virginity to someone you have feelings for and are in a relationship with as it will mean so much more to you.
I would probably tell a little white lie and say that you've got a partner now so sorry you don't feel it would be right to meet up-then block him!
Good luck with whatever happens x
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Be honest about what you want and expect. I think you're right about him and what he wants. If you don't want the same thing yet, then make that known. It's not like you'll be walking away from some long term thing if he doesn't want the same.
Honestly, I think there are better guys out there for you. This guy is trolling for ass, and little else. I would suggest getting to know someone before getting naked for them in the future.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (5 November 2010):
I think deep down you already know what you need to say to him.
He only wants sex, you just want friendship.
I don't think you are going to get what you want and I don't think you should give him what he wants because you don't actually want it yourself.
Move on and find someone who also wants friendship and not just sex.
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