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writes:I am a sophmore in college (19 years old). I met this boy (23 years old) exactly one year ago and since then we have grown into best friends. He tells me everything and in turn I do the same. He just recently broke up with his girl friend that he has been with on and off since highschool. While they were dating on many occasions he would tell me that I am his best friend and that I know more than anyone..more than his girlfriend and more than his friend of 5+ years. Recently I told him that I liked him and we literally see eachother every day of the week. Telling him that I liked him went fine we are still best friends and I know he doesn't feel the same way towards me..but he never actually said that he didn't. My friends also now think because we go clothes shopping together and he asks me his collar size for his shirts that we are destined to be married. I still like him and I feel he likes me but I honestly do not know...Should I just let things happen how they should or should I take some sort of action...Does it seem like he likes me? I don't want to seem selfish or cocky thinking that he does when he probably doesn't.I think I'm in love with my best friend
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reader, dirtball +, writes (5 November 2010):
 That means he most likely doesn't feel the same. It could be that he didn't want to talk about it, but usually that is a negative. He didn't want to hurt you by rejecting you so he changed the subject instead. That's not always the case. He may not have been in the right mindset to handle That conversation at the time. In college I had that happen. A friend tried confessing her feelings while I was tripping. I told her I didn't want to talk about that at that time. She took it as rejection. Really I just wasn't in a good place mentally for that talk. She never brought it back up, and neither did I.
Talk to him and get an answer. He can't run from this forever. You need to know so you can move forward. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe never said he didn't like me...he didn't say anything at all he just changed the subject...which is why I'm so confused.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 October 2010):
Well, if you told him your feelings and he said he didn't feel the same then that's what you should go with. He could have said that because he doesn't feel it, or because he's not over his ex, or any number of other reasons. If all this time together is making you think of him in a more than friends way, you should talk to him about it again. Maybe try kissing him.
Friendships like this are tricky. I've also got a thing for my best female friend. I've tried getting past it and I can't. Good luck. I hope it works out for you!
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