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| | *hadow_Phathom_of_the_Opera's profile:Me? Meh, I'm 21, and I go to college.
What I am, is someone who can help teenage relationships. I have observed too many of them, and I believe that every guy/girl deserves a chance to love someone, which for me, I'm am cursed in love. I'm still chasing a girl I've always had feelings for, for 4 years, and living a hard life... so I know what to expect from a lot of relationships, and their hardships.
Most of my advice is all or nothing. It maybe something great on advice, or it's sometimes the worst thing you'll hear (Looks at ratings above) |
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Am I just a spare part in his life now?
Q. I split with my boyfriend around 4 months ago. We hadnt spoke in those 4 months, then he text me on new years eve asking if we could talk. He asked me if i was over him and i said no, not completely.. i asked him and he said yes. My heart sunk, so ...
A. 3 January 2011: I know this, because to be bluntly honest, some people I know has done something similar. Now, reason why they ignored someone is because they couldn't take them anymore. It was just not going to work out. The others went ahead This would fal... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to get a boyfriend my age?
Q. i have been single for awhile and i no longer want to be single what are the best ways to get a boyfriend thats the same age as me or a little older cause iam 18teen yearsold and i would like to try to have a boyfriend again that wont cheat on ...
A. 3 January 2011: Yeah, I'm still single too. I've still been looking for the answer myself. It sucks.
All I know, is be patient, and wait. The other thing you can do, is look for a good friend that likes you.
I wish I had more things to say than this, but I... (read in full...)
How can a straight man attract and/or ask a bisexual woman out?
Q. Whoa, 4 years now, and I've been playing the wrong cards. I thought for this time, I've been trying to attract my crush, and just ask her out on JUST one date, and I found out a rumor for the first time she might be bisexual. Now, if this statement ...
A. 3 January 2011: @"Chigirl" & "Anonymous":
MORE IMPORTANTLY:
I have no interest in sex whatsoever. I just want to date her, just once, and give her a perfect night no other guy (or girl) ever gave to her. Sex is on my LOWEST PRIORITY. I literally mean LOWEST! ... (read in full...)
How can a straight man attract and/or ask a bisexual woman out?
Q. Whoa, 4 years now, and I've been playing the wrong cards. I thought for this time, I've been trying to attract my crush, and just ask her out on JUST one date, and I found out a rumor for the first time she might be bisexual. Now, if this statement ...
A. 1 January 2011: @chigirl: I meant that seriously. I really don't know if there is a major difference or not. Thanks though for clearing that up.
I just have always wanted to ask her out, just once, and I've never been able to.... (read in full...)
I'd like a girlfriend but not sure how to get one
Q. I'm a 19 year old male and am single (always have been) . I would quite like a girlfriend now but I'm not sure how to get one. I have no problem talking to girls and I'm not shy. People say I have a good sense of humour. I haven't had the expe...
A. 1 January 2011: Oh man, I've had that problem for years man. Same age as you too. Let me just tell you the only things I know. #1 Be nice, but not TOO NICE...: The phrase, nice guys finish last.... ever so true... but this gives you NO EXCUSE to be rude.... (read in full...)
I'd like a girlfriend but not sure how to get one
Q. I'm a 19 year old male and am single (always have been) . I would quite like a girlfriend now but I'm not sure how to get one. I have no problem talking to girls and I'm not shy. People say I have a good sense of humour. I haven't had the expe...
A. 1 January 2011: Oh man, I've had that problem for years man. Same age as you too. Let me just tell you the only things I know. #1 Be nice, but not TOO NICE...: The phrase, nice guys finish last.... ever so true... but this gives you NO EXCUSE to be rude.... (read in full...)
How can I ask a girl out without leaving any room for her to back out of the date?
Q. In short, there has been a girl I've known for a long time and I've been wanting to ask her out for a while. However, with me, and as well as other guys, she's been known to back out of a date for any reason, and number one is for "being swamped". ...
A. 1 January 2011: Well, I almost have her on the hook of dating/hanging out with her (even if it's just one hangout/date), I sent her a very powerful, but not killer-friendship-ended, yet
heartfelt letter on how she saved me.
However, I found out I have a new s... (read in full...)
Is she just being friendly or is there more to it?
Q. Hi all, nearly 22 year old male and never been on a date etc. A few nights ago I went out with my coursemates including this girl I didn't know very well. This girl and I got on pretty well. She asked me to dance with her (I refused at first...
A. 19 December 2010: I have a single thing to say.
Her body language (as I've read into it) conveys she is really into you. I'd recommended to ask HER out somewhere for fun, rather than her to ask you out. However, location IS KEY. If she's somewhere where she's no... (read in full...)
13 and never been kissed...
Q. Hi I need help! I am a 13 year old boy and i've never kissed a girl, i have crushes sure but i don't want to ask them out because if they decide to kiss me or something i dunno what to do or how to kiss.. i know it's sad right plz don't laugh at me. ...
A. 14 December 2010: Dude, I'm 19, and I've never been kissed... but I know this...
First, make sure she's your close friend before doing so.
Second, It's cuter when you ask a girl if you can kiss her, but you'll get rejected down more often.
However, it's mor... (read in full...)
How can I make my move when she could be gone the next day?
Q. First off, sorry I'm long winded again. From an earlier question, this is the same girl I have known, and has saved my life, yet is so "swamped" and puts her work first before anything. If you wish to look through my first question I ever ...
A. 11 November 2010: Another thing..... again, she saved my life... and I wouldn't be alive today if it wasn't for her. I want to try, even if it means risking everything, because she stole my heart saving me. Because of that, she has my undying love. I just want to ask ... (read in full...)
How can I make my move when she could be gone the next day?
Q. First off, sorry I'm long winded again. From an earlier question, this is the same girl I have known, and has saved my life, yet is so "swamped" and puts her work first before anything. If you wish to look through my first question I ever ...
A. 10 November 2010: @ aunt honesty:
She does like me, and she would give me a chance, but I have to get everything perfectly timed and planned. When I hugged her last time, and I whispered in her ear I missed her, she said very affectionately "I miss you too." Ther... (read in full...)
I don't know how to talk to girls
Q. Im 16 going on 17 and i haven't had a girlfriend since i was 7 or 8. im started to have the crushes on certain girls and i want to talk them but don't know how. people say be yourself but how can you be yourself when your nervous and all those other ...
A. 25 October 2010: Umm, wow, how do I answer this question.....
First advice, masturbating is not 100% healthy for you. My opinion, you should stop... especially if you get into a serious relationship.
Personally, it's best to start a friendship first bef... (read in full...)
Am I being spun a line online?
Q. I have recently met a man via a dating site (something I am not proud of and feel rather ashamed by). We have exchanged phone numbers and emails and seem to get on pretty well. However, recently his words have got more flirtatious and ...
A. 13 October 2010: In short, if he really loves you, he'll take it slowly, and go on a date with you. Go somewhere in public where he can't pull that kind of stuff. Honestly, Sex on the first date, let along meeting, ends horribly.
If he loves you, he'll take it ... (read in full...)
I called her an 'attention whore" & now she is planning her revenge
Q. Recently i had an exchange of words with a girl who i am seeing for about 7 months but we are not committed. I know i said some harsh things but its only because i care for her and even though i tried explaining this recently, she wouldnt respond. ...
A. 2 October 2010: From my knowledge, let me give you a shorter version of my advice, because I don't exactly know what to say here:
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For starters, you might want to change your act, and show her you still care about her. You might want to do anything poss... (read in full...)
Help... I don't feel like I fit in because I don't drink or go out partying!
Q. I began college a month ago (I went early, I turn 18 in a few months' time) and I'm having trouble relating properly to people because almost everyone else here is going out drinking and partying till really late and I can't. It doesn't seem like ...
A. 2 October 2010: Trust me. You don't want to get started partying. It isn't healthy for you (especially your livers can fail fast from over 10 drinks of any type! Whether it'd be a whole beer mug to shot glasses, etc)... two, if you must (life or death) go to those ... (read in full...)
I had an online dating deleted rejection. What did I do wrong?
Q. Okay, I decided since the last question I should just give up with the last girl, and go with online dating. During this week, a girl messaged me (which with this website, is rare to ever see a girl come out of nowhere and message you). I started ...
A. 2 October 2010: RE: @janniepeg: Thanks. I should've caught what she said, and what I was saying at the same time. Thanks fro raising my Awareness. RE: @Anonymous #1: Actually, the tables have turned. RE: @Anonymous #2: I just thought it would be a cool usern... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship?
Q. I asked this question once before, but now, I'm asking again, with more details, so it's more understandable. How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship? ~~~~~~ In detail: She's the average, silent, "I am keepi...
A. 23 September 2010: RE: @ Red591
I have no motivation of suicide whatsoever. You missed the whole point of the question. My Question was "How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship?", not "How do I get counseling?" Seriousl... (read in full...)
No longer in love with me, can I hang out with her as friends to change her mind?
Q. I dated a girl who loved me more than I loved her for two and a half years. We broke up because she was hurt by this, and afterward I realized how much she meant to me. She shut herself off from me and says she is no longer in love with me. She ...
A. 20 September 2010: Personally, you could hang out with her as friends, but from my experience, it's like a dong and it's master. Once the master says sit, and dog doesn't do anything until the dog sees a treat. If the dog sits for a treat, and master just holds the ... (read in full...)
I like him but I have these conflicting emotions I can get rid of!
Q. To begin I guess I would have to say that I have never had a boyfriend or anyone in my life in that way. Recently i went to visit my uncle for his wedding. His bride to be had a son. We hung out one night late drinking. we stayed up later ...
A. 20 September 2010: I don't know how to exactly answer this question, but I think I know where to start.
I obviously see your both attracted to each other to an extent as this point... so there is emotions that you hold with each other.
The only thing I can advi... (read in full...)
How do I get her to go out with me?
Q. Ok so theres this girl that i have liked for a while. We used to get in arguments over stupid things but then we became friends. we have been friends for a while now. i will wave at her and smile when i walk by her in the hallways at school and she ...
A. 20 September 2010: RE: @PuzzleSovler:
I wouldn't send out the mix tape too soon. If you give it right away, you may scare her off, and will NEVER GET her.
It's always better to get to know a girl first before randomly sending gifts. I've lost 2 friends PERMANEN... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a bitch last night and I can't get over it!
Q. My boyfriend called my a Bitch last night. I can't seem to get over it ever though he's apologized many times. He's never cursed at me before and this really hurt me. He was frustrated because he was trying to do something on his computer. He threw ...
A. 18 September 2010: Don't tolerate it. Warn him ONCE, if he really love you, he will stop calling you that. If he calls you that again, dump him in the back-alley dumpster (metaphor implied, not literal)... and make sure all is forgiven.
As you said, You gave him... (read in full...)
How do I get her to go out with me?
Q. Ok so theres this girl that i have liked for a while. We used to get in arguments over stupid things but then we became friends. we have been friends for a while now. i will wave at her and smile when i walk by her in the hallways at school and she ...
A. 18 September 2010: How often do you talk to her? You need to gain her trust as a friend, before she can love you more than a friend.
I'm going to start from step one though... which chances are, you are ahead of me. lol.
First off, just talk to her. Start with ... (read in full...)
I am fourteen years old and I am seriously in love with this guy in my school...
Q. please please help!! I am fourteen years old and I am seriously in love with this guy in my school. We have talked a few times but I feel sparks and everything else whenever I see him or hear his name. my friend has known him since like kinde...
A. 18 September 2010: Pay attention to the ladies he is with. Watch how he treats them, compared to you. Usually, a guy who really likes you will go out of their way to do something extremely special for the girl he likes. Trust me, if he really likes you, he'll ask you ... (read in full...)
My husband's sister may be abusing her kids -- and she's writing a book on parenting!
Q. I married my husband even though I don't approve of his family situation. The biggest problem I have is his sister and her family. She smoked pot and drank alcohol while she was pregnant with all three of her children. These kids are all under the ...
A. 18 September 2010: Wow, really? I though my Father was bad. He's abusive, and he's writing books on counseling, and becoming a anger management teacher, when he's the one getting angry all the time. As pinktopaz said above, hypocrisy and contradictions lye amoungst ... (read in full...)
Learning to trust again
Q. A while ago, I posted something on here about whether or not I would be an idiot to get back together with my ex-boyfriend [who cheated on me...it was a long, long story]. As time has gone by and I've distanced myself from the actual act, I have ...
A. 18 September 2010: Honestly, I may not be looking as a female's point of view, but I know what you are talking about (in a way). There are certain things whenever I want to tell someone, I lock up, and can't speak, or light it ablaze with a lie (but you want to have ... (read in full...)
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