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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 January 2017):
 You need to stay away from your cousin or else you will end up having all off your family having a big huge fall out and over nothing because you will then realize that it was a crush not love but your family will never trust you again. You need to accept that your cousin is off limits, listen to the advice you get and move on with your life.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (11 January 2017):
 You aren't listening OP. You are fantasising. You may have concocted feelings but they aren't based on anything real. Get your head out of the clouds and find someone near you who you can become attached to; a real girlfriend who lives in your neighbourhood.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (11 January 2017):
 OP, you do not love her. You don't respect her either, or you'd just let go and move on. Accept that you shouldn't be with her and make the active decision to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really love her ??
I dont know but she is loving me too but i dont know if its fake or bo
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (28 October 2016):
Just because you are going to see her next year does not mean you need to talk to her now. If you leave her alone you will be well over her by then.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (28 October 2016):
That's several months away - stop talking to her until you're over her, then just talk to her as you would talk to a brother.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (28 October 2016):
Dude - you can't make people love you, nor should you. Chat away by all means but realistically what are your expectations?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut she is my cousin and 8/2017 im gonna see her so it will be shame for me that im not chatting with her
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reader, N91 +, writes (26 October 2016):
 You're right, she's not interested in chatting with you, so leave her be and move on.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (26 October 2016):
That's okay. Now you can get over her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks anyone but . I think she is mad on me now because she doesnt answer me fast
She answers after 2 day and she is not interested chatting with me ??
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (17 October 2016):
That is a good thing, now you stop texting her.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 October 2016):
That's not a bad thing because you can get over your crush. Leave it be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk thanks but now she stopped texting me ??
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (9 October 2016):
We have, OP. You need to stick with it; it may take a few months.
Talk to her less.
Treat her like a boy cousin.
Don't compliment her on her looks.
Don't be alone with her.
Don't kiss/hug/lean on each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm trying to forget her and take her out of my head but i cant ??
Tell me a way to forget her
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (5 October 2016):
At 14 you should not even be thinking about marriage, legal or not it could turn out very messy. You are to young to be getting in to something like this. Treat her as a friend. Your crush will fade.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (5 October 2016):
It may be legal, but they are close family members and if there's a break up, it could pull the family apart.
You don't have to stop talking to her, just don't be alone together and treat her like you would with your boy cousin. Don't flirt, don't compliment her on her looks, don't talk to her as often and don't allow yourself to think of her like a girlfriend. Let the crush fade, OP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd marrying cousin is allowed in my country because my other cousins has married and my aunt too
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys but so hard to leave her :( does there any way to forget her because i dont want her to be mad at me because i dont talk with her she said that my other boy cousin is boring because hes not chatting with her
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 October 2016):
You have a crush it is not love. Don't spend time alone with her, try and not contact her so much. You need to accept that she is your cousin, she is family not a potential girlfriend. Try and keep yourself busy and meet girls that are not relations.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (4 October 2016):
It means you're both acting inappropriately. If you won't block her, you need to treat her like a boy cousin, not let her lay on your chest or hold hands.
It's normal to have a crush, but it's a bad idea to allow it to continue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks andie but she is my cousin so i cant block her Thanks denizn but she hugs me so much and at night she was on my chest and taking my hand si what does that mean
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (4 October 2016):
Stop talking to her for a while. Tell her you need a break and block her. This isn't going to work out, OP. You need to find someone who isn't a relative and who lives closer to you, so you can get to know them. Your cousin isn't a real person in your head because you don't see them often enough, so your brain makes them sound perfect, when they won't be.
Let go, block them and distract yourself with a hobby and friends who live near you.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (4 October 2016):
There is nothing so bitter sweet as unrequited love. However you don't love this person. You love the idea of being in love. You haven't had time to properly know her. She is a fantasy. It is difficult at your age because the hormones are running amok. My advice is to find a friend nearer home and one you can meet face to face.
This is important because it helps your body produce oxytocin, a vital hormone. Oxytocin has also been dubbed the hug hormone, cuddle chemical, moral molecule, and the bliss hormone due to its effects on behaviour.
It doesn't happen on Facebook, the phone or email. It is a vital part of trust, a key ingredient in a real relationship.
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