I want to know what is going on in this teacher's mind!
Q. This is a bit long. Thank you for paying attention to my question. Now, I shall inform you about the main person of the problem. It's a male teacher, he teaches us Chemistry at school. He is forty seven years old, and has a daughter. His da...
A. 6 November 2016: He sees that you have no friends or no support at school so he is stepping in. He is trying to be a good person and help you where he can. He is trying to raise your confidence and allow you to be happier at school. Have you any worries about his ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried he speak to his ex'?
Q. I'm 30 and my be is 48 we have been together 18 months. Everything is magical. However he still speaks to ibis ex wife. They were together over 20 years have no kids but they talk on the phone text etc. He says he doesn't have feelings and she is ...
A. 6 November 2016: Am sure he does still care about her after all these years. It might just be friendship. If you are not comfortable though then be honest with him. If he refuses to stop then you need to ask yourself can you accept this.... (read in full...)
Ex has started dating an 18 year old guy! How do I deal with this shocking news?
Q. My ex boyfriend (3 year relationship, broke up with me 6 weeks ago due to him feeling neglected due to my depression and OCD) told me this week that he is now in a relationship with an 18 year old boy... My ex and I are both 27....... One week ...
A. 6 November 2016: Off course it is a shock and am sure you have a lot off questions. But his sexuality is his business and he is single so he is doing nothing wrong. You just need to accept now you are no longer with him and move on with your life ... (read in full...)
Is this normal? Should I avoid any contact sexually with men if I'm not gay or bi?
Q. I'm a heterosexual male and is not sexualy attracted to men. However I do get turned on when I see a male erection. I fantasise on occasions about performing felatio and mutual masturbation with guys. I have also participated in mutual masturbation ...
A. 6 November 2016: Don't worry about putting a label on yourself. If you want to be curious about somethings then that is okay. Don't judge yourself ... (read in full...)
Is this FWB thing wrong or should my friends not judge?
Q. Hello everyone I'm having a sort of fling with a guy I work with who is 20 years older then me but I feel dirty and a little bit ashamed after my friends started saying he was a pervert and that it was wrong. I'm 25, he is 46. He's divorced an...
A. 6 November 2016: People will judge you that is life. But you are both adults and both consenting. What I would be concerned about is gossip at work effecting you both or at a risk his children finding out. Work may become unbearable. As I said you are both adults ... (read in full...)
Should I accept the new job?
Q. Hello there, I work as a preschool teacher making 15/hr. Recently I graduated with a Bachelor's in my field of choice and began job hunting. The basic living wage (enough to afford a one bedroom) is 25/hr. But I applied for a job (working with au...
A. 6 November 2016: Accept the job. You need to put yourself first and do what is best for you.... (read in full...)
Why won't he delete his profile on the dating site?
Q. Hi all, Could someone good kind people give their option please on this matter, is it an issue or it that I've got the issue, and I'm being stupid. Please tell me if I am. I'm gay, I met this wonderful guy 6 months ago, older than me, but t...
A. 6 November 2016: I think it's a silly excuse saying it is to talk to friends he has had on there for years, because if they where friends then he would find another way to contact them. For me it would not be acceptable. ... (read in full...)
My friend will not stop talking about her sex life !
Q. Firstly, i'm an introvert, so I tend to get annoyed pretty fast with someone's presence if they're always around. Secondly I tend to bottle up how I feel for the sake of being polite and swallow my dislike in order to put the other person's c...
A. 6 November 2016: I would simply just say to her you don't want to hear about her sex life. That is acceptable. I would feel the same As you.... (read in full...)
Should I ask him the questions I have and perhaps finally get closure?
Q. I would like to seek an advice about an incident that happened way back 1990 when I was 19 yrs old. At age 15, I never had any boyfriend because my parents were very strict especially my father. I am not much exposed to society reason my parent...
A. 6 November 2016: Honey maybe it would help to talk to a professional in your area xx... (read in full...)
If she liked me so much then why push me away?
Q. Hey there everyone! Hope you all are well. I need some advice about a girl i met just over a month ago. So ill tell you abit about the situation. So i met this girl on a dating site and we basically hit it off quick. I mean like we both talked l...
A. 4 November 2016: She has just found herself again. She was in an abusive marriage and now she is free and putting her life back together again. I have no doubt that she has feelings for you. It is clear that she does. But she is also very scared off what could ... (read in full...)
My husband never agrees with me!
Q. My husband never agrees with me . I will say , you siblings dont like me and he will say yes they do or i will tell him something that has happend and he will say no they didnt but if they say something about me he will do the same thing say i didnt ...
A. 4 November 2016: It seems like he does not want to hear any drama so he says opposite to you in hope that you won't go in to a discussion about it. When is the last time you had fun together? No negativity just laughed and had a great time? If you can't remember ... (read in full...)
My best male friend chose a g/f over me and 6 years later I found out he married her. How do I get over the hurt?
Q. So I was best friends with a guy who I had known all my life right up until we were 18. Even though we didn't see each other anymore, I still messaged him all the time and I still considered him my best friend. But he then got a girlfriend, who made ...
A. 4 November 2016: The friendship could not have been that important to him or he would not have just given it up. It sounds to me like you may have had feelings for him. Maybe it was obvious to him and his girlfriend and that is why he cut contact. Either way it was ... (read in full...)
Was I right to kick it into touch?
Q. I am feeling so crushed and confused right now. I was in a relationship and I thought he was perfect for me, good to me, great to my little girl. I was great friends with his Mum. Then on Saturday I was having coffee with his Mum and his brother ...
A. 4 November 2016: Seems to be like you may have had trust issues with him. If I heard his brother saying this I would have confronted him and asked him for the story and then made a judgement. Have you been cheated on in the past? Do you trust him?
Off course he shou... (read in full...)
Why do I get so upset when my husband masturbates??! Help!
Q. I've been with my husband for about a year and a half now, I'm 26 and he's 31. I have to say I am not bad looking at all but I just feel so unsexy when he masturbates! We don't have sex as often as I'd like to and I always initiate. He never does! I ...
A. 4 November 2016: Off course you are jealous, you feel that you are losing out to his hand. He is taking the easy way out here. Sex requires effort. He can't be bothered with that when he can satisfy himself quickly with no hassle. He has gotten lazy in the marriage ... (read in full...)
Married for 15 years, wife confessed to cheating on me early on. I'm mad at her but also very sexually excited by the dirty details! What's going on?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 15 years and we have 2 young boys. We are happily married and are of Indian origin but we were both born in the UK where we have both lived all our life. The first 2-4 years of our marriage was blighted by my wi...
A. 4 November 2016: I would be angry. She has basically been living a lie with you. How can you trust her after this? If it was me it would not be a turn on, it would break my heart. It would question who I am and what my marriage means. It is for you to decide what ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him the questions I have and perhaps finally get closure?
Q. I would like to seek an advice about an incident that happened way back 1990 when I was 19 yrs old. At age 15, I never had any boyfriend because my parents were very strict especially my father. I am not much exposed to society reason my parent...
A. 4 November 2016: Sweetie you are holding on to this hurt. Closure is not going to happen because he is never going to admit anything to you. My guess is he knew he was doing wrong so he blamed you and sadly your mother believed him. Yes your life could have taken a ... (read in full...)
I was asked out on a date by an older man? Should I go?
Q. Hello all, hope you’re having a good day? :) I haven’t posted on here for a very long time, so apologies if I forget some rules. I was at the bus stop the other day waiting for my usual bus to get home in the early evening. A gentleman was th...
A. 4 November 2016: Go for it what have you got to lose. Maybe he was plucking up the courage to talk to you because off the age difference. Meet in a public place and see how it goes. You have nothing to lose. If you don't feel a spark then just be honest with him. ... (read in full...)
I'm not convinced she's stopped contact with him!
Q. I had found out that my girlfriend had accepted a married man while still in love with me, I ask her but there was no proper answer from her and I told her to call the man and tell him that she is going out with me but she refused to tell him on ...
A. 4 November 2016: If you cannot trust her well then love is just simply not enough. A relationship is built up with lots of things. Yes love is a big one, but so is respect, trust, being loyal, caring, forgiving.... the list goes on. Are you sure you are able to be ... (read in full...)
Have a child with my unhelpful ex, my parents are supporting me and I'm pregnant again by the same guy! How do I tell my parents?
Q. When I was 17 I got pregnant and had my son, shortly after he was born my bf and I broke up. He isn't s bad guy we were both just young. My parents blamed him for me pregnancy because he was older they put more blame on him (he was 29 when I got ...
A. 4 November 2016: Oh dear what a mess to get yourself in to. Did you not learn from the first pregnancy to be more careful? No point lying your parents are going to be upset and disappointed this has happened you again, especially with the same guy. He may not have ... (read in full...)
He's different to me when he's drunk. Is he punishing me?
Q. I met an Irish guy doing the regional work in Aus and became close. While he went on a road trip for a few weeks,I met someone else,which only ended up as a fling, and had to tell him when he returned before Christmas. He was very hurt and bitter. ...
A. 4 November 2016: Why post the same question twice, maybe go back and look at the other answers you got and update us or ask us questions.... (read in full...)
Should I give up on the guy I've been seeing?
Q. Hello I will start from the beginning. While at college I got very close to one guy in my year, we will call him Harry (he's not really called Harry). We had a 'bit of a thing' for 2 years, he would stay at my house, we would disappear at hou...
A. 4 November 2016: I don't think Harry wants a relationship with you am afraid. I know he may have said it but still it was only words. It sounds like you where both friends with benefits. Always sneaking off for sex never going on dates. Empty words and promises he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he has never enjoyed sex much
Q. Hi, I have a wonderful boyfriend of 5 months. Originally we took our time getting to know each other before taking it to the next level. Now, that we have mentioned to each other that we are both ready. Every time we get sexual, it seems he ...
A. 4 November 2016: I think if he has always been this way then he should get himself checked out by a doctor. It could be something serious and that is why he needs to rule these out. Yes most probable it is anxiety but still try and get him to see someone. ... (read in full...)
I heard talk that my FWB beat up his ex girlfriend
Q. Is past abuse a deal breaker or red flag for sex buddies? I left my boyfriend because he beat me up. I do still love him and been trying to deny the really tight tramua bond I have with him. And now I guess I have a new sex buddy.He has been hel...
A. 4 November 2016: Ask him did he beat up his ex. You should be able to tell from his response if he is telling you the truth or not when he answers.
I would stop having sex with him if there is truth in it as he is not the sort of person you want around. Also I get ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable when it comes to priorities in our relationship?
Q. Hi guys, Background story: me and my boyfriend met whilst we were both working evenings in a large fast food company. Neither of us planned to stay there. I got the opportunity of a daytime management position at another company. He pushed me to...
A. 4 November 2016: If he is called in to work it is hard to say no, as you want to keep your employer happy so I wouldn't take this out on him. Also yes it is unfair on you when you barely see each other. But am sure he is feeling the pressure as well. He is wanting ... (read in full...)
If you find yourself having messed up badly, how can you stop beating yourself up? and will God or the universe send the right person(s) your way without you being prepared?
Q. I met a great guy over a month or so ago and I blew it from the very beginning. I made a mistake by not respecting myself enough and made myself look like a low-value woman in his eyes by my actions and choices. I guess I didn't even realize my ...
A. 4 November 2016: Well if you had such strong feelings for him to begin with then you would not have messed it up. It could also be that you two where not meant to be, but you are blaming yourself and putting yourself down.
No matter what way you look at it he is n... (read in full...)
Has she blocked me and cut off all ties? She seems to have dropped off the face of the earth!
Q. Okay i met this girl over a month ago everything was going great ! i found out the girl i was seeing was engaged or atleast that was what facebook said to her roomate who is a girl/her best friend. we had soo much fun together and the connection was ...
A. 4 November 2016: I remember your first post on this, clearly you did not ask her about her being engaged you just continued to see her. Surely you must have wanted to know a couple off weeks back if she really was or if it was just social media. My guess is you did ... (read in full...)
Will he ever take things to the next level and ask me to hang out outside of work? Or is he just being flirty/nice to me and I'm reading his signals wrong?
Q. So there's a guy I work with who over the past 3 months has increased his talking to me. I do like him and think he's cute but since it's an office setting I'm confused. He will only try to have a conversation with me when no ones really around ...
A. 4 November 2016: I think he might like you yes but am not sure about romantically. He has mentioned bringing you out, but surely he would have done it by now if he was so interested? My advice is avoid a work romance, because if it does not work out you are faced ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I'm thinking of changing jobs?
Q. Dear Aunts/Unclesr Cutting a long story short. I met a guy at work. He started flirting. It was a while before I noticed him. I started flirting back then he went cold. I think because I was coming on to him too quickly as I was starting to fanc...
A. 4 November 2016: He is not interested in you romantically. He may be a flirty person by nature and you read to much in to this. I think you need to accept that he is keeping his distance, telling lies about changing job is not going to make him want you therefore ... (read in full...)
Should I take the medication my doctor prescribed? I lost my parents and am depressed.
Q. It's a long time since I came on here, but in the past I have always been given good advice so here goes. 6 years ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer. A couple of operations and some treatment, and I got the all clear late last year. Dad had skin...
A. 4 November 2016: No don't take the pills. You are not depressed you are grieving and you need someone to talk to and to share your pain with. Yes the pills may dull it but they won't help you come to terms with what has happened in your life. Contact a grief ... (read in full...)
How do I force myself to want to care?
Q. Hey all, I wanna know more about how to be more sociable. I am tired of being the quiet, minding his own business guy. I was a very quiet kid and am a quiet adult today. The problem is not fear or lack of confidence. Infact, in my head, I'm the smar...
A. 3 November 2016: If you don't want to care about other people then why is it a problem? It is okay to only be close to a few people if that is what makes you happy. As long as you are friendly and not rude to others then it should not matter. If you wanted to change ... (read in full...)
Did his remark mean if I gain weight he won't be interested?
Q. Last year September my mother's sister who was very kind to everyone passed away. Her death left most of us stressed out because of that I gained a lot of weight and stopped looking after myself. I was also going through a terrible breakup with my ...
A. 3 November 2016: He was joking, try and not be to sensitive. ... (read in full...)
Is he holding back because I hurt him? Or punishing me?
Q. I met an Irish guy doing the regional work in Aus and became close. While he went on a road trip for a few weeks,I met someone else,which only ended up as a fling, and had to tell him when he returned before Christmas. He was very hurt and bitter. ...
A. 3 November 2016: With alcohol he can let down his guard. Now it could be that he wants to be with you but he is scared to take that step in case you hurt him. But you also need to consider that he just wants someone to keep him warm at night and nothing else. Talk ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being obsessive about my boyfriend's ex?
Q. I hope I don't get judged too harshly for this question because it's extremely shallow and I have been through a lot worse before. But I'm struggling with extreme jealousy that I can't stop feeling. I currently work in a weird kind of job wher...
A. 3 November 2016: Best thing to do is block her so that you cannot look her up and bring a good book to work. Concentrate on something else. You have just got in to a bad habit, and yes it will eat away at your own confidence and make you feel miserable. Get off the ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my feelings for him from distracting me?
Q. I know this guy who studies in another university in the same country. I met him on a casual occation when i went to visit my friend in that city. We did not talk a lot. I do not even have his phone number. He never showed any flirty moves on me and ...
A. 3 November 2016: You have only met this guy twice so you barely know him. Do you interact much online? The thing is you seem to have built him up in your head and you have developed feelings. Therefore it is okay to maybe ask him out. But you need to look at it ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 3 November 2016: I don't think it is your Autism that is holding you back, I think it is your mental health. You need to seek help for that. Lift the phone and talk to someone who can help you. But honey you also need to stop putting yourself down so much and learn ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's parents disapprove but mine don't!
Q. I just moved to America a few months ago and soon after met a boy I really really like. We started dating and just recently hit the 6 month mark. The problem is his parents. His parents a originally from Korea and are very traditional. Since he...
A. 3 November 2016: The thing is yes it is his choice so if he says it is okay then I understand why you are still with him, you really like him and want to be with him. But I think the danger here is when his parents DO find out, and they will FIND OUT, then he will ... (read in full...)
I've always felt like my B/f fancied me but now I feel from his choice in porn that he fancied his ex more!
Q. My boyfriend has unknowingly dented my self esteem recently, although he's hurt my feelings he hasn't done it on purpose. I'm not sure telling him would be a good idea. I can't stand arguing! I've started watching porn with him, I've never had a...
A. 3 November 2016: Yes I think this is more to do with your confidence in regards to his ex. He is not with her anymore he is with you, you need to accept that is obviously what he wants. He may like this porn star and has just formed a habit. You are probably picking ... (read in full...)
I think he's selfish for taking viagra!
Q. I just found out my husband has been taking Viagra. He's 63 I'm 57. What makes me upset is that he should have talked to me about it, and I have not wanted sex for years. Been together 32 years and we've been having sex twice a week for last few ...
A. 3 November 2016: Viagra is taken for a medical condition, Botox is not. If you want to get Botox you don't need his permission you are an adult who I assume has her own money. You mention professional help and I don't think this would be a bad road for you both to ... (read in full...)
I've never had feelings like this before, but I'm getting whiplash!
Q. Ok, so here it is: A couple months ago i met this guy, and it was instant attraction from both sides. Physical attraction that i have NEVER felt before, but what was strange is that there was the emotional attraction as well. We are very good ...
A. 3 November 2016: He is playing with you. This dude has a girlfriend. You say first you did not need to lie to each other then you said he has a girlfriend but he downplayed it to someone he was just seeing. Therefore to me that sounds like lying. I am sorry you have ... (read in full...)
I may have lost the love of my life and perfect girl to commitment phobia! Now that I want her back, she's completely blanked me out!
Q. I think Ive ruined things with the love of my life Ive been with my girl 8 years since school she's absolutely stunning that's why I fancied her initially I just wanted to have sex with her but we were 16 she ended up making me wait 8 months a...
A. 3 November 2016: She should not have to try and get you to show her you want her. You should be mature enough to understand that you need to show her how much she means to you. After all these years you have taken her for granted. You have messed up. Simple as that. ... (read in full...)
Husband took advantage of my drunken state
Q. I'm not really sure what to do. Two nights ago, my husband and I went to a party. I drank, he did not. I drank a little too much and was barely functioning. We came home and had sex. He went soft so I rolled over and passed out. Next thing I know, ...
A. 3 November 2016: Talk to him about this. It is not acceptable just to assume he can take sex when you are asleep. If it was me it would plague me until I spoke to him about it. ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 27 October 2016: We cannot answer these questions about what is going on in his mind. But we can try and help you to help yourself. Is it a problem living alone? Would your mother have you come stay with her for a while or even as another poster suggested an in ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 21 October 2016: Am not sure why you think it is your families responsibility to help you out financially. You are an adult. You get your money. You should be able to look after yourself and stop blaming your family for everything. When your grandfather left you ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 20 October 2016: No it is not right off him to man handle you in any situation. It sounds like he was frustrated with you. Still not an excuse. If he would rather spend his money in the pub than come see you then that says really all that you need to know.
As for ... (read in full...)
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