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Q. I had an amazing 3 month relationship with a girl. After 2 months she started pulling away, avoiding sex. After 2 weeks of that we had a confrontation about it and she said she still wanted to be together. She lives in another city so after 2 ...

A. 13 November 2012: So. we have started talking on the phone and emailing more. I have not answered her txt for a day and she called me! I am very old school. I bring her flowers each time, simple flowers I pick myself on my way to her. About 2 weeks ago she perf... (read in full...)

A. 9 November 2012: So we briefly met today at her place. I asked why she was distant and she said she was like that and felt that things should come natural. That she want to focus on her self and does not want to have any things making her life more difficult right ... (read in full...)

A. 7 November 2012: Okey. thank you so much for your help. It was very helpful. I called her, chatted and txt her and we started talking again. I told her more or less how I felt about her and that I still believe in us and so on. It was nice talking and I felt as ... (read in full...)

A. 5 November 2012: Thanks highmaintainance101. Your previous post motivated me to call her up. I know what you mean and yes I feel I should do that, but at the same time I get loud and clear that she is not interested in me anymore as it used to be and feel any more... (read in full...)

A. 4 November 2012: I can't get over this girl. I just can't. I think about her all the time. I write to her but I can feel she gets back too me without the promptness and warmth she used to when we had it going good at first. Something pulled her away, I am not sure... (read in full...)

She created a fake profile to talk with him after telling me she'd deleted him...

A. 29 October 2012: Thanx for all your feedbacks! So I called her! I figured it was pointless waiting when I could just call her and see what was up. So...we talked for 30 minutes, I told her I thought about her a lot and she said she thought about me a lot and so ... (read in full...)

Q. true issues. please help she made a fake profile on Facebook to talk to a guy behind my back, what should i do? Long story short, we had some trust issues because of this guy, she said she would block and delete him, she did that, then recently...

A. 28 October 2012: Dump her. I had same issue with my ex that flirted and cheated once with a guy. I forgave her with the clear understanding that she will not talk or anything with this buy but cought her about a year later chatting online with him. Well we had a ... (read in full...)

Is it better to just walk away if someone is playing games?

A. 28 October 2012: aunt honesty thxs you are probably right. The only issue is that this waiting for her email is killing me. Its literally keeping me awake every night to check if she wrote me (as she tends to write emails after 2 AM) and really making me depres... (read in full...)

Q. I had a passionate love story with a girl for 3 months. Infact 2 months where great but the last I could feel things where slowing down. She started witholding sex which made me really angry so I asked her if she wanted to break up or continue ...

A. 25 October 2012: OK AuntyEm so got tested and I negative to any STD including the one you quoted. So we can rule out this reason of why she pulled away!... (read in full...)

Is it better to just walk away if someone is playing games?

A. 22 October 2012: AuntyEm your left field scares me! But hey you have a fine tuned lizerd brain. We actually very unwisely only had unprotected sex. In fact after we hit it off the first time I got real worried and had all my blood tests done for STD not because ... (read in full...)

Is it better to just walk away if someone is playing games?

A. 22 October 2012: Thanks for your precious answers. Human_male she started witholding sex a month ago but we still saw each other regularly but with increasing resistance from her side. I became very insistent about wanting to have sex which made things worst. I ... (read in full...)

Long distance and little effort

Q. I have been seeing this girl for 3 months. Now we are long distance. I suddenly had a job meeting in her city so I took a flight and got suddenly there. Upon leaving I told her I was coming. She said she was busy but she ll try to see me that night, ...

A. 16 October 2012: Ok its over. This is what happened. In the end I extended my stay since the work appointment got rescheduled and so I stayed a night more. We met in the mid afternoon and there was definitely a distance. I was bitter not trying to show it, and she... (read in full...)

Fallen for the wrong type of woman

Q. I am old. Almost 35 and separated 6 months ago with a kid, in what was a loveless relation since years and maybe never. Anyway it did not work because I chosed for me a wrong kind of partner. A woman which was very self centered and not so much fam...

A. 11 October 2012: Thanks for your answers. We where not married. Are pretty much done settling child support and other separation related stuff. Nor arguments or fights, it just took a while to get it sorted. Nope I have not talked to her about it, infact... (read in full...)

Should I stick with this guy who gave me an STD and who has another girlfriend? I want a husband and family!

Q. I started dating a guy I knew for a while after two years of losing my fiance' to cancer. I'm 35 years old and he died when I was 32 going on 33. I didn't become intimate with him until about 4 months into our dating. Anyway, this guy a lot has gone ...

A. 11 October 2012: Well. Its weird he did not know he had herpes as sometimes you get outbreaks. I think having another gfriend and not wanting to get rid of her its UNACCEPTABLE!... (read in full...)

How can I repair our relationship after I cheated on him?

Q. I have started seeing this girl (28 I am 34) a 2 months ago. We liked each other right away and after a few times we made love. We where both traveling the first month so we only got together briefly 3 times and made love. She then came to my city ...

A. 9 October 2012: Yeah thats what I am doing now, letting her lead. She left a week ago and we have talked daily, one day I call her and the next she calls me pretty casually. Finally we talked about meeting (I brought it up!) and I mentioned I have to head t... (read in full...)

Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months and i cheated on him. Our relationship has changed alot since this happened. What can i do to make our relationship work out and get it back to the way it use to be?...

A. 7 October 2012: Has he found out? Cheating after only 8 months its rediculous. Its bad after 20 years still, but if this happens when you guys are supposed to be still in the love and hands on part I think its very unlikely to last as a relationship.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is terrible at performing oral sex

Q. Here's the thing - my boyfriend is great but....he's rubbish at giving me oral sex! I've tried giving him subtle pointers but he just seems to ignore them, and then gets annoyed when he can't please me. I dont want to take oral sex off the menu, but ...

A. 7 October 2012: Well just tell him instead of giving pointers. The sooner the better as he will feel bad that he had been not good so many times. Can you tell me how you give the subtle pointer? Just in case I have been getting them and not realizin... (read in full...)

A. 7 October 2012: OK thanks again for the follow up. I agree I begged to much to have sex and this resulted in her pulling away. I agree that that should not be the first priority which is not but I really like her and to me it seems normal to desire her intimately ... (read in full...)

A. 4 October 2012: hello aunt honesty, I have to disagree with you. I really like her and want her but I also definetely want intimacy too as I any dude anywhere anytime, crudely stated. I can get laid pretty easily and if thats all I wanted then I would not be han... (read in full...)

2 months of dating..... is it too soon to start talking about future plans?

A. 4 October 2012: thxs for the answers. ok she told me that she barely knows me, so I take that as a need to get to know each other more. I definetely a week ago when she said she was tired and late, both true, desperately tried to convince her to come and make lov... (read in full...)

Q. I am a 33 year old just separated 5 months ago (see my previous questions) with a kid that has started dating a girl about 2 months ago and has fallen for her. Since break up I have been getting together with a few wonderful women without getting ...

A. 21 September 2012: I am not married. And I already gave a chance 2 years ago when we broke up. Its been only 5 month but really a lot more than that, that my past relationship did not work. Beyond this, thanks for the feedbacks, even if some are a bit bordeline... (read in full...)

2 months of dating..... is it too soon to start talking about future plans?

A. 20 September 2012: Thanks for your answers, very helpful. I agree that I am way too needy and that I need to leave her some room, as she is used to be super independent. About the order of things, well things happened very fast and in a passionate way a... (read in full...)

Ever since my attractive friend moved in with us, my boyfriend has asking me for sex every night! Should I be worried about him suddenly being so aroused? Or am I being paranoid?

Q. Hello! So my bf and I needed a roommate for financial reasons and, due to extenuating circumstances, my very attractive friend moved in with us. It's a weird situation that I really did not want to get into. Before he and I started dating, ...

A. 20 September 2012: Guy to guy. He's definetely turned on by her and thats why he wants more sex. If you can handle him not trying to sleep with her and you like the additional sex then try to deal with it. But hey, its going to be very hard there will be so many ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is sleeping around like a maniac! what is she thinking?

Q. What do you think it goes on in the mind of a 33 years old woman with a kid who I have been with for 7 years when she cheats on you once and you forgave her and then 2 years later you find out she is cheating again and even more she goes out blows ...

A. 12 June 2012: I needed proofs of the past cheating while we where together. Just to lay things down in peace. Now that I snooped around and have proofs I am relieved and I now have no seconds thoughts on the issue. There is no other sure way to find o... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is sleeping around like a maniac! what is she thinking?

A. 11 June 2012: Well if I don't snoop around how can I get proof of the chaeting if she does not confess???? Anyway I am not interested in her sexual behaviour, unless they effect my child and reading text messages where she sais she still has some smelly s... (read in full...)

How can I kick her out?

Q. I broke up with my partner about 3 weeks ago as her behaviour has been awful and disrespectful in the last few months getting worst up to the day we broke up. I then discovered she was cheating on me. I caught her once before and forgave her 2 years ...

A. 11 June 2012: We rent, and the contract is on my company name (however she is partner with 0,5% stake in it) so I could cancel the lease to force her out but that will put our kid on a strain. I cannot call the cops. It would be reasonable to do so in the US o... (read in full...)

How can I kick her out?

A. 10 June 2012: Thanks for your answers. Sorry for the missunderstanding, I meant sleeping like sleeping in the same bed, no abusing going on. I don't know. How can I prove in front of a judge that she come home like she does? I can't take pictures of the ... (read in full...)

Do you believe a cheater can change their ways?

Q. Do you believe a cheater can change their ways?? Ive been with my boyf for 2yrs, he was with his ex partner for 15yrs and hav 2 children together. I hav no reason to think he's cheating on me, but he confessed when he was drunk that he cheated on ...

A. 8 June 2012: I can tell from experience and from friends I know that cheat, that once you are a cheater you always are. If you fall in love with someone else just break it up and be with him or her. But no, cheaters they do it for self satisfaction. Guys f... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is sleeping around like a maniac! what is she thinking?

A. 7 June 2012: Unfortunately in this country, italy, the kid stays with the mother what ever. Cheating is not a good legal reason for asking for divorce! We have a very very bad legal system in a very very unethic country. Anyway I found all this out because ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is sleeping around like a maniac! what is she thinking?

A. 6 June 2012: Thanks agneeman for your answer. Unfortunately you can't get custody if you ex cheated on you or is sleeping around. I think. Even if it puts the kid health in danger, if her mom gets some STD and transmits it, or even if parent talk talk about i... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is sleeping around like a maniac! what is she thinking?

A. 6 June 2012: Thanks sweet things for you answer. I am sure she does not get paid in money, but she probably gets a lot of compliments and attentions from the guys (really!) that make her feel reasurred and better as she is very insecure and has a really low self ... (read in full...)

She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?

Q. I feel it might help me to write on this forum to ask for advice. I have been with my current partner for almost 6 years and we have a 14 months old girl when I discovered she cheated on me. We are not married as both did not want to, but have be...

A. 5 June 2012: Just an update for the record. I am an idiot and after my last message I still forgave her with the tought that anyway the she said she was just emailing him and nothing else as he lives very far away. Well well, I have now caught her again! W... (read in full...)

Q. Hello, a year ago my gfriend cheated on me. We broke up for a short period then I forgave her. A year later, now, I discover she is still chatting online with the guy she cheated with. Frankly I want to dump her. It took me some stomach to take her...

A. 4 June 2012: Thanks Abella, for your answer. I am all for my kid, I which she could move in with me rather then her mother but unfortunately it wont be like that. I know about parents bad mouthing. My mom always did that about my dad and my dad, a gentleman,... (read in full...)

She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?

A. 3 June 2012: Guys I should have listen to all of you. I forgave her again for talking to the guy but I now caught her cheating again and we broke up a month ago. When one is a cheater is always a cheater. The last 2 years since she cheated the first time h... (read in full...)

She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?

A. 13 January 2011: Last night she tryed to call me all night and after talking a little on the phone I had to hang up as it just went no where. She said he just talked to him for work reasons to get some info (they do not work together) and so on...well, the brie... (read in full...)

She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?

A. 12 January 2011: Guys and Gals thanks for your helpful advices. Well tonight I told her I wanted to break it off. Yesterday I told her that I found out that she was chatting still with the guy but tonight I declared I wanted to break up for good. She did not take... (read in full...)

She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?

A. 12 January 2011: Thanks for your answers. TO be sincere already a year ago I wanted to dump her and felt it was for the best but the love of my child that was just one, made me stick around. I am just amazed and dissappointed about this at 33 having to start ev... (read in full...)

How do you formalize a breakup without a lawyer?

Q. Section breaking up. Hello, I wanna break up with my gfriend for cheating, but I would like to avoid going to a lawyer. We have a 2 year old. I figure if I pay for: 100% the apartment they live in including utilities 50% the kinder garden...

A. 12 January 2011: Hi largentsgirl89, thanks for your answer. I wanted to avoid the layer because its a lot of wasted money since I am sure we can find an aggreement and I am more that willing to provide more then my due share. Each money transfer I will do by bank ... (read in full...)

Do others get caught having sex?

Q. I have been caught several times by my parents and my boyfriends parents "messing around"/ foreplay and once having sex, I am so traumatized! Does this happen to a lot of people? ...

A. 12 January 2011: Nope, thanks God! I moved out when I was 14, first boarding school then university abroad and stayed out of my parents home. However when I did visit my home I did stay at my parents with gfriends. However for the way I am done, I always had diff... (read in full...)

A. 12 January 2011: thanks for your answers. In the end I forgave her and decided to stay in the relationship possibly to have another child so our girl doesn't stay single child. Anyway I just found out that she still chatting with dude she cheated with. I am real... (read in full...)

A. 25 March 2010: Hi Weramazing, Hi jaime90. Thanks for your replies.things have evolved a bit in the last weeks. We have been trying to keep things together a bit. I have been sleeping at times at her place after watching our daughter when my night shift was on (we ... (read in full...)