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writes:I am 16 and my boyfriend is 19 and he lives with his parents and brother. His brother is 17. His Dad is away on business a lot and so his Mum spends time on her own. My boyfriend told me yesterday that his brother slept in the same bed as his Mum the previous night while his Dad was away because 'she didn't like being alone in the bed'. I felt really weird about it. I don't really understand why she would ask him to sleep in the same bed. I don't think anything would have happened but is this ok? She is quite a sweet Mum and gives her boys lots of hugs, strokes and stuff. I think they are quite an open family and his Mum often walks around in her underwear so is comfortable to do that. They also go into the bathroom when each other are naked or washing or drying but even so I am really confused please help it just seemed weird but maybe I imagine it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2016): Yes weird but not unheard of.I mean it is common to see a boy to put his head on moms shoulder and sleep on a long train journey.here they are taking it further by sharing a bed. But what is worrying here is her unscruplusness and supposing she catches him while in bed that he has an errection.For goodness sake a 17 yr lad can have an errection for absolutly bo reason. will stop touching him? that is the scarey part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2016): There is going to
be lots of therapy in the future for your boyfriend and his brother
Are you ready to be a part of that?So not normal
Run while you can
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 July 2016):
 There could be a reason why she does not like being on her own, and well even though he is 17 he is still probably like a little boy to her, I really see no harm in them sharing a bed. If it was her daughter would you have even batted an eyelid? The thing is all families are different, but we should not be so ready to judge others, all families do things that others find weird on embarrassing, its just the way off the world.
As for walking around in her underwear, well sure if you are at a beach you see women in bikinis what is the difference? I say fair play to her for being comfortable in her own home and in her own body. Again if they share one bathroom sometimes these situations cannot be helped. I think you just need to accept that it is normal for them.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 July 2016):
 It is certainly unusual, and it would be even in my country, who's notorious for its tactile, touchy-feely Moms :).
So it is a bit weird,- but in the sense of uncommon ,I think, not in the sense of morbid, creepy or incestuous.
The 17 y.o. in Mom's bed for company. - well, I confess that I find it sort of sweet , even if personally it would not come natural to me.
And going around in my underwear... this is something I never do even when I am home alone ,lol !
But, other people are more casual about nudity , or physical boundaries, or privacy . It 's just habits, it does not have to mean anything really " weird ".
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (1 July 2016):
 I don't think it's major, but my future family won't be like that (because I'd find it uncomfortable/inappropriate) and I wouldn't act that way in front of my in-laws, even if they did.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 July 2016):
 Different folks, different strokes.
I have a friend who once dated a guy who's whole family were all nudists, grandparents AND the parents.. I shudder to think of family reunions...
A 17 year old sleeping in his mom's bed while dad is away I find odd to be honest, it sounds a little like he has been and still is being babied.
The mom walking around in her undies? Eh... little cringe worthy to me, but her house, her body.
Going in and out of the bathroom while each other are naked, again... little odd, but my guess is... with one bathroom they just do what works for them. I bet they have a shower curtain so whomever is washing has his/her privacy.
I really don't think it's a big deal.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (1 July 2016):
 I can understand sleeping in the same bed as mum if she felt uncomfortable alone but mum walking around in her underwear and them seeing each other naked... No no no! That to me is unacceptable! That is certainly not normal.
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