Did I scare him off ? ?
Q. Dear Aunts please advise me. I met a guy at a cafe. Everytime I go in he stared at me. I started to fancy him too and we would stare and smile at each other. I broke the ice and we exchanged numbers. I hinted going out on a light date but he b...
A. 21 October 2016: We are not always negative or thinking the worst. We just see when some people need a little help to see that they are chasing a dead end. Why ask the question if you are not prepared to hear advice from people trying to help?... (read in full...)
Do I get back with him and have a baby?.
Q. I really am starting to worry about the future now and what decisions I should make. There have been lots of things that have happened over the last few years that is very difficult to talk to anyone about, so I came across this and thought, it ...
A. 21 October 2016: You would probably be his last because nobody else would put up with his behavior. Am sorry I just don't buy his excuses, yes he has a warped way off looking at things, but he knows how he is treating you is wrong, he also knows that you will let ... (read in full...)
Can I ask my fast food fancy out?
Q. Is it unorthodox to ask cashier out? I frequent my favorite fast food restaurant once a week which I know isn't a healthy lifestyle. About the past few months or so, a new miss around my age has been working the drive-thru. Granted, it's usually hit ...
A. 12 October 2016: Please do let us know how you get on... (read in full...)
Should her locked phone be a deal breaker?
Q. Ok I've been with my woman now for a good bit over 2 years. Nov. 5th, at 9:20, will make 3 year's for us. We've put each other through a lot but the situations she's put me in are far worst than the things I did. We're moving past that. I mean I ...
A. 12 October 2016: Even though it may be her fault that you have trust issues, that does not allow you to have access to her phone, it is private. If you cannot overcome your trust issues then it might be best if you consider finishing this, as you are only making ... (read in full...)
I am always anxious that my b/f is going to leave me
Q. 'm in a desperate situation. I suffer from diagnosed depression. Almost a year ago I met the man of my dreams and we are still together. In August I found messages to his female friend I had noticed he had a flirty relationship with on Facebook and ...
A. 12 October 2016: Sort out your health. It might be best to be single for a while and concentrate on getting yourself better. You use your depression a lot as an excuse for your behavior, but it is never okay to end a relationship without meaning it. It is like you ... (read in full...)
I thought I was a good friend, am I not?
Q. Am I a bad friend? Hi, I'm on my 4th year at uni and I've found myself without real friends or rather no one close to talk to. I stopped talking to my two best friends because they were messed up to me and I keep thinking it is my fault and I'm lone...
A. 12 October 2016: What they done was wrong yes, but I would not say you are innocent in all this. You should very judgmental of people. You cheated on your Bf, does not matter if you said sorry or not you are still a cheat, You put up silly immature statuses on ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks we should find other people because I last way too long in bed and she takes a minute to orgasm and then gets bored
Q. My girlfriend says she thinks we should find other people because I last way too long in bed and she takes a minute to "O" and then gets bored and wants me to just get it over with. We do foreplay and I am trying to teach her how to satisfy my wi...
A. 12 October 2016: I think she may be lying to you. If I had to guess I would say she is faking her Os and blaming that because she is not happy with your sex life. Sorry but sounds like you are already losing her.... (read in full...)
Do I get back with him and have a baby?.
Q. I really am starting to worry about the future now and what decisions I should make. There have been lots of things that have happened over the last few years that is very difficult to talk to anyone about, so I came across this and thought, it ...
A. 11 October 2016: you can't knock him for being honest no, but you need to see it as it is, he does not respect you. He does not want to be committed to you. He sounds almost arrogant like you should be thankful he comes home to you at night. Honestly I don't know ... (read in full...)
Why no kisses? Why are guys so hesitant?
Q. Went on a site that is for people looking for fun. Met one guy but I felt no attraction but he great to talk to. I wasn't bothered if I saw him again. He said I knew where he was and I said the same to him so I thought he would get in touch . H...
A. 11 October 2016: Correction, no guy that you have come across wants a relationship. But that should not make you lower your standards. Give dating a go, take it slow and go at your own pace. ... (read in full...)
At the cross roads. What should I do? Are we getting in too deep?
Q. This past weekend I went to a family gathering with my dad's family most of which I haven't seen in over 10 years. I spent the most time with one of my dad's cousins whom I was very close with when we were growing up and this time got a little c...
A. 11 October 2016: I can understand how difficult it will be, but it does get easier in time. Just remember that you risk losing your family.... (read in full...)
He keeps hanging around but why hasn't he asked me to be his girlfriend yet?
Q. I've fallen for him... Back again. But I've spoken to this guy for near 9 months now and I kept thinking he was after only one thing... Then today I realised, why would he wait around 9 months just for that?! So I began to think that maybe h...
A. 11 October 2016: Pluck up the courage to ask him out, either that or you will only be miserable sitting around wondering what if. You have nothing to lose. ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend's girlfriend hit on me, flirt with me and then run and tell him?
Q. I can't figure out my friend's girlfriend. When I am at his house and she and I are alone she likes to show me sexy,nude pictures of herself and she's always talking to me and touching my thigh quite often. Sometimes when we talk she tells me things ...
A. 11 October 2016: Have you told him though that you have tried hitting on her and asking her out? Am guessing you haven't or else he would be considering getting rid off you as well. ... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 11 October 2016: Nobody mentioned sexual assault or rape. We mentioned that he might not be up for doing specifically what you want him to do. Unless he forces you to do something or does not stop when you say no then he is doing nothing wrong. Sweetie you don't ... (read in full...)
Am I out of line for asking my b/f to change around his child support situation with his ex?
Q. hello ive been dating my bf for a year now. He is 51 I am 47. He has an ex and three children. I have two children . We live seperatly. He and his ex do not follow the child support schedule its been now 6 years that they have not been together ...
A. 11 October 2016: You have only been dating for a year and you are not even living together so I really don't think you should get involved in his financial business. It is there choice not to follow the child support scheme, maybe they can sort out finances between ... (read in full...)
She broke off her engagement for me and its freaking me out
Q. So I need opinions. I was seeing this girl for a while last year. She seemed super into me and I liked her a lot but I just wasn't ready or looking for a relationahip at the time. I'd just gotten out of a three year relationship and just wasn't ...
A. 11 October 2016: I can see why you would have your doubts. Her poor ex fiance. I guess she did not think things through when she said yes to marrying him, and jilting him three days before the wedding is just awful for the poor guy. She certainly does take marriage ... (read in full...)
Why get married? How do I tell my family that they're waiting for something that will not happen?
Q. Why is getting married so important!! I'm 25 I have been with my partner 10 years my relationship is fantastic I trust him we get on like best mates there's no drama it is as close to perfect as I could have ever imagined! We own a home 50/50 not...
A. 11 October 2016: Marriage means something still to a lot of people. To you it doesn't and that is okay, but people are still going to be on your back, because the next usual step is marriage. All you can do is be honest and say you and your partner are happy they ... (read in full...)
Can I ask my fast food fancy out?
Q. Is it unorthodox to ask cashier out? I frequent my favorite fast food restaurant once a week which I know isn't a healthy lifestyle. About the past few months or so, a new miss around my age has been working the drive-thru. Granted, it's usually hit ...
A. 11 October 2016: If you don't want to make things awkward for her, then simply slip her a note and have your name and number on it. Ask her to drop you a text if she would like to meet on a date. At least with the note you are not putting her on the spot. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to use a prostitute to gain experience?
Q. I am a male virgin who has never kissed a girl or been on a date. I've made up my mind recently on how I will be losing my virginity. I am currently saving up money to visit one of the legal brothels in Nevada. I feel like at my age, being a kis...
A. 11 October 2016: Me personally I wouldn't want to be with someone who has paid for sex with a prostitute, legal or not I don't agree that sex should be bought, it should have meaning between two people and should be special. Believe me getting a prostitute to take ... (read in full...)
How do I know if she wants me to touch her?
Q. while i was sitting on her bed. I could feel her breast on my leg while she laying down, she didn't even move. She is like 36a for her breast size. Next she putted her breast on my shoulder, when she hugged me from behind. I must admit it felt ...
A. 11 October 2016: It is your first relationship so I can see why you are unsure off what to do or what she wants. But you guys have been dating now for a year, so surely you can both talk about these things? You are both adults in a relationship, so you should be ... (read in full...)
Should I send my ex boyfriend a Christmas card with a small gift?
Q. I have been single for about 4 months now after coming out of a 3 year relationship, I have recently been thinking of him again the relationship ended on bad terms. Its coming up to christmas and it will be weird without him should i send him a ...
A. 11 October 2016: I think you are curious to see if he will respond to this, maybe ask you to meet up and you are wondering does he still have feelings for you.
Look sweetie he is an ex for a reason, I am sure you have spent the last four months working hard to get ... (read in full...)
Getting back together after a break up?
Q. We broke up last week and a few days later she suddenly came to my place crying, we barely talked because she was crying a lot and we didn't make any decision that day. Two days after I told her we should talk and it was better to talk in a ...
A. 11 October 2016: I have read your other post, and well you really need to make up your mind. Because yes she is going to think you used her for sex. I can understand your doubts but why not try and get help for your issues? Communicate with her your worries and try ... (read in full...)
I'm married no sex with wife but am meeting men behind her back
Q. I am a married man, 2 kids and have over the last year not had sex with my wife. Instead I have joined a dating agency, gay sex site really and had numerous encounters, which I have fully enjoyed, Truth be told I feel more comfortable with mal...
A. 11 October 2016: Talk to your wife and tell her the truth, she deserves that much, so does your children. This does not just effect you, but your whole family. Stop living a lie. ... (read in full...)
I haven't spoken to my boyfriend in 2 months! Is he trying to end things?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just under a year. In the last two months he has said to me he's been really busy and needs some time and space. He hasn't contacted me for 2 months everytime I message him on what's app he says well chat next week ...
A. 10 October 2016: It looks like he was to much off a coward to end things with you so he blocked you instead and has decided that the longer he ignores you then you will just accept it is over. How unfair on you, but sweetie am surprised you have tried to contact him ... (read in full...)
How can I save myself? This man is like a bad drug
Q. Hi All, I was with a man who thinks sex can be separated from love. After several months of dramas, i knew he's not someone i can have a future together with. He often messaged me after i left and i ignored him. One day he texted if i wouldn'...
A. 10 October 2016: Delete his number, block all social media and distract yourself. When you are thinking about him, read a book or watch tv or go for a walk. It will soon pass but you need to stay away from him and his social media. We all have needs but that does ... (read in full...)
How can keep him interested in me and not compare me to the others he was with ?
Q. I've been dating my bf for 5 months. He is 19 and I'm 16. I'm still a button and he has been really patient with me. He isn't a virgin, he's the total opposite. He has had sex with 11 different girls, 3 of those girls would hook ups at parties. He ...
A. 10 October 2016: Sweetie it is obvious from your post that you are not ready to have sex with him. It sounds like he is being decent and not trying to push you further than you are ready for. But making out with him and turning him on is a struggle for him, and that ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a girl but slept with another girl. Should I feel guilty?
Q. I've recently been dating this girl and things have gone well we've gone out about four times and we kissed for the first time yesterday. After she went I was going on a night out with my friends and friends of theirs. long story short I slept wi...
A. 10 October 2016: It has only been four dates so don't beat yourself up, no need to tell her as she is not your girlfriend. However moving forward if you see a future with this girl then don't have casual sex with this other girl or anyone else. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop people from taking advantage of me?
Q. How can I deal with manipulative, negative people that like to pull me into their drama and take advantage of me. I have finally started to open my eyes to what is around me. For a long time I was in an abusive relationship (verbal) and I left aft...
A. 10 October 2016: Maybe your co-workers are trying to joke with you to stop you feeling down about your situation. You should be thankful you have a home to live in, a job to pay bills with. I wouldn't take everything that people say so seriously. Listen to your ... (read in full...)
What should I do next? Go back to the shop and hope to interest her again ?
Q. So I met this girl who works in a cosmetic shop in my local town and after admiring her and getting served by her and making a bit of idle small talk about bath bombs I found my self going back in an hour later claiming I needed more bath bombs. Sh...
A. 10 October 2016: Call in again and hand her a note with your name and number on it and ask her to call or text if she would like to meet up for a drink or lunch. ... (read in full...)
How do you end a FWB relationship with someone that you don't want to hurt?
Q. I need help telling my long friend with benefits that I don't want the benefits. Backstory, we've been friends for 10 years, we dated for 3, I broke up with them last year but we remained roommates and it transformed into FWB. I have had my bout...
A. 10 October 2016: Simply say look Jack while I am trying to get myself sorted I am going to stop having sex with you until I feel that I am ready to be romantically involved with you, I would still like to be friends with you, but until I work on getting myself ... (read in full...)
Help me move on from my ex! Or does he still love me? HELP
Q. I have dated a lot in my lifetime, but I was in love only once...and I blew it. I'm writing today to get help, perspective, and advice on how to move on. What you need to know is that my parents divorced after 20 years, I have been so scared o...
A. 10 October 2016: Did you think he was going to wait forever for you? Look he told you she is his everything and he just wanted to be friendly, I think you read in to this as he still loves you. He is married now so you need to forget him. Block him from social media ... (read in full...)
Problems at work and not quite sure how to handle them
Q. 2 months ago I began working at a Sports and Learning Complex. I love my job and it has given me great opportunities to advance my career almost immediately. However things have been rocky with my boss (36,F) from the start. To begin with, I was su...
A. 10 October 2016: You made a mistake now you need to keep your head down, work hard and prove you are good at what you do. You should not even be considering calling Andre, that is unprofessional, rude and goes against your boss which will only land you in more ... (read in full...)
Did I scare him off ? ?
Q. Dear Aunts please advise me. I met a guy at a cafe. Everytime I go in he stared at me. I started to fancy him too and we would stare and smile at each other. I broke the ice and we exchanged numbers. I hinted going out on a light date but he b...
A. 10 October 2016: It sounds like he is not interested in you. Maybe you read to much in to it. It is possible he is already in a relationship. Either way I think you should cut your losses. ... (read in full...)
Should I keep making an effort with my little brother? He's cut me out of his life for no reason.
Q. I'm 24 and my little brother is 19. We were quite close and brought up by a single mother. I bought a house 2 years ago but still made an effort with my family, and I regularly call my mum. Well my brother has recently moved into a flat with ...
A. 10 October 2016: He is young and he has just moved out off home, he is on a big adventure with his girlfriend and probably does not see the need to check in with family. He knows where you are if he needs you, but he has just spread his wings and making a life off ... (read in full...)
Should I tolerate this drunk behaviour from my partner, is it ok because it's a 'one off?'
Q. Hi there, thanks for looking :) So I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we live together. We rarely drink together, he drinks roughly about 3 times a week though it's usually in the house - he usually only goes to the pub/bar on his lunch ...
A. 10 October 2016: You knew he was going out to drink with friends and you decided to make a three course romantic meal? It sounds to me like you knew he would be drunk and therefore wanted to make him feel even worse. It sounds like it was intentional just to get an ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep coming in and out of my life?
Q. I posted a thread about an ex who lives 4 hours away and we were on and off for few years...then broke it off for good because he met someone closer.I was devastated and told him we should go seperate ways. He recently came back in my life only ...
A. 10 October 2016: He gets bored and reaches out to you to stroke his ego. He wants to know if you are still waiting for him, if he has someone who is willing to just take him back if he needs someone. You should respect yourself more and stop contacting him back. He ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend feels smothered by my attention
Q. Hi ladies and gents, My girlfriend has recently said that she felt smothered by my attentiveness...she isn't used to how much I pay attention to what she says and how she feels, I'm not doing anything wrong because I'm lovely and adorable accordi...
A. 10 October 2016: It is great that you care, but it sounds like she feels suffocated. Instead off asking her loads off questions, ask her how her day went, how does she feel and what she would like to do for the evening ect. If she wants to share information with you ... (read in full...)
I love him, so why am I so mean??
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a little while now. We were friends beforehand, but things changed and now, I'm very happy with him. We share everything, and I'm not afraid to tell him how I really feel, which is certainly new of a relationship ...
A. 10 October 2016: You have a barrier up because either you have low confidence in yourself so you are mean to him, or else you are scared off getting hurt. Either way it is not great to be mean all the time. Sure we are all sarcastic to our partners but if it gets to ... (read in full...)
I am sure my boyfriend is battling depression. How do I help someone that doesn't want to be helped?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and have only recently come to the conclusion that there is a high possibility that he is dealing with depression. Since December 2015, I have noticed a serious decline in per...
A. 10 October 2016: He could be depressed or he could just have gotten lazy. He is smoking more and more weed that could be giving him a more chilled out effect where he just wants to stay in his room and not want to clean up or wash himself.
You cannot help him unle... (read in full...)
My brother and his wife is spreading rumours about me? Its driving me demented I'm also pregnant
Q. I'm 21 , married and moved in with my mother about 12 months ago after our rent rose sky high. We are living with my mother as we were saving for a wedding and a deposit for a home. My wedding is over with and we have our deposit with the house ...
A. 10 October 2016: If the house belongs to the council then it is not your brothers house or your mothers. The best thing you can do at this stage is talk to the guards. Tell them what your brother is doing, get a lawyer and sue him for slander. He is ruining your ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you agree with my strategy to back off? Do you think I made a fool of myself?
Q. Hello all I've seen this type question before but I told him I had feelings really put myself out there and he said you're very sweet. Ouch! Now I know the feelings aren't mutual so I've decided to back off and leave him alone. Is that the ri...
A. 10 October 2016: If he does not feel the same way about you then yes the kindest thing for yourself would be to back off. No point spending more time with him only to get deeper feelings and end up hurt. ... (read in full...)
I've lost my best friend because of his jealous girlfriend
Q. So I've been best friends with a guy since grade school. I haven't seen a lot of him this last year because I've been really busy studying for important exams, but we always kept in regular contact. In that time, he got a girlfriend. I bumped into ...
A. 10 October 2016: At least you have saw his true colors. He is not a nice person and not someone you should call a friend, his girlfriend bullies you and he puts a laughing comment up when he knows you have had a hard time with your weight? What an asshole, you are ... (read in full...)
He left me feeling speechless after cancelling the date at the last minute. What should I say to him?
Q. I went on a date with a guy I met online and it went well, I wasn't feeling a huge amount of chemistry but we were able to hold a conversation and 3 days after the date he asked me if I'd like to hang out again, and I agreed. I messaged him late...
A. 7 October 2016: I understand you being angry and upset and wanting to tell him how he made you feel, but don't. Why lower yourself to his level. Just ignore the message and hold your head up high. He is the one messing around not you. Prepare for the next online ... (read in full...)
Women, have you ever been consistently rejected? What triggers a guy to reject ?
Q. I'm not talking about one or two rejections; no--not even three. I mean like, 75% of the dates you went on, the guy didn't want to see you again. After being single my whole entire life, I can't help but to question where I went wrong on the date...
A. 7 October 2016: Sweetie it could be the type off guy that you are meeting up, do you see a pattern? Do they talk sexual? Want a bit of fun? Try going on dates with different types off men, don't go just on looks, give everyone a chance and keep open minded, you ... (read in full...)
Her ex' is hurting and I want to help but...
Q. My girlfriend (age:30) was married for 6 years to some guy she said cheated on her 4 times in 3 years. So she divorced him, he moved out the house, and that's when she met me(age:26) Some months later, she gets a call from a random number, it's her ...
A. 7 October 2016: You sound like such a genuinely nice guy. but honey he hurt your girlfriend badly, how do you think she would feel if she found out you have been talking to him behind her back, she will lose all trust in men. You need to think about her here not ... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 6 October 2016: Nobody is insulting you, you asked the question you should be open to what people are saying to you, nobody is being rude, everyone is just concerned about your point of view. Probably because most have experienced sex and they don't want you to be ... (read in full...)
Do I get back with him and have a baby?.
Q. I really am starting to worry about the future now and what decisions I should make. There have been lots of things that have happened over the last few years that is very difficult to talk to anyone about, so I came across this and thought, it ...
A. 6 October 2016: I don't think you should be with either men. You have said yourself you are not in love with your ex so why would you contemplate spending the rest of your life with him? You deserve to be happy as well, you seem to be forgetting that.
As for the ... (read in full...)
Why no kisses? Why are guys so hesitant?
Q. Went on a site that is for people looking for fun. Met one guy but I felt no attraction but he great to talk to. I wasn't bothered if I saw him again. He said I knew where he was and I said the same to him so I thought he would get in touch . H...
A. 6 October 2016: If you are looking for fun do you think that is going to do much for your confidence? As if a man is looking for fun then he won't take you serious, and you seem to want to find someone who likes you and finds you attractive. So to start with you ... (read in full...)
At the cross roads. What should I do? Are we getting in too deep?
Q. This past weekend I went to a family gathering with my dad's family most of which I haven't seen in over 10 years. I spent the most time with one of my dad's cousins whom I was very close with when we were growing up and this time got a little c...
A. 6 October 2016: If your dad found out about this he would be deeply hurt, as would all his family be. The longer you keep this a secret the more it is going to hurt you. I can advise you now to stay away from your dad's cousin but I don't think you will listen to ... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 5 October 2016: I am sorry OP but I think you are being naive here, you have a image in your head, but if you are going to hook up with some random guy, he is going to want to have sex with you, not listen to what you want, he will do it his way, he won't care ... (read in full...)
He keeps hanging around but why hasn't he asked me to be his girlfriend yet?
Q. I've fallen for him... Back again. But I've spoken to this guy for near 9 months now and I kept thinking he was after only one thing... Then today I realised, why would he wait around 9 months just for that?! So I began to think that maybe h...
A. 5 October 2016: Speaking to someone daily is very different to spending time together getting to know each other, it sounds like you are more like pen pals than lovers. You have only met each other twice. I know nine months is a long time but would a relationship ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend's girlfriend hit on me, flirt with me and then run and tell him?
Q. I can't figure out my friend's girlfriend. When I am at his house and she and I are alone she likes to show me sexy,nude pictures of herself and she's always talking to me and touching my thigh quite often. Sometimes when we talk she tells me things ...
A. 4 October 2016: What a lovely friend you are asking his girlfriend out, no she does not like you, she just wants the attention and drama. She wants her boyfriend to think you are hitting on her, that she is irresistible. A bit of advice, try and be a better friend. ... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 4 October 2016: If you think a hook up is a good idea, then you go for it, its your body your choice. You like the idea because you don't want it to be romantic and you don't want to see him again. Personally I would feel used. I would feel traumatized.
Are you ... (read in full...)
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