A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi allI've been friends with A for about 10 years and due to various circumstances we haven't actually seen each other in person for about 5 years so all communication has been online. We are both very attracted to each other and went on a sort-of date a couple of weeks ago (movies, went to drive around in my car and made out) and this Friday we booked a hotel and slept together.I thought that it was a really good night because we were such good friends that it wasn't awkward and he said he had 'the best sleep in ages' because apparently he usually can't sleep if it's not in his own bed so he said I must have tired him out (ha!) or I'm just really nice to sleep next to.I dropped him off Saturday at 12.30pm, he kissed me goodbye (twice) and he said 'It was nice to 'see' you, take care'.Since then I haven't heard anything from him.I don't know where I stand with this now and I want to message him to meet up just as friends but it's just all so weird now. Any Suggestions?? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 October 2016):
 Are you sure he is single? Why a hotel? If you are sure he is single then maybe he is also not sure on when to text you. As you said you are friends who also have just slept together. Did you speak about a potential relationship or was it more off a casual night together? I guess you could also give him a text and see how he is.
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reader, N91 +, writes (25 October 2016):
 Yeah it's looking like it was just a one night thing but what's stopping you from messaging if you want to find out more?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 October 2016):
 I am not a guy but I don't find it weird either.
You saw him Saturday, you posted on Monday. It's not weird not hearing from a friend for 48 hours.
Unless you had assumed that sleeping together was authomatically going to change the status quo and turn it into something more couple-y ?
Assumptions are always dangerous:).
I think he had in mind an experiment- an ONS. It does not require a follow up phone call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2016): Sounds like he has a GF or a wife tucked away somewhere.
I don't find it weird at all. I guess because I'm a guy.
What I do find weird is getting a motel and spending the night with a person I've only maintained online contact with and haven't seen in person for 5 years. I wouldn't know anything about them, but what I'm told.
He doesn't callback because it was a one-night stand.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 October 2016):
 It does sound weird, you sure he hasn't got a GF? Is that why you two booked a hotel room?
IF he doesn't have a GF, I'd play it by ear from now on, but NO sex.
Sometimes things seem better in the fantasy than reality, could be that as well?
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reader, Denizen +, writes (24 October 2016):
 It does seem a bit strange doesn't it. I hope he has got a good excuse.
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