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*ngelbaby92
writes:Hi. Ok so I've been seeing this guy for a couple weeks now and I like him. So far he's been a really great guy. The only problem that we're having is he's extremely self conscious and has low self-esteem so he constantly doubts my motives. He says he really likes me and wants to be with me and I believe him. I know he's been hurt lots of times in the past so he just has a hard time. What can I do to make him more comfortable in the relationship and confident? I want him to be able to trust my feelings for him. Reply to this Question
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reader, angelbaby92 +, writes (10 November 2010):
angelbaby92 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys! your answers have been really helpful.
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reader, Myke +, writes (10 November 2010):
Women can provide confidence to men. Just do a few simple things. Make the first move a few times. Call him more often. Grab his hand to hold. Do a few unexpected nice things and before you know it, you've gotten inside of the walls he's built. Right now, he might not be sure he deserves you. Show him that you KNOW he does.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (10 November 2010):
 If only we could give other people confidence. Unfortunately it is something he will have to find for himself. What you can do is reassure him that you're being honest. Don't give him any reason not to trust you (i.e. don't lie to him). Don't rush. Compliment him. Communicate.
He has trust issues due to his past relationships. After only a couple of weeks the relationship is still very young. Be there for eachother. Show him with your actions that he's the guy you want to be with.
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reader, rubyrose  +, writes (10 November 2010):
i think the only thing you can do is give him some more time and show him that you're willing to wait for him to feel more comfortable...
(this coming from someone who has trust/confidence issues)
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