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writes:Has anyone had a partner whos had an online affair and or very inappropriate social media flirting that can give me advice on what the possible signs are please?...For a long time Ive been extremely worried about a lot of my boyfriends behaviour and was wondering if i was overthinking!..'Hes always had a big social media habit (checking it ALL the time when we are on a date+he knows i think its a bit disrespectful but carries on)...But just recently its got worse,hes making EVERY excuse to check his facebook,even saying hes visiting another site but i can see hes on facebook..hes also become very jumpy with his phone+sometimes hides the screen..is there anyone thats been through this before that can help?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2016):
 If he is not willing to stop being secretive and you are not willing to let it go, then yes he will get fed up and yes you will be miserable because you cannot trust him. Therefore you need to decide what is the next step.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis fb problem has been going on for months and whilst i dont mind it i do mind travelling over 2 hours to see him and his continously looking at his phone and lying about using other sites when i can see him using it..hes doing a lot of minimising the tabs when i walk back into the room which has made my suspicious and he doesnt let me look at his facebook ever apart from one time when i thought he'd deleted stuff already(hence me been able to look)..also he gets really angry and says hes fed up of me not trusting him..but hes not making it easy!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (27 October 2016):
He might actually just be addicted to social media. I have noticed a more increase in people who are needing to check it more and more. It really can become a problem. So maybe both set out a challenge to see who can stay off social media the longest.
If there is other signs to go with it like being secretive all the time and having a lock on his phone then it might be he is up to no good. In which case you need to get to the bottom off it. Its clear you cannot trust him, and the only person who is being miserable here is you as you don't know what to do.
Yes you could try and go through his phone, or try and talk to him, it wont make you feel better if you don't trust him. I can see why the liking off selfies would put some doubts in your mind.
The only thing you can do is talk to him about how you feel, tell him you need more attention when he is with you and not to always be on his phone or else it is over. Ask him can you see his messenger on facebook and see how he reacts, if he lets you then cool, if he doesn't and gets defensive I would end the relationship on your gut instinct.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi my bf has mainly got female friends on facebook and i can see thats he regularly likes selfies from certain girls..this was why i was suspicious as i feel its kind of sending out the wrong messages to them in a way!?...I've mentioned his weird usage of facebook and how hes not had sex with me in ages but he just gets extremely angry!I've noticed as well he'll say hes going to bed and ill see him still online!! Its causing me so much grief and ive given him many chances to come clean but he gets angry that i dont trust him
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2016): Hi there, I'm in a similar situation to you. My husband of 9 years is doing the same. He is on Messenger all the time and once he accidental left if open when he answered his phone (went outside to speak) and I had a sneaky look at his screen. On it were 2 messages to women whom he was 'not connected with' on Facebook. I could only read the first line on the message sadly, but it sounded quite flirty to me. In the past he has messaged some of my girl friends on Facebook, but of course they told me and I confronted him, and he promised never to do it again. Unfortunately it looks like he is up to his old tricks again and I am angry and heartbroken. I know I will have to confront him again about it, but just at the moment feel I haven't got the strength to do it. I totally sympathise with you and know exactly how you are feeling. All I can say to you is talk to your boyfriend about this, ask him if he's happy in the relationship and admit you are concerned about his online social habits. Always trust your gut feeling....if you feel something isn't right, it probably isn't! If he is messing around, he certainly doesn't deserve you. Take care and good luck.
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