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*achaparritax19
writes:i am not a virgin anymore. I have been with one guy only, and now i have a new boyfriend. He abviously knows i have had sex before. but im not sure if it bothers him or not ? should i ask him ? or should i just not say anything ?
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reader, JC26  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 You did the right thing by being honest with him about not being a virgin! There is no need to go into details because it is true you will only find discomfort and even open doors to jealousy and you don't want that happening to an awesome relationship! Plus it seems to me that you guys understand eachother very well so all that matters is your present! I'm sure you guys don't miss anything or anyone from your past relationship's because if you did you guys wouldn't be together in the first place! Sometimes we could be stubborn and curious to know the details but be careful because this might be signs of insecurity issues. You guys have a solid foundation and my advice to you is to keep it that way! Enjoy your relationship to the max and keep moving froward there are tons of things in this life you guys have yet to explore together! God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): Don't decieve him. Either tell him that you intend to say nothing about your past or else tell the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): From a female point of view, I agree 100% with the CaringGuy and Dirtball. He doesn't need to know and it will lead nowhere good. If he asks for more detail, you can tell him it's in the past and there's nothing to tell. Don't get into any detail.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (9 November 2010):
 To add to what CaringGuy said, also don't go into detail. Detail is the root of most retroactive jealousy. It's best to avoid it if you can, just don't lie.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 November 2010):
It's best not to say anything about it unless he specifically asks himself. Some people get very disturbed by their partner's past. It's called retroactive jealously. And it's one of the biggest wastes of time, and is destructive for no good reason. Your boyfriend doesn't really need to know your past. If he asks, then gently tell him. But unless he asks, don't tell.
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