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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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" Even if he wants to get laid ... he wants a woman who looks like me ".
So ?... Is it a compliment ? Do you read this as very flattering ?..
First, it makes sense ... (read in full...)
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Suppose that he schedules taking you to the movies to see X film this Sunday afternoon.
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A. 4 July 2016: OP, you may want to try to be sensible, not just sensitive.
What is there to be confused about ?
It boils down to :
he was with R and cheating on R with you.
He is still with R.
He is engaged with R.
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It is true that when you stop taking Depo Provera, it may take up to one year for your mens... (read in full...)
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Dear Lord !
OP, I am afraid your powers of observation aren't the best ever.
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May I dare to say, to " better late than never " ?
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A. 4 July 2016: Look at the bright side, though. In this way, your screening process is simplified. Much clearer, shorter and easier.
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A. 3 July 2016: I ask because it may be relevant to your issue :
how come you are back to long distance now ? It was something inevitable, or his personal preference ?
Who visits whom and how often ? Is it always you going to him ? If so, why ?... (read in full...)
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Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 3 July 2016: I forgot to add:
well, isn't it intuitive why your bf is defensive about his daughter and protective of her comfy lifestyle ?...
Because he knows your kids have no choice. They are stuck, whether they like the home rules and regolati... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
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A. 3 July 2016: Oh I see.
The house is yours. He was renting - he gets laid off and apparently he is one who lives hand-to-mouth. Didn't have a little something put away for eveniences like that - or a support net of family and friends. If he loses his job,... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex boyfriend ? He still has his girlfriend and I broke up with my boyfriend, but he doesn't know that
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A. 2 July 2016: Should you talk to him about what ? His new girlfriend and how fun it is romancing and putting the moves on other girls , - say , a torch- carrying ex - behind her back ?
Let it go. Exes are exes for a reason , in general. And you are righ... (read in full...)
Does the evidence suggest that he's gay or transgender?
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A. 2 July 2016: He sounds just like your average metrosexual to me.
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Can you be over friendly with a work colleague?
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A. 2 July 2016: And all this happens AT WORK ?
Kisses on the neck, petting, hugging ? And you get paid for doing that on company time ?
Nice job if you cen get it. Where do you work ?... Maybe I can send my CV...
... (read in full...)
Should I say anything? If yes, then what can I say? I heard my Mom and her boyfriend having sex
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A. 2 July 2016: No don't say anything.
I assume that your Mom is being reasonably discreet and she is not always howling like a banshee.
You heard her because you were sick and got out of your bed at 2 am. An exceptional circumstance.
Parents need... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 23 year old guy not to want to talk or think about the future?
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A. 2 July 2016: You tell us :) . These things depend a lot from social and cultural expectations, so I don't know how it is in Australia.
In my neck of the woods- but more or less in all Europe too - yes, it's perfectly normal, the opposite would be unusual bord... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
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A. 2 July 2016: ... And you say you are marrying this guy ?...
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Another guy has spoilt our friendship
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This girl used to give you some attention, and now this... (read in full...)
Is this family weird?
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So it is a bit weird,- but in the sense of uncommon ,I think, not in the sense of morbid, creepy or incestuous.
The 17 y.o. in... (read in full...)
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She's moved on, so should I, but how?
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We broke up 2 weeks ago and I've heard nothing from him! Did he ever care? I'm confused and hurt!
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I think " on and off " is the key word here.
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How do I ask him to give things a proper go?
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A. 30 June 2016: - First of all I would suggest you to look at things with a little healthy skepticism. Not paranoia, but no rose tinted glasses either. You went on a date but then you did not date " because of work and stuff " ? Uhm...maybe.
I am a big prop... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend selfish ? He is happy to receive, but will not reciprocate following times when I pleasure him
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My gf won't be sexually intimate
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Should I pursue things further with him?
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Never mind. Regardless of his being single or not, his
" lost number and broke phone " sounds just lik... (read in full...)
Engaged to be married man after my friend at work. Is this now a competition?
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A. 30 June 2016: How is he walking all over you ?
It's not as if he is tryng to steal from you something that's yours.
You are her cowowrker, he is her coworker too. You like the girl, he ( maybe- we don't really know ) likes the girl too. May the best man win.... (read in full...)
I have fallen madly, hotly in love with my sister in law
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A. 30 June 2016: " My hard on self up " ?...
This post is so depressing that it must be a troll. In the sense not only that probably it is a troll, but that I dearly wish it's a troll. It's too sickening to think that there is actually a guy who, in a world of 7... (read in full...)
Engaged to be married man after my friend at work. Is this now a competition?
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A. 30 June 2016: Should you tell him to back off , ... in your quality of what ?!
Of guy who thinks maybe perhaps some day in future he MIGHT ask this girl out ?
Of colleague to whom the girl says " Hi " " Have a good day " see you tomorrow " same as she says... (read in full...)
Can't help feel offended by boyfriends comment. Advice please !
Q. Well my boyfriend was showing me this video the other day , the music video from fifth harmony called work. He said I look a bit like Camila cebelo , and I said thanks (she's really pretty if you guys have seen her!) anywaysyyyy he said to me that ...
A. 30 June 2016: Maybe do you have big insecurities about your hotness degree ,that make you give such a peculiar, twisted reading to what is so clearly a compliment ?
Frankly I am surprised that you may interpret it as an insult, because really what your bf s... (read in full...)
Based on my observations, does my crush have a boyfriend? Or am I getting it wrong?
Q. I am friends with a female who ive got a crush on at work. I really like her, and she is a kind and friendly person with a beautiful face. We talk now and then to each other and say the odd hello how are you, as we don't get a chance to talk muc...
A. 30 June 2016: Ah... just only one of those strange DC coincidences then. When two different people pop up in the same week with the same issue ( and the same way and words to describe it ).
The solution is simple then : ask her out .
If she says on ... (read in full...)
Based on my observations, does my crush have a boyfriend? Or am I getting it wrong?
Q. I am friends with a female who ive got a crush on at work. I really like her, and she is a kind and friendly person with a beautiful face. We talk now and then to each other and say the odd hello how are you, as we don't get a chance to talk muc...
A. 29 June 2016: If this is the same girl you asked out for coffeee and turned you down, you should not handle it at all, IMO.
If she does not want to date you what difference does it make what she does with whom in her free time ?
Anyway , it figures that she... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be feeling as I do? And despite years together, I am always anxious around my husband
Q. I am in my 40s and am married to a very good man. Kids are grown and out of the house. My husband was away for a month, as his parents recently passed away within 3 months of each other, and he closed business for a month to spend time with his sist...
A. 29 June 2016: I think it's normal for your particular type of marriage and of husband.
The main professional hazard in helping professions is "caregiver burn-out " : a state of mental, physical and emotional exhaustion that often may be accompanied by a chan... (read in full...)
Is he serious about our future?
Q. Hi all, I am in a long-distance relationship. I am from Italy, my partner is Spanish and has been living in Germany for over 15 years now. He was unemployed for ages but now has a good job, it is on a contract basis but they love him and have sai...
A. 23 June 2016: Then thanks God that he did not want to come to Italy ! No offence , but we have already enough loafers and benefits scroungers , real whizzes at working the system , both national and foreigners, without importing the German - based one. Let ... (read in full...)
Is he serious about our future?
Q. Hi all, I am in a long-distance relationship. I am from Italy, my partner is Spanish and has been living in Germany for over 15 years now. He was unemployed for ages but now has a good job, it is on a contract basis but they love him and have sai...
A. 23 June 2016: I must say that, being from Italy myself, I was a little perplexed reading your post.
Maybe yours is the more adventurous free - lance mentality. Or maybe , lucky you, you earn so well that you have a bit lost touch with the life of someone who'... (read in full...)
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