Connection with fiance is lost and now I've slept with his friend
Q. hi everyone this gets really complicated! a previous question i asked helps to explain the background of our relationship. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/amnesia-stole-four-years-of-my-life-and.html i am supposed to be getting married t...
A. 24 May 2012: DON'T GET MARRIED! It won't solve anything and the best thing you can do for your child is to be happy and to be a great role model. I am a child of divorce and it's better to see two parents happy separatly then unhappy together!... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his wife? Or just break with him? He has lied all the way
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who is 20 years older to me. We met at work. He got transferred to our office from another branch. Initially we never really spoke much to each other, probably just say a good morning when we would pass by...
A. 24 May 2012: You should move on. Get another job and cuts all ties with him. he's no good it's obvious. You need to work on yourself and give yourself time to heal. Raise your bar, you deserve much better man. Therapy would be great to help you figure things ... (read in full...)
I think my Bf should find someone better. How can I handle my jealousy?
Q. Well I've been with my boyfriend for about 8/9 months and he's the nicest guy ever we get on so so well and everything should be perfect if it wasn't for my jealousy. Ever since I split up with my ex boyfriend I've been so paranoid because my ex h...
A. 24 May 2012: Hi,
I think you should work on yourself maybe see a shrink to help you figure things out. Even if you leave him the jealousy problem will follow you and won't be resolve. You have to be happy. Good luck :)... (read in full...)
Is my jealousy valid over this girl?
Q. I think my boyfriend may like his female friend (FF) He's known her about 6-12 months before me, but never really saw her face to face, until he went to school. He met her in school about 1 month, before meeting me. Here's what he's done: ...
A. 24 May 2012: I think since you said should you break it off? you have your answer...... (read in full...)
Should I go back to him?
Q. So i was with this guy for two years and then he decided to join the air force and the closer it got to hi leaving for basic the more he pushed me away and we fought finally we broke up. A week and a half later he's dating this other girl and three ...
A. 24 May 2012: He left you once and got ENGAGED?! You'll never trust him and if you do get back together, he will probably leave again for someone else. Look ahead and leave him behind you deserve better. Good luck! :)... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my boyfriend but I miss my ex
Q. I'm in love with my boyfriend but I miss my ex. My ex and I dated for one year and broke up 15 months ago. I met my boyfriend 6 months ago and we have been dating for 4 months. My emotions are clear yet they confuse me. I'm in love with my boy...
A. 24 May 2012: I think you need to cut all ties. Maybe talking to a shrink would help you figure things out. Maybe you feel possessive about your ex and it bugs you that he has someone new. Focus on the future not the past. Your current boyfriend needs all of you. ... (read in full...)
I'm distraught. She's pregnant with the baby we have longed for. But she's not sure who the father is. Do I stay to father a child who may not be mine?
Q. Any advice would be great because my head is fried, I'm not sure I even want to be with her now. Hi not sure where to start so will start from beginning, me and my fiancée have been together for 4 years. 19 months ago we had a little girl who was ...
A. 19 January 2012: Keep us updated! :)... (read in full...)
I'm distraught. She's pregnant with the baby we have longed for. But she's not sure who the father is. Do I stay to father a child who may not be mine?
Q. Any advice would be great because my head is fried, I'm not sure I even want to be with her now. Hi not sure where to start so will start from beginning, me and my fiancée have been together for 4 years. 19 months ago we had a little girl who was ...
A. 19 January 2012: Sorry but you'll never trust her again and you shouldn't.... (read in full...)
I don't see what she gets out of this 'friendship' with this other guy and it is ruining our relationship...what should I do?
Q. Here it is, been with my girlfriend for coming up to five years now, she has recently started talking to an old guy friend of hers, they never had a relationship but he liked her. I aren't usually too bad with my jealousy but this time feels ...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi, I have a boyfriend of 17 years that i adore, i also have a male bff. We do talk every day, i always know where he is and vice versa. We are very close, we do things together with my boyfriend or with a group. Often we are alone. It's plat... (read in full...)
What's the deal with this friend of his?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for more than two years now and we finally went to meet a female friend of his on wednesday. She completely avoided eye contact with me and did not talk with me, after my bf got in his car and apologized about her. I ...
A. 20 December 2011: Ok i'm in really similar situation. I think I feel like your husband. I have a male BFF and I do like the attention he gives me I admit. Maybe it's the same thing with your husband? I adore my boyfriend, he's my soulmate and there's nothing going on ... (read in full...)
I'm lost in the middle of two guys and I feel I love both. Should I leave one or both guys?
Q. i was currently in a bad relationship earlier on this year and unfortuntely it ended badly and my ex soon found someone else. I have since been in a relationship with a guy since august and we are together even today, but i have been seeing anot...
A. 20 December 2011: You probably should be single, you can't love someone with all of your heart if you love two at the same time. I think when you find THE ONE you won't love anyone else but him. Good luck... (read in full...)
My husband accused me of being insecure after he was flirting at his christmas party! Am I insecure?
Q. Recently my husband and I went to his company's annual party. I have met a few people he works with but I do not know anyone well. It is awkward for me because once we get to the party he acts like I do not exist and gets mad if I stay wit...
A. 20 December 2011: He doesn't deserve you! He doesn't respect you. You are not insecure, he's WRONG WRONG WRONG! You should find someone who APPRECIATE you. Good luck... (read in full...)
Do women want powerful, wealthy men more than considerate, nice guys?
Q. I know nobody wants a wimp. But do all women prefer the self-absorbed jerk with power over the nice, middle class guy who is considerate of a woman's feelings? Is the law of the jungle and the law of human love really the same?...
A. 13 December 2011: No! I love a man with manners and who thinks the woman is equal to them. It's superficial looks, money it doesn't make you happy. I hope you find someone whose genuine don't give up there's a few left out there.... (read in full...)
15 year long relationship, 5 years of marriage...and now we are divorced because my wife could not be loyal to me.
Q. It has been right 3 months as of today since we divorced, which ended a 15 years long relationship and 5 years long marriage. Now, I am living alone and kept the divorce unknown to most of relatives including my parents and friends except a few very ...
A. 9 December 2011: You were right about leaving. You deserves someone who will treat you right. I'm sorry for your heartache, just think what doesn't kill you makes you stronger so you ARE strong. Stay positive and good things will happens. You will never trust her ... (read in full...)
Does it ever work out when the love interest has an overprotective, platonic friend of the opposite sex?
Q. I have been in this situation more times than I would have liked. I like a shy guy who is controlled by his overprotective friend who is a girl. She swears that there is no attraction between them and he will always be like her little brother, but ...
A. 28 November 2011: Hi, I am a friend like that! I have a male bff who's been single since we met (2 years ago) I have a boyfriend which i adore we've been together 17 years. I am super protective of my bff, i don't want to be with him BUT i'm afraid of losing him as... (read in full...)
How do I tell if my boyfriend wants a long term relationship or just likes stability?
Q. Hey, I'm not sure if my bf wants to be with me for me, or if it's just the idea of a longterm relationship and stability that he loves. How do I tell the difference? I've been with my bf 1.5 yrs, we live in the same town, see each other about...
A. 9 November 2011: Follow your gut feeling, if something doesn't feel right don't do it. Good luck!... (read in full...)
My non-existent love life.....men stare at me but I'm not sure if its for the right reason! How can I improve things?
Q. hi all! :) i'm just wondering what to do about my current non existent love life. i get load of men staring at me but i dont know is it for the right reason. i was out a few weeks ago and i had to tell a guy to go away 13 times. i'm not bein picky ...
A. 8 November 2011: You say men stares, maybe it's the way you dress? Just a tought...... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend versus the guy I really like? They are friends. The other guy wants me to stay with my Bf. Which one do I choose?
Q. am 19 i have been with my current boy friend for almost a year. he really loves me, and i like him too but i dont love him. i care about him. but am insecure around him, i dont like being in his company. There is another guy (guy two), he is my bes...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi,
No matter what you do someone will get hurt, but what's important in life is to be happy. If you know you don't love your bf don't waste his time and yours, let him go and find someone who loves him. If it doesn't work with guy #2 at least yo... (read in full...)
This guy should come with a warning label!!!
Q. So I've been dating this guy for about 3 weeks. He's 55, I'm 42. I got divorced a year ago after 15 years of marriage and haven't dated or had sex with anyone at all during this mourning period. The guy I'm dating at first claimed he had just broken ...
A. 7 November 2011: First i have to say you're funny! The way you told your story made me smile, not the end of it of course. Time heals all wounds. You'll get better and learn from your experiences. Don't give up stay positive good things will happen. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I already have trust issues and now my younger boyfriend wants a threesome!
Q. I have been in a livein relationship for 15mths now. I ham 43 my boyfriend is 28. He now wants a 3sum, him, me and another girl. At first I wanted to please him but have since told him that I was worried about the following 1 I couldn't ...
A. 4 November 2011: Good! See communication is the key and should follow your gut. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I can not handle any more "groupies." Is it him? Or am I a psycho?
Q. I am in a relationship that makes me feel super insecure. I was never ever insecure like this in my life. I was never a jealous person either. Even when I was younger. I am not sure if it is me or my partner. Woman are going after him as crazy. When ...
A. 3 November 2011: I think he's up to no good and the way he's acting is really disrespectful to you so you can only imagine what he does behind your back. You didn't mention how long you've been together. I think you'll never fully trust him and you're probably ... (read in full...)
Should I just relax and enjoy the friendship?
Q. I met a guy on an online dating site. We met ofr a first date over two weeks ago and got on great, attraction was there etc. However, after only a couple times after that he said he wants to just be friends. Admittedly, we had by this point ...
A. 2 November 2011: Hi!
My bff is a male and i love it. I do have a boyfriend which is my soulmate and don't want anything more with my bff. It works great for me since i'm not a girly girl, i really enjoy his company we are a lot alike. If you do have feelings... (read in full...)
Could he be cheating? I'm Confused and need advice about his behavioral changes, please?
Q. I have been in this relationship for 4 yrs now. Everything has been going well. But last week while doing laundry I noticed some staining if you will in my man's undies. Ok I know that doesn't mean much, it can happen. But then one of his unde...
A. 2 November 2011: Hi,
You should follow your female intuition. If it looks like bad news it probably is... You deserve better, maybe time to move on. Good luck! :)... (read in full...)
Friendly flirting or more to it?
Q. Hi. I have a question about a girl I like. We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my desk, and has even drawn on my hands and arms at times (in front of other people). She can be quite touchy-feely and...
A. 27 October 2011: I do have a male bff that i flirt with but it's all innocent and don't want anything more from him and made sure he knows. Maybe it's like that for her too... (read in full...)
Friendly flirting or more to it?
Q. Hi. I have a question about a girl I like. We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my desk, and has even drawn on my hands and arms at times (in front of other people). She can be quite touchy-feely and...
A. 27 October 2011: she seems to check her options with you. some girls flirts with everyone but if she doesn't flirt like that with anyone else, it looks like she's interested. you didn't mention your feeling about her. She shouldn't talk bad about her bf she shoud ... (read in full...)
Is he into me or does he only see me as a friend?
Q. So I just recently realized I have a crush my friend. I have never been friends with a guy first and then found myself attracted to them. So this crush really took me by surprise. But anyways. Out relationship is still fairly new, we have only known ...
A. 20 October 2011: sounds like the beginning of a great relationship to me!He's seems into you. Enjoy the moment, don't question yourself too much. Keep us update good luck!... (read in full...)
Distant boyfriend and falling for my male friend....what should I do?
Q. I've been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for over 2 years, but I've been really attracted to my guy friend for a while now. My guy friend (I'll call him Jim) writes music and asked me to sing for him last year. So about once a w...
A. 11 October 2011: Hi,
I think since you deserve someone who really appreciate you and wants you to be happy. I think you know deep down that your bf is not the one you're suppose to spend your life with. You're still young, you should probably try things out with... (read in full...)
Does he need to get used to being in a relationship again?
Q. does he really want to be with me or is he just using me? I met up with an old school friend recently. We hadn't seen each other for 21 years!! We got on so well, as if the past 21 years apart hadn't happened. He lives an hour away and works nights, ...
A. 14 September 2011: Don't panic, see how it goes. Maybe he was just busy lately. Just make sure you keep in touch without making him feel he needs to rush into something he doesn't. Maybe he's just careful because he's afraid of getting hurt again. Be patient :) Good ... (read in full...)
How do I show him am a good girl that will look after his heart & never hurt him?
Q. How do I make me see that am good girl that will love him and never hurt him.? There's this guy I use to work with. He'd stare at me when am not looking and would look away when I catch him. I gave him my number and we got chatting an...
A. 14 September 2011: Wow it seems that you were meant to meet! I think you need to take is slow and he will let his guard down after a while. He's afraid of being hurt again. Go on dates coffee, movies... and see how it goes. Good luck!! :)... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex but I think I'm too young, what should I do?
Q. Ok. So I know your going to complain about my age. :/ so please don't. See I have been dating this guy for 2 years from today. He is amazing and is always making me feel special about myself. He says that the love he has for me is uncomparable ...
A. 7 September 2011: if he really loves you he'll wait until you're ready even if it takes years. don't get pressure by him and if he dumps you he wasn't the ONE. Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I confront him about the texts I found on his phone?
Q. please can you help me, i checked my partner of 2 years phone and found a lot of girls numbers and some very sexy texts, which he has replied to, i am heartbroken ,how can cofront him when i had to put his pin number in to get in his phone ,i feel ...
A. 7 September 2011: Well you had a doubt if you went and check his phone. Maybe female intuition? He's in the wrong and you won't trust him anymore. Do you really think you will have a peace of mind from now on? Is it really worth it? I think you deserved better. Get a ... (read in full...)
Should I let it go and forgive my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I had been dating for 4 months but have known each other for almost 3 years. I always suspected that he and my sister had/have a thing for each other, but always thought that it was more like unspoken. He was once her teacher ...
A. 2 September 2011: I think you are wasting your time with him. He's married. What do you think you're going to have from him long term?I think he's taking advantage of you both. I think if you have someone great in front of you you won't even see it cause you're ... (read in full...)
I want the husband and family. Am I too old now?
Q. I am 27 and my partner of 4 years has just left me for a younger woman. I was meant to get married to him and have a family and no near my 30s I find myself single. Is it too late for me to have the husband and kids? ...
A. 31 August 2011: Of course not! Don't put pressure on yourself! You're still young and you shouldn't settle just because of your age also. I may happen quicker than you think. Have faith in life, stay positive and embrace a great future... (read in full...)
How can I just forget about the chemistry I have with my boyfriend's friend? Why is he telling me he wants me one minute and then saying its a joke the next minute?
Q. hello again, another dilema in my life. Basically, my boyfriends friend and I have gotten rather close, started with banter saying how we are secretly together and just telling each other how sexy and hot we are all for a joke. Weeks went by, and ...
A. 31 August 2011: Hi,
I really think you shouldn't stay with your bf. You don't seem to trust him and you probably shouldn't. Since you found someone else also means that you're lacking something in your relationship with your bf. Don't be afraid of being alone, i... (read in full...)
Everybody at works think we are an item but I am not sure what to do!
Q. Hi, I work with a girl who I have developed strong feelings for and I don’t know what to do. She broke up with her boyfriend about 5 months ago and we have become very close, we have spent a lot of time together, going out to dinner, to the movi...
A. 19 August 2011: go for it! Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm not sexually attracted to my fiance...Should I break off this engagement?
Q. i have been dating my fiance for four years, i am 20 yrs old and i have been with him since i was 16. We had a very healthy relatonship, for a very long time. on our three yr anniversary we moved into an apartment together for the first time, an...
A. 19 August 2011: I totally agree, i think it's over also. You will hurt him but you can't stay in a relationship you don't want either and be miserable. Love fades sometimes, sad but true. I think you give it a try by going on dates and stuff but maybe it's too ... (read in full...)
What do I do with this desire I have for another woman?
Q. Hello im 32 yrs old and married to a real good woman in all aspects i also have a wonderful baby boy that I adore but i meat someone a female 8 yrs younger and never did anything physcial but the conversations and the physical attraction is so ...
A. 19 August 2011: I think the grass "looks" greener on the other side. The best thing would probably distance yourself from the other woman. It's kind of playing with fire. Maybe you want what you can't have. Think of your kid and the life you build with your woman. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who doesn't want me
Q. Hi, I feel very down as I have done something so stupid. I'm 32 and in love with someone who doesn't want me. We've been "seeing each other" for 5 months and usual he told me at start he doesn't want a relationship but we both fall for each other as ...
A. 19 August 2011: I think you can either be only with him or move on. You're maybe more attach to him than you want to admit. Maybe it's too late, you need to see your priorities and determine what you really want. When you do, have a good talk with him to see where ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my first love, or is talking to her too much of a risk?
Q. Should I get back in touch with my first love? We split up over four years ago now after enduring a long distance relationship for two years. It was the single most difficult thing I have ever had to get over. I suffered for a very long time a...
A. 19 August 2011: Hi,
I think you already know the answer to your question. Since you said it took a loooooooooong time to heal, why would you take the chance to open a old wound? Look ahead not behind. Someone great is waiting for you, you need to let go of the p... (read in full...)
Is this an emotional affair?
Q. How can i know if i'm in a emotionnal affair with my male bff (i've known him for one year)? I adore my boyfriend but i like the attention i get from my bff he listens to me and notices me more than my bf it seems. I'm addicted to it I think like a ...
A. 17 August 2011: You're soooo right! Like i said it's been 17 years so my boyfriend had seen and heard it all before heheheh We need to spend quality time and I should spend more time with my other friends also. It's just because he's a guy and i like him very much ... (read in full...)
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