A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am friends with a female who ive got a crush on at work. I really like her, and she is a kind and friendly person with a beautiful face.We talk now and then to each other and say the odd hello how are you, as we don't get a chance to talk much at work with a lot going on.Today I noticed she was leaving work with a guy to go to the theatre and she said bye, missing you already to me and I'm a littlle kind of confused.Because he has already got a partner on facebook and these don't include the crush who I like but somebody else.Are they going out or is my mind playing tricks on me?I want to ask her if she's single or not but don't want her to feel as though I'm prying into her personal business.It says she is single on her facebook.How should I handle this?Help
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 Ah... just only one of those strange DC coincidences then. When two different people pop up in the same week with the same issue ( and the same way and words to describe it ).
The solution is simple then : ask her out .
If she says on Facebook that she is single , you should assume she is single and act as if she were single.
Not because people always say the perfect truth on everything on Facebook,but because if she choose to write " single ", clearly that's how she wants to portray herself to the eyes of the world and such she wants to be considered for all intents and purposes .
If by when you ask her out, she has just started seeing someone else- it makes sense she'll tell you : sorry, I have just started seeeing someone else.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 June 2016):
 Well just because she left work with some guy does not mean that she is dating him, you have checked out his and her social media to check statuses and also to look up his partner. This to me is quite extreme behavior. You should just ask her out if you want to, or ask her if she is single, don't try and play the detective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2016): I'm a different poster and not the same person your thinking of.
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female
reader, CindyCares +, writes (29 June 2016):
If this is the same girl you asked out for coffeee and turned you down, you should not handle it at all, IMO.
If she does not want to date you what difference does it make what she does with whom in her free time ?
Anyway , it figures that she says she's single in her Facebook status.
She may be single and have gone out with this colleague innocently, as friends . For all you know, maybe they were going to join a group of people to go and see this show with.
Or, he/she / both may have in mind something more and be up to some mischief, but if he is in a relationship, she would not change her Fb status, would she ? I doubt she would write : going out with someone else's Bf and helping him to cheat.
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