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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me! What can I say to him that I havent said already?
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A. 18 November 2010: Move on. They aren't just friends. Do what you need to in order to get over this relationship. Let it be over.... (read in full...)
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A. 18 November 2010: How do you tell him this?
You just do. Don't do it while crying, or in a way to make him feel bad. Just let him know what you're feeling.
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He chose his girlfriend over me, should I have tried harder to make him want me or did I do the right thing by walking away?
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A. 18 November 2010: Bummer, but at least you have an answer and some closure. F them is right.... (read in full...)
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A. 17 November 2010: Great insight for someone so young. Nice article. I've heard that line too.
joeyj, accepting someone's past is different. Yes, stating it in the way you put is similar, but really retroactive jealousy is just as harmful to a relation... (read in full...)
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A. 17 November 2010: You need to start by being honest with yourself and those around you about how you're feeling. It's fine if you're not over it. It's fine if you're not comfortable around her. It's ok for her to know that.
You shouldn't be talking to her abou... (read in full...)
Do you have to have sex to be lovers?
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A. 17 November 2010: The word "lovers" implies sex is happening. Here is the definition taken from thefreedictionary.com.
lov·er (lvr)
n.
1. One who loves another, especially one who feels sexual love.
2. lovers A couple in love with each other.
3.
a. A paramou... (read in full...)
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A. 17 November 2010: He sound like he may need some anger management. You can tell him in a matter of fact way that he's not helping you when he does this. That you give him space when he needs it and he needs to do the same for you.
You know, it always gets me ... (read in full...)
Why can't I end it when I know I should?
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A. 17 November 2010: It's a sad reality that people grow apart sometimes. I don't envy the position you're in, but I think you'll be happier in the long run. It's good (and very mature) that you don't want to change him. That's an attitude that I hope carries forward ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend prefer porn over his hot girlfriend?
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A. 16 November 2010: I think this is an indication of one of two things. Either he's not happy or he's reverted to what he was doing before you got together. This question gets asked a lot so please check out the "pornography" tab on the right hand side of the page. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I end it when I know I should?
Q. I met my boyfriend on 3rd july 2004 on my 18th birthday, he was my first big relationship and my first love. We have been together for over 6 years and it has been very up and down with one or two break ups. when ever we split i am convince...
A. 16 November 2010: It's hard to walk away from those we care about. It's also hard to watch them not live up to the potential we see in them. Sometimes as people mature (or don't) the things that were once enduring about someone become the things you hate about ... (read in full...)
Is what I'm doing masturbation?
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A. 16 November 2010: Yes, and there's nothing wrong with it.... (read in full...)
Why do guys just stop talking to you?
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A. 16 November 2010: Just an alternative perspective. Sometimes it's just as aunt honesty said and I think that's probably the case here. The alternate perspective is that he met someone else and hit it off with her and decided that she was who he was going to try ... (read in full...)
She's hot and she's cold. She's yes and she's no..
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A. 16 November 2010: Don't put her in the awkward situation where she feels like she's cheating on her boyfriend. There's little you can do except offer, and face rejection. She needs to decide what to do about her current relationship before she does anything with ... (read in full...)
I've tried dumping him twice but he doesn't get the memo!
Q. hi i need to break up with my boyfriend, because he is controling and overbearing. the proplem is i dont know how i tried too twice already and it went knowhere we got back together. so how should i put it to him, he always would just get mad and ...
A. 16 November 2010: He convinced you that your reasons for dumping him weren't good by basically controlling you? Wow. He's got some skills.
You just need to stick to your guns. Don't let him argue. If he gets angry then that just solidifies why he's not good for... (read in full...)
Why do guys behave this way?
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A. 16 November 2010: He's confused, got in over his head, and didn't know how to handle it. You have nothing to be ashamed of as you did behave maturely. I do believe that this outcome wasn't his intent when he started dating you. He likely thought he was ready and ... (read in full...)
How do I lightly confront him over this text?
Q. Ok so how do I confront my boyfriend about a text that I found on his phone...well he has a password on it...The thing is I feel bad for going through his phone but I don't like what I saw. How do I talk to him? and how do I even start it...HELP ...
A. 16 November 2010: You don't. And you quit being an untrusting snoop. Is it ok for him to violate your privacy and trust?
If you want to talk to him, be prepared to take some major blame for violating the trust of your relationship. Depending on the context ... (read in full...)
My husband is old school!
Q. My husband is from "the old scjhool", who beleives giving a male (a kid)co-worker a ride home (because his car broke down), is a breech of trust and that, I, as a married woman, should not be "driving around town with men in my car". First ...
A. 16 November 2010: I think you need to ask your husband if he trusts you. How long have you been married? If he says he trusts you, then there is no reason that this behavior should be seen for anything other than what it is, harmless. He's not living in 1910, and ... (read in full...)
Wanting a happy ending!
Q. I don't want to be a lesbian. i want to have a life with a MAN that i love and have normal children! I read about being bisexual, but it still scares me! I am probably bisexual, but can I just be with a guy if im bi? I'm in my lower teens!...
A. 16 November 2010: Humans are sexual beings. Nobody is 100% anything if you ask me. You can be perfectly happy with a man if you're bi. There is nothing wrong with being gay either. You've got plenty of time to worry about such things, so in the mean time, why not ... (read in full...)
Proper etiquette!
Q. Hi, need advice badly. Basically am in a 3 year relationship love my boyfriend very much but cant stand his family. They have no manners. Went to family meal recently his brother made really crude jokes and had a chat about it with his mam. My ...
A. 16 November 2010: I'd wait before expressing any sort of disapproval. It's very possible that they were acting this way because they view you as part of the family. Maybe suggest going out to brunch or something like that where you can see how they act outside the ... (read in full...)
Is this normal, not to be able to climax this way?
Q. does anyone out there have any trouble reaching orgasm's ??? I don't understand why I have this problem..My boyfriend will go down on me and it feels good but i rarely reach orgasm this way or any way..I think my urges and sensitivity in that area ...
A. 16 November 2010: That's a real shame! One thing I thought of is doing your best to relax and not try so hard. The more you focus on something like this, the harder it can become to make happen.
When your BF is going down on you, focus on your breathin... (read in full...)
We keep breaking up and getting back together all because of his flirting with other girls!
Q. my boyfriend and i have broken up and gotten together 2 times and i really do love him! We broke up the first time because he just use to flirt too much to an extent that he didnt even notice himself! 2nd time was because i went overseas for about 3 ...
A. 16 November 2010: No point in getting back together. Make up/Break up relationships rarely work out in the long run. It's possible to love someone but not be right for eachother.... (read in full...)
Why is my husband watching so much porn?
Q. we have been married for 4 years at first i had no clue . but every moring after i left for work my husband would watch porn and get him self off, even if we had sex the night before . now its geting to where he gets on the internet to watch coupels ...
A. 16 November 2010: He's checked out. I hope that councelling helps you, but I doubt it will help your marriage since he's being such a tool. ... (read in full...)
Should I help my best friend out of what I think is a controlling relationship or just respect her wishes and sever ties?
Q. Well my best friend told me to leave her alone after she met a guy. Her excuse is that "she doesnt want to lose her man" and he doesn't want her to keep contact with her ex lovers. She was my fwb, then I moved and we kept the friendship. I don't ha...
A. 15 November 2010: There's little you can do. Anything you do will just drive her further away. Hopefully she realizes what he's doing, but that's up to her. Walk away. When they break up she'll probably reach out to old friends.... (read in full...)
Misunderstood his email, now he's mad.
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months - really like him but he is playing it really cool. So i am playing it cool too. All was fine, then today he sent the following email "my phone just went blank c**t switch it on" I took the c word...
A. 13 November 2010: There's an expression about these situations...
If only I could remember it...
Wait
Almost got it.
Oh Yeah!!!
SHIT HAPPENS
LMAO, no harm no foul. If he's too big of a baby not to get butt hurt over your reaction to the C word, ... (read in full...)
Am I going to get a huge bill from this porn site?
Q. So let me explain a few things I was really horny one day and I decided to buy on of those pre-paid credit cards for 50bucks and get a membership to one of those porno site and I filled out everything and got the membership for one month and spen...
A. 12 November 2010: I'd doubt you'll get a bill. It would be pretty hard to track you down.... (read in full...)
Summer lovin, happened so fast..
Q. Okay, I have a few mixes so, I usually go on holiday back to where my mother is from which is Cyprus. I stay with my grandfather and there's this guy who lives near by. I first met him when I was about 11-12 and he was 16, I really liked him and he ...
A. 12 November 2010: Maybe, but what are you prepared to do about it? The logistics of a relationship with him would make things very difficult. Maybe you should just enjoy the flirting for what it is. I'd be hesitant to pursue this given what you've said. He is ... (read in full...)
He's nice but he's also a pimp!
Q. i have been single for 4 yrs because i have been burnt and didnt want to get involved. a few weeks ago i was at gym and this guy came over to me and we started talking. there was instant chemistry and i felt really free and happy with him we meet in ...
A. 12 November 2010: There is an educational documentary you should watch. It's called "The Mack."
Be careful if he wants to take you on a date to the planetarium. That's how Goldie got mind control over his bitches.
If this guy is actually a working pimp, he... (read in full...)
Can't finish masturbating?
Q. well im a girl and im having my first attempts at masturbating, lol, the thing is, when i start rubbing my clit i can't go on with it, it's not like "painful" but i just feel like i have to stop? not because i think it's wrong or anything like that, ...
A. 12 November 2010: Don't do anything your body tells you not to. If it's that you're coming close and the stimulation is too much, then maybe you need to use something else. Do you have a detachable shower head? I hear the massage setting on most of those does the ... (read in full...)
He puts on a condom when we're only making out?
Q. as soon as we start making out my boyfriend puts on a condom. i meen like straight straight away.can it be that he doesnt like blow jobs and just doesnt want to say so thats why? he likes it when i rub him he told me. or is it just because hes ...
A. 12 November 2010: Ask him. Maybe he has a problem with premature ejaculation and he does this as a precaution. Maybe he's afraid of disease. Maybe he's clueless and thinks the condom is magic. What he's doing is out of the ordinary, but nothing to be too worried ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband watching so much porn?
Q. we have been married for 4 years at first i had no clue . but every moring after i left for work my husband would watch porn and get him self off, even if we had sex the night before . now its geting to where he gets on the internet to watch coupels ...
A. 10 November 2010: Fuck his lazy ass excuses. Please pardon my language but he's just trying to turn his problem back onto you.
Ok, he says you're not trying to understand his side. You say he's not trying to understand your side. How can you get your sides ac... (read in full...)
Why is my husband watching so much porn?
Q. we have been married for 4 years at first i had no clue . but every moring after i left for work my husband would watch porn and get him self off, even if we had sex the night before . now its geting to where he gets on the internet to watch coupels ...
A. 10 November 2010: To me it sounds like he's got addiction problems. I don't think you should budge. You've made enough compromises. If porn is more important than your relationship to him, then that's a sad statement about him.... (read in full...)
Is this normal, not to be able to climax this way?
Q. does anyone out there have any trouble reaching orgasm's ??? I don't understand why I have this problem..My boyfriend will go down on me and it feels good but i rarely reach orgasm this way or any way..I think my urges and sensitivity in that area ...
A. 9 November 2010: mmmmmmm Johnny Depp. That's the one guy in the world I'd go gay for... ... (read in full...)
Is this normal, not to be able to climax this way?
Q. does anyone out there have any trouble reaching orgasm's ??? I don't understand why I have this problem..My boyfriend will go down on me and it feels good but i rarely reach orgasm this way or any way..I think my urges and sensitivity in that area ...
A. 9 November 2010: I don't have any suggestions that may help you, but I can assure you that you're not the only one in that boat. I've seen other posters here and have known a woman like you personally as well.
Have you found anything that can make you orgasm? ... (read in full...)
Am I going to get a huge bill from this porn site?
Q. So let me explain a few things I was really horny one day and I decided to buy on of those pre-paid credit cards for 50bucks and get a membership to one of those porno site and I filled out everything and got the membership for one month and spen...
A. 8 November 2010: Ultimately it depends on what information you had to enter and what kind of prepaid card it was. If it is just a plain old prepaid card, with no name on it, then that shouldn't get tracked back to you, but depending on they type of personal info ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to realize this guy isn't backing off?
Q. Hi all, My girlfriend (18 y.o.) and I (19 y.o.) have been dating for 4 years. It is a long distance relationship (about 3.5 hours distance), but I drive down to see her every weekend. I grew up with her (I've known her for 7 years), so I sho...
A. 1 November 2010: All the texting is more of his ploy to get her. When he does it while he knows you're there, it becomes a power play. He's basically reinforcing to himself and you who is more important to her. Because she is either clueless to this, or like most ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to realize this guy isn't backing off?
Q. Hi all, My girlfriend (18 y.o.) and I (19 y.o.) have been dating for 4 years. It is a long distance relationship (about 3.5 hours distance), but I drive down to see her every weekend. I grew up with her (I've known her for 7 years), so I sho...
A. 29 October 2010: It sucks but there is little you can do until she realizes he's crossing that line. She seems oblivious to it, which makes it better and worse. Then again, she may like the attention, so that might be part of her defensive reaction.
Somet... (read in full...)
Why is my husband watching so much porn?
Q. we have been married for 4 years at first i had no clue . but every moring after i left for work my husband would watch porn and get him self off, even if we had sex the night before . now its geting to where he gets on the internet to watch coupels ...
A. 29 October 2010: Guys watch porn for all sorts of reasons. Usually it's to masturbate to. It can be out of boredom. It can be because that's how he has some "me time." It can be because he's addicted to porn.
If you're feeling used despite everything, you need... (read in full...)
Why is my husband watching so much porn?
Q. we have been married for 4 years at first i had no clue . but every moring after i left for work my husband would watch porn and get him self off, even if we had sex the night before . now its geting to where he gets on the internet to watch coupels ...
A. 29 October 2010: Have you tried talking to him about it? He may think he's hiding it, but the fact that you know is starting to eat at you. The thing is, he's probably been doing this for most, if not all, of your relationship.
The change in what he's watching... (read in full...)
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