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writes:Ok so there's this girl at school she's gorgeous, tries hard at school, works at the animal shelter, she's super nice, everything she does is just adorable, she's also really quiet and shy, she's the definition of an introvert. We're like opposites though because I like to go to parties and she the girl who stays home and watches a movie or does homework. I like to stay up late ,she goes to bed early. She stays in the back of the class and watches everyone, while i'm the center of attention. I'm the starting Quarterback and she sits alone in the stands or with her older sister.She is really confusing on whether she is in to me the same way I am her, because of she acts so different on the phone with her friend (who's also my cousin so she tells me anytime she says anything about me), then she does with me. When she is on the phone with her friend she says things like "I just feel like he deserves someone who feels the same way about him, I don't think we're right for each other in a relationship because we're into such different things(parties, smoking pot, and drinking). I feel like he needs somebody who likes that sort of stuff you know? " and she sent that to my cousin the day after asking me "Hey, are you mad at me?" So I say "no why?" she says "you haven't been talking to me so I thought you were" so I say "you act like you're not into me the way I am you so I decided to lay off" so she says "I thought you weren't into me, I guess you're hard to read I guess"(which was a total lie I had told her like two weeks before this happened that I think she's a great girl and I really like her) but I just let that go and say "yea well I really like you" so she says "ohh ok, so what are you doing right now?" and then the conversation just goes to little stuff that we always talk about we have never talked about us being a thing other than that one time about a week ago. She also didn't have anyone to go with for homecoming because the guy she liked at the time chose a different girl that wasn't her who happens to be my good friend to go to homecoming with and he asked her to be his girlfriend that night and they had been talking for a long time at that point, but she thought that he liked her for some reason(even though my friend that she likes had told her that i'm the one she needs to be with because i'm the one that wants her so i'd treat her right). So the day before homecoming I ask if she want to wear my jersey and she says yes. then after the game her and my cousin go up to me after the homecoming game and told me I played really good because I had 6 touchdowns and 2 Interceptions. My cousin told me that she wanted to take a picture with me since she had my jersey on. So we took a picture and my cousin begged me to go to the homecoming dance since homecoming was her last day going to school at out school because she was moving, I tried to get out of it by saying that I could hardly walk because I took a hit to the calf and pulled it but she was about to cry so I went to homecoming. When I got to homecoming my cousin was sitting by her friends so I went to sit by her and she told me that the girl I like really wants to dance with me tonight so I danced with her for every slow song but one that night and the one I didn't dance with her on was because I danced with my cousin. I also walk her to all of her classes so that I can talk to her during the day at school and she always smiles when I come up and say hey or hi to her and ask her if shes ready for me to take her to class. I really just get this gut feeling that she don't like me but I like her so much that I'm willing to keep trying and trying until I have no chance, but at the same time I don't want to waste my junior year chasing her because I only get to be in highschool once so I want to enjoy every year of it so I need to know if shes into me or not can someone please help?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 October 2016):
 She likes you but she is feared that you are two different to her. You are both opposite. It seems she does not like to be around the party scene and you do, she went home early because she did not trust you not to get drunk.
Just ask her on a date and take it from there, do something that interests her. Avoid alcohol when with her.
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reader, Sam Wilson +, writes (24 October 2016):
 Dude...take it from the guy who lived highschool with a ex-girlfriend exactly like her. She is into you but you have to make it look like you're doing it genuinely...the way you are livin highschool right now is totally different from what she's living making her feel that you arent compatible.Try telling her what you think of her and try and live life on her side. I know it's impossible for you to stop fun in highschool but this girl sounds super nice, sweet and sensitive... she is not for everyone, she's special and careful,ease into what she does(try joining her in her activities) and show him the type of person you are, you have to make her feel like you are what she's missing and not what she doesnt want.You are not wasting Junior year chasing after a girl. You are spending time with a person who is pleasant to be around...things may get better or things may get worse...but if she is the type of girl you say she is ,you wont regret the time you've spent with her, I really wish you the best of luck and hope you understand my msg.
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reader, tavyn_26 +, writes (24 October 2016):
tavyn_26 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I took her out to see Ouija and she sat by me and didn't say much, not that she talks alot anyway but maybe i'm reading to much into her silence. Then afterward we we're going to go do something but we didn't know what so she decided to go home early, Apparently it was because she was afraid I'd get drunk and wreck on the way to take her home, that's what my cousin said she said anyway. does this mean anything or should I just throw out that she went home early instead of hanging out with my cousin, my cousins boyfriend and me.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 October 2016):
 Oh yes, she is into you but she is like "the poor cat i'the adage " ( Macbeth ): letting " I dare not " waiting upon " I would ".
Meaning, she is into you but, being a judicious girl, she realizes that you are very different in lifestyle , tastes and personalities, and this may spell trouble at some point. You are a pot- smoking, drinking party boy- and she is not. And, I understand why she is hesitant, your very different ways of having "fun " may very well become a source of problems between you in future. Yet, she is tempted, very tempted.
Now it's up to you, as N91 says. She is not the type of girl who would take the initiative anyway - so, ask her out already .
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reader, N91  +, writes (24 October 2016):
 Come on dude, I don't think she could be making it any more obvious that she's interested. Just take her on a date.
The conversation moves into menial stuff because you're not doing anything about it. You know she's shy, so let's be realistic is she going to make the first move? Absolutely not.
'So what are you doing right now?' Could of been a perfect time to ask her to do something. You need to bite the bullet and ask her out of you'll be going in circles forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2016): I'm sorry but I think she's just stringing you along. For the very last time, why don't you tell her how you feel, straight up (not via text or anything) and ask her out? See what her response is - if she says she doesn't like you like that, I would suggest keeping away from her. I think she likes the attention you give her, but is content keeping you on the sidelines.
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