How do I turn this FWB relationship into something more?
Q. I am in a friends with benefit with a girl I has known since I was 15. We are both now 25. We used to be just good friends but the sex started about 2 years ago. It is a bit of an unusual FWB relationship because she stated that in beginning that ...
A. 11 November 2016: Telling you that you are like a brother is not something you really want to hear to be honest. I don't think it is going to develop over time. I would sit by a friends bed if they where a good friend. It sounds like she does love you as a friend. ... (read in full...)
My heart belongs to another and I want out of my marriage but I won't be able to support myself/kids
Q. I am married and have been for 10 years. I have three beautiful children that I love more than anything. I stay home to care for them, as one of them is too young for school. Here is my dilemma. I am not in love with my husband. I haven't been for ...
A. 10 November 2016: I think because you have met this other man and you think the grass is greener that you will do anything to be with him and leave your husband. My guess is that if this other man was not involved you would make more off an effort in your marriage. ... (read in full...)
Why won't my friend give me a chance?
Q. Hi I am a 52 year old man who has been in love with a female friend for 20 yrs I have helped her through many rough times. she does know how I feel but says she doesn't know why she won't give me a chance I know I would make her and her Childrens ...
A. 10 November 2016: Your story really pulled at my heart strings. Twenty years is a long time to want someone, it must be just pure agony for you, waiting and wondering will you ever get the woman that you love. I don't think I could handle that for 20 days let alone ... (read in full...)
Does he have too much baggage?
Q. I'm dating a guy that is a 100% gentleman, is God-fearing, has a great job, is goal-driven and has committed to being celibate with me..But, he is divorced (for 5 years now), and has two children (10 years old and 7 years old). He's 33, so I can ...
A. 10 November 2016: At 26 it can be a lot to take on in a relationship especially if you are wanting to be celibate. However this is your decision to make and nobody else's. Yes am sure it is scary, but you also seem to like him, therefore I would say give it a chance. ... (read in full...)
I thought we had something but now I'm thinking we are just a casual relationship
Q. Omg! So, we met online and have dated a few times. Taken the relationship to another level, had amazing sex, a few times now. and now,after just 7 weeks booked to go away together. All fantastic, I thought. However, he has been acting strangely the ...
A. 10 November 2016: He is being the immature one here and taking the easy way out. At least you found out now after 7 weeks and it didn't take seven months to realize what sort off man he is. Hold your head up high you have done nothing wrong. Yes it will dent your ... (read in full...)
I broke off a 3 year affair and all he said was ok
Q. Hi, I've been seeing a married man(ex), for 3 years now. I finally got the guts to say "I can't do this anymore, I need more". It was really hard to say this to him since I still love him. He just said to me "ok". nothing else. not why, are you ...
A. 9 November 2016: He is probably glad that you have ended it as soon as he heard you saying you wanted more. You see this guy is married, so he already has a wife, he does not need another one. You where someone he met with to have fun and forget about life. But now ... (read in full...)
Am I confusing love with sex?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend. We have been friends for years and have slept together on and off for a while. Am I confusing sex with love. Should I tell him?...
A. 9 November 2016: Off course some people cannot switch off feelings when having sex with someone and it sounds like you are like this. If you have caught feelings for him then it is time to be honest. Because it would not be fair on you to continue on with friendship ... (read in full...)
Would you leave your spouse if you thought they were cheating, or would you wait for evidence or proof?
Q. Would you leave your husband if you thought he was cheating on you? Is that enough? Or would you need to obtain evidence/proof before leaving him? ...
A. 9 November 2016: It depends what makes me think that he is cheating. I mean I trust my partner completely so it would need to be something huge for me to think that he was cheating. Do you want to explain to us in a bit more detail why you have these doubts?
F... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting sex twice a week?
Q. Dear Cupid: I'm a lesbian and been with my lady for almost 2 years. At first the sex was amazing. NOW it never happens and she thinks there are times it has and it hasn't. I would remember. I CHERISH it so much when it does. She used to initiate...
A. 9 November 2016: Am afraid to say that this might actually be the end for the two off you. Yes you may love each other, but you want different things. It could be many reasons why she does not want sex other than she really does not need it in a relationship as much ... (read in full...)
Why isnt he replying the date is 3 days away
Q. I have arranged a date with a man i know ( we dont see each other out its more of a facebook friendship ) the date is set for this weekend . I have messaged him to confirm times and place to meet but he hasnt replied for a week ! why would someone ...
A. 9 November 2016: He is showing no interest at all, even if he did reply now I would tell him you have made other arrangements. You don't want to be seen as the girl who sits around waiting for a guy. Start as you mean to go on. If he is treating you like this now ... (read in full...)
I'm in a slump with boyfriend
Q. Hi All, Thankyou in advanced for all of your help. I have a quick question. My partner and I have been together for about a year and are set to move in together soon. I absolutely adore him and know that he feels the same about me al...
A. 9 November 2016: I think you are expecting a lot off your partner. Yes you are both in a committed relationship. But that does not mean that you need to be glued to each other all the time. Distance is actually good in a relationship. It is good to have time to miss ... (read in full...)
Was my husband going to do something behind my back?
Q. We were out of town with another couple for a concert.And we all stayed in the same hotel but on different rooms.After the concert the four us had quite a bit of alcohol through out the night.We decided to go back to the other couples room and drink ...
A. 9 November 2016: When people drink to much alcohol they let there guard down and can become more affectionate and touchy feeling. My guess is that she was like this and decided to harmlessly sit on his knee. Sweetie I think you need to have more faith and trust in ... (read in full...)
How can I stop beating myself up for making same mistake twice?
Q. I recently was dating an awesome person and long story short, I wrecked my chances with them and turned them off completely. It's unfixable, trust me. If this mistake was something I had never learned about before, I'd just say "I just didn't know...
A. 9 November 2016: People make mistakes on a daily basis, some learn from them and some don't. That is life. But you need to accept that you have made the same mistake twice and ask yourself what does it mean for the future.... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend take any responsibility in our relationship?
Q. Hey dearcupid readers, Just wanted some thoughts on this. I'm a guy and I've been with my girlfriend for almost three years; we are still at university but living together off campus. I love her dearly but recently something that has been going o...
A. 9 November 2016: If she was traditional then she would be doing the cooking and cleaning ect. She is not traditional she just wants a boyfriend who will treat her like royalty and put her before himself. Sorry but if she wants traditional then you stop with the ... (read in full...)
My inability to interact with others is making me very lonely
Q. Help please! I am very awkward around people and have trouble with keeping eye contact.i have a tendency to sweat profusely and stutter when I speak. I think I offend people when I don't look at them or say hi but really I'm just terrified of min...
A. 9 November 2016: Get help first for your depression. This is probably making your social anxiety worse. Head to your doctor and see what help is available out there to you. Remember your anxiety is real and it is not you being silly or rude to people. It is a ... (read in full...)
How do I know which one is right for me?
Q. My friend and I have been friends for 9 years now and we didn't start out as friends when we we're younger. He use to bully me a lot since we lived next door to each other. He is bisexual and I'm don't know if he's interested in me or maybe I'm ...
A. 9 November 2016: If you have to think about it then neither off these guys are for you. Remember just because you are single does not mean you need to settle for someone. Enjoy being single and go out and meet new people.... (read in full...)
I thought we had something but now I'm thinking we are just a casual relationship
Q. Omg! So, we met online and have dated a few times. Taken the relationship to another level, had amazing sex, a few times now. and now,after just 7 weeks booked to go away together. All fantastic, I thought. However, he has been acting strangely the ...
A. 9 November 2016: It sounds like it has been a bit of a whirlwind romance the last 7 weeks. So much has happened and now it seems to have crashed. I see it hasn't from your point, but if he says he cancelled his subscription and well he hasn't then there is your ... (read in full...)
What to do so I don't feel awkward kissing/hugging her?
Q. I've know this girl for 3 years now as she is on my university course. We've always been friends and hung out a few times outside of uni. However about a week ago I went to hers to have a movie night, it was really nice and we spoke for ages and ...
A. 9 November 2016: Ask her out on a date. Tell her you like her. I think she needs reassurance from your end as she has already made it clear what she wants. So bite the bullet and ask her out for dinner.... (read in full...)
I cheated once on my husband with a friend I like the attention but feel guilty
Q. I know my hubby for 18 years of which we married for 10 years. Although I came close to cheating on him, I didn't actually ever kiss anyone (French kiss). I was so proud of this as most of my friends have cheated on their spouses. That was up until ...
A. 9 November 2016: You are playing a dangerous game here. You need to decide what is more important risking your marriage and hurting your husband or continuing to get a bit off attention. You are being a cock tease to your friends husband, it is dangerous. You are ... (read in full...)
I'm a 19 year old girl and I'm in love with my stepmom!
Q. Should I tell her or Not? I'm 19, and it's sad to say, but I'm in love with my step mom. It's a bad thing because I'm also a female. Every time that I'm around her, I stutter, smile a lot,etc. It's getting to the point to where I can't even hug...
A. 9 November 2016: Yeah exactly you can stop worrying about it, it will get easier in time. ... (read in full...)
I don't want my mom to be pregnant I like being the only child!
Q. I think my mom mother is pregnant she told my we are having a baby but I thought she was joking and I'm scared to really ask her cause I don't want another child I'm the only one and I like it like that...
A. 9 November 2016: Your mother has brought you up and now she is starting all over again. Her choice not yours am afraid. I don't see why a baby would not be a good thing. If your mum is happy then should you not be happy for her? You will be moving out soon and ... (read in full...)
I'm more emotionally attached to my b/f than he is to me
Q. HI, I dont know why I have this sad feeling that I am more emotionally attached to my bf than he is. We are together for almost 3 years, we dont live together but we are very involve in each ones lives..that is what I think. He has some problems re...
A. 9 November 2016: You are allowing him to walk all over you and treat you this way. After three years you should want more, and so should he. But he doesn't. He is happy seeing you once a week for sex or to have you there if he needs help or is having a bad time. But ... (read in full...)
My fiance lost his job and I'm freaking out about the money
Q. Hai.....my fiance just lost his job. We are supposed to get married next year in June or July (haven't set a date yet). I have a full time job which pays well. My fiance is in school at the same time. He is getting a university degree. The thing...
A. 9 November 2016: Off course you are going to stress, weddings are expensive and you are going to worry how you can afford it because only one off you is bringing in an income.
Make up a budget so that you are both not over spending yet you still have the bills paid... (read in full...)
I know she loves me but she will not be in a relationship with me
Q. She has bI am in love with my best friend and i have told her. She said no to being in a relationship. I told her i cant be friends with someone i am attracted to and that we should stop seeing each but she refuses to go out of my life I know s...
A. 9 November 2016: She refuses to get out off your life therefore you need to remove her from yours. Block her from being able to contact you and move on. If she comes to your house ignore the door. You have told her how you feel but she is not wanting a relationship ... (read in full...)
My parents are not happy that my boyfriend is back in my life
Q. When I was 18 I got pregnant by my bf who was also 18. We had been dating for just over a year when it happened . I found out I was pregnant on our high school graduation day. With the help of both of our parents we were both able to go to ...
A. 8 November 2016: There was a similar story on here recently but the girl slept with her ex and is now pregnant for a second time and scared to tell her parents, therefore yes please do be careful about birth control.
Also remember even though you are an adult it i... (read in full...)
I love my stepdaughter is that normal?
Q. Is it common for stepfathers to fall in love with their stepdaughters. Should i tell her she is a grown woman, and im not with her mother anymore.Iam going absolutely insane. I love her so much.what do i do? Am i a pervert for even thinking that....
A. 8 November 2016: No you don't love her, you are not some teenager allowing his hormones to over rule, you are a grown adult and you should know that no good can come off this. You where her step father, her mothers husband!! You tell her how you feel and you will ... (read in full...)
I now feel worse after taking that final step
Q. I have guy that I posted about who keeps coming in and out of my life. He always reaches out after months saying misses me only to disappoint me and ditch me again...but every time he comes back I think its finally the time that hes gonna stick with ...
A. 8 November 2016: Yes off course it is normal you are going to freak out because you have lost contact and you know if he wants to contact that he can't. Yes it is scary but also the right thing to do because then he cannot hurt you again. Believe me he will not ... (read in full...)
I'm a 19 year old girl and I'm in love with my stepmom!
Q. Should I tell her or Not? I'm 19, and it's sad to say, but I'm in love with my step mom. It's a bad thing because I'm also a female. Every time that I'm around her, I stutter, smile a lot,etc. It's getting to the point to where I can't even hug...
A. 8 November 2016: Sweetie you have a crush on her and also your hormones are running havoc so you are going to feel all over the place and feel like you will never feel in love so much as you do now. Believe me it is all part off growing up. Telling her will only ... (read in full...)
Why aren't my parents happy for me and my boyfriend? I feel like I just can't win with them
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 and a half months and things are going great. For the first time in a long time, I havnt been so happy. And my whole family can see that and have all told me that they are happy I found a decent guy. ...
A. 8 November 2016: That is families for you, unfortunately for you your still living under there roof so they are still going to talk about you and feel responsible for you. Believe me all families are judgmental, in fact all people are judgmental. You are at an age ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable saying words about genitals. Help?
Q. Hi there, I'm in my first relationship and have been for 18 or so months. I've got body dysmorphia and I'm waiting for therapy for it, but I'm ashamed of my body. I'm very introverted physically and I've only ever been naked with my current boyfr...
A. 8 November 2016: Honey you really are not alone. I would imagine that the vast majority off girls your age are the same. I am almost 30 and I am still the same. You are shy around it but you also associate it with something dirty because off past experiences. ... (read in full...)
I'd like a gap year, is that so bad?
Q. Hi. So I know this question isn't really about relationships and sex but this sites by far my favourite and I figured you guys would be helpful. Im 17 and supposed to be starting university next September - I say supposed to because I'm completely ...
A. 8 November 2016: Nope nothing wrong with that. If you can afford to take a year out to find yourself then you do that. As long as you can afford to look after yourself and be independent then go for it.... (read in full...)
Why am I looking up someone from my past? I wouldn't leave my boyfriend for him anyways
Q. Hi everyone. Thank you for taking the time to read this. So here's the thing. I have been with my partner for many years and he's everything I could have asked for. But once every (approximately) year I go online and look up someone from my ...
A. 8 November 2016: Curiosity killed the cat. You are making your partner miserable by telling him this. You really don't need to share everything with him. It will only give him a reason to doubt your feelings for him. Sweetie it is okay to check out people in the ... (read in full...)
Why is she treating me this way? Is she just using me?
Q. Hey, me and my partner been together 13 years we have 4 kids and are now goin to get married in october 2017, just a few things id like to ask, 1) my partner has admitted to me that she cant talk to me the same way she can other guys whats this ...
A. 8 November 2016: Sounds like you are very paranoid and you have got in to a rut, it can happen very easily after four children, but you need to sort this out before you think off getting married. If she feels she cannot talk to you maybe it is because you are ... (read in full...)
How do I turn this FWB relationship into something more?
Q. I am in a friends with benefit with a girl I has known since I was 15. We are both now 25. We used to be just good friends but the sex started about 2 years ago. It is a bit of an unusual FWB relationship because she stated that in beginning that ...
A. 8 November 2016: It seems to me she has issues from her bad relationship with her father that she has never dealt with. She may have shared them with you but I don't think she has accepted her past and dealt with it. She is not interested in a relationship. She ... (read in full...)
Jealous of my boyfriends cousin, is it even normal?
Q. Okay um.. Is it weird if I get jealous of my boyfriends cousin? They're really close since they were kids. But when my boyfriend and I were still friends, he told me a couple of times that he wanted someone like Sofia (his cousin) as his girlfriend! ...
A. 8 November 2016: A comment that he said has stuck in your head about Sophia, and my guess is that he probably does not even remember saying it to you. Really it is nothing to be alarmed about. He obviously gets on well with her and he wanted someone like her. But ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband without hurting his feelings that he doesn't satisfy me?
Q. So..I've been with my husband for 11 years. Sex was never a problem, up until recently. I was young when we first met so I never paid attention to the "small" size he carried, it would satisfy me completely. Now after 3 kids I feel differently. How ...
A. 8 November 2016: Well you tell him that and his confidence will hit the floor. Instead off saying that to him, tell him you want to spice things up and try new things. Plenty off foreplay and this matter should be resolved. Most women cannot reach orgasm through ... (read in full...)
Sick and tired of being the only responsible one
Q. I am tired of being the only one responsible in our household. I have been with my significant other for almost 8 years. In this time, he's had 4 or 5 jobs, was unemployed for 99 weeks where he collected a check, and didn't have a job a couple other ...
A. 8 November 2016: Your next logical step is to call your lawyer and ask them what can be done next. Everything is in your name so get advice on where to go from here. I assume you are not married as you have not mentioned it so therefore if it is your house he is not ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilty, I ran into my ex and feel like we sort of had a date. Do I tell my girlfriend?
Q. Greetings I know this is going to be a long post but please bare with me, something really weird happened to me very recently and i could really use your insight. Me and a couple of guy friends went out for a friday night but since i dont drink i ...
A. 8 November 2016: People cut ties for all different reasons but my guess is the majority cut them because you can never really only be friends with an ex. It does not work like that because you already have shared a lot more than friends do and therefore it is ... (read in full...)
My sister in college is in a LDR spending all of her time trying to be with her boyfriend. Family is worried about her!
Q. My sister is younger than me and just started college. Just before she left for college she got a boyfriend. I've never met him but he's met my parents and they say he is very nice. Now she is at college they are about hundreds miles apart and ...
A. 8 November 2016: I can understand that you are all worried she is not interacting with other people and making friends. But she is doing what makes her happy and you should just support her. ... (read in full...)
I just found out my LDR boyfriend got another girl pregnant
Q. good day guys,I am in deep pain right now..I don't know wat to do ..I feel like am going insane..I have been dating myboyfriend for 11months now which is almost a year.He has been in school ever since we started dating DAT means I have not seen for ...
A. 7 November 2016: I understand that you don't want to leave him but he is going to be a dad and that is a very messy situation. He needs to man up and be there for his child. Also if he had unprotected sex with her then who knows how many there was. You should get ... (read in full...)
Should I accept that my ex is going off for 3 days with her ex and their daughter or say something about it?
Q. have been dating and being in a serious relationship with a woman since 2010 and she has just told me that during the Christmas she will be going on holiday to a cabine for 3 daysa with her ex husband and their 15 years daughter who lives with her ...
A. 7 November 2016: No I wouldn't be okay with this. She is 15, am sure she is well aware that her parents are split up and what they are doing is only confusing her even more and leaving you out. If it was me I would tell her that either you are also invited as her ... (read in full...)
I want to know what is going on in this teacher's mind!
Q. This is a bit long. Thank you for paying attention to my question. Now, I shall inform you about the main person of the problem. It's a male teacher, he teaches us Chemistry at school. He is forty seven years old, and has a daughter. His da...
A. 6 November 2016: He sees that you have no friends or no support at school so he is stepping in. He is trying to be a good person and help you where he can. He is trying to raise your confidence and allow you to be happier at school. Have you any worries about his ... (read in full...)
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