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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for a year. I have known him all my life, we grew up down the road from each other when we were younger. We never really kept in contact too much over the years, would chat for a bit if we ran into each other. We started talking over a year ago and just hit it off. He lives back home where I'm from and I live two hours away b/c I'm working on my Masters. We see each other almost every weekend. So naturally we talk on the phone a lot during the week. The last month or so when we talk on the phone he annoys me so much that I can barely stand talking to him on the phone. So much to the point that I'm doubting if I love him or not. He says certain words repeatedly and it's like nails down a chalk board. I thought at first maybe it was because we talk too much on the phone during the week so I cut back on the phone calls. Not working. Some how he manages to say indeed, fo sho, fun times, good times, and the worst is 'ya know' repeatedly in a short phone conversation and at that point I'm just annoyed and quit talking bc he says it repeatedly on a daily basis. I find myself not really missing him during the week anymore and constantly bitching about it to my friends. When we do spend time with each other in person I don't really get annoyed with him the way I do on the phone. We have great conversation, enjoy each other and have fun. I'm at a loss on what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 26, he is 34. He does say it in person but not near as often as on the phone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): A person is immature because of the words they use now? Even if they are not even Swears?
I still talk like that, I'm 27. I know to talk a little more politely around business and work areas. But when I am socialising, I match my language to those I am speaking to, it's called being polite.
He must feel comfortable speaking naturally around you. Take that as you will.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (11 November 2010):
 I've always been a hater of the "goodtimes" myself, but people only say that when they have no real response to what you've said to them, which brings me to the point that I think that he's just trying to fill up dead air space. Maybe you should cut back more, or try emailing back and forth and maybe only talking once a week? My bf and I were long distance for 4ish, 5ish years and we just decided we kinda suck at the whole phone dynamic, you can't just relax, you have to have conversation on the phone, whereas you can just be 'yourself' and be at peace with a person when you're with them. either cut back or maybe have a topic of conversation that is more...balanced, stuff he'll have more to contribute to. I'm just hesitant to be like 'yeah dump him' when you have a good thing going in person, that has to count for something..
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Agreed, I'd point out nicely he's a little old to be saying those phrases. I haven't said any of those phrases since high school. Which brings me to my next question, is he around your age? Does he still say that in person, or is it just on the phone? I also believe you're tiring of the distance and finding things to nitpick at him for..that happens in a LDR. If you feel he's too immature then break it off..however, this can be easily solved by talking about it, telling him to cut the nonsense.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Tell him. Just point out how much he says it to him. I doubt he even realizes it. It's the same with people who overuse the word "like" to me. It drives me crazy. If you never communicate this to him, he can't make an effort to change. If you care about him, you'll at least give him the opportunity to know that this is bothering you. Communication about such things is extremely important. Don't let it fester if you don't have to.
ya know, like, fo sho. Ha ha. Good times, like, indeed.
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