Husband took advantage of my drunken state
Q. I'm not really sure what to do. Two nights ago, my husband and I went to a party. I drank, he did not. I drank a little too much and was barely functioning. We came home and had sex. He went soft so I rolled over and passed out. Next thing I know, ...
A. 3 November 2016: Talk to him about this. It is not acceptable just to assume he can take sex when you are asleep. If it was me it would plague me until I spoke to him about it. ... (read in full...)
Why the personal questions about my body? Does he have feelings for me?
Q. I have this best guy friend, I have feelings for him, everyone swears he has feelings for me. Last night when we were talking (which we do almost every day) he started asking extremely personal questions about my body. I asked him if he had been ...
A. 3 November 2016: No I don't think he has feelings for you, my guess is that he knows you like him, so he is testing you to see how far you would go with him. He is wondering maybe if he could get some no strings attached fun. If he had feelings for you he would ask ... (read in full...)
It's a rocky relationship and I just learned he's been sexting other women! I need advice!
Q. Please I need y'all advice. So my bf and have both live here in the U.K. I came here when I was a teenager and he's only been here for 3yrs now. His mum said I'm a good girl so she set us up. He was not my type so I didn't agree. He pursued me ...
A. 3 November 2016: Sweetie does not matter if YOU think you are prettier, he still done it. He does not respect you or your relationship, because if he did then he would not have treated you like this. The only way I see is ending this relationship. Trust is gone and ... (read in full...)
Can't decide over career or homemaker
Q. So my boyfriend, successful with his own business thinks being a career oriented woman with goals is good, (adulting) and I think being a stay at home dog mom is good, where is the happy middle? :/ we are so different in this respect but we love ...
A. 3 November 2016: You want to be taken care off but he wants a woman who is also focused and is equal. So it might be that things wont work out for you both as you want different things.
I would love to stay at home all day with my dogs, but I need to work as I like... (read in full...)
Like the attention but hate the thought
Q. So im 18 years old ive been working in a restaurant for the last 2 years. Recently we got a new chef a married man with 3 kids , he's lovely and very easy to get on with ?however he is very flirtacious and tends to make a lot of sexual comments for ...
A. 3 November 2016: Everybody likes to receive attention. So in your case the older man giving you attention gives you a thrill but nothing more. No harm in that. If he over steps the boundaries then tell him straight it is not acceptable. But as you said yourself you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 4 years cheated, I forgave and she's still cheating! I'm afraid to leave home anymore
Q. Hey guys, Im new to this kind of thing however i don't know where else to turn to for this so figured it's time to ask here. so right to it... Me and my gf have been together for over 4 years now... we've had our ups and downs like anyone el...
A. 31 October 2016: I hope you find the strength to stay away from her, not only have you lost al, trust but staying with her will effect your whole life, your health aswell. I really hope you have the strength to stand up for yourself. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want anymore children and wants me to have an abortion
Q. Hiya everyone I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a 11 month old daughter I have another daughter from a previous relationship the problem is I've just found out I'm pregnant again but he doesn't want any more children he thinks I should ...
A. 31 October 2016: If you don't want the abortion then don't have it. Did contraception fail or where you both being careless? At the end of the day there is a life inside you now and if you end it when you don't want to you will never get over it.... (read in full...)
I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.
Q. So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was ...
A. 31 October 2016: Sometimes with depression it's not easy to open up and talk to someone. Those closest to him is probably the people he pushes away first. I do think he needs to get help but that can only come from him. ... (read in full...)
Future mother in law seems to have won and talked my fiance into putting off our wedding. I'm pregnant and not happy!
Q. I posted just over a week ago about bringing my wedding forward as I've not long found out I'm pregnant and didn't want to be a due date bride! But was having issues with my mother in law saying she couldn't get the time off work and generally ...
A. 30 October 2016: You just need to be straight with him, tell him you get married on the date use made bringing it forward or else it is over. It is up to him then. It is ridiculous him putting his mother first. You are basically married as it is without the paper ... (read in full...)
How to safely store nudes on a computer and iPhone?
Q. Hey there! Thank you in advance: How to safely store nudes? My boyfriend and I are long distance and have been together for a year and a half. We meet fairly regularly and very rarely send underwear pictures because we're both insecure/self...
A. 30 October 2016: Maybe put it on a disc and keep it in a safe place ... (read in full...)
I'm on vacation with girlfriend but found out she wants to break up with me. What do I do now?
Q. Ok so I'm on holiday in Tenerife with my girlfriend of 4 months and I have just found out she wants to end it with me either during or after the holiday. I've read messages between her and her mum who is encouraging her to "get shot as I'm not good ...
A. 30 October 2016: Who paid for hotel? If you both did then try get earlier flight, if you did then ask her to leave and try snd relax for the rest of the holiday. She should never have went with you if this is how she is feeling, plus her mother is not helping. If ... (read in full...)
Can anyone deceipher what her actions mean?
Q. i was looking down and doing my work and then when I looked up I saw the girl i liked looking at me and smiling then she looked down at my chest while still smiling then she looked up at my face while still smiling so I just looked away..then ...
A. 30 October 2016: It seems she may like you, it may be as a friend or it may be more. Why not ask her to hang out ... (read in full...)
Can anyone deceipher what her actions mean?
Q. i was looking down and doing my work and then when I looked up I saw the girl i liked looking at me and smiling then she looked down at my chest while still smiling then she looked up at my face while still smiling so I just looked away..then ...
A. 30 October 2016: What is your question sweetie? ... (read in full...)
Can't shake feeling that ex will come back
Q. My ex and I had a LDR for 1 month shy of 2 years. During the relationship there were many fights, and we'd often break up and reconcile constantly - sometimes multiple times a month. I'm very aware that a bulk of our problems came from me lying to ...
A. 30 October 2016: I think he meant what he said. If you live in hope then you will only keep hurting yourself. I think you need to accept this relationship is over, then you need to work out why the lies. If you loved him why not be honest with him? You need to get ... (read in full...)
I gave him my number, he hasn't called and I can't call him!
Q. I met a boy when we were both on holiday and I gave him my number. We were in a place with no mobile signal and no wifi so he promised to text/call me when he got home. I know that he got home 5 days ago and he still hasn't got in contact with me. I ...
A. 30 October 2016: Sweetie he may have lost it, or he may have changed his mind. Either way this is all stuff everyone deals with as they grow up. We just need t learn to deal with rejection as well x... (read in full...)
I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.
Q. So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was ...
A. 30 October 2016: Depression does that to a lot of people ... (read in full...)
My cheating partner found out I got my girlfriend married, up and left her husband. I can't believe how she has changed!
Q. Ive got a problem story that I have bought on myself and im not looking for sympathy as I know ive done wrong.7.5 years ago my friend and his new girlfriend came to my house and for some silly reason me and her hit it off from the start.aA few ...
A. 30 October 2016: I don't think you should wait to finish with her, she will be a new mum and she will think you are leaving because of the baby. Just tell her now, give her time to heal and you can still be a great dad. ... (read in full...)
What's up with this man? Why does he try to look good when I'm around?
Q. Hello there! 3 years ago, a male in his early twenties was hired in my school as an teacher. I met him because he became an assistant moderator for the club I went to. During the first year, we treated each other as friends... but in the second year ...
A. 29 October 2016: I think you have built this up a lot in your head because maybe you have a crush on him and you are hoping people will tell you he feels the same way. I don't see anywhere in this post that would suggest to me he likes you. Also you say he tried to ... (read in full...)
I'm dating my friend's ex wife and don't know how to tell him but if I don't she will!
Q. Greg [age:40] was my [age:27] roommate for 5 months and we have been friends ever since. He would tell me about how he was madly in love with his wife Crystal [Age:30], but they fought too much, that's why they were trying separation for a couple...
A. 29 October 2016: If you where concerned about bro laws you would never have went on that first date with her, doesn't matter what excuses you have, you choose to begin dating her knowing who she was.
You should tell him, he has a right to know, you should also expe... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with this guy, but after our complicated past together I don't know where we stand. How do I handle seeing him again ?
Q. Hi guys... I'll start from the beginning. I have met someone at university two yeas ago who I have a very long history with ever since then. We met in our second year after he just enrolled.We officially met at a party I was throwing in my h...
A. 29 October 2016: If he had met someone he liked communication would no doubt stop. But at the minute he is playing the field and enjoying it. Possibly talking to multiple girls. He probably won't leave you alone until either A he finds someone else, B you ask him to ... (read in full...)
Should I try dating her again? She's a good friend but she's played me in the past
Q. I am unsure what to choose. I have know a girl for over 4 years. In the first year I met her, I knew she was seeing guys (mostly footballers), and basically having fun. I bided my time to wait until she stopped seeing guys and wanted something...
A. 29 October 2016: You do need to love yourself more, you are not a bad guy. Give this other girl a chance. If she questions the lack of contact just tell her you don't think it would be fair when you are dating. Yes it will be hard. When you feel yourself wanting to ... (read in full...)
My cheating partner found out I got my girlfriend married, up and left her husband. I can't believe how she has changed!
Q. Ive got a problem story that I have bought on myself and im not looking for sympathy as I know ive done wrong.7.5 years ago my friend and his new girlfriend came to my house and for some silly reason me and her hit it off from the start.aA few ...
A. 29 October 2016: I guess now you have to ask yourself where do you go from her, do you tell your partner? Will she tell your partner? ... (read in full...)
I'm a bit apprehensive about reuniting with my long distance boyfriend
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship at the moment. We hadn't been together a great amount of time before going long distance (4/5 months) anyway we've been apart for 2 months now and have less than a month til we see each other again. We havent b...
A. 29 October 2016: Yeah it is normal you are worried the spark will e gone and it will feel awkward and forced. All completely normal. But honey it is like a friendship, you can be apart for a while and get worried but when you see each other it will be like you where ... (read in full...)
How do I inform my family that I'm dating my second cousin?
Q. About two years ago, I moved to the same city that my second cousin, Brooke, lives in. The rest of her family (parents and sister) and my family (parents and brother) lives back in the same town we grew up in. She is 30 years old and I am 31 years ...
A. 29 October 2016: You are both adults so you just need to be honest, are your families close? I mean some people don't even know there second cousins while others are like close family.
There is no easy way you just need to tell them and then wait to see how they... (read in full...)
The mother that abandoned my husband has come back into his life trying to get close and asking for money. I don't like it!
Q. How would I deal with my mother in law? She abondoned my husband as a baby. My husband had a very difficult times as a child. When we got married about 8 years ago my husband had built a relationship with her and we do see her on mother's day. We do ...
A. 29 October 2016: It seems extreme to leave him. Do you not feel you can trust him not to allow her to use him!? Am sure you can tell him your worries and ask him not to give his mother money she keeps asking for. ... (read in full...)
Should I try dating her again? She's a good friend but she's played me in the past
Q. I am unsure what to choose. I have know a girl for over 4 years. In the first year I met her, I knew she was seeing guys (mostly footballers), and basically having fun. I bided my time to wait until she stopped seeing guys and wanted something...
A. 29 October 2016: Why do you feel the need to prove anything to her? You say you will stay away but deep down you won't because you are still wanting to impress her, still wanting to show her you are worthy.
Look at the bigger picture, yes you are worry off some... (read in full...)
How do I rebuild trust with my wife when she's still going to see the man she crossed a line with?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 10 years and thought things were going ok. We did go through a rocky patch in June this year but thought we had got through that. I started to get a bit suspicious of a guy that she coaches who had left his wife a ...
A. 28 October 2016: I understand what you mean. But she has told this man she loves him, therefore she must have an emotional connection with him, if she continues spending time with him it will never go away, yes she might have told you she now realizes you care, but ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with this guy, but after our complicated past together I don't know where we stand. How do I handle seeing him again ?
Q. Hi guys... I'll start from the beginning. I have met someone at university two yeas ago who I have a very long history with ever since then. We met in our second year after he just enrolled.We officially met at a party I was throwing in my h...
A. 28 October 2016: Sweetie if he wanted to make you his girlfriend and felt so strongly about you back at the start then he would have made more off an effort. I honestly think you are a challenge to him. My fear would be he would take your virginity then disappear ... (read in full...)
Girls seem to show interest in me, but why don't they want to date me?
Q. So I meet this girl at work and we started talking and I was surprised at how easy and effortless it was to talk to her. We seemed to share many same hobbies and stuff. She seemed to like me and was single at the time, anyways while we were talking ...
A. 28 October 2016: I agree speak to a close friend and ask them to give you advice. They will know you better than anyone and hopefully they can be honest with you.
It could be that you are meeting girls that like the chase and the attention. It could also be that... (read in full...)
Why am I afraid of loving him? He's serious about me and the chemistry is intense
Q. Why am I afraid of loving him? I met him a year and 5 months ago at a salon were he did my hair I remember we had such a great conversion as he was busy with my hair, after that he asked to call me and he took my number from the register, ever since ...
A. 28 October 2016: You are falling in love with him, you are afraid that someone is going to burst your bubble and ruin everything. You just lack confidence slightly and you are wondering why everything is going so good. Try and relax. You deserve to be happy. It ... (read in full...)
First time sex wasn't good for my g/f and I want to help next time be better
Q. My gf and I attempted sex for the first time… and it was a little rockier a process than we had initially anticipated! When i tried to go in, it wouldn’t go in past the tip. In addition my gf was not getting to feel it that much. I felt really ...
A. 28 October 2016: No don't get her a book unless you want her to lose all confidence in herself. It was not her fault sex did not go to plan. She was tensed up because she was probably nervous and this is normal when it is both your first experience. It just takes ... (read in full...)
Guy in my class possibly likes me or no?
Q. So this guy sits next to me in my class. He's playful with me when we text and talk in class and everything, but the only times he will INITIATE contact is when it's something to do with our class/an assignment. We have met up before to work on ...
A. 28 October 2016: If he is recently just been made single then he is probably still getting over his ex and not thinking about dating anyone else. If you like him maybe you could drop him a text and ask him would he like to meet for coffee or lunch?! See how it goes.... (read in full...)
I broke up with my ex, like a new girl but don't know if I should date her because it would ruin any future my ex and I might have
Q. I'm 18 and in my first year at uni. Me and my long term (1 year and 3 months) girlfriend moved to different areas of the country for uni (about 1hour 30mins by car apart) and due to a number of reasons (including distance, lack of time for each ...
A. 28 October 2016: You stop leading the other girl on. Yes she may be a great girl but you are simply not ready. It has only been three weeks, take some time to be single. You will only hurt this new girl without realizing it if you are not honest with her, so just ... (read in full...)
Guy wants me to swing with him
Q. Me and this guy have been, not dating, but exclusive FWB. He been wanting a threesome. I ask what his other fantasy is. Sex in public. Lesser of two evils, I agreed to try. So he's been dragging me to sex shops. 6 months into the "relationship", he ...
A. 28 October 2016: He does not want anything serious with you, he is enjoying the set up you both have but he wants to push it further, you don't but he will keep trying. End things now as you both want very different things. He wants a lot of no strings fun and ... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable with my boyfriend's parenting
Q. I have been dating a man with a 13 year old daughter for 5 months and feel ready to meet her. I thought I was anyway. He is still drying her after a shower on her back and her legs. She is going through puberty and has all the maturing parts of a ...
A. 28 October 2016: Maybe he feels like it is not a big deal, but you see it different as you are a woman. I really think you do need to talk to him about this AGAIN. Yes he is saying it is up to his daughter, and while it is great that she is comfortable around her ... (read in full...)
My cheating partner found out I got my girlfriend married, up and left her husband. I can't believe how she has changed!
Q. Ive got a problem story that I have bought on myself and im not looking for sympathy as I know ive done wrong.7.5 years ago my friend and his new girlfriend came to my house and for some silly reason me and her hit it off from the start.aA few ...
A. 28 October 2016: How do you know her two children are his? You could already be a father remember condoms don't always work, have you ever wondered about that?... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the signs of a porn addict?
Q. Does anyone know the signs (no matter how subtle) of a porn addict as im trying to end a relationship as my mans totally given up having sex with me been saying he has no sex drive..the signs so far i have seen..a password has popped up on his ...
A. 28 October 2016: If he is showing signs of disgust and does not want to have sex with you then that is enough off a reason to end this relationship and find someone who worships you. ... (read in full...)
Should I try dating her again? She's a good friend but she's played me in the past
Q. I am unsure what to choose. I have know a girl for over 4 years. In the first year I met her, I knew she was seeing guys (mostly footballers), and basically having fun. I bided my time to wait until she stopped seeing guys and wanted something...
A. 28 October 2016: She sees you as a friend, someone who will treat her well but she does not see romance with you. Yes she was jealous because she wants your attention she does not want you giving it to someone else. She loves having you there by her side because she ... (read in full...)
Trust ring--what should I have engraved on it?
Q. I lied to my boyfriend, and I made many mistakes. I'm getting him a promise ring and I want it to make up for all of that, to show him he can trust me and I won't ever make the same mistakes again. What should be engraved on the ring? ...
A. 28 October 2016: We all make mistakes, but we should not try and buy our forgiveness. If you are sorry then yes a kind gesture is nice, but are you sure he would even wear a ring? It would be a shame if you spent a lot of money on something that was not appreciated. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any experience of feeling "numb" after a relationship?
Q. About 2 weeks ago my boyfriend dumped me. We had been together one year and friends for 3. Everything was great in our relationship, we had lots in common and planned to spend the rest of our lives with each other. 2 weeks before we broke up we st...
A. 28 October 2016: It seems strange to me why your friend would lie to you? Are you sure your friend was not genuine? Maybe talk to her and ask her why she felt the need to make you believe he was cheating. It seems coincidence that just after this he actually did ... (read in full...)
The mother that abandoned my husband has come back into his life trying to get close and asking for money. I don't like it!
Q. How would I deal with my mother in law? She abondoned my husband as a baby. My husband had a very difficult times as a child. When we got married about 8 years ago my husband had built a relationship with her and we do see her on mother's day. We do ...
A. 28 October 2016: If you don't want to go then don't. But try and remember that even though they did not rear your husband they are still his biological family. I can't imagine how hard it must be for him. His head must be all over the place. He probably does not ... (read in full...)
How do I rebuild trust with my wife when she's still going to see the man she crossed a line with?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 10 years and thought things were going ok. We did go through a rocky patch in June this year but thought we had got through that. I started to get a bit suspicious of a guy that she coaches who had left his wife a ...
A. 21 October 2016: I am so sorry for what you are going through, nobody should have to deal with this in a marriage.
Going back to before you found these messages, your gut told you there was something wrong, so there must have been some signs, can you think what... (read in full...)
I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.
Q. So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was ...
A. 20 October 2016: He does miss you, he wants to be with you, he is trying to get over you but he is finding it hard. Stop being the victim. Block his number tell him good bye and stick to your word. ... (read in full...)
I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.
Q. So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was ...
A. 17 October 2016: He is a guy and he probably isn't as good as expressing his feelings as you are. Look you are not friends, you never where friends. You where lovers. It does not just go from that to being friends. He wants more but obviously he knows it is not ... (read in full...)
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