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writes:I have built a rapport with my co worker and I fell for my co worker but we work in different departments.We have little to no work related interactions.He's always friendly and was giving off subtle signs of interest. However, 1 month ago I decided to give him my number and told him to text sometime.I'm leaving the company in few months so I figured out that i have nothing to lose.He smiled and said sure...then when I ran into him the next day he gave me some bs excuse about how he broke his phone and lost my number. He didn't ask for my number again so it was clearly polite brush off. I searched him on face book and even though he's status is set to single,he has several pics with another female.It looks like they're an item but it's hard to tell In any event,other than saying hi ,there hasn't been much interactions at work and there have certainly been zero reference about me giving him my number.Neither of us brought it up.However,few days ago I noticed that his position was posted so I asked the pay roll staff out of curiosity.It turns out that he resigned and this week is his last week.I have to admit that i'm little bummed out and I'm going to miss seeing him around.I still like him as a person. Should I bring to his attention that I found out he is leaving and wish him well?Or should I just pretend that i'm unware of it?
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reader, Barnes66 +, writes (5 July 2016):
Barnes66 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I already blocked him on Facebook so I won't be tempted to look him up again. Furthermore, I was already planning to leave the company in few months because I hate my job...he was one of the bright spots that motivated me togo to work. I wouldn't have made a move on him if I was planning to stay with the company long-term
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 July 2016):
 You will look back some day and be glad he moved from this job just so that you have a chance to move on from him. It is okay to wish him well, but don't try and give your number again. I think you need to accept that he is not interested, stop looking at his social media.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 July 2016):
 It depends what you are aiming at .
If this is some sort of masterplan to give him another chance to take an interest in you, I am afraid it will fail. He just gave you a polite but unequivocable brush off, he just showed himself standoffish when you last met, and his Facebook would suggest that he's got his gands quite full atm.
You'd tell him " hey, I heard you are leaving , good luck with your new job ! "- and he would answer " Oh thank you ".
If you just feel like doing it because you are a warm ,kind, friendly persons who likes wishing people well- there's never anything remotely wrong with that .
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (5 July 2016):
 From reading your posts, you're kind of a little hung up on him, so I think the separation will be very helpful for you moving on.
I also agree with Honeypie that there's not much point saying anything, but keep it plain and don't invest yourself in it. Literally just "I heard you were getting a new job - good luck", smile and walk away. Nothing more, anything less.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 July 2016):
OK, so you like him... He wasn't interested in you in that way - so really what do you hope to gain by wishing well or what not? Just to be nice? Or maybe to give him another chance to get your number?
You could, if you run into him tell him: "I heard you are leaving, good luck in your new job". I think that is fine as long as you don't have any expectations of reciprocity.
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