I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 9 February 2017: Okay well if you love him then stay with him, he will end up KILLING you with his temper, it is a punch now but he will go to far one day and then your parents will be left without a daughter, and he will be in prison for life. ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 28 November 2016: I am sorry that you have had to go through this. The only positive thing is you have had a lucky escape, I am glad you have finished with him, and I hope you reported him for the attack. Allow all your family and friends to help you during this ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 22 November 2016: You where right in that it should be him that is keeping away from facebook chat, not you being there to stop him. You know he is doing this behind your back, and am pretty sure it is not just his ex he is chatting to either. I would end things with ... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can be suggested, on ways to best support my partner of five years, over her work and health issues?
Q. My partner of 5 years who is 52 has worked in a bakery for 30 years and her boss has sold up to a family. The wife of the said family does not want her in the bakery or using the delivery truck as my partner suffers from IBS (irritable bowel synd...
A. 21 November 2016: I would talk to her solicitor I have never heard such crap in all my life. It is not there business if your wife has IBS or not. It really is a common thing to have and to be discriminated because off it is simply outrageous. My guess is they want ... (read in full...)
I want him. How can I make him see that?
Q. So its been six months since me and my guy broke it off. For the best part we were best friends, hot lovers and inseparable. We had silly arguments over my on-line life until he cut it off completely. How do I make him see its him I want....
A. 21 November 2016: For the best part? What about the other parts? For you it might have been a silly argument but to him it spelt the end off your relationship. It seems he could not content with your online life. I guess all you can do now is move on and learn from ... (read in full...)
Did she just want to sleep with me? Or could she really 'like' me?
Q. To cut a long story short, I had sex with my female housemate. I am not super attracted to her but yeah, it happened. I suspect she has been trying to seduce me for a while because she has asked to 'spoon' a couple of times after a night out. After ...
A. 21 November 2016: Don't sleep with her again. She likes you and has feelings for you going by your post. You have no feelings for her, and don't find her attractive so you need to nip it in the bud before she gets hurt. She has pretty much said she wanted a date. But ... (read in full...)
He lives in a different city and I really like him. How can I get him more interested in me?
Q. Hello! In a complicated situation. Help me out ! I really like this friend who lives in a different city. We have been on a couple of dates but we don't get to meet because of distance. I asked him out on a date recently but his response was " I ...
A. 21 November 2016: He is shy around you because he has his guard up with you, he doesn't with the other girl, he probably knows her better and therefore is more comfortable with her. I know it is not what you want to hear, but he does not want to be with you, if he ... (read in full...)
My husband is chatting to girls on xbox and facebook. I've asked him not to but he keeps adding girls!
Q. Hi there My husband and I have been married just over a year now. He has been on the xbox chatting to girls I told him I didn't mind him chatting to them on the xbox as long as it stays to the xbox, I don't feel that it's appropriate for ...
A. 21 November 2016: No I don't think you are over reacting. As much as I am okay with people networking for gaming, I think adding them on to facebook is a bit more personal. Is it all girls or is it both?
The simple facts are he is still doing it even though he know... (read in full...)
I feel strung along. How do I let go of him?
Q. Hey, okay so, I have been talking to this guy for 3/4 years who I met at college. We have met a handful of times but we haven't met in over a year but we still text, all day everyday and have done for 3/4 years. If we go without one day without ...
A. 21 November 2016: Yes you should let go. It sounds like he likes the attention that he gets from your messages, you are an ego boost to him. He probably hasn't texted this week as you said you like him so he probably wants you to cool off. I know it is probably not ... (read in full...)
Long distance friend always says he wants to see me and then goes cold. Should I pursue?
Q. Hello, For the last 5:6 years, I met this guy on a dating website. We were in and out of talk for this time. We would have times we would talk and then not talk for months and talk again. We have so much in common and we both really want to m...
A. 21 November 2016: If he wanted to yes he would have found a way after six years. I think you are a pen pal to him. Him going cold is a big red flag it shows that he is not being serious about you. I know you think you have chemistry but sweetie it is impossible to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to work on our relationship he just wants to please himself
Q. Hello so i have a question i have been with my highschool sweet heart for 20 years things have not been good lately i have tried talking to him about how im feeling and maybe how we can fix our relationship but he says everything is fine with him ...
A. 21 November 2016: Communication seems to have broke down in the relationship. He is not making an effort romantically and you are not sexually. My guess is that you don't want sex if you are unhappy with someone. Twenty years is such a long time and you have both got ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is too controlling and I feel like running away
Q. I've been in a relationship with a girl for 3 years now. I lost my job 3 months ago. I've been busy Monday through Friday teaching part-time and learning some new stuff. I told her that I'd be hanging out with my friends on a Friday's night. She ...
A. 21 November 2016: When you say you want to hang with friends on a Friday, does it involve spending money? If you guys have been together three years then she is probably looking at you as her future husband and future father off her children. In that case if you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't act like a boyfriend
Q. So.... My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and are living together. We rarely argue. My problem is that most of the time I feel like I don't have a boyfriend. No texts or calls from him unless he has a question. When he gets home from work ...
A. 21 November 2016: No off course you are not crazy. Me and my guy work together but we still make time for each other when we get home. Affection is important in a relationship to some people. I know for me it is. But some people just don't need it and they don't feel ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is flirting with my best friend and I'm worried about what will happen
Q. I have a problem...my girlfriend is flirting with my best friend..i know they don't have nothing right now but they are too close to each other...and they hide things to me..it hurts because they think I'm the bad guy..it just that it hurts to...
A. 21 November 2016: Could it be that they are good friends and you are jealous? Do they flirt with each other or are they just friendly? What kind off information do they keep from you? If they are hiding things from you then she is not a good girlfriend and he is not ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 21 November 2016: Stop allowing him to control you like this. As a young woman the best thing you can do now is tell YOUR parents. Stop making excuses for him. Stop allowing him to treat you like dirt. It won't get better, you will have a miserable future if you ... (read in full...)
Which should choose to attend? Tribute band or the comedy? Both on the same night.
Q. Can anyone advise me on which show to go to tomorrow?. There are two great shows on tomorrow night in the same city. One is a comedy show. The other is a tribute band to a band that I like. I have seen both of them before. I will be going wit...
A. 18 November 2016: If you have been feeling depressed then what do you think will cheer you up more? I think it is important you make decisions for yourself. Also remember if you are feeling depressed there are people to talk to. Me personally I would do the comedy ... (read in full...)
I really like him but I fear rejection. What can I do? What should I do?
Q. Modnote: two almost identical questions combined. ................................... dear cupid, ok so there is this guy that I really like he is a grade bigger than me, he used to like me at the beginning of the year (I could tell from the cle...
A. 18 November 2016: I think you enjoyed the attention you got from him, but now that he has stopped you want it back again so you feel you like him and you want to be with him.
You need to be careful in case he does not feel the same way. You are both young so horm... (read in full...)
Had enough. What now? I'm honestly so ready to run, but I truly love my husband.
Q. My husband and refuses to stand up for me when it comes to his crazy family. I was harassed during my husband's deployment. I have been through hell and back and defended my husband but I can't get the same in return. I always thought he would...
A. 18 November 2016: Am sure he does love you, but you are making him choose between you and his family so yes he is going to see you as the bad one, and yes I imagine he will choose his family. You need to remember your husband wouldn't be here today for only his ... (read in full...)
Is this normal? Should she keep some distance between her and the ex's family?
Q. Started a new relationship with an old flame from my past. we are into our 6 month and very into each other. She now had a small child for a ex boyfriend and the ex is very unstable. lately the ex,s brother has started to show up visiting, at ...
A. 18 November 2016: It sounds like he might have a little thing for your partner, why else would he randomly show up at night when the kids are in bed with pathetic excuses?
Maybe they both have a close friendship am not sure, still I think I would feel unco... (read in full...)
What kind of game is my friend playing? She plays hot then cold
Q. Any idea what my "friend's" game is? She blows hot and cold. One minute she is all over me, asking to go out for a drink and a catch up, coming round to my house for a drink, next minute she cuts me dead and I hear nothing from her for age...
A. 18 November 2016: My guess is that life for her just gets in the way. She will check in with you every so often but she seems useless at keeping in contact and making plans. Am sure this is just who she is. I can see why it would annoy you. But I don't think she is ... (read in full...)
I am infactuated with this single dad!
Q. So there is this man at my church and he is a single dad. We've started to casually talk here and there. Two weeks ago he was saying to me how he would love to have more kids. Then last week he asks he personally if I ever wanted kids. This might ...
A. 17 November 2016: He could just be making conversation? It would be strange for him if he was interested to be talking about kids instead off asking you out. ... (read in full...)
Everytime I turn around she needs money.
Q. I am currently in a LDR and it has become frustrating how financially dependent she has become. We were in this situation when we lived in the same town, however, I was living at home and didn't pay any bills while working. Now I am living on my own ...
A. 17 November 2016: Simple tell her to stop asking for money as you cannot afford to be giving away any. I think it has become habit because you allowed it to happen from early on, so now she just expects you to give her money. Sit down and talk with her and tell her ... (read in full...)
Am I "withholding love" and therefore being manipulative??
Q. When my partner and I have a bad fight, she leaves for days, and I'm unable to display love. It feels fake if in the middle of everything I said "I love you so much" or "How are you doing, I miss you". I'm not withholding love as a punishment or to ...
A. 17 November 2016: I think you need to go to therapy with her. Her therapist has no right saying that about you, and my guess would be that she never. A therapist is not there to judge they are there to try and help and individual. My guess is your girlfriend is ... (read in full...)
My currrent crush is pushing for information on a previous crush.
Q. Me and this girl in my class have been friends. I have always liked her but never told her. A few days ago we decided to go for a movie. I wanted to go out with her a few times before I told her. Yesterday she read my status which was "Sometimes I ...
A. 17 November 2016: Tell her the truth, she might like you as well, it is worth the risk!... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 17 November 2016: Why are you both not friends on social media? I think you could be right why he was mad at her. He sounds like a shady character. Now am not saying he is cheating on you, but still talking with an ex is not the best way to make you feel secure and ... (read in full...)
I want to focus on the now and on the future. But how do you forgive and forget someone who lied to you?
Q. How do you forgive and forget someone who lied to you? My boyfriend lied to me during the first 1.5 years of our relationship. I knew he kept in touch with his ex and I was fine with it, thinking they were platonic friends. But I didn't realize h...
A. 16 November 2016: After seeing your update it makes things worse, as his reasons for lying to you are a load of crap. He was protecting himself, not you or her. I think he was struggling to let go off the past and accept he was with you. ... (read in full...)
I am worried about my family's reaction when they see my test results.
Q. Hi there... So a little about me.. I recently moved to a different school and in a different country and Im turning 18 very soon.. So recently, I flew home to visit my parents even though I had tests coming up. And my holiday was just a week, the...
A. 16 November 2016: Maybe cut back on going out weekends with your friends and focus on your studies. Remember you did move half way around the world. Yes you said your course was intense that is why you need to put in more study. Nobody is accusing you off anything. ... (read in full...)
Why does my pastor ignore me?
Q. Why does my Pastor ignore me? I started going along to a new Church with my Son's now ex gf. The Church seemed great, pastor was very friendly. Then I had a accident so couldn't get out for a few weeks. I have tried reaching out to him via text or ...
A. 16 November 2016: You cannot be certain that they are having an affair, even if he was accused off it before, does not mean it is or was true.
She is your son's ex girlfriend now, so really has nothing more to do with you. Yes it is hurtful as you treated her like... (read in full...)
Do women like men with deep voices?
Q. This girl at work, she's a sweetheart, always looks so positive and full of energy. I've been feeling like she avoids me a lot, so one day I talked to her about it and though she was really friendly, she said that i was a bit intimidating, my voice ...
A. 16 November 2016: Some do and some don't. Not all women are the same and like the same things believe it or not. She is intimidated by you, and well that is not a great thing. But you just need to make more off an effort to get to know her and show her that you are a ... (read in full...)
My ex friend is giving out my number to everyone until I apologize
Q. On Halloween I had a falling out with a couple friends when I got kicked out of a frat party for not paying to get in and they ignored me for the rest of the night. For a couple days after that I was angry at them and just completely ignored their ...
A. 16 November 2016: She needs to grow up, it is none off her business if you got kicked out for not paying. Although I would suggest just paying in future if there is a charge. Saves any hassle. Be an honest person.
But as for this girl, she is not a friend. She is n... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to forgive and forget events from 30 years ago in our marriage
Q. My story: Married 25 years with 3 children. Like any marriage we had our ups and downs, but I would say it’s been a very solid above average marriage. Recently, in a random conversation I recalled an event over 25 years ago, we were in our early ...
A. 16 November 2016: What made you think about it after all this time? Surely after 30 years stuff like this doesn't just pop up, did something trigger the memories? You mentioned you looked up a diagnosis and it is an STD but did you actually get tested by a doctor is ... (read in full...)
Why am I scared to touch this guy?
Q. Why am I scared to touch this guy? I feel like I'm not reciprocating enough. I do touch his his face while we kiss.I really like him alot. I do notice I'm not in touch with my feelings or even reality now. But I'm also not even sure of that, but ...
A. 16 November 2016: Have you had issues in the past about people entering your personal space? Or you entering there's?
If you really like him then tell him what your issues are. Maybe slowly he can help you. It could be that you are nervous because you are not sure... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend has other women
Q. I think my boyfriend has other women. He has slipped a few times. Sending texts that had nothing to do with our conversation. Not texting at all for 2 days. Recently, he sent a pic of his daughter. I responded by saying "How about a pic of you too?" ...
A. 16 November 2016: But what? Tell us why you feel suspicious, what is hard for him? The relationship? Your mistrust? We need more details. If he cheated on an ex then yes I can see why you worry about trust, also long distance does not make it easier, it just makes ... (read in full...)
Why have her habits towards me changed so drastically?
Q. I will try and make this as short and sweet as I can. First off I just want to say that in the last couple of months I have become a very anxious person towards the woman i become enveloped with. Just 6 months ago i could care less about if a wom...
A. 16 November 2016: Saying that she could be the one just after a week sounds like you are going in way to deep and either you will scare her off or you will get hurt. You need to go with the flow at this stage. Show interest but don't scare her.... (read in full...)
Why does he never offer to pay for the hotel?
Q. I travel quite a lot and 3-4 times a year I fly through one country where I met a guy who I really like. Sometimes it's a lay over, sometimes it's a couple days stay. We always meet and it's usually just amazing. Sex is amazing and I really enj...
A. 15 November 2016: I think when people are saying free sex they mean he does not need to make a commitment to you, he gets a free room for the night buys some food and has sex. ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend has other women
Q. I think my boyfriend has other women. He has slipped a few times. Sending texts that had nothing to do with our conversation. Not texting at all for 2 days. Recently, he sent a pic of his daughter. I responded by saying "How about a pic of you too?" ...
A. 15 November 2016: Could he not be texting friends? Family? Why does it need to be he is seeing another woman? If this is all you have to go by then am guessing you have trust issues?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me but claims she was taken advantage of, what do I do?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been dating for about two months now, and it's been a semi long distance relationship with her going to a different college than me about 30 minutes away. We argue here and there about little things but at the end of the ...
A. 15 November 2016: This is a tough one. I don't want to judge her but to me it sounds like she was angry with you and she got drunk, so drunk that she had sex. Then she tried to forget about it but the guilt was eating her up.
Why not ask her if she feels she was ... (read in full...)
Troubling situation with overhead neighbors and it appears there is no solution
Q. Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, Here’s aquestion regarding apartment living… My husband and I bought a small one-bedroom apartment on the last floor in a very old building. Former owner of the building had refurbished the attic above us and t...
A. 15 November 2016: Yeah it is not there fault or your fault. But am afraid it does come with the territory off apartments. I know it is not easy for you but you need to accept it now. The best I can say to you is buy a pair off ear plugs. ... (read in full...)
How do I approach a woman at my gym?
Q. There is a woman who exercises at my gym every day at the same time. I want to meet her. What should I say? How do I approach her? ...
A. 15 November 2016: Walk past her smile say hello and ask her about her work out regime. Then ask her would she like to go for a juice or a coffee after her session.... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of the paranoia that stems from trust issues
Q. I have been battling trust issues since i was about 12 years old. So... 30 years now. The thought of actually just trusting someone in a relationship fills me with dread and anxiety. I am married and my husband knows of these issues thiugh he doesnt ...
A. 15 November 2016: Don't blame your husband for giving up reassuring you. Try and imagine what it is like for him as well. Am sure it is just as hard for him to be married to someone who checks up on him and has trust issues. Off course he is going to get fed up with ... (read in full...)
Why do I have mixed feelings about my friend of 20 plus years who wants a relationship with me?
Q. My friend of 20 plus years has a plan to come and visit me. We have been crushing on each other for years now that we have come in contact with one another on Facebook we really want to see each other. We talked about being in a relationship but...
A. 15 November 2016: It sounds like you have got talking to an old friend again over the internet. It is good he plans to come and visit you, but why now after 20 years? What has changed?
I think talking about a relationship is much to soon, you need to get to know each... (read in full...)
I want to focus on the now and on the future. But how do you forgive and forget someone who lied to you?
Q. How do you forgive and forget someone who lied to you? My boyfriend lied to me during the first 1.5 years of our relationship. I knew he kept in touch with his ex and I was fine with it, thinking they were platonic friends. But I didn't realize h...
A. 15 November 2016: I don't blame you for having trust issues. He betrayed you big time by lying to you. Did he ever explain to you why he did this? Maybe you need closure on this to move forward in the relationship. I had someone do this to me and well I couldn't ... (read in full...)
Did indulging in a little hot texting make him reluctant to see me? He didn't show up for a date. Didn't text me to say why, either
Q. Dear cupid I was talking on text. we were getting along good and we were planning to go out our first date But he had work over time so when we start text again. So yet it again another date we set place to meet and this time he didn't sho...
A. 15 November 2016: Just wasting your time honey, he is more than likely not who he says he is or else he is with someone already. I know it sucks but that is the danger with online dating. ... (read in full...)
Why have her habits towards me changed so drastically?
Q. I will try and make this as short and sweet as I can. First off I just want to say that in the last couple of months I have become a very anxious person towards the woman i become enveloped with. Just 6 months ago i could care less about if a wom...
A. 15 November 2016: The thing is are you showing her interest back? You mention in your post her interest in you but are you actually showing her some? Because if you are not then maybe she is tired off doing all the running. I wouldn't be playing games, I would be ... (read in full...)
I am worried about my family's reaction when they see my test results.
Q. Hi there... So a little about me.. I recently moved to a different school and in a different country and Im turning 18 very soon.. So recently, I flew home to visit my parents even though I had tests coming up. And my holiday was just a week, the...
A. 14 November 2016: But I think you are also missing out that you have been spending a lot of time with your boyfriend against your parents wishes and my guess is that is why you are scared off telling them you failed. Also it could be the reason your studies have ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 14 November 2016: I would just ignore it. My guess is that she was curious as to why you added her and that is why she wanted to chat. I think you should be honest with your partner. You say he is mad at her, but I don't understand why when it was you that send the ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 14 November 2016: Sweetie he is trying to control you. Don't let him. You need to talk to your parents about this and let them know what he is doing. Please talk to an adult as he is going to end up destroying you if you don't get help now. You need to learn to have ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 11 November 2016: What could you possibly love about him? Honey he is treating you like dirt. I do agree with him that you should tell your mother what happened with your uncle. Getting him sent to prison might stop him from hurting more young vulnerable girls.... (read in full...)
Why does he never offer to pay for the hotel?
Q. I travel quite a lot and 3-4 times a year I fly through one country where I met a guy who I really like. Sometimes it's a lay over, sometimes it's a couple days stay. We always meet and it's usually just amazing. Sex is amazing and I really enj...
A. 10 November 2016: This guy has it all, sex on tap, a free hotel room, no commitments. He has it good. Why does he not offer? Simply because you pay for it so now he takes it for granted. It shows how much he values your time together really, because he would have ... (read in full...)
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