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writes:I am married and have a soon-to-be 6 month old baby. We are starting to have a hard time with finances (just like everyone else in the country). I work full time at home on the farm and part time outside of the home (as needed) and my husband has 2 full time jobs. I have contemplated finding a sugar daddy, but ONLY for financial help. It would be nothing more than a friendship! NO sex, NO sexual-related favors, just an innocent friendship. I want to talk to my husband about this and he would see EVERY email and I would not hide ANYTHING. I am NOT wanting shopping sprees or jewelry or anything like that. All I want is to get our farm and truck paid off and to have a bigger house, that is all! We just need a little help but I wonder if this is too crazy of an idea? Reply to this Question
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reader, lost420 +, writes (22 May 2011):
well definetly don't hide anything from your husband. Because you know it will hurt him.
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (11 November 2010):
Hi,
I wont judge you
Before you do find yrself a Sugar daddy watch Indecent Proposal.
Then be prepared
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reader, soon567 +, writes (11 November 2010):
A surgardaddy is usually someone willing to pay to be with her. It may or may not involve sex; most like he wants her company and they're usually married men or he going through a mid-life crisis. Once it become sexually its really no longer a sugardaddy/sugarbaby relationship. She has check into this. The have site dedicate to this and you probably will be label as a gold-digger. Everything has boundaries and you need to set yours.
Here, I google this one for you:
http://www.sugarsugar.com/
Get yourself a rich one and make sure you two understand each of your part. Why do I see a divorce coming.
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reader, AuntieSnap +, writes (10 November 2010):
Yes, you are crackers to even think of it. So you are in a financial mess, but my darling so is half the planet these days, we set to and sort it properly without rushing out looking for a temperary fix in the shape of a sugar daddy would be. Do not cheapen yourself by going ahead with this crazy scheme, you have far too much to lose. You get nothing for nothing in this world and do you honestly think he would be happy with just chat?
Now then, there is plenty of sound advice regarding your financial plight out there so get checking on line for it. I fully understand how desperate you must be feeling with the financial situation you are in, but please dont go down the sugar daddy route. Once you find and speak to a debt councellor and get things into perspective, you will feel better. They have a lot of good advice to give. Most suppliers and companies that you owe money to should be fine once you explain your situation. Companies and suppliers really need to be kept informed regularly of whats happening and usually will happily accept a reduced payment til things get back on track so long as they know what the scoop is.
I hope this helps, there is light at the end of the tunnel and it gets brighter the closer you get. Just dont let a sugar daddy blot it out.
God bless you and your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): A crazy idea! No it's a very calculated well thought out idea of how you can use and take advantage of freindship.
iT'S Your life though and if a sugar daddy wants to pay for a fake friendship then more fool him, unless you plan to lie/ pretend to him aswell as con him.
Spunky Monkey
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 November 2010):
 I agree with the other posters. A sugardaddy is someone who trades cash for sex, legally. It's no different than having a mistress, other than the girl accepting favors is generally acting as his girlfriend and living in the same place.
With the number of jobs you and your husband have, I'd seek assistance from someone who really knows budgeting and finances. Maybe some things can be adjusted or moved around to make life a little easier for you.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Could you please help us by defining what you think the phrase "sugar daddy" means?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 November 2010):
 He has 2 full time jobs and you have a part time job that I'm guessing you go in when needed but you're still not making it?? It's natural to have debt, who in America doesn't? A truck and owing on your land is normal everyday debt. Have you even talked you your husband about this?
I very much doubt you're going to find a sugar daddy who will give you money in return for friendship..they want much more than that, in order to shell out the bucks. My suggestion is you obtain a full time job and start paying more on your farm and truck if you want to get them paid off sooner. Then you can work on getting a bigger house. You can get there through hard work, not trying to take a man's $.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (10 November 2010):
 LOL. Sorry, I don't mean to laugh but I don't know any rich old guys who are looking for friends to give money to. Seek out a budget councellor instead. I'm sure with all of the work you're doing, there is a way for you to not need to seek outside "gifts."
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Totally crazy idea and I'm sure your husband will tell you the same. What rich guy is going to put out if you don't?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Is this a joke,it has to be because anyone living in the real world knows no man is going to part with money that easily,also stop trying to live beyond your means and sell your property and buy a smaller one atleast you wont be struggling and having"never going to happen" thoughts
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Exactly what kind of sugar daddy would give you money for just friendship? I think most men would not pay for conversation or just the pleasure of your company. I think they will want sex or they will look else where.
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