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*eola
writes:Hello, just looking for some advice at to what to do as I'm currently in an awkward situation... I'm a university student in my final year and currently living with a girl who I really like. We feel the same and have spoken about it before, the only issue being that her ex (who is also a good friend of mine) lives in the same house as us. We both genuinely do like each other and I can see myself with her in the long run. So we are in this "limbo" type stage where we want to be together but can't as it may cause a divide in the house and the guy with live with will be livid. He seems to have partially moved on as he is with someone else now. Any help would be much appreciated!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 October 2016):
 He is your friend. So you need to decide which is more important to you. If it is dating her then you need to both move out or ask him to as it would only cause a lot of drama if the three off you live together. Even if he says he is okay it is not fair for him to see his ex and friend together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2016): I'm looking into my crystal ball and I see drama in your future.
Living with his ex and dating right in-front of her is not only awkward, but asking for trouble.
Nah...I suggest you pass, or move-out first.
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reader, MartiJJ +, writes (24 October 2016):
 Unfortunately Jeola this one is simple, you have to choose, you can't have your cake and eat it on this one, which relationship is more important to you, your friendship or a potential romantic connection, either way I'd suggest finding alternative accommodation for the duration of your course, that way if your buddy is your priority then your not living with temptation and if your new relationship is what you want your not living with a livid ex-friend, put out the word that your looking for another bunk on the uni grapevine, someone else might be in a similar predicament and ask if you want to swap, suggest this to your girl roommate too, I'd personally despise living with an ex under any circumstances!
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reader, N91 +, writes (24 October 2016):
 Bit of a dodgy one to be honest. Even if he has moved on I'm sure he would be a little bit pissed off that you got together with his ex and it being rubbed in his face by living together.
May be worth looking for alternative accommodation or waiting until you're not living together if you think it's a long term thing.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (24 October 2016):
 Sounds like a bad idea - you can see what happens when you're dating a roommate and break up because it happened to them.
I'd advise at least waiting until you're not living together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2016): If you think you and this girl have long term potential, then I would suggest just waiting it out this year. Once you finish university you could shift to a new place and start seeing her.
If you don't want to wait that long, you could search for new accommodation and then start dating her. I think staying in the same house as her ex (even if he may have moved on) could be awkward.
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