I've broken up with my boyfriend but I'm feeling uncertain because I miss him
Q. I've broken up with my boyfriend and I'm feeling uncertain because I miss him. There were so many things we had in common, so on many levels we 'got' each other. Mainly surrounding our love of nature. However, I felt he was controlling and mani...
A. 31 March 2013: Deciding wether you want to stay or go will have to be up to you, as long as you can deal with the decidion. I will warn you though that its natural to miss an ex , especially one you love. That doesn't make going back okay though. This is a ... (read in full...)
We sleep in separate beds, and I worry it’s killing our relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I sleep in separate beds. We have different sleeping patterns – I’m an early riser and insomniac; he sleeps late and needs a lot of sleep. About a year ago, he started kicking me out of bed in the middle of the night, saying I was ...
A. 4 December 2012: Studies actually show tht sleeping in separate beds is healthy for a relationship because it gives each person space instead of having nowhere in the house to be comfortable by urself. Both beds should be in the same room tho. If there is a problem ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with losing someone who made you genuinely happy when you did nothing to cause the distance?
Q. Thank u in advance for ur help. So i had a female friend who i have been getting along with since September. We would see and talk to one another at least twice a week. I had feelings for her but since it was a great connection i let it play itself ...
A. 14 November 2012: I want to. But is it worth it at this point? I feel like she's gone so should i even tell her now? ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with losing someone who made you genuinely happy when you did nothing to cause the distance?
Q. Thank u in advance for ur help. So i had a female friend who i have been getting along with since September. We would see and talk to one another at least twice a week. I had feelings for her but since it was a great connection i let it play itself ...
A. 14 November 2012: Thank u all! Live and learn. It was just so abrupt and completely distant lol but thanks guys... (read in full...)
How do you deal with losing someone who made you genuinely happy when you did nothing to cause the distance?
Q. Thank u in advance for ur help. So i had a female friend who i have been getting along with since September. We would see and talk to one another at least twice a week. I had feelings for her but since it was a great connection i let it play itself ...
A. 13 November 2012: She said she has been really stressed and busy. But it felt like " o i need an excuse as to y i am avoiding u".... (read in full...)
I'm getting confusing signals from her... is she interested, or not?
Q. Maybe you all can help me make sense of this. There’s this girl at school that I really like, but she’s being so confusing. I met her last year. We have some of the same friends, but have never really spent much time together one on one. We were ...
A. 28 October 2012: This one is tough. Problem is, we guys are usually more interested in an intimately relationship with the opposite sex, while females are far more likely to just see a guy as a friend. I dnt see any huge indicators that she may have a thing for u. ... (read in full...)
I feel less attracted to my black fiance...and more attracted to Caucasian men!
Q. So its pretty simple I'm mixed black and white. My fiancée is black, lately I have been getting more and more attracted to white men, I'm not racist or anything. My preference has changed and it wouldn't be such a deal, if I didn't feel like I'm ...
A. 4 March 2012: Isn't it amazing how even in our mid twenties, our minds are still developing and we are still discovering who we are? nothing is wrong with you.you just haven't figured out who you are yet.so your preference is changing right in front of you. u ... (read in full...)
I need motivation, how to lose weight?
Q. What are good weight loss exercises for over weight people? I physically can't do regular push ups so I'm trying to find new things I can do that will still work. I'm currently on weight watchers, but I feel I need more motivation... Any help would ...
A. 2 February 2012: Losing weight always depend on eating healthier, drinking more water, and exercise. But I do know people who lost weight just by watching what they eat. but exercise is healthy so never skip it. My suggestion..run with some goods exercise music. ... (read in full...)
Why do teenagers get more criticism, when they become pregnant?
Q. ok im 18 now and before i tell u my story i have a question.. why is it that when somebody young ends up pregnant they are judged and discouraged. sometimes even pretty much told to have an abortion..when we can be just as good as parents as some 30 ...
A. 21 January 2012: I think its because good teenage parents are the exception and not the rule.while I'm sure you can be an excellent teen parent, many usually split up, end up struggling to take care of the kid, and honestly struggle to take care of themselves. In ... (read in full...)
How do you move on when you still have hope for reconciliation?
Q. We broke up 2 weeks ago. Tried to be friends but I love him to much to stay 'friendzoned'. I want him and miss him terribly, even though the breakup was inevitable. Unfortunately, the last bit of contact we had was pretty ugly, and the only time ...
A. 14 January 2012: HThe irony of your story is in the title.you can't move on and stil how to get back together. Somethings gotta give. Losing a loved one is like kicking an addiction.you gotta stay away until your better or you'll judy be stuck forever.no need trying ... (read in full...)
Not really a relationship question, but is anyone else downright disgusted by feet?
Q. Really weird question, but I was wondering if there was anyone else out there like me. I guess you could say it is sort of a relationship question if you tilt your head sideways and squint... But I have a horrible aversion to feet. I don't wa...
A. 8 January 2012: Plenty of people feel this! I know girls who don't like their feet even looked at. I used to think I was weird because I think feet are cute but I found out that there isn't a lot of"weird" in the world.just people who enjoy somethings and people ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my first cousin?
Q. MOD NOTE: In some parts of the world this is a crime. Hi all, I'm a 25 year old male and I have a female cousin who is 23 (our mothers are sisters). We have grown up together since we were babies. We're both single adults now, and in the past ...
A. 8 January 2012: If this was a forth or fifth cousin then ppl wouldn't be so grossed out but with this being your first cousin this is a big deal. Its a little"too close to home". The decision is clearly yours though and no one elses to judge. Its not a matter of ... (read in full...)
I don't want to taste myself on him. Any suggestions?
Q. dear cupid, my guy absolutely LOVES for me to go down on him. honestly, i think that's even more appealing to him than sex. i don't have any problem with his love of head; i love giving it to him, because i know it turns him on and makes him ha...
A. 1 January 2012: Why not buy some type of candy liquId. I had nipple candy for me and my (ex) girlfriend. I usd it togo down on her until I got used to her natural taste. So maybe you can buy some (its made specifically for sex and easy to find) and stroke some of ... (read in full...)
My best friend said he'd go out with me and kiss me if I lost weight. Is it worth the effort?
Q. So there's this guy I like, and we have been friends for about 2 years. He's my best friend, and I love him. Well a couple weeks ago I told him that I liked him. Which he thought was a little weird,thankfully it wasn't really awkard. Anyways a ...
A. 31 December 2011: I would say you should only change your body for you. Any women who at least tries to take care of themselves and their body is attractive to me. So if your comfortable with who you are in the mirror thats all that matters but,if you feel you need... (read in full...)
Is masturbation okay if you're saving your virginity for marriage?
Q. I am certain on not having sex before marriage as I am a christian, but I masturbate... I know its dirty and i shouldn't do it but I just love it and I can't stop, I maybe do it at least once a week. Will god forgive for masturbating since I am ...
A. 28 December 2011: The bible never comes out and claims masturbation as sin which is important because the bible is clear on most sexual sins . I think people use their own interpretations of the bible on to others. Its better you masterbate than give your purity ... (read in full...)
Can I keep my Gf and still do this? I'm pretending to not be attracted to other women to keep my girlfriend
Q. Im in my first serious relationship for 3 years now. I love my girlfriend. She is beautiful and we get along. We are having our first child soon. I want to marry her. But sometimes I feel like I'm hiding part of myself from her. I think that if she ...
A. 24 December 2011: Well you owe it to the girl you love to be honest.and I truely think that if she loves you, she will atleast accept you even ig she doesn't agree. Dnt push her to be more sexual if that's not who she is though. Just tell her that you are and that ... (read in full...)
Do I continue to try with the 19 year old reluctant girl? Or try with this amazing girl I just met?
Q. I met this girl, we dated for a month and it was all going so slow it annoyed me. She didn't let me kiss her until after a couple of dates and it was not even a kiss it was a peck. When I tried giving her a real kiss she got so tense I stopped. An...
A. 24 December 2011: WaS she experienced with sex? Sounds like she wasnt.I'm thinking she wasn't yet comfortable with sexual relations. A few dates doesn't seem like a long time either.perhaps you were moving too fast? need more info. Hope I can help.... (read in full...)
I have a texting relationship with a guy and his mom passed away. What should I do?
Q. So, there is this guy that I used to text like 24/7. He would text me occasionaly over the next couple of months afterwards but not so much recently. Well anyway, his mom passed away a couple days ago and I need help as to what I should say to him. ...
A. 23 December 2011: He needs a friend so go ahead. Your company might be very comforting. Be yourself ... (read in full...)
I have a texting relationship with a guy and his mom passed away. What should I do?
Q. So, there is this guy that I used to text like 24/7. He would text me occasionaly over the next couple of months afterwards but not so much recently. Well anyway, his mom passed away a couple days ago and I need help as to what I should say to him. ...
A. 23 December 2011: For now, you do nothing . He is in a bad place right now and he needs to find himself. If he doesnt ask for ur help, I wouldnt force the issue . Treat him the same way u did before cause wen my mom died I just wanted ppl to treat me like I was the ... (read in full...)
What's so cool about taking a shower with someone?
Q. I hate to sound crude/blunt, but, well, I dont get it. Showering is for cleaning the gross stuff off your body...Why would someone want to be in there with you? Feel free to explain this to me, haha. Because I'm honestly clueless. ...
A. 17 December 2011: I think its holds alot of symbilism. Like you stripping away the stress and dirt from a long day with ur loved one. Wen I have had a long day (when I had a gf) nothing felt better then gettin in tue shower and having her press her gorgeous body ... (read in full...)
(( Guys )) What is your definition of a "hot" girl or woman??
Q. Hi! My boyfriend uses this term quite often (when talking about women.) He even said he thought I was "hot" when we met. Honestly, I was shocked because I never considered myself being that and was never called that by anyone in the past. I am an ...
A. 15 December 2011: Any girl that can turn my head or gain my attnetion jus by walking by is hot. I think any girl who tries (but no overdoes it) to be sexy and independent is hot in my book. U cant be ultra thin or obese like one poster said. But I really think all ... (read in full...)
We were doing ok after the break up now all of a sudden its become awkward, what happened?
Q. I am so frustrated with my ex boyfriend. I broke up with him because of a long distance issue. He didn't have much to say about it at first but the way we handled the post breakup, I thought everything was going to be okay. We had regular ...
A. 15 December 2011: You may have become friends too fast . Doesn't sound like you gave eachother enough time apart to even be really single .spend time without eachother and let anny feeling that might stil be there go away. Try again when you think you have both moved ... (read in full...)
I'd love to introduce myself to this girl and I need your advice!
Q. I've been single now for 6 months, prior to that I was in a 2 year relationship that drained me of confidence and strength (during which I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety). During these 6 months I've got a new job, a mortgage and eve...
A. 14 December 2011: Ahhh I was jus in ur shoes for three months until yeasterday when I finally talked to the gorgeous girl I had been noticing. First thing is not to put pressure on her. Girls know when they r bein hit on and it sometimes makes them feel uncomfortable ... (read in full...)
I like him and he doesn't know I exist...
Q. Hi I really need some advice. There’s a guy I like at work but he doesn’t know me. We work in different departments. Last week I attended a xmas party and he was there too. I wanted to speak to him but I just didn’t have the confidence to approach...
A. 14 December 2011: Trust me. speak to him in person. I was in this situation a few days ago. I had a class with this beautiful girl tht I jus could not seem to chat up. Then I approached her and she was very accepting and we had a great talk! Dnt let ur fear defeat ... (read in full...)
Should I accept the Proposal? But I don't trust him!
Q. Hey, I need some advice on whether I should listen to my head or my heart regarding my bf's marriage proposal. We've been together 17 months, and he's asked me to marry him. My initial reaction was to be very very happy... but I'm starting to give ...
A. 14 December 2011: Think of marriage like a contract. Its an agreement,bewteen the two of u that u will love and respect e/o . remember, marriage is supposed to be lifelong.would u sign a life long contract with a person that you dnt trust? I wouldnt . Go with,ur head ... (read in full...)
I'm always stuck in the "friend zone"
Q. I'm in a rut when it comes to guys. I'm always stuck in the " Friend Zone ". Every time I meet a nice guy we become friends and that's it! I don't even get a date with them. They all go for the fake looking girls and I,m not like that:(. I've been ...
A. 12 December 2011: Im a guy so take my advice it will help :) .. First, the friend zone is a bottomless pit. U dnt make it out. Once a guy commects with u as a friend and its genuine it is very hard to get out. U need to do ur best to establish a sensual connection ... (read in full...)
When you are supporting your adult child, how much is too much?
Q. When does a parent stop supporting their grown children? I asked a question earlier and was surprised by one of responses. Is it ok to support a grown child in her twenties, let her live with you whenever she feels like it, take up the only oth...
A. 12 December 2011: Allow me to help. In my family, once u graduate high school u get three options. U get a job/pay some bills, go to college and live at home, or u get out and be an adult. Its is totally find to help support them (im 21 in college but I live home ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship, but I'm attracted to another girl and can't stop thinking about her.
Q. I've been with my girlfriend over 2 years, and whilst the relationship is going ok, our sex life isn't (not as frequent or adventure as there used to be) and lately I've found myself being attracted to a girl who works in a local store. I've neve...
A. 11 December 2011: I and many other ppl have been in ur situation. Its human nature to want others sometimes, it how we comtrol tht desire tht defines our love for our significant other. What do you want from this girl ? If she is wat u want, then pursue her, but do ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband that I was raped when I was 16 years old or bury the secret?
Q. I need someone's advice. I'm 26 yo and just recently I got married, me and my husband have together 10 years he's the only guy in my life and love him more anything and I never lie to him no matter what. but during this time I had a secret that I n...
A. 4 December 2011: I have never been in this situation before or known anyone but I can answer the best I kno how. I think that in some ways u havent come to terms with being raped. The nigghtmares are a sign tht it may still be eating away at u. My advice is to talk ... (read in full...)
The girl I love doesn't want to date me because she says her parents wont approve of it, and wont even let me talk to them
Q. I. Love this girl sooo much and she says she loves. Me too. But like. She says she can't date me because her family wouldn't approve.so now I'm sitting here in tears I'm asking her to let me talk to her parents about it and she says she's 100% sure ...
A. 4 December 2011: First, y do they not approave? Is it ur ethnicity or religious beliefs or some othe matter? Second, if u love this girl, gite for her. Im with u all the way there. Y lose out on ur loved one because her parents are being shallow and controlling? But ... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me two months ago and he's already seeing someone else
Q. My ex dumped me barely two months ago. I am still in love with him, but have just found out that he is going to ask another girl out, and that he has found someone else. It felt like my heart just got broken again. How do I move past this? ...
A. 27 November 2011: I hate hearing these stories. Its sad tht love always has a possibility to end in heartbreak. If he went on to dating someone so quickly, it probably means tht he was considering the breakup before it was initiated, or tht he questioned the ... (read in full...)
Should I call him? Do you guys think those were signs of attraction?
Q. So i have a question: I started this sales role at a company not to long ago and I developed an instant crush on my boss. Many people would not think I wooud fall for my boss because of my look. Not to sound obnoxious but a lot of people descri...
A. 20 November 2011: Im dealing with the same thing myself (met a gorgeous girl but cant read her signs) so ive decided jus to walk up to her the next time I see her. Dont read too much into signs as every person is different and some people don't know they are even ... (read in full...)
Am I right in leaving this mess of a man? Or should I stand by him?
Q. Hi. I have separated from my bf of four years, the father of our child. He has a drinking problem, and he has lied to me so much since we been together. He also was sacked from his job last week. He was getting help, but gave up twice coz he tho...
A. 20 November 2011: In my opinion, it would be futile to stand by a man who wnt better himself. He has issues obviiusly tht he needs to address and his problems are affecting u and possibly ur child. Make sure tht u can live with this decision tho. I think u r right to ... (read in full...)
What can I do about these teenaged girls calling me a pedophile?
Q. hi, basicly i got called a peado on the way to work by two school girls about 15 years old cos essentially i looked at them, i got through the cow gate (i go accross a field) i noticed they were waitibng for me to get through so they could pass ...
A. 16 November 2011: I would tell somone first and let them handle it. Thats the high road anyways. If u want payback, walk right up to em and say "actually im not a pedo and even if I was I wouldnt,be attracted to such ugly low life brats!". Ok now that I got tht outta ... (read in full...)
An ex has approached me. Should I let my Bf sort this out?
Q. Okay so here is my problem.. i have a boyfriend of a month and nearly 2 weeks, but one of my ex's has started saying things to me. He is an ex from about two years ago. He was saying things like, "i used to get lost in your eyes" and "i cant stop ...
A. 12 November 2011: Telling your boy friend was a great move. you should have told your ex yourself that you didnt want anything from him because you have a bf and asked him to stop approaching you in that way first though. So if I was you I would tell your ex that ... (read in full...)
He's my 6th cousin. Not close indeed. My mother still objects. Could we be together?
Q. Okay, so I had went to a cousins funeral back in 2008.. Arrived back home and checked my myspace (back before I had facebook) I had an email from a guy saying here's my number I saw you at the funeral and thought you were cute.. Long story shor...
A. 12 November 2011: From what I've heard a 6th cousin is usually so far removed that they are almost not family. For what its worth, in ancient egypt, pharoahs customs were they would marry their sisters, aunts, and step mothers and they were considered pres... (read in full...)
How can I stop worrying about money so much?
Q. My family doesn't have much money. We have enough just for the basic needs. I can't help but feel overwhelmingly jealous when I see that other people who are no better or smarter than me in any way have so much more than I do. I keep thinking ab...
A. 7 November 2011: I think I can help u out. See, my family doesnt really suffer from money issues . We arent close to rich, but we can afford most of what we want. Evem through this, there was a time where I was so depressed because I didnt value the things that ... (read in full...)
How can I get my study partner in the sack?
Q. Here is the situation there is this girl, she is my classmate and she lives not far at my place, she asked me to study with her for exams just like we did last semester, but the thing is I'm attracted to her, and I told her couple of times how I ...
A. 5 November 2011: Haha all of us guys have,been there man. Trust me, dont do it. Us guys gotta respect each other! Never chase another man's girl knowingly. Im in university too and ever girl I see I think is the hottest in the world ...and then I see another hottest ... (read in full...)
Is she too close to her brother?
Q. Is this strange or am I just being too sensitive? My wife and her brother are a little too close in my opinion. He is always touching her, putting his hands on her, they watch tv with their arms around each other, they used to share an apartment and ...
A. 2 November 2011: This is creepin me out lol the only thing I can think of is maybe in their cutlture this can be normal, or maybe they were attached to the hip as kids and have no idea that its creepy brcause they spent their childhood doing this without being ... (read in full...)
I've been told he's taking me to France for the weekend as my present. What can I get him as a present for the same anniversary?
Q. Right i dont know what to get for my boyfriend for our 2 year anniversary. He spoke to my best friend without me knowing and apparently was planning on taking me to france for the weekend! how can i possibly compare? does anyone have any sugg...
A. 1 November 2011: Main gift... Lots of kinky and different sex! Us guys never object to naughty girls haha rock his world the whole weekend. Take em on a romantic dinner and see the sites wnever u arent makin his fantasies realities or decide to take a break haha... (read in full...)
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