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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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A. 10 November 2010: Does this sound like a rebound?
Yes
Is there any possiblility of you getting back together?
Anything is possible, but realistically no.
Do I think they'll last?
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A. 10 November 2010: Like the Nike slogan, Just Do It. Really, there is no secret. You just walk up to her and say hi. Ask her if she'd be interested in going on a date with you.
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Shower gel or no shower gel?
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A. 10 November 2010: That depends. Do you like it? Do you want it to stop?
If you like it, maybe take them up on the offer of a date, just don't sleep with them.
If you don't like it, then tell your brother. Being that you're his sister, and they're his frie... (read in full...)
How can I get him to fall in love with me again?
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A. 10 November 2010: Do you ever initiate sex with him? Does he try with you? Did he try and get rejected?
For lots of men, sex is how we show our love in a physical way. It makes us feel very unloved and unwanted (just like you're feeling) when the one we have cho... (read in full...)
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A. 10 November 2010: If you wanted to be with him you shouldn't have broken it off. If there was something bad enough with the relationship for you to be willing to break it off, then this relationship was on its last legs anyway.
Move on and learn from your mis... (read in full...)
Ideas for conversations to get a better idea of who he is?
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A. 10 November 2010: You don't bring up past relationships. If you do, you want to keep the details vague to hopefully avoid retroactive jealousy. Many people think they can let the past be the past, but learn otherwise when they start digging. That's a topic to be ... (read in full...)
She humiliated me!
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How much sperm is needed to get a girl pregnant?
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Sex - what do women prefer? And why do some women like to swallow when others dont?
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A. 10 November 2010: I'm not a woman, but I know what they'll tell you. There is NO ANSWER to this question. Everyone is different and have different preferences. I'm sure you'll have answers all over the board. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My gf did something that affects my health, should I continue in this relationship?
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She won't climax
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Wanted: New breasts!
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Should I bring up my sexual past?
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A. 9 November 2010: To add to what CaringGuy said, also don't go into detail. Detail is the root of most retroactive jealousy. It's best to avoid it if you can, just don't lie.... (read in full...)
I think I want more sex?
Q. My boyfriend and i have had sex once only. and i want to be with him again. but i dont know how to tell him....
A. 9 November 2010: Make out with him and whisper in his ear to take you. If you want to be lovers, then you need to learn to communicate your needs.
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Is he just trying to charm my pants off?
Q. Why do I feel like this?? what is wrong with me:(? ive been seeing this guy..hes soo sweet,, hes like the first guy..that's actually treated me right..hes soo sweet and he says he loves me dearly..(he hasn't changed after we had sex..hes still th...
A. 9 November 2010: Could be lots of things. You sound like you have trust issues. Maybe you were hurt in the past by someone who wasn't who they claimed to be. Maybe your gut instinct is right. Maybe you are trying to justify why you don't feel the same for ... (read in full...)
Is this normal, not to be able to climax this way?
Q. does anyone out there have any trouble reaching orgasm's ??? I don't understand why I have this problem..My boyfriend will go down on me and it feels good but i rarely reach orgasm this way or any way..I think my urges and sensitivity in that area ...
A. 9 November 2010: mmmmmmm Johnny Depp. That's the one guy in the world I'd go gay for... ... (read in full...)
This guy is zoning in on my boyfriend!
Q. Last night me and my boyfriend got into a really big argument. It started about this guy who fancy’s my boyfriend and saying stuff like ‘hey u sexy thing’ … I got a little annoyed as obviously I didn’t want other people talking to him like that and ...
A. 9 November 2010: Is your BF bi? If not, then you have nothing to worry about. Besides, this "Friend" may be trying to cause trouble (the one texting you details you wonder how they got). I honestly don't think you trust your BF much or you wouldn't be so worried, ... (read in full...)
He's sweet, charming, but constantly brings up sex!
Q. I have recently got talking to this guy and he seems sweet and genuine but very forward. He regularly brings up the conversation of sex even tho we havent met yet. I am still a virgin and know that he isnt. Im worried that he is only interested in ...
A. 9 November 2010: No harm in going on a date. You can let him know that all his focus on sex is a real turn off. Usually that much focus is a bad sign though. FWIW, you may want to pack it up. Then again, any guy that forward is at least being forth coming and ... (read in full...)
Wanted: New breasts!
Q. I have ugly breasts. They're small for my body (I have huge hips) and they have big areolas. I also don't like their shape much, it's a very common shape but it's not round and nice. If they were rounder and had small areolas I wouldn't mind the ...
A. 9 November 2010: If you get a surgery, you should do it for yourself, not because it's what you think men will like. I prefer real. I don't really care about size or the shape of the nipple. With bigger hips, I'm sure you've got a rockin' booty. That's my ... (read in full...)
Is this normal, not to be able to climax this way?
Q. does anyone out there have any trouble reaching orgasm's ??? I don't understand why I have this problem..My boyfriend will go down on me and it feels good but i rarely reach orgasm this way or any way..I think my urges and sensitivity in that area ...
A. 9 November 2010: I don't have any suggestions that may help you, but I can assure you that you're not the only one in that boat. I've seen other posters here and have known a woman like you personally as well.
Have you found anything that can make you orgasm? ... (read in full...)
My gf did something that affects my health, should I continue in this relationship?
Q. Hi everyone I have a serious problem with relationship... quick background: i started dated my gf in oct 2009.. everything was perfect she told me how much she likes me and wants to spend more time and she called me every day etc etc.. i fall...
A. 9 November 2010: Well, if you love her you will forgive her past. It didn't happen while you were together, so she had every right to do whatever it was she wanted. Our past makes us who we are today, and they are unchangable. You need to see this as a life ... (read in full...)
Should I be bold and just tell him I like him or what?
Q. I really like this guy at my school. He's in the grade above me.I'm 17.We have mutual friends so whenever he greets them he greets me too. He always looks right at me when he says hi(not sure if that's a good sign or nothing). But we've never really ...
A. 9 November 2010: Well, I talked to this friend, who is friends with Sam, and Sam said that Fred told her that Dustin really likes you, but when Sam asked Dustin's other friend Bill, Bill wasn't sure... LMAO
Yes, you should absolutely ask him yourself. Don't pl... (read in full...)
Why is my husband watching so much porn?
Q. we have been married for 4 years at first i had no clue . but every moring after i left for work my husband would watch porn and get him self off, even if we had sex the night before . now its geting to where he gets on the internet to watch coupels ...
A. 29 October 2010: Guys watch porn for all sorts of reasons. Usually it's to masturbate to. It can be out of boredom. It can be because that's how he has some "me time." It can be because he's addicted to porn.
If you're feeling used despite everything, you need... (read in full...)
Why is my husband watching so much porn?
Q. we have been married for 4 years at first i had no clue . but every moring after i left for work my husband would watch porn and get him self off, even if we had sex the night before . now its geting to where he gets on the internet to watch coupels ...
A. 29 October 2010: Have you tried talking to him about it? He may think he's hiding it, but the fact that you know is starting to eat at you. The thing is, he's probably been doing this for most, if not all, of your relationship.
The change in what he's watching... (read in full...)
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