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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
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What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 30 August 2016: He's good ... he's bad... who cares. This is a naive, and pointless, way to consider things.
Most probably he is like every one of us, part good and part bad. A man can be a horrible husband, but a devoted son. Or a bad , uninvolved father, but ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 29 August 2016: At the end of the day, you cannot control other people's behaviour, only yours .
" He should not leave a door open for you to contact him, or invite contacts ?"- He should not , but he does. You are not his confessor or spiritual guide to chan... (read in full...)
I sent flowers to a girl at work and I didn't realise I had done so. Can the friendship be saved?
Q. I'm looking for some help and advice. I'm friends with a co worker at work who is a female, we agreed to just talk at the workplace instead of facebook as she says gets overwhelmed by receiving messages. I did something I'm not proud of and sent her ...
A. 25 August 2016: I thought I had explained it in my post ?, but maybe I was not clear enough, I 'll try again.
In the sense that who followed your posts can see that often you say that you did or wrote things " by accident ", " involuntarily " " I had not unde... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend taking advantage?
Q. Am I being taken advantage of?. My ex boyfriend started doing some painting in my apartment. He has done two days work so far. He doesn't decorate for a living. He just said he would help. He got in touch with me on facebook, after not contacting me ...
A. 24 August 2016: Really ? then, with all due respect, tell your mom that SHE can call him and sit on the couch next to him, and have him go all cozy and touchy- feely on her ! She can also have him bum her meals, and act entitled . Then, maybe she 'll see ... (read in full...)
I sent flowers to a girl at work and I didn't realise I had done so. Can the friendship be saved?
Q. I'm looking for some help and advice. I'm friends with a co worker at work who is a female, we agreed to just talk at the workplace instead of facebook as she says gets overwhelmed by receiving messages. I did something I'm not proud of and sent her ...
A. 24 August 2016: Anon female, I see perfectly where you are coming from, but I think the reason everybody is nicer to the OP than his behaviour would deserve, is that, from reading his numerous posts, and from the OP's own admission, it's rather evident that we ... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend taking advantage?
Q. Am I being taken advantage of?. My ex boyfriend started doing some painting in my apartment. He has done two days work so far. He doesn't decorate for a living. He just said he would help. He got in touch with me on facebook, after not contacting me ...
A. 24 August 2016: Just pay him off for the two days he's done, and send him on his merry way. ( Chances are that he is not doing a proper job anyway, if it's his first time ). I don't see what else you can do, since you don't want to pay him : you cannot force ... (read in full...)
I'm still blocked, does he still hate me?
Q. Hi - I had a bad fall out with a guy who I discovered was two timing me. He got annoyed because I found out a lot of things about him and made sure people knew about it and so understandably he blocked me! Two years later - I have moved on...
A. 24 August 2016: Life is not so " marmite " actually , so either /or. There are a lot of other things between hate and love ( or friendship ), for instance dislike ... or total indifference.
" Hate " is such a big word for such a " tempest in a teapot " dram... (read in full...)
Does this checkout operator have a crush on my BF?
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A. 23 August 2016: I guess you are right about Justin Bieber :) Thank God for small blessings : at least your boyfriend does not get women's panties thrown at him .
If I got it right, you exclude completely the possibility that your bf may have done or said some... (read in full...)
My boyfriend promised to go on a trip with my mother and I but spent the money on other things and said he couldn't go!
Q. My Bf of 3 years and I planned at trip with my mother. My mother lives overseas and while I was doing the application process to be able to bring her to America we planned to make a trip the 3 of us to welcome her. It was 6 months ago. The time ...
A. 23 August 2016: Pardon :I called him husband and I realize that instead he is your Bf of 3 years and you don't even live together. But that only reinfources my opinion. You can't really get mad at him if he is not interested in taking a family trip when it is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend promised to go on a trip with my mother and I but spent the money on other things and said he couldn't go!
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A. 23 August 2016: I'd handle it going to Vegas with my mom, and having the best, most fantastic, women -only time of our lives ! Oh come on- it will be a blast. I understand that you are disappointed, and also offended too, ( more about it in a sec ) , but in ... (read in full...)
"You're the kind of weird guys think is interesting." What?
Q. Okay so I'm just a lot to confused on what one of my friends meant by this. I was at one of my male friends house, and he prompted to call me weird. I responded telling I know this, its not anything new to me. He followed by saying "yes but, you're ...
A. 23 August 2016: He is right... it's not that difficult to figure out :)...
It's a compliment.
It means that, while there's something in you that makes you unusual, quirky, different from the average girl ( your looks, your attire, your demeanour, your interest... (read in full...)
Can family history spoil my recruitment chance?
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A. 22 August 2016: Thank you, male anon . Actually, I checked with my son, he is the expert :)
About 18 months ago ( pre Brexit ) he was considering moving to UK, and he was also looking, among a few options, into joining the UK police, as it is that rare dece... (read in full...)
Does this checkout operator have a crush on my BF?
Q. Recently I was standing in the local store with my boyfriend standing behind me,waiting to pay for our purchases separately! However the female assistant blushed when she realised she was going to see me through the checkout. She kept her composu...
A. 22 August 2016: ... Then now you know that when you see a check out counter girl blushing and acting weird, maybe you need to face backwards ..and catch your bf in the act of smiling to her, or winking, or checking out her boobs just from behind your back.
Just... (read in full...)
My long-lost love has contacted me after 40 years but I'm in a relationship and he's married
Q. A love from 40 years ago contacted me on my birthday via e-mail. We have been sending e mails back and forth for a week. Now I am dying to call him but I am afraid because I am with a relationship. He is married. We went separate ways because ...
A. 22 August 2016: Stop the communication. It is flattering to hear that you have been missed and remembered for all these years ( supposing it's true, - which is not a given.... ) but, mother or no mother, whether he likes his wife or not, he is still married and ... (read in full...)
I feel awkward about my crush. She's 16 and she's the niece of my mother's boyfriend. What should I do?
Q. Hi hopefully someone can offer me advice on an issue that is playing on my mind, I'm a 27 years old and male. So down to the problem, I am starting to become infatuated with my mum's boyfriend's niece. I never really noticed her before but she ...
A. 22 August 2016: She just turned sixteen... and you are 27 ? Urgh.
Yes, I know , in UK the age of sexual consent is 16 ,- whatever. The " eeeewww " factor is very high. I don't think this girl's dad, or his uncle ( your mom 's bf ) would feel very positive abou... (read in full...)
Was my Bf being insensitive for not texting me all day? Or am I expecting too much ?
Q. I need some objective advice. I am too close to the situation and too emotional I think. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years. Yesterday, he had family over for the day and did not contact me at all. I texted him at th...
A. 22 August 2016: I vote for big overreaction too.
I do not quite agree with llifton, I think that it's more about personality than about age.
Sure, it is certainly true that we " oldies but goldies " Aunts cannot relate much to texting dilemmas because ... (read in full...)
I've tried medication and therapy and yet still I feel alone and miserable. How can I overcome these feelings?
Q. I used to be a go-er. A girl on the move I used to go out and party or be around fake friends 4 out of 7 days a week. I used to be a people pleaser and chase men relentlessly to fill the loneliness. I most recently I got so tired of getting ...
A. 21 August 2016: I have seen other posts from you and they were very recent. I get the feeling that you have misconceptions about how therapy and meds work and what to expect from them.
They aren't a magic wand, you wave it a couple of times,and, voila', you feel... (read in full...)
When my boyfriend doesn't get what he wants, he becomes verbally aggressive. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi all So my boyfriend of 3 years really confuses me and upsets me at sometimes the most smallest things. He's working this Saturday and I am not. After work on Friday he asked " can I take your laptop at wok tomorrow so I can watch the foot...
A. 21 August 2016: You want advice about how to handle his behaviour, but tbh I don't understand why you'd want to handle it to begin with !
Of course it's wearing you down. 3 years like this, and you are still hanging on there ? you are very devoted- and very resi... (read in full...)
Accidently ccontacted an ex' - now he won't leave me alone
Q. I was bored upon a day, and this boredom spilled over to the next few days. So I checked my contact list on watsapp and began messaging friends I don't talk to anymore, then I messaged one of my ex boyfriends(one who disrespected me and still owes ...
A. 20 August 2016: Call me crazy but I always say that half of the mischiefs people get themselves into, could be avoided if they just would READ. Read books, good , entertaining, riveting books. :)
Pick up " Anna Karenina "- it's absolutely gripping and it's abou... (read in full...)
Can family history spoil my recruitment chance?
Q. I don't know if a question like this is allowed here, Ever since I was young I have wanted a career in the police force, I applied and then they gave me an interview, I had to answer scenario questions and my skills etc, I have recently been ...
A. 20 August 2016: Male anon : so , do you think that the background will be just personal , about the applicant ?
Sorry, that's incorrect. They'll turn inside out like a sock all the family . Police recruitment is regulated by something called NPIA ( Nati... (read in full...)
My first love and I have reconnected after 30 years
Q. I linked with my ex over a year ago, my first love. We have know each other for 30 years. I have a family. He is single with no ties. We have been on dates and slept together a few times but kept it light. It was his birthday a few weeks ago...
A. 20 August 2016: Probably he won't see you on weekends because he is spending them with Ms. Vamps. Or her equivalent.
Sorry but this is so dead in the water, and from what you wrote you realized too- it just has not quite registered yet ?
I mean, if you want... (read in full...)
Is it really over or could there be another reason for his reluctance to reply to my last question following our break-up?
Q. Premise: It was a whirlwind romance that started out as an innocent friendship ended with a declaration of "I like you" and talks about what it would be like to be married and plans of a future together, but due to current circumstances we had to ...
A. 20 August 2016: You are telling yourself it's over... but you are not listening to yourself.
Otherwise you would not even have sent him that message. You broke up, you choose, or were forced to, terminate your relationship. "Circumstances " would not allow to c... (read in full...)
Can family history spoil my recruitment chance?
Q. I don't know if a question like this is allowed here, Ever since I was young I have wanted a career in the police force, I applied and then they gave me an interview, I had to answer scenario questions and my skills etc, I have recently been ...
A. 20 August 2016: Yes it could. It depends from the specic police force you apply, and ... how many applications they have atm.
If it were you, you would be already disqualified because they want you clean , ( at least in the last 5 years ) not only from conv... (read in full...)
My Bf's cousin died recently, in a car accident. Now he's acting all weird. What did I do wrong?
Q. I have been dating my bf for the past 3 1/2 months and I love him so much and he loves me. but recently he lost his cousin in a car accident. He was acting fine all day yesterday and then my friend called me. He is gay and he lives across the coun...
A. 19 August 2016: " If you hurt her I hurt you " ? WTF ? I thought this was some silly movie cliche', I'd never thought anybody would use it IRL ( unless they are in the Mafia of course ): Also because threatening people of causing them bodily harm is a crime- your ... (read in full...)
How to handle husband who ignores me to chat up other females
Q. My husband got this bad habit even before we were married. He's playful around women especially the ones he knew. Whenever he saw any female he knew he talked with them making them laugh he completely forgot I'm standing next to him. One time I...
A. 19 August 2016: But he is not supposed to stand next to you- at least if there's a lot of people. Have you ever noticed how at formal dinners ( by which, I don't mean a dinner at Buckingham Palace !, just a wedding or christening or birthday party- anything ... (read in full...)
Am I despicable for wanting to change my name? How to handle my family's potential response?
Q. I have a dilema. I feel like I have to choose between hurting my family and being miserable for the rest of my life. That's what it comes down to. I feel like I was born with the wrong name. There are people who are born the wrong gender, an...
A. 19 August 2016: I have noticed too that this is one of that curious DC "coincidences". There's a recent post, dated 11/ 7 / 2016, and linked here by SVC, which tells the same story, with the same name change issue, the same details
( Italian / French desc... (read in full...)
She says my gift of flowers was inappropriate. What does she mean by this?
Q. I am a lesbian and I recently gave flowers to a girl. I haven't seen her since March and is now August so it's been a few months since I saw her last. When I gave her the flowers she said that I've been acting inappropriate and that the flowers ...
A. 19 August 2016: Flowers are generally a romantic gesture. Of course one can also give flowers to moms, sisters, sprecial friends etc. if there's a close bond... and if it is known that they love flowers.
Other than that you give flowers to somebody it... (read in full...)
I can't think of any solutions to get him to move out. Help?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend moved in with me 8 months ago as he was retrenched. Fortunately he now has a new job but the spell of unemployment hit him hard financially and he is still struggling to make ends meet. He also has a child with ex girlfriend. Our ...
A. 18 August 2016: I think too that male anon's post was meant as a reply to some other question, but since I happen to read it, and since we are at it.... strange way of reasoning, male anon.
- Why avoiding unwanted pregnancies should only be the man's resp... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 18 August 2016: No no. Unluckily, his behaviour is telling you the opposite- it's screaming " Hey don't get any ideas ". The physical attraction obviously is still there ( it figures ; your looks won't have drastically changed in one month , it is not strange ... (read in full...)
Sure ''anything'' could happen. But is he being genuine ? Are his words genuine? Or is he giving me false hope?
Q. My ex and I broke up a few months ago when he told me he didnt know if he loved me anymore. Things are amicable so we're remaining friends. However, whenever i bring up my feelings for him and the relationship, he tells me "anything can ha...
A. 16 August 2016: In your original post, you say " whenever I bring up my feelings for him and the relationship " (... that's when he gives you the evasive non -committal platitide that you have chosen to take for " hope ").
Then in your update you say that you ... (read in full...)
I regret my hasty words
Q. To make a long story short a little while ago I told a really good friend of mine that I liked her as more than a friend and she ended up telling me that she didn't feel the same way which I tried to be ok with. It all eventually came crashing down. ...
A. 16 August 2016: She blocked you on Facebook, which I guess it means she does not want to talk to you and desires no further contact- so how would you go about expressing her your regrets face to face ?... Would you follow her home, or do anything similarly creepy ... (read in full...)
Should I confess my feelings to him? I'm trying to avoid ''what if?'' regrets.
Q. Hi all Should I confess my feelings to this friend of mine ? I don't know if he knows it or not but I have strong feelings for a friend. We used to flirt and hooked up once but I don't think he feels the same way. Even if he does, he won't eve...
A. 16 August 2016: No, don't say anything, you'd just embarass yourself and him.
I agree with WiseOwlE, he may be shy and introverted but obviously he was not so terribly shy and introverted when it was time to get himself some. If he can overcome his shyness to s... (read in full...)
Sure ''anything'' could happen. But is he being genuine ? Are his words genuine? Or is he giving me false hope?
Q. My ex and I broke up a few months ago when he told me he didnt know if he loved me anymore. Things are amicable so we're remaining friends. However, whenever i bring up my feelings for him and the relationship, he tells me "anything can ha...
A. 16 August 2016: You are leading yourself on. You kind of made him promise that you were going to stay friends ( although , as other Aunts have remarked , when there 's unrequited love , then is anything but real, honest, platonic friendship ) and he is kind of ... (read in full...)
Will quitting my retail job after 11 months look really bad?
Q. Hi there, I am 22 years old. From 17 to 21 i worked at the body shop as a sales consultant however was made redundant there as i could not do the hours they wanted me too as I had stressful universtiy work. Anyway, I moved to Manchester last ...
A. 15 August 2016: I am going to give you a different advice from the other posters because I remember your previous post with a bit of background.
As a matter of fact, do ask for a week of unpaid leave- it can't hurt.
But if you do not get it- don't leave yo... (read in full...)
I don't want a gf but I don't want her to be with anyone else. what should I do?
Q. Sooo about 6 months I got a new roommate who happens to be a female. We became roommates after meeting once for about 10 minutes. We hit it off eight away as we are both direct and have weird personal issues that almost identical in how we handl...
A. 11 August 2016: Ah ok, OP- then tell it like it is , you don't need to act " cool " and smooth to a bunch of anonymous strangers like us :)- bottom line is, that you WOULD have a real relationship with her in a heartbeat,... if only she'd take you- you are just ... (read in full...)
Why do some girls go down market on social media?
Q. I know for guys these pictures can be nice eye candy. As a girl I can acknowledge if they have a nice body, but sometimes it seems a little distasteful. I'm talking about pictures with obvious cleavage, lingerie, side boob or whatever else. I feel ...
A. 10 August 2016: Maybe they do not share your definition of what is or is not classy. Or, they do not give to being classy and showing class the same value and importance you do.
Maybe for you, OP, the best compliment would be being told " My, what a prop... (read in full...)
I don't want a gf but I don't want her to be with anyone else. what should I do?
Q. Sooo about 6 months I got a new roommate who happens to be a female. We became roommates after meeting once for about 10 minutes. We hit it off eight away as we are both direct and have weird personal issues that almost identical in how we handl...
A. 10 August 2016: You realize that you have a bad case of- dog- in - the- mager- syndrome, and you get a grip. You make peace with your brain and you decide what you want.
- Either you choose to still not be in a relationship, even given the choice,- in which case... (read in full...)
After I move should I continue the relationship as a LDR, hoping she understands? Or break up?
Q. This might seem a little dumb, but I just feel like I'm not getting the attention that I really want from my significant other as of late. I always try and send her a "Good Morning" text, and all I'm really looking for is a little reciproc...
A. 10 August 2016: So you want to break up over a missed good morning text ?...
If you are even considering that, yes, I don't think your relationship will stand the text of distance .
Do YOU understands where she comes from ?... You are unemployed, bored, t... (read in full...)
I’m feeling guilty for not throwing my baby a party for her first birthday!
Q. Has anyone here held off the idea of throwing a 1yr old birthday party for tgeir baby? My baby turns 1 next month. Myself and dad mostly dad planned to not throw her a party. For some reason i have started to feel really bad. I feel like i was ...
A. 2 August 2016: Ok, I realize that I am a minority of one here, but tbh I agree with your husband. I find the idea of throwing a party for an 1 y.o. baby... downright bizarre. The birthday girl won't know, won't understand, won't appreciate- probably in fact she ... (read in full...)
Why do so many men believe they have a right to sex without a condom?
Q. I'm sorry if this comes across as a rant but I'm really annoyed at the moment and looking to hear opinions around whether I've been unlucky or if what I'm experiencing is the norm. Why do the men I meet seem to think it's their right to get to ...
A. 1 August 2016: Yes, not all men are like those you met, you just have got some bad luck from this point of view. I have never met in my whole life anybody who'd throw so many tantrums about condoms; then again, it's also true that in my case there was no need ... (read in full...)
Social media signs are worrying me
Q. I'm friends with a female at work and was on Facebook, but she deleted me from her list of friends due to a misunderstanding, which has since been sorted out. She said she would put me back on her list of friends on Facebook but nothing has ...
A. 31 July 2016: Yes, she has excluded you at least from being Facebook friends.
Start taking note of what people do, not of what they say.
Not because all people are liars, deceivers, and flaky. Some may be, of course, but most people just feel that being br... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 31 July 2016: Nonestly, I have my doubts too. Your bf sounds like the kind of guy who knows very well which way his bread is buttered, so I suspect that his sudden willingness to compromise is only a ruse to buy himself some time, and ensconce Princess ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that I don't want my boyfriend to go drinking with his female colleagues?
Q. Hey guys :) so I've boyfriend for 6 years now, we are usually very happy, and we've been living together for 1 year. Neither of us go out drinking a lot (we are both very homely). Well recently boyfriend started a new office job, and his team has...
A. 31 July 2016: Maybe you are homely, and he , not as much - perhaps he made do with a lot of homely nights for lack of a better alternative, or to keep the peace at home, but after 6 years of ininterrupted domestic bliss... OMG, It would make ME wanting to go ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 29 July 2016: OK, now let's take this one step further, Now what ? What happens ?
I mean, suppose that instead he actually weren't interested anymore and had moved on. Why would you have to be shocked ? You left him, OP. You said : game over.
When a person d... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 29 July 2016: I am totally with Tisha-1. If he leaves ( yeah right- you wish.Jobless, broke, with an appendage of animals who need to be looked after and spoiled teen daughter : who would take him in for free, like you ?.... ) I'd bring out the champagne and ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 28 July 2016: Ah , OP- again , that's you :). There are a lot of people who embrace the opposite school of thought to yours, i.e. if they aren't over someone, they try to stay clear of him / her. Either because it hurts being around someone you can't have , ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 26 July 2016: Yes, but you are you , and he is another person. Not necessarily you and he will have the same reactions and behaviours in a given situation.
It's not such a bad idea, you know ? , to let him carry on your interactions at a pace and in a way ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: My guess ( just a guess, because neither I nor the other Aunts can read this guy's mind and know his thoughts ) is that the difference between his friendly phone call as opposed to standoffish behaviour in person is because one thing is doing ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 4 July 2016: Well said, Honeypie :
Dear Lord !
OP, I am afraid your powers of observation aren't the best ever.
Haven't you noticed how your bf is so big on teaching responsibility to your kids- but failed to teach himself responsibility- as in being res... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 3 July 2016: I forgot to add:
well, isn't it intuitive why your bf is defensive about his daughter and protective of her comfy lifestyle ?...
Because he knows your kids have no choice. They are stuck, whether they like the home rules and regolati... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 3 July 2016: Oh I see.
The house is yours. He was renting - he gets laid off and apparently he is one who lives hand-to-mouth. Didn't have a little something put away for eveniences like that - or a support net of family and friends. If he loses his job,... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 2 July 2016: ... And you say you are marrying this guy ?...
Pardon my harshness, but apparently it all boils down to this - just for the sake of conquering the oh-so- all- important and coveted status of wife, you are allowing your two young kids to be boss... (read in full...)
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