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writes:I have been interested in guy who works the next building from mine.He's always friendly and was giving off subtle signs of interest. I finally gave him my number and told him to call/text sometime.He said sure.Then I ran into him the next day and he said "not only did I lost your number but I broke my phone at soccer".Yet he didn't ask for my number again but then it could be because he had to attend to a client.However,i was away for 2 weeks so today I finally ran into he smiled and seemed happy to see me.But then I was busy with client.At first I thought he was trying to brush me off but I really like this guy.should I confess my feelings? Reply to this Question
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reader, Keeley345  +, writes (1 July 2016):
Don't confess anything, he's had his chance. You gave him your number and he didn't phone. He also didn't ask for it again after claiming his phone broke etc that is a negative sign.
I've learnt that guys like to chase girls. Doesn't matter whether they're young or old. If they see someone they like they'll pursue her. Even the shy guys will make an attempt. He may be enjoying the attention from you but wants nothing more. I used to chase guys I liked in my teens and 20's and gave them my number, got excuses back, asked them out, more excuses blah blah. I felt let down and looking back now, I feel embarrassed.
Now in my 30's I wait for them to come to me. And they do. I know im a catch...lol Its all about feeling self confidence. If a guy likes you, you'll know it. He too will want to act on it. If he doesn't, its his great loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys....I guess you're right. I ran into him today and he seemed distant and uncomfortable. And neither of us brought it up.Well I guess it's time to move on
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 OP you gave him your number. The balls was in his court and he dropped it, never picked it back up.
He COULD have asked you for the number again when he told you that he not only lost your number but broke his phone, but he CHOSE not to.
He KNOWS where you work. You could find HIM on FB, so IF he was REALLY interested I BET YOU, he could find you.
JUST because you are interested in a guy, doesn't mean HE feels the same way. Can be the guy at work is just being friendly and polite when he sees you.
Let us try and put the "shoe on the other foot here a moment". Let's say there an (imaginary) guy a work a couple of building over, you are not interested in friendship or anything romantic with him, but you are a friendly and polite person so you smile and chit-chat when you run into him. Then he gives you his number. You didn't WANT his number and you don't really want to call or text him. So what would you do? You would probably "lose" his number or "forget" you got it.... And if he bring it up or you run into him you will make up some semi-bogus excuse as to why you haven't called and texted...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 From reading your update I still think you should let him make a move, you made the first move and he said he lost your number and has not asked for it again. If a girl approach's and asks for your number well it is clear that she likes you. I honestly think if you approach him again it will look desperate. Off course the choice is yours, good luck
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (30 June 2016):
From reading your previous posts if this guy has a girlfriend then you need to learn that he is off limits and leave him alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell initially I thought he has a gf because they're pics of him with another girl on his fb but it turned out he's actually single.
Also i just gave him my number and told him to text sometime..I didn't tell him that I like him or anything. Does giving a guy your number automatically mean I'm interested romantically? I didn't think it was too forward
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 June 2016):
 Oh i think h knows your feelings. he's not interested.
YOU say "I really like this guy"
can you tell me what about this guy you really like?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (30 June 2016):
 You don't like him because you like your fantasy idea of him. Sorry, OP, but it's *highly* unlikely he lost your number *and* broke his phone; he's just not interested. Time to let go and move on to someone who is into you :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 I thought you had said in a previous post that you found out he does have a Gf, - so you wondered why then he had taken your number ?...
Never mind. Regardless of his being single or not, his
" lost number and broke phone " sounds just like a diplomatic brush off. You can't assume a change of heart just based upon a smile. People also smile because they are polite , or because they are easy smilers. Too little to warrant a confession of feelings.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 Oh dear god no. Thats just something you cant take back. I think it would be natural to ask again for a phone number if he told you he'd lost it, or at least make an effort to ask at the next most convenient moment- doesn't take that long! He seems he is being polite in saying he's not really interested as such.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 June 2016):
No, don't "confess" anything.
He "lost" your number and hasn't asked for it again, I'd take that as a "not really interested".
He knows he can JUST ask you for your number. He knows where you work..
And you say you really like him, but you don't really know him, do you?
He might have a GF, wife or fiance for all you care.
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