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I have fallen madly, hotly in love with my sister in law

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Question - (30 June 2016) 8 Answers - (Newest, 30 June 2016)
A male United States age , *allen for my sister-in-law writes:

I have completely fell for my sister-in-law , she even told her cousin I have the major hots for her and word for word her cousin came and told me , my brother has not done anything with her sense October last year and she is so grandly hot and it makes me want to take her anywhere of her choice to just let nature go at both of us , in fact she knows it makes me go silly when she walks back and forth in front of me all day long at times I have to get away from her cause it makes me want to just tell her she is so beautiful anything she wears and to prove this her cousin came to stay for a few months and when summer came around my sis in law at the house has a pool in back here both were in bathing suits but her cousin seen my eyes were on my in law , she went back in house and as she did told me she needed me so this is when I was told my sister-in-law had told her I told her how hot she is to me, and I will say she has 4 kids and not one strech mark at all , now days I've been here going on 5 years now and would want to do anything for her with that even kiss and suck every one of her toes for her to please her wildly enough to make her just say oh my goodness I can't take it no more , and have her sultry voice tell me there is more to please than her toes , she turns even women's heads every where she and I go and people always ask her if she and I are together and I'm beginning to wonder what she thinks at night in bed knowing I undress her everyday with my eyes and she knows all very much in her how I feel about her and she even keeps telling me that if she was to kick my brother out to please stay with her , I know I got a problem and even left for almost 6 months and needed a ride when I got back in town and she was the one who came to pick my hard on self up , she told me stop letting some other lady stop playing games with me 3 times now and did it again yesterday , as well as had to remind me she is still waiting for my brother to have sex still , she keeps bringing it to me but I want her on that silver plater where she belongs in my eyes , she is so hotly unbelievable and also tells me in front of her friends that she loves me , and I wish her cousin would come back over and just tell her in front of me to stop waiting and she and I go some place and flat out right show each other what we both really want and go crazy showing the love we have for real to each other. Has this happened to anybody but me???

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A male reader, Garbo United States +, writes (30 June 2016):

Garbo agony auntCertain things in life are off limits. You may wish that they are not but fact of the matter is that they are off limits. So come to grips that you can't have her. You can fantasize all you want but reality is otherwise. Nor is it a wise idea to pollute your relationship with your brother over her tease. At your age, you should know when a woman is after attention, you should know your boundaries and live by them.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2016):

Tell her to divorce your brother first. And be single for at least a year before entering another relationship with you or somebody else.

If you would be the (un)lucky recipient of this "prize", then be prepared to kiss your relationship with your brother good bye.

You are already in that boat now anyway.

Be prepared to kiss your relationship with your sister-in-law good bye. Trust me, even if you did the nasty with her on the sly while she is married to your brother, she is going to quickly regret it and feel guilty and trashy and call it quits. She will realize that she made a mistake. It was/is a BAD idea and it cannot be sustained for very long before this ill conceived house of cards comes crashing down and the affair becomes known to your family and friends. Doubt she wants to bear the brunt of ALL the consequences of the fall out, including the irreversible damage to her reputation. And you will be left behind feeling like a fool.

If found out, you will cause major rifts in your family. These relationships will forever change and never recover. And you will lose people from your life.

You are just in LUST with her. When is the last time you got laid? Do you have a LIFE? Looks like it's time for you to get out there and live it! REDIRECT. And stop obsessing with a woman who is married to your OWN BROTHER! A woman who is OFF LIMITS to YOU! Now, fantasize all you want. Go to town. In your dreams, f*ck her in every place on earth, every imaginable situation. Then take matters into your OWN HANDS and RELEASE IT! Then move on. Trust me, reality won't be the same.

She is TEASING YOU! She LOVES the EGO BOOST you give her. She is NOT serious about you! Women love attention and men who salivate over them. You are giving her power. And she is taking it. My sister flirts with her brother-in-law all the time. I see it at every party. BUT she LOVES her HUSBAND. And it is HARMLESS, SILLY FUN. ALL WORDS. I have even flirted with the guy and said some pretty sexual stuff and think he is damn UGLY! And so does my sister for that matter! It is just fun to flirt. That is all it is. I have a boyfriend and he satisfies my every sexual desire and fantasy.

Plus, it is none of your business, your brother's sex life or the last time he slept with HIS WIFE. Who cares? That is between THEM. It is not your JOB or PLACE or RIGHT to step in and satisfy her if he is not having sex with her. Even if it is her choice! Let them deal with their issues as HUSBAND and WIFE without you putting yourself in the middle! YOU DON'T BELONG THERE!

I cannot believe you are even entertaining these ridiculous thoughts! Keep them in your head. Don't make them reality because you are going to regret it in every way. Trust me on that.

I suggest you limit your contact with her, if not sever it. At least until you can get your act together. Get yourself on dating websites, even if they are casual encounters. Go out and have sex with some women. Get that lust out of your head. The little head down below which is NOT THINKING is going to ruin you.

YOU MEN need to STOP thinking with your d*cks! I cannot believe how many of you have regretted your decisions AFTER you do something very stupid! Well, here I am warning you to THINK! You are still in time to do the right thing. To stop this nonsense. To redirect your thinking and get away from her. She is all the drinks you are going to OD on as an alcoholic. You keep going back for more. Like an addict. Break the cycle. Distance yourself. Make yourself busy. Have excuses not to be around. You are stronger than this. Seriously! HOW OLD ARE YOU? You are supposedly a mature man! Stop acting like a delusional, horny teenager! That is disgusting! Have you no shame?

I am being blunt here because YOU NEED A HUGE DOSE OF REALITY, Mister!

We all lust people from time to time. It does not mean we go around banging them all. Can't always get what you want. Need to put on your big boy pants and tell yourself, NO, you cannot do this. She is NOT for you. Yeah, she is attractive but you cannot go there. CONTROL YOURSELF! Are MEN ABLE TO DO THAT? YES THEY ARE!!!

THINK LOGICALLY.

None of this makes sense.

None of this is a good idea.

You are playing with fire.

You are going to burn the whole house down.

The pain this will cause a lot of people unfortunately is an AFTER THOUGHT.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (30 June 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntFirst of all, she's off-limits and, like Cindy, I truly hope this is fake, so I'll give you two answers:

1) if this is fake - get yourself into a *very* amateur erotic writing class to journal your fantasies and keep it off of this site

2) if it's real - move out. To another state. At least 4 hours away. Don't visit more than once a year. Act like an adult and get a/another job. Fill your time with things to keep you busy enough to gradually forget about her. Reassess the creepy parts of your personality (like allowing yourself to lust after your *sister*-in-law; it's *not* love), so that you could eventually find someone *available* to be with.

*If* this is true, why do you live there? Do you not care about your brother or your nieces/nephews? Do you have a job?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (30 June 2016):

CindyCares agony aunt " My hard on self up " ?...

This post is so depressing that it must be a troll. In the sense not only that probably it is a troll, but that I dearly wish it's a troll. It's too sickening to think that there is actually a guy who, in a world of 7 billions inhabitants , when he just HAS to royally screw somebody over , needs to choose among them his own brother, his blood and flesh. Someone who, feeling himself falling in lust with his brother's wife , does not ask " what can I do to remove myself from this messy situation and avoid wrecking my brother's marriage and life ", but " what can I do to get my SIL let me suck her toes ".

What else are we supposed to say , but : EEEEEWWWW ?

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (30 June 2016):

Ivyblue agony auntwritings pretty much on the wall. Perhaps the thought of you being responsible for all the pain, heartache and shame will be enough to come to your moral senses before the ink dries. So what if their sex life has hit a lull, for whatever reason that THIER problem and you are not her solution.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (30 June 2016):

Aunty BimBim agony auntTo be blunt, your sister in law is a cock tease. To be blunt again, for a man to be living in his brother's house and thinking of having sex with the sister in law is a low act.

Get your arse out of that house, go find your own home, quit thinking of taking your brother's place, in his house and in his bed, maybe if his wife fluttered her eyelashes at him and used her sultry voice he might be interested.

What you are feeling is not love, its lust, and she knows it.

You say she has four kids, if you and she care a jot for their welfare you will not act upon your urges. The fallout from you screwing your brother's wife in his house will be enormous, because he WILL find out, sooner or later, his wife seems the type to throw it in his face!

The pair of you lack morals, you should get out of that house before those kids notice what's going on between their mother and their uncle.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2016):

She is your brothers wife,that means she is not meant to be for you.If your brother doesnt love her and is neglecting her let somebody else fill the gap for her not you.In my opinion the only way out for you is to move out to a place very far from them,like to another state or country and never come back till they solve the problems between them.There are plenty other women out there for you.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2016):

Man! you have no loyalty to your brother. So sad that you are selfish enough to let a "hard on" over look the blood tie between you and your brother. Personally I would die before I betrayed my brothers, don't care if you offer me this world and everything in it let alone some chick who is "hot".

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