Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 3 November 2016: I don't think it is your Autism that is holding you back, I think it is your mental health. You need to seek help for that. Lift the phone and talk to someone who can help you. But honey you also need to stop putting yourself down so much and learn ... (read in full...)
I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.
Q. So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was ...
A. 31 October 2016: Sometimes with depression it's not easy to open up and talk to someone. Those closest to him is probably the people he pushes away first. I do think he needs to get help but that can only come from him. ... (read in full...)
I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.
Q. So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was ...
A. 30 October 2016: Depression does that to a lot of people ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 27 October 2016: We cannot answer these questions about what is going on in his mind. But we can try and help you to help yourself. Is it a problem living alone? Would your mother have you come stay with her for a while or even as another poster suggested an in ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex initiate conversations on skype?
Q. Why does my ex boyfriend initiate conversations with me daily on Skype when we're no longer together? He's been initiating conversations for about 2 weeks now. He also apologises when he is quiet on there and says 'I really hope you're okay'...
A. 24 October 2016: Just because you tell him that you are okay does not stop him from feeling guilty. Plus he knows your mental health issues therefore he probably feels worse about it. If you don't want to block him and you are not hurting or still have feelings then ... (read in full...)
If I get back together with my ex, should I tell him about the people I have slept with while we were broken up?
Q. Hi there! So I was in a 4 and a half year relationship with an amazing guy. We broke up due to living in different places, arguing when we saw each other, and as I was in my final year at University, had way too much going on for all the arguing....
A. 24 October 2016: You have mad the right decision I hope it works out for you both all the best ... (read in full...)
She was out all night and didn’t text! I need outside views as I’m angry!
Q. OK, this may seem a little trivial but I'm really interested in other's views. My gf, who I have lived with for 2 1/2 years went out for a meal and drinks with work. I dropped her off at the train station at around noon and said if you're getting ...
A. 21 October 2016: I wish you had have listened and waited until you had calmed down, but anyway moving on. She obviously has a problem with alcohol. Yes counselling will help but she also needs to stop drinking if she cannot control it. I have a lot of experience in ... (read in full...)
If I get back together with my ex, should I tell him about the people I have slept with while we were broken up?
Q. Hi there! So I was in a 4 and a half year relationship with an amazing guy. We broke up due to living in different places, arguing when we saw each other, and as I was in my final year at University, had way too much going on for all the arguing....
A. 21 October 2016: You don't need to justify your sexual health to anybody on here sweetie. As for telling him you have had sex while single it is your choice. ... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 21 October 2016: Am not sure why you think it is your families responsibility to help you out financially. You are an adult. You get your money. You should be able to look after yourself and stop blaming your family for everything. When your grandfather left you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she's bored of sex and I'm fantasizing about other women. We're doomed, right?
Q. Mf gf said she is bored of sex yet I am the only one trying to be kinky or sexy in bed. It's doing my head in. Maybe I should be honest with her and tell her Ive been fantasizing about other women because you arent doing anything anymore. I have ...
A. 21 October 2016: So she is stressed and has low confidence. That to me is your answer. Stress kills the libido and low confidence means she probably hates undressing in front off you in case she turns you off.
You say you have tried building it up and you have trie... (read in full...)
I’m disgusted by his personal hygiene!
Q. I need to start by saying my boyfriend is usually wonderful. He is very sweet, generous and loving. But that just isn't enough. I feel so guilty to admit it, but he disgusts me. He always smells bad and doesn't brush his teeth or shower unless I ...
A. 20 October 2016: Sweetie all you can do is be honest with him. He is not silly he must know he has bad hygiene. You just need to tell him how it is. Not fair to try and save his feelings, he needs to know how he is making you feel. ... (read in full...)
I had two great male friends but they have dropped me as a friend! I’m heartbroken. Leave them be? Or keep trying?
Q. Hi everyone. I had two male friends and I say had because neither of them will talk to me anymore..:( Things got a bit awkward in terms of friendship because they both told me they liked me. The first one; he asked to meet up and I made ...
A. 20 October 2016: Leave them be. It would be cruel on your part to contact them when you know you don't want what they do. Yes I know it is sad for you because you had good friendships with them, but it will only hurt them trying to be your friend. If you care about ... (read in full...)
I don’t feel romantic love for him any longer but he doesn’t seem to listen to the potential for a great friendship. What do I do?
Q. A month or so ago I wrote about having a great connection with a man who was 57 and older than me. I thank all the aunts and uncles again for all the wonderful advice. I sat back and thought everything through and I got to know him better. ...
A. 20 October 2016: Sweetie he does not want you as a friend. I know that is sad and you will miss him but you need to accept that he wants more. He sounds very selfish and doesn't seem to care about what you think or feel, he just wants to be with you maybe to boost ... (read in full...)
She was out all night and didn’t text! I need outside views as I’m angry!
Q. OK, this may seem a little trivial but I'm really interested in other's views. My gf, who I have lived with for 2 1/2 years went out for a meal and drinks with work. I dropped her off at the train station at around noon and said if you're getting ...
A. 20 October 2016: I would be annoyed as well. If she could not find a taxi then why not call you? Or at least send you a message to tell you not to worry. Sounds very odd to me. In general do you trust her? Maybe she has made a genuine mistake. But I think you should ... (read in full...)
I feel I’m losing my “big brother" and it’s painful! What should I do?
Q. Hey guys, Rach here. I'm a 19-year-old girl and this question is about my big brother-type person. We're really not siblings, just friends, but I consider him my big brother. I'll make this as brief as possible (tho tbh the story is pretty long) -- ...
A. 20 October 2016: Sweetie he is not a possession. You treat him like he is only allowed to be yours. You are jealous of him talking to this other girl which suggests to me that you like him as more than a brother. Why can he not be friends with her and you? I don't ... (read in full...)
Why would my ex want sex with me when he loves his girlfriend?
Q. why would my ex bf want to have sex with me so bad when he loves his girlfriend so much? me and him stay in the same hood, he is always with her but he will text me and tell me he misses sex with me and our relationship was not serious as I thought ...
A. 20 October 2016: He wants to have sex with you because he thinks you are an easy target. Don't be. He has a girlfriend, he is not going to leave her for you. Get his number blocked so he cannot contact you anymore. Am sure you don't want to be his booty call. ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex initiate conversations on skype?
Q. Why does my ex boyfriend initiate conversations with me daily on Skype when we're no longer together? He's been initiating conversations for about 2 weeks now. He also apologises when he is quiet on there and says 'I really hope you're okay'...
A. 20 October 2016: Stop taking his calls, stop sitting hoping that he is thinking about you, that he wants you back, that he regrets breaking up with you because that is not why he keeps calling you. He is calling because he feels guilty, he has not found anyone else ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's clothes are, 'Not acceptable to me'.
Q. Me and my gf are recently fighting over this issue that is her "Clothes". Sometimes she wears disgusting dresses which are revealing and I really don't like it. When I tell her not to wear such dresses she doesn't listen and gets agitated. The dres...
A. 20 October 2016: Rape does not happen from wearing revealing clothes, it happens because there is evil in the world. Did she wear these clothes when you met her? What has changed?
Thing is you cannot control her so stop trying to. If you don't like it then leav... (read in full...)
I am threatened because sometimes she masturbates
Q. i am married and my wife recently told me that she would masturbate from the time of her ex-lover to the time when she had our first kid. What should i do? Should i leave her because she is not that into me?...
A. 20 October 2016: If you don't want her to please herself then yeah leave her and your family. If that is all it takes who are we to stop you. ... (read in full...)
Why are more men dependent on women's support these days? Women is the child bearer, care giver, career holder, and now the financial supporter to men? What roles do men play then?
Q. First and foremost, no offence to the men in this room. I'm posting this question because I am really curious to know the answer. Why are more men dependent on women's support now a days than men taking care of their women? I've often read posts...
A. 20 October 2016: I think going back years ago women did not work and where at home with the children all day. Now women have more rights, they can go out and work just as much as men can and earn just as much. They can drive a car and be independent. I honestly ... (read in full...)
These are the facts. Is it the end?
Q. HELP! My decision to end a relationship depends largely on your advice. What would you do if you found out your boyfriend went to a medical appointment in the city and then visited a hotel before going home? And he did not tell you he was a...
A. 20 October 2016: You are torching yourself, every post I read I just shake my head and wonder why you are doing this to yourself. Then I have to wonder why this man is still with you. You both must just be miserable. He is basically living in a prison and well you ... (read in full...)
Am I right to have these trust issues?
Q. A few weeks ago, my boyfriend went to his local pub, and he saw a married woman that he knew that day. I wasn't there at the time. She asked him to help her pick songs on the jukebox and then he said he danced with her. He said it wasn't intimate ...
A. 20 October 2016: Think you are over reacting, she danced with him, in full view off her husband. She probably wanted to have fun, maybe you should go out with him more, be social and have fun. No harm in dancing with someone. Try it, you might enjoy it.... (read in full...)
If I get back together with my ex, should I tell him about the people I have slept with while we were broken up?
Q. Hi there! So I was in a 4 and a half year relationship with an amazing guy. We broke up due to living in different places, arguing when we saw each other, and as I was in my final year at University, had way too much going on for all the arguing....
A. 20 October 2016: No don't tell him, but don't lie. You done nothing wrong. You where single. Leave it at that. ... (read in full...)
How do I move up this man's prioriies?
Q. I really like this guy I met through social media. we chat now and again, and then he goes quiet then suddenly he'll message me again. We talk mainly about music and I've tried to make new conversation but he goes quiet, then replies. Every new ...
A. 20 October 2016: My guess is that he has the same interest in music as you, when you try to talk about something else he does not respond. If he is on grinder then he is looking for a hook up. I think he passes the time talking to you about interests in music but I ... (read in full...)
Why would my wife threaten to leave me over my porn use?
Q. My wife says she will leave me if I keep watching porn. What is wrong with her? I have no idea why she thinks watching porn is bad. This is something I like to do and do it privately. I never told her I was into porn and many of you can guess wh...
A. 20 October 2016: Pretty sure you should have told her before you decided to marry her. If you felt there was nothing wrong with it, then why hide it? If you knew she did not like it then why lie? You know you are in the wrong here, as you have been hiding things ... (read in full...)
We haven't been properly intimate in four months. What can I do?
Q. Having a huge problem with my boyfriend of 2 years in that we havent been properly intimate for 4 months..It used to be a big part of our relationship and now its nothing and its left me feeling ugly and very insecure!his reasons for not been ...
A. 20 October 2016: It is time to give him an ultimatum. Either he works on this relationship or it is over. Yes depression and stress cause low libido. But he needs to get help for it. Four months is such a long time without any intimacy. It is like you are room mates ... (read in full...)
I told him that I thought his kids were sabotaging our relationship and now he won't talk to me
Q. Hi, I'd been dating this guy for 3months. At first we would go on dates about 3 times a week, then it cut down to once or twice a week and thereafter we'd only get to seeing each other once a month. I thought his kids had something to do with this ...
A. 20 October 2016: He used his children as an excuse because he did not know how to end things with you. He sounds immature. Don't blame yourself or his children for his cruel behavior. Hold your head up high and move on.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I'm a virgin?
Q. How do I tell him I'm a virgin?... It sounds stupid but we have been talking for a while. And our conversations via texts get heated a lot and we "sext" pretty much. I don't recall him ever asking me about previous partners so I think he ...
A. 20 October 2016: Sweetie yeah you have only met each other twice, if he wanted something more serious then he would not be inviting you to stay over, and he would not have introduced sexting unless you both where a lot more involved.
You say he would not put in t... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.
Q. Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...
A. 20 October 2016: No it is not right off him to man handle you in any situation. It sounds like he was frustrated with you. Still not an excuse. If he would rather spend his money in the pub than come see you then that says really all that you need to know.
As for ... (read in full...)
I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.
Q. So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was ...
A. 20 October 2016: He does miss you, he wants to be with you, he is trying to get over you but he is finding it hard. Stop being the victim. Block his number tell him good bye and stick to your word. ... (read in full...)
He's disinterested. Finding it hard to give up on my boyfriend and move on. What should I do ?
Q. i dont know if i am in a relationship or what? Have been in a relationship with my boyfriend since March 2012 till now. Everything was well and nice suddenly he changed...he no longer calls,the comunication is down..down...its just bo...
A. 19 October 2016: He is not man enough to admit it is over, so he is ignoring you until you realize it is. Am sorry that it has ended this way but you need to realize that it is this way and move on. ... (read in full...)
My Gf is not talking. Should I consider the relationship is over??? Or could I revive our relationship?
Q. I want to keep the relationship but she won't reply to texts or take my calls. literally begged to her to talk, but she didn't respond. should I call this an end to this relationship? it's two days since we last talked. we recently fought ...
A. 19 October 2016: She is married so your not really in a relationship with her, because she is already taken. You have met once in two months. She may be ignoring you now because she is trying to get her life back together. Allow her to do that. ... (read in full...)
Where to now? Is my married loved a narcissist? I feel I can no longer trust him
Q. I had a year long affair with a married man. I am his tennant in the house that he rents out. He left his wife just before Christmas and came to live with me and my kids in the house. During our affair we had a secret bank accounts, and phone nu...
A. 19 October 2016: Did your sister post this same question? , please stop dating this guy, if I remember right your son has moved out to be with his dad because off this man? I really think you need to get this man out of your life, see that he is using you and come ... (read in full...)
She'd rather masturbate than have sex with me. Is there a way to resolve this problem?
Q. A few months ago I bought house and decided to take the leap and move in with my girlfriend. Other than a few kinks things have been good but recently I've found out that she's been masterbsting on a regular basis instead of having sex with me....
A. 19 October 2016: If she is self conscious then maybe getting naked in front off you makes her cringe. Therefore maybe she feels if she puts out once a week she can keep you. She seems to have built you up in her head that you are far more superior than she is, which ... (read in full...)
The girl I'm seeing has a girlfriend?
Q. Okay where do I begin... I recently met this girl about 1 month ago she is very kind, beautiful and has feelings for me, she says she eventually wants to be more than friends and that she likes me. I looked her up on fb, being a former cop and ...
A. 19 October 2016: Talk to her face to face and see what she has to say could be many reasons.
She could just be pretending over social media.
She could be looking for a sperm donor.
She could be in an open relationship.
She could be wanting a three some.
... (read in full...)
I'm very close to my aunt, but recent incidents with my dog have caused upset and seem to have affected our relationship!
Q. This is a family related problem, but I hope you can give me good advice or support. I have been close to my aunt, I almost grew up in her house and she has been at my side for many years. I have been supporting of her too, when I could. I had to ...
A. 19 October 2016: She has mental health issues, try not get to upset by her messages. She suffers from severe anxiety and possibly OCD which describes why she got so frantic over the two dogs urinating. Try not to take it personally. Allow her to calm down. Don't ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she's bored of sex and I'm fantasizing about other women. We're doomed, right?
Q. Mf gf said she is bored of sex yet I am the only one trying to be kinky or sexy in bed. It's doing my head in. Maybe I should be honest with her and tell her Ive been fantasizing about other women because you arent doing anything anymore. I have ...
A. 19 October 2016: You tell her about your fantasies and your sex life will go from low to zero quicker than you could imagine. Talk about hitting a girl where it hurts. Don't ever share that information with her.
Does she know why her sex drive has went down? Is s... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me, then texted me 2 months later that he still loved me, then said he didn't want to lead me on!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I've been dealing with it. The other day,out of the blue, he sent me a text message that said I love you. I felt that was not intended for me, so I called and told him that I think he sent the text to the ...
A. 19 October 2016: I think he was lonely he sent the message off guard then he realized he did not want to be messing with your feelings. The best thing might be to block his phone number. ... (read in full...)
Did my letter to him mean I've lost him for good?
Q. This guy I been talk to for years I broke of with him he never would ask me out it's been over 3yrs and never ask me he always come up with excuse not go out with me I see him about veryday when he goes by me and I he see me stand their when h...
A. 19 October 2016: Sweetie have you not realized in the three years that he is not romantically interested in you? He has lied about a wife because he wants to let you down gently. He is ignoring you now because he saw you as a friend, but he knows now that you are ... (read in full...)
Is there a code to rings on her finger?
Q. What is the meaning of rings on a woman’s hand. Does a ring on the right ring finger show a signal single status for a woman? Does a ring on the right ring finger of a woman show an openness to pursuing a romantic relationship? if a girl does not ...
A. 19 October 2016: I don't think there is a code, before I was even engaged I used to wear a ring on my wedding finger, even when I was single. Didn't mean anything. ... (read in full...)
Can I ever regain my trust in men?
Q. I had been in a relationship for 8 years with my now ex. We were supposed to be getting married and so I guess the guilt got to him. He admitted sleeping with 3 other woman. The last one was two years ago when he was 22 and the first was when h...
A. 19 October 2016: I am sorry for what he has put you through, but you have done the best thing by leaving him. You are right you won't be able to trust him again. You don't trust anyone at the moment because off him, but you will, in time you will learn to trust ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to tidy up down there?
Q. Im worried i have too much hair down there that when my boyfriend sees it hes going to be put off. Im quite young but im getting to that stage in my relationship, i dont care for your judgement about my age, where my boyfriend is touching me. But ...
A. 19 October 2016: Shaving can be very sore if you cut yourself, plus it is very itchy and uncomfortable when it grows back. Can you not talk to your mother about this? Or an adult friend? You could get waxed, but only professionally. Maybe you could trim your hair if ... (read in full...)
His fantasy girl looks nothing like me
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost two months. My boyfriend was talking to his friend about his friend's sex life. His friend was at a bar that time telling my boyfriend that there are lots of girls there, inviting my boyfriend to go ...
A. 19 October 2016: Obviously you don't trust him when you where invading his privacy, so yes probably best you end things. ... (read in full...)
Please help me get a date
Q. Dear Cupid sometimes I feel like something wrong why don't any guys ever what to ask me out i use to talk to this guy on the phone for along time but he never ask me out when I ask him out he all ways make up excuse not to out with him. when I pick ...
A. 19 October 2016: Okay this guy on the phone, did you know each other personally or was it just like a phone buddy?
As for trying to pick guys from a bus stop, this is looking like you are desperate. No guy is going to stop on a road to talk to a busy woman, sure... (read in full...)
I don't want to be played. Is he playing me? ?
Q. ok i have been dating this guy, we both r still speaking hw says he likes me and has told his parents about me the night after the date I found him on an online dating site at 2am I have been online before that and he hasn't been online as ...
A. 19 October 2016: You where online as well so not sure what the problem is. Have you only been on one date? If so take it slower. ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can make him see me for my other qualities and not as a nagging crying type?
Q. It will soon have been a year since I met my boyfriend and almost a year since we started dating. We have our differences of course, like any other people, and it can lead to arguments at times. But generally I'm very happy with him. We're having a...
A. 19 October 2016: He is who he is, and so are you. You both clash. You are a sensitive type and well he is not. Yes he probably does feel like he is walking around on eggshells when he is with you because he does not know how you are going to be, but this his partly ... (read in full...)
STIs. what is the best way to raise a discussion with my BF about a recent result given to me by my Doctor ?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend now for 3/4 months. We are currently long distance but it is working fine. A month before we started dating I got an STI test and it came back negative, I also didn't have sex in between that test and ...
A. 19 October 2016: Make sure you know all the information and then just call him and tell him the truth. There is no easy way to say it just be honest, and at the end of the day remember you have done nothing wrong. ... (read in full...)
How can I end an affair with a married woman who is having an affair with another?
Q. What steps can I take to end a affair with a married woman that is having another affair. Yes, call me stupid. I deserve it. She is a long term friend and we have known each other for years. We are very comfortable with each other. The other af...
A. 19 October 2016: Please do the right thing and let your wife go, stop being selfish and allow her to make a life with someone else who will treat her right.
Ask the other woman to leave her husband, if she doesn't then you know you are only a booty call. Yes you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always invites his friend to tag along
Q. hiya ive been with my boyfriend now for 4 years we have a 2 year old daughter. the problem is whenever we are supposed to spend any time together he always invites his mate along. we were supposed to be spending bonfire night together just me him a...
A. 19 October 2016: This would irritate me a lot. Off course you should be doing family things? Talking has not worked because he knows he is getting away with it, he does not see the harm in his friend and you and his child being there. He seems quite immature for his ... (read in full...)
How long can a relationship survive without sex?
Q. My Fiance and I have ended up at each others throats recently and it's getting too much for us both. We're both in our Mid twenties, and have been together now for almost 6 years, but to simply put it, she no longer wants sex. She doesn't get arou...
A. 19 October 2016: Could be a number of reasons. Is she on the pill? Medication? Anti-depressants?
Is it possible she is stressed out or worried about something?
Could she have gained weight and lost confidence?
Could there be someone else?
At the end of the... (read in full...)
Is lingerie an appropriate birthday gift for my girlfriend?
Q. we've been dating for 6 months. we're really close and intimate. Were both 23. We had sex for the first time a few nights ago. She having a birthday party coming up im thinking about giving lingerie for her birthday. I'm wanting something on the c...
A. 19 October 2016: So many things could go wrong with this. I understand after six months it is still early enough days but am sure you could stretch to a but of jewelry or perfume. ... (read in full...)
I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.
Q. So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was ...
A. 17 October 2016: He is a guy and he probably isn't as good as expressing his feelings as you are. Look you are not friends, you never where friends. You where lovers. It does not just go from that to being friends. He wants more but obviously he knows it is not ... (read in full...)
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