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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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Don't read into it.... (read in full...)
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I'd bet your ... (read in full...)
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Have any of you guys dealt with this kind of insecurity and jealousy before?
Q. I was recently dating this woman who I felt very strongly for. Unfortunately, she was very insecure. Her ex had cheated on her numerous times. Anyways, she began accusing me of seeing another woman, which wasn't true. Nothing I said to her could ...
A. 20 October 2010: Good plan. The less tempatation the better!... (read in full...)
Do guys wait to text?
Q. Well my mate gave her guyfriend my number because he liked me and he text me last friday and saturday. I been texting him first for a couple of days now and he asked me out, we are suppose to be going for food sunday. We talked for hours last night ...
A. 20 October 2010: Yup, it's childish. Honestly, I have no clue who should be texting who and all that garbage. That's exactly what it is, garbage. If he said he would text you, he will unless something comes up that prevents him from doing it. If he doesn't, and ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend.
Q. I'm in high school and I've been best friends with this guy for about three years. He texts me every single day, and if you read our conversations, sometimes you would think we're a little more than just friends. In the past, whenever he dates ...
A. 20 October 2010: I think you should tell him. I doubt you'll lose him as a friend even if he rejects you. If you are thinking about this, chances are he is too. Take it to that next step!... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my doctor likes me?
Q. I've been seeing an Osteopath for chronic illness, we're both single but his office is filled with groupies and he seems really popular with women. He's very attentive to me and his hands are ALL OVER me, that's osteopathy (but how is it not er...
A. 20 October 2010: Ask him out. I have a feeling that his flirty personality is part of his job though. That's part of the reason he's so successful and has these "groupies." Don't be surprised if it is all part of the job to him.... (read in full...)
I'm always tired, is something wrong?
Q. Hi, I'm 19 and female, and I keep getting really tired! I keep needing a nap mid-afternoon. I'm unemployed, I eat ok, and I usually go to sleep about midnight and wake up at 8. What's going on? Is this normal? I'm exhausted! ...
A. 20 October 2010: It could be normal or an indication of a problem. I think what's going on is you aren't finding anything to occupy your time and it is getting to you. Also, the more you sleep, the more you want to sleep sometimes.
Do you have a hobby or activ... (read in full...)
Does his stare mean anything?
Q. Hello. I just want to ask a question about something that happened to me today. Today, my crush and i catched eachother's eye. i smiled at him, looked down, looked back up and carried on smiling while he just looked at me. what does this mean? a...
A. 20 October 2010: I'm with aunt honesty. Make a move! You've both told eachother that you like the other, why are you still dancing around this? ... (read in full...)
Have any of you guys dealt with this kind of insecurity and jealousy before?
Q. I was recently dating this woman who I felt very strongly for. Unfortunately, she was very insecure. Her ex had cheated on her numerous times. Anyways, she began accusing me of seeing another woman, which wasn't true. Nothing I said to her could ...
A. 20 October 2010: Seriously man, dwelling on this like you have been is bad for you. I know you're trying to understand her actions, but really there isn't that much to understand. You know what her issues were. You know there isn't anything you can do right now. ... (read in full...)
He got mad when I wanted to chill out with a male friend
Q. So I started talking to this guy on Facebook. And my homecoming was a week later, so I invited him to my college to see me for homecoming. He said he was coming, and surprisingly he did. My college is 5 hours away from where he lives, so I knew he ...
A. 18 October 2010: I would suggest moving on. This dude has some jealousy issues, and big ones. If he got so upset over something so small, then you just have a front row seat for more of the same problems in the pipeline. Usually if a relationship ends so quickly, ... (read in full...)
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