How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 11 January 2017: You need to stay away from your cousin or else you will end up having all off your family having a big huge fall out and over nothing because you will then realize that it was a crush not love but your family will never trust you again. You need to ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 3 November 2016: I don't think it is your Autism that is holding you back, I think it is your mental health. You need to seek help for that. Lift the phone and talk to someone who can help you. But honey you also need to stop putting yourself down so much and learn ... (read in full...)
The mother that abandoned my husband has come back into his life trying to get close and asking for money. I don't like it!
Q. How would I deal with my mother in law? She abondoned my husband as a baby. My husband had a very difficult times as a child. When we got married about 8 years ago my husband had built a relationship with her and we do see her on mother's day. We do ...
A. 29 October 2016: It seems extreme to leave him. Do you not feel you can trust him not to allow her to use him!? Am sure you can tell him your worries and ask him not to give his mother money she keeps asking for. ... (read in full...)
The mother that abandoned my husband has come back into his life trying to get close and asking for money. I don't like it!
Q. How would I deal with my mother in law? She abondoned my husband as a baby. My husband had a very difficult times as a child. When we got married about 8 years ago my husband had built a relationship with her and we do see her on mother's day. We do ...
A. 28 October 2016: If you don't want to go then don't. But try and remember that even though they did not rear your husband they are still his biological family. I can't imagine how hard it must be for him. His head must be all over the place. He probably does not ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who is sexually gratifying and stunning?
Q. I was dating a guy but know now he's not right for me. I ended it with him. He's dating other women, not exclusive though. I liked him and he was the first guy I had sex multiple times with. However, I just know deep down he's not for me because ...
A. 28 October 2016: You are not allowing yourself to get over him. You are pretending that friendship and sex is enough but deep down it is not. Plus he is dating others so you need to be careful you don't catch anything.
I think to get over him and move on you need... (read in full...)
Sleepless night. I cannot fall asleep next to my BF. What can I do?
Q. I cannot fall asleep next to my boyfriend. I don't think it's a question of habit because we've been together for a year and stay over at each other's places regularly. And usually he falls asleep in five seconds, whilst I suffer through the nigh...
A. 28 October 2016: I think you just prefer to have the bed to yourself. Nothing wrong with that. Everybody's sleeping habits are different.
You have tried everything and it has failed. So maybe try going to bed before him and see if that makes a difference. Or get ... (read in full...)
His family don't think my family are good enough. Should I hope that he will accept me? I fear this relationship could leave me brokem hearted
Q. Hey everyone! I'm a total mess right now and in a desperate attempt to seek advise I'm here. I was in a very serious relationship with a man for a year and half.I met his family,we were thinking of marriage planning kids and then all of a sudden ...
A. 28 October 2016: I remember your first post about this, it is the same thing happening again, which leads me to see that it really is never going to change. You cannot force them to like your family, and you cannot force him to choose you over his parents opinion. ... (read in full...)
My sister is aggressive and opinionated. Would it be OK if I skipped Christmas this year and stayed home to avoid my sister?
Q. I'm having a dilemma over Christmas Day and I could do with some advice. I have a small family consisting of my sister, mother and grandmother. i didn't get on particularly well with my sister- we only see each other three times a year at family o...
A. 28 October 2016: If you want to stay at home and have peace then you should. But are you sure deep down you would not feel lonely and upset that you are missing out with your family? Plenty of time until Christmas so have a think about it and maybe write a pro and ... (read in full...)
I don't think his behaviour is ok. He told me to 'get over it'. What should I do?
Q. A few weeks ago after a night out I ended up "making out" with a co worker that I'd liked for ages. He basically said that he'd had feelings for me for a while too and hadn't really felt that way before. We texted for a while afterwards until...
A. 28 October 2016: He is playing the field. He is single and having fun. Just unfortunate that you got caught up in his mess. It was only one night so you probably should just forget about it and move on. I would just stay out of his way. He is the one with the issues ... (read in full...)
Should I now offer to pay more rent when my mother come to live with us, temporarily? My mother and I will share a room
Q. Hi! I'm currently living with two friends, but my mother is going to move in with us from another country, so we are all going to live together for a few months until my mother and I move to a place for just the two of us. Meanwhile me and my mo...
A. 28 October 2016: Why does one friend pay less? Has she a smaller room? Maybe you could offer them both something small, or even talk to them again and re-budget the split between rent.... (read in full...)
Need advice on dealing with a demanding mother
Q. How can I deal with my demanding mother? I'm a 34 year old married mother of three and yet my own mother dictates my entire life. She's had health problems on and off for the last 7 years and when she was at her worst, I had to quit my job and ...
A. 28 October 2016: I guess your mum got a fright when she took ill. She got used to you looking after her and being there for her all the time. She probably enjoyed having your full attention and now she still wants it. However you have a family and a young child to ... (read in full...)
What is this fantasy trying to tell me?
Q. I when I was 24yrs old I was in a long term relationship with a man that was very verbally abusice- controlling and manipulatin. The last year of my relationship with him he broke up with me and then essentially came back and begged for me to be ...
A. 28 October 2016: I think it is trying to tell you that you can be strong and move on from this failed relationship as well. This professor helped you realize that you did not need to be with this guy when you where younger, he allowed you to have strength and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made hurtful comment about my weight, sex isn't good.How do I tell him?
Q. I need a bit of guidance. I want to start by saying I'm absolutely in love with my boyfriend of almost three years. He's also been my best friend long before we ever dated. It's like a fairytale right? Not exactly. Our sex life is horrible. It...
A. 28 October 2016: Off course it hurts that he has said that to you. I would be mortified. I think when we put on weight we try and ignore it or justify it. But I guess he was only being truthful and I am sure it was difficult for him to tell you the truth.
I am glad... (read in full...)
BF got caught basically cheating, he hasn't reached out?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together two years. We have had trust issues because he got a girls number on a trip, and texted her flirting throughout and I found out about it. He said he made a dumb mistake and blah blah blah if I found out about ...
A. 28 October 2016: My guess is that he thinks if he waits until you cool down he can try and talk you around. I doubt she was the first girl he has tried it on with, it sounds like you have dodged a bullet. I know you are probably really upset and it is not helping ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't have sex with me but jacks off to porn
Q. Me and my boyfriend havent slept together for months due to his depression and no sex drive and its really starting to get me down as i know hes making time to masterbate to porn...we did try to have sex a few weeks ago but he didn't look happy to ...
A. 28 October 2016: If he is doing nothing about his depression then why should you wait around and get even more depressed yourself. Sometimes love is just not enough. If he has ED he needs to get help. If he has depression he needs to get help. The hard part is ... (read in full...)
My husband refuses to help with housework, we both work and he's become very nasty towards me
Q. Hi everyone, Just need a bit of advice and help. Me and my hubby have been married just over a year and been together for 4 1/2 years, we own our own home and have a nearly 3 year old daughter. Since we have gotten married and I have starte...
A. 28 October 2016: I think you know deep down that you are not doing anything wrong, you just don't want to admit what he really is. He is emotionally abusing you and he is actually controlling you by thinking everything is your fault. He is manipulating you and is ... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a partner has had or is having an online affair and or very inappropriate social media flirting?
Q. Has anyone had a partner whos had an online affair and or very inappropriate social media flirting that can give me advice on what the possible signs are please?... For a long time Ive been extremely worried about a lot of my boyfriends behaviou...
A. 28 October 2016: If he is not willing to stop being secretive and you are not willing to let it go, then yes he will get fed up and yes you will be miserable because you cannot trust him. Therefore you need to decide what is the next step.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 28 October 2016: Just because you are going to see her next year does not mean you need to talk to her now. If you leave her alone you will be well over her by then.... (read in full...)
How can I make my husband forgive my mother and myself?
Q. I meet my husband six years ago online. We are from different country and love each other very much. March 2014 we married and I move to his country. I agreed to help him in his business before I get a job there. Therefore I help him. He said that ...
A. 27 October 2016: Am sorry honey but you cannot "make" him do anything. It sounds like your marriage was not right from the start. It sounds like you two are very different and want different things. I understand that you love him and you are hurting but it might be ... (read in full...)
Husband going to be alone for a week at training. He told me I couldn't go but I don't trust him. What can I do?
Q. Hello Everyone, I have wrote here before and expressed that I have trust issues with my husband. He has done things in the past to earn my distrust. Anyway he is going out of town for a week for training for work. He at first told me that I could ...
A. 27 October 2016: It must be hell living with someone you cannot trust. Apart from just showing up at the hotel am not really sure how you are going to know if he is being faithful or not. If am being honest it does sound weird why he would rather go away on his own ... (read in full...)
My older boyfriend doesn't put forth the effort and tells me I should find someone else
Q. Hi all, im in a relationship with a guy for 9 months now. He's 55 years old im 28 years old And he's never suggested taking me out anywhere. He has been married twice. His second wife had her own house he moved in before he got married to her, they ...
A. 27 October 2016: He does not want to be with you. That is clear. He is obviously getting something from you. But if he cannot be bothered making an effort then you should take his advice and find someone who won't lie to you and who will make an effort to be with ... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship problems - is she as committed as I am?
Q. So i'm in a long distance relationships (different countries). To give some background info, we met while we were both living abroad and were together for about 4 months there before we returned to our own countries, and stayed together ...
A. 27 October 2016: I think she is happy enough with the situation at the moment and feels once a week is enough, you don't. I would be the same as you, I would want more communication and more effort because long distance is hard.
Could it be she cannot afford to c... (read in full...)
I'd like to keep him as a friend but would like to know what I did wrong?
Q. Aunts/uncles Met this guy at work. Cutting long story short. He noticed me first . I did not find him attractive to begin. Then I spoke to him one day and he smiled andhe melted my heart. The flirting continued with very few words . I went on ...
A. 27 October 2016: This question keeps getting posted but from different locations and different age groups. Am not sure if it is a true situation or if you are just seeing if you get the best advice. I would say that you cannot know he was facebook stalking you or ... (read in full...)
I cheated, ended things but not sure what to do now
Q. Im married, with two kids. I did the dumbest thing in my life. I cheated on my wife after 7 years together. I was stupid, feel like scum and have this knot in my stomach that will not go away. To make things worse, I started with a condom and som...
A. 27 October 2016: You cannot just take a pill to cure all STD's and hope that it goes away. There are so many different ones, many with no symptoms at all. Be responsible and get checked and don't sleep with your wife until you are clear.
I could tell you to do the ... (read in full...)
Do I keep things to myself?
Q. First off thanks to anyone who takes the time to answer this for me!and sorry for the lengh. Some background: I have been with my boyfriend 7 years my best friend (female) started dating his best friend (male) 2 years later. I'm close with both ...
A. 27 October 2016: He obviously is holding a lot inside when he chose her best friend to talk to. I totally understand why you feel stuck in the middle here. Poor you. I would hate to be in your situation. The only thing you can do is talk to him and ask him what the ... (read in full...)
One night stand with a long term friend leads to awkward!
Q. Hi all I've been friends with A for about 10 years and due to various circumstances we haven't actually seen each other in person for about 5 years so all communication has been online. We are both very attracted to each other and went on a sort-o...
A. 27 October 2016: Are you sure he is single? Why a hotel? If you are sure he is single then maybe he is also not sure on when to text you. As you said you are friends who also have just slept together. Did you speak about a potential relationship or was it more off a ... (read in full...)
We are room mates that want to date but her ex is our room mate too!
Q. Hello, just looking for some advice at to what to do as I'm currently in an awkward situation... I'm a university student in my final year and currently living with a girl who I really like. We feel the same and have spoken about it before, the only ...
A. 27 October 2016: He is your friend. So you need to decide which is more important to you. If it is dating her then you need to both move out or ask him to as it would only cause a lot of drama if the three off you live together. Even if he says he is okay it is not ... (read in full...)
I want to date him but I'm almost 18 and he's 9 years older
Q. Hi I'm a 17 year old female (18 in November) from the UK. I have a male "friend" who I want to date but he's 9 years and five months older than me, he knows I like him and feels the same way. He feels guilty about his feelings for me and is ...
A. 27 October 2016: He has issues with it because he is aware that you are not legally an adult yet. You might not see the problem but he does. He seems to want to stay away because off the age gap. Sweetie you should just leave him to it and let him contact you if he ... (read in full...)
Is she into me? I just can't tell?
Q. Ok so there's this girl at school she's gorgeous, tries hard at school, works at the animal shelter, she's super nice, everything she does is just adorable, she's also really quiet and shy, she's the definition of an introvert. We're like opposites ...
A. 27 October 2016: She likes you but she is feared that you are two different to her. You are both opposite. It seems she does not like to be around the party scene and you do, she went home early because she did not trust you not to get drunk.
Just ask her on a date... (read in full...)
Are there any strategies to deal with my reactions to the behaviour of his ex?
Q. Ive been with my partner 3 and a half years. Whilst i met his family quite early on, other than a handful of occasions i havent socialised with his friends. When i questioned him about this he is told me that the partners of his friends still se...
A. 27 October 2016: Sweetie I could understand you avoiding events if you where only just together, but this is three years later now and you should not allow her to control your life. I understand your boyfriend just wants to keep the peace, but his best friends ... (read in full...)
I was completely averse to sex in my previous relationship and though I'm better now, I still have negative feelings attached to it. Any words of advice?
Q. I was with my ex for 5.5 years roughly. About 3 years in, I lost my sex drive. It had a lot to do with being on the pill but we also started having problems which didn't help. For the last year of our relationship, I hated sex, truly hated it, ...
A. 27 October 2016: This guy has done emotional damage to you. He knew you did not want sex but he turned a blind eye for his own needs. That is not a man that loves his girlfriend that is someone who is selfish. I am sorry you went through that and you will need ... (read in full...)
Dating but can't hang out. We text and he gives me butterflies. Why is this happening?
Q. I have been dating this guy who ive know most of my life for about 3 months and were both 15.. The relationship is going good but we never can hang out because im busy and my parents wouldnt allow me. weve met a couple of times while at a mutuals ...
A. 27 October 2016: It is called first love Sweetie. It is okay to feel these things and enjoy dating this guy. I understand you cannot spend much quality time together because off your age but that does not mean you can not enjoy each others company. Just as long as ... (read in full...)
I was the first Gf he ever had. Is he now over me? Or is he protecting his feelings?
Q. i was seeing this guy for a few months and it was going so well but we both knew that at the end of summer o had to go back to study abroad for 3 months. When I left I told him maybe we shouldn't try long distance because I really liked him and ...
A. 27 October 2016: He may have been trying to make you jealous or it could simply be that he did not think much off the snap chat. Either way you where the one that said you did not want to do long distance, so in his mind he is free to do as he wants. He probably is ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 27 October 2016: We cannot answer these questions about what is going on in his mind. But we can try and help you to help yourself. Is it a problem living alone? Would your mother have you come stay with her for a while or even as another poster suggested an in ... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a partner has had or is having an online affair and or very inappropriate social media flirting?
Q. Has anyone had a partner whos had an online affair and or very inappropriate social media flirting that can give me advice on what the possible signs are please?... For a long time Ive been extremely worried about a lot of my boyfriends behaviou...
A. 27 October 2016: He might actually just be addicted to social media. I have noticed a more increase in people who are needing to check it more and more. It really can become a problem. So maybe both set out a challenge to see who can stay off social media the ... (read in full...)
I think my mom's cheating on my step dad
Q. I really need some advice right now. I think my mum is cheating, or about to cheat on my stepdad. It sickens me to even think about it. Long story short, last year there was an incident where my mum found out that my stepdad was messaging and ...
A. 27 October 2016: Sweetie I understand this is difficult and stressful for you. Your mother is your role model and you don't want to think off her as dishonest or a cheat. But you need to try and stay out off their marriage. You need to trust that your mum will make ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my partner spending time with his ex wife?
Q. I would like some advice on how to deal with a certain situation. My partner and I have been together for nearly 18 months, we are both in our 50s and divorced. He has two daughters in their late 20s, and I have no children. We live about 35 mi...
A. 27 October 2016: I can see both points of views here. It is okay for me to say you have nothing to be worried about and he is just doing right by his daughter, but you will still worry and be concerned and feel left out. If it was me in your situation I would just ... (read in full...)
Crushing on my best friend for 11 years!
Q. So I've had a strong connection with a friend ever since we met in the first year of high school,(11 years old) let's call him Matt. Unfortunately my older brother died shortly after starting high school, and when I returned after a 3 week break I ...
A. 27 October 2016: Sweetie if you are adamant that you are not going to tell him how you feel and continue to be friends with him then you are never going to get over this crush, it is always going to be there making you feel sad and lonely.
It seems you may have... (read in full...)
Known this guy for 6 days and I agreed to go travelling with him but I don't like him in that way. He's not my type. What I do now?
Q. So I know this guy for about 6 days now. We met when I stuck in my car on a road and he helped me to get back home. Then he asked me for my phone number and I gave him, because he was acting sweet and I thought we could make good friends. He started ...
A. 27 October 2016: I would drop it in casually that you really could do with more friends like him who are helpful. But if I am being honest I think it is to soon to be travelling to another city with him, I think it would be wiser to stay in places you know until you ... (read in full...)
He has gone cold on me and appears to be upset with me. Any helpful advice?
Q. Dear Aunts There was a guy pursuing me and flirting with me for weeks. I did not notice the attraction initially. I then returned the flirting. We have exchanged numbers and we have spoken a little. He has now gone cold on me. He still lo...
A. 27 October 2016: How is it possible to know that someone Facebook stalked you and then not even on your friend list?
Maybe you should just drop him another message and ask him if he is upset with you? Or else ask him the next time you see him have you done some... (read in full...)
I cant seem to make my partner understand that sex is good for me and I'm worried he's stressing out over it!
Q. So ill make this as quick as possible (sorry if it's a bit crude) I have a really good relationship with my partner of 8 years one thing when we have sex he finishes after about 3-5 minutes unless he's had a drink. For me it's not a problem there'...
A. 27 October 2016: It is really sweet that he is so caring and loving. But am sure at this stage you have told him till you are blue in the face that there is not a problem but he is not going to listen because he is the one with the problem. He has low confidence in ... (read in full...)
I'm married to a mama's boy and its affecting our marriage
Q. Just after opinions please... Ladies, would you settle down with a mumma's boy? .... Men, are you a mumma's boy and how does this affect your other half? The reason I ask this is because my husband is a mumma's boy through and through and it's...
A. 27 October 2016: It may not be marriage destroying material but still it is tough for you. I can tell from all you write that this really effects you. I think you need to accept that he will be close to his parents, but you also need to put your foot down and tell ... (read in full...)
My ex flaunts his new g/f in my face but behind her back he's still in contact with me
Q. I split from my ex earlier this year and found out two weeks later that he was already with someone else (although chances are that she was already in the pipeline). My ex has rubbed his relationship with his new partner in my face- even turni...
A. 27 October 2016: I can understand why you would want to tell her, as I was in your situation before. I told her though and well I regret ever doing that. She did not believe me, even though I sent her the pictures. Am sure she knew deep down but she did not want to ... (read in full...)
My guy friend held my hand what does it mean?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and and one of my guy friends were on a group trip last night and he started to hold my hand. What does this mean? What do I say? What do I do?...
A. 27 October 2016: Ask him. Do you like this guy? If so then next time you are with him take his hand and talk to him about it. If he is your friend and sure you can talk to him comfortably?... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 21 October 2016: Am not sure why you think it is your families responsibility to help you out financially. You are an adult. You get your money. You should be able to look after yourself and stop blaming your family for everything. When your grandfather left you ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 20 October 2016: No it is not right off him to man handle you in any situation. It sounds like he was frustrated with you. Still not an excuse. If he would rather spend his money in the pub than come see you then that says really all that you need to know.
As for ... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 17 October 2016: That is a good thing, now you stop texting her. ... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 5 October 2016: At 14 you should not even be thinking about marriage, legal or not it could turn out very messy. You are to young to be getting in to something like this. Treat her as a friend. Your crush will fade.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 4 October 2016: You have a crush it is not love. Don't spend time alone with her, try and not contact her so much. You need to accept that she is your cousin, she is family not a potential girlfriend. Try and keep yourself busy and meet girls that are not ... (read in full...)
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