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writes:The thing is that I told this boy I love about my feelings... and now I kind of regret it and feel very anxious and guilty ALL THE TIME.It`s like a torture,I feel stupid for sending him a letter I knew that he would not respond positively,it never showed in his behaviour that he might like me. I avoid him now,because I`m afraid he will bring this up and I will burn with shame the very instance.My face gets red when I just think about my confession.Why do I feel this way? Is it ok to feel so and what can I do to stop feeling this way? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): thanks guys! You really helped me understand some things. Wish you all the best!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Your looking at this totally the wrong way. I did that once and I don't regret it at all. Although my love was not reciprocated I feel good that I told her I love her. She still talks to me and we are friends now but I never regretted anything I did when it comes to love.
The positive thing is it saved you a lot of pain and heart ache of what could be. Well, now you know and you can move on. It's not so bad after all. Imagin if you never told him, your heart would still be longing for him.
You did the best thing and it rakes guts to do that you should be proud o yourself for doing it don't feel bad about it at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): dirtball
Thanks a lot for such a quick reply,it made me feel better. The answer turned out to be quite obvious, but I couldn`t see it from where I was standing. I guess you are right, I have to face his response and in case he wants to stay friends,which I think he will choose,move on.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Awwww, I'm so sorry that you put your heart on the line and it wasn't returned. :( You're feeling this way because the sting of rejection hurts, stings, is embarrassing, all of the above!
You do not have to feel guilty though. You did what so many of your contemporaries don't even begin to have the guts to do. You took a risk, and good or bad, risks are the difference between being in a mediocre rut and seizing the day and taking on adventure.
You can stop feeling this way by recognizing that there is nothing wrong with revealing feelings, and there's nothing wrong with you. You've got to hold onto that sense of risk and truth, because sooner or later, you'll catch a keeper with that. Know why? Because you have the uncommon courage to be yourself.
Your life will be extraordinary if you do not ever lose that courage.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Part of why you feel this way is you don't know what his reaction was. It is ok that you feel this way and I think that in order to stop feeling this way, you'll need to find out how he feels about it. This will be a difficult conversation but it will either reward you or give you the closure you need to move on.
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